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JESHAL007:
If a man is rich or okay, getting married to him is a good deal for a woman but if a man is poor, even the woman deep down will be praying for him to die so that she can be free to date whoever she likes rather than suffering and being caged while she has what it takes to get a better life.

Martinez39s:
Just read the discussion.

(1) The truth is that from the start of the human race, MOST men work tirelessly to put themselves in a favourable position where they qualify to procreate (ie. where they possess the qualities and resources that will make females be open to them). Passing on genes (aka "carrying on the family name" ) has always been a big thing for men; in fact, for many millenia, most men considered it a taboo, underachievement or curse if they didn't pass on their genes or they raised another man's children. As it has been right from time, most men are not alphas and most men want to establish families to pass on their genes; so in order to solve their reproductive issue, they had to work hard, compete with other men and be creative/innovative in getting resources to get the ladies. The hard work and innovation that results from this need to pass on one's gene are some of the major driving forces of civilisation. To procreate, you need women, and after getting women, you must have sex. If women's standard changed tomorrow and women didn't mind going for broke and fat men, most men would not achieve much and they would be satisfied with the barest minimum since it doesn't take much for men to survive and be happy. Most won't even go to the gym. This is how most men are.

This what Ubunja and emmaodet have been trying to say; maybe they should have used the word "procreation."

(2) Asides procreation, most men can't control their sexual urges and simping is getting bigger with ever generation. Secondly, there is this natural tendency for men to seek and pursue female validation and attention; they bask in these and can even badmouth their fellow men for this. Let's not forget how men brag about scoring chicks. These also contributes to many men seeking resources to get females.

(3) Lastly, I will have to admit that not all men achieve things because of procreation or women. Throughout history, a lot of men have pursue things and achieve things for love and passion. Some are motivated by their quest for knowledge; some are motivated by ideologies; some are motivated by self-love and living life to fullest; some were broke and faced a lot of disrespect and decided to get rich to stop nonsense; some lost relatives unnecessarily because of lack of money and they decided such will never happen again. I can list many more cases where people do things and achieve greatly without having procreation in mind or as their end goal. I can say much more, but let me stop here. These men are many, but their number greatly pales in comparison to the men that are in category (1).

Skepticus:
For those of you always complaining about the red pill constantly talking about women, you may need to stay off for a while, because the red pill is mostly about women, not men or some individual interest.

When the majority of men associate with their fellow men in any situation, most of the time, there are no hormones and neurotransmitters messing with their brains and bodies. No erections etc, so, they think logically and act rationally. With women, it is another ball game, even when such association is platonic, because of the hard-wired biological conditioning and social blue-pilled conditioning to make us (men) see women differently. This is where men lose it and women understanding this, play the field to their own advantage. This is the reason why you hear guys say things like: "The red pill is not easy" "I left this thread and I started to simp" etc.

Some folks also complain that we keep repeating the same things (which is true) and you'll find same on all platforms where the red pill is being discussed at full length. This is done to constantly to keep one updated, and keep you from falling back into the blue-pill which is our default state. Hence, you hear things like, "Taking the red pill a day, keeps simping away" etc.

Also, looking for ways to make money is not uniquely red pill because a lot of folks making money are blue-pilled. Staying fit and healthy is not uniquely red pilled. A lot of folks in the blue pilled world are equally staying fit and healthy. Their only relevance to the red pill is the self-improvement part where a red-pilled man is encouraged not to lose himself, even when he has to act blue-pilled. He must always have his red pill lenses on as it takes a split of a second to revert back to the blue pill.

For those on this thread who are knowledgeable about self improvement topics that are not related to the romance section and find the discussion about women boring, they should simply create threads unique to their area of knowledge in their specific section rather than complaining. This is the romance section. When I want business ideas, I simply go to the business section of the platform.

Skepticus:
I'm a big advocate of the monk mode temporarily or permanently. I do go monk mode on temporary basis when I want to achieve a thing. I'm also well aware that a minority of men are asexual and generally indifferent to sex. They are an exception (and inconsequential to nature) as nature selected mostly for men who desired sex so that the human race will not go extinct.

What is really happening is that some men are CONSCIOUSLY channelling their energies into endeavours of competence thinking it's not about sex but SUB-CONSCIOUSLY putting themselves in prime position to which is of great advantage: survival, passing their genes on (SEX) and having the resources that will be advantageous to them and their offspring.

Ronnnie made a reference to Temujin (Genghis Khan) which is great because he makes a good example of the deep-lying subconscious of human species towards sex. Genghis Khan was a trained warrior who wanted power, and conquer the whole of Asia. On his quest, he wasn't walking around with erection screaming SEX like a fool. He was already wired biologically for that in his genes and subconscious. He sought for COMPETENCE as a warrior and a powerful conqueror. Within 35 years, he achieved that conquering and dominating men (Power). With women, it (COMPETENCE) brought him more sex via hypergamy, than it could ever be imagined. About 9 countries from the far east to Central Asia have their ancestry linked to him making him arguably the most reproductively-successful man on the planet. Achievements from his competence put him in prime position to survive and pass on his genes (SEX).

Some men also had great achievements from their competence like being inventors and contributing greatly to religion and spirituality but voluntarily decide not to procreate for whatever reasons and it's fine. Some couldn't because of genetic faults that made them not to be able to procreate. It would be a stupid thing to deride such men. The ones that were inventors contributed a lot to the rest of humanity but to nature, they were "useless" as they weeded themselves out of the gene pool. Here, the connotation of the word, "useless" isn't meant to be derisive.

If you don't have an underlying drive towards sex, why are you in the romance section? Na my manly face or muscular yansh una come for? Lol. Some men can be childishly funny at times.

SnoopTech:
Hello Fam!

I need some advice from gurus here. The thing is, I have been dating this girl for some time now! Honestly, she loves me, though she tries hard to hide it. I have done my analysis and come to that conclusion.

Even when we had issues and broke up, she still came back and apologized. She also emphasized that she sees a future of us together (married) because at the beginning of the relationship, I told her that I date to marry.

I am in tech! Though I am not rich, I earn a decent amount of money for myself.

But my issues are as follows:

1. I suspect she’s involved in coded runs. I have done my research, and from some stories she tells me, though it's not 100% proof, there is a high possibility that she’s involved in "sugar daddy" relationships. She buys expensive phones, clothes, etc., and she doesn’t ask me for a dime. At the beginning of the relationship, she used to ask me for money, but after we broke up and she came back, she stopped. There was a time I even saw her Snapchat story in a hotel room. I confronted her, but she turned it into a fight until the matter died down.

2. She doesn’t listen! In fact, she warns me not to tell her what to do or not to do. If I insist, it turns into a full-blown argument. In fact, if not because I put her in her place, this girl wanted to dominate me and turn me into a "mumu" (fool) who does anything she wants.

3. She refuses to have sex with me. She always tells me she is a virgin, and no matter how hard I try, she will never admit that she has had sex before. Though she doesn’t ask me for money or even bother if I don’t call her for days, all she wants is for us to chat briefly in a day, and that’s it. But she wants me to be loyal.

4. She gets angry when I mention anything that isn’t positive regarding marriage. For example, there was a time I said I would marry four wives. She started giving me the silent treatment for days. Another time, when I said I’d have to complete my MSc before marriage, she got angry.

Please, experts! Can you help me analyze this situation and explain the way forward? A friend says she sees a bright future in me and wants to keep me as her backup husband when she starts reaching her "diminishing age." Because, going by the calculations, we are both young, in our early twenties.

Skepticus

Martinez39s

iichidodo

Rizzputin

Samueltemi337

AlphaNugget

Luminouz

Sabbiboi

SnoopTech:
Hello Fam!


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Please, experts! Can you help me analyze this situation and explain the way forward? A friend says she sees a bright future in me and wants to keep me as her backup husband when she starts reaching her "diminishing age." Because, going by the calculations, we are both young, in our early twenties.

luminouz:
*Sighs*

Do I even need to advise you like this?

Because you already annoyed me with your opening mumu statement 'she loves me even though she tries to hide it'

And then proceed to give me your points 1-3.

A woman who doesn't listen to you, never had sex with you and who you don't even know her source of income...loves you? Or is there another type of love I don't know?


N.B: A woman who loves you will do all these things I mentioned. That you still think she loves you despite the blood red flags is just annoying.

The worst man to advice is a man who thinks he is love. That girl doesn't love you. Check her phone, clone her WhatsApp, put your foot down and make her submit to your authority. But I think it's too late for all that. Just leave her.

My 2 cents

JESHAL007:
If a girl doesn't show you her pant she doesn't have genuine desire for you, note I didn't say love, I said genuine desire, but remember genuine desire is not enough for vetting, she must be willing to make sacrifices and compromises for the relationship to work, she must also have a fair amount of feminity and submissiveness which is a natural outcome if she respects you and want to defer to your authority, again her background, strong Christian and traditional values, strong father figure, no dysfunctional home.

Even if she's positive in all the following no red flag which makes her manageable, remember she's still a woman, female nature, feral nature, hypergamy, AWALT, you would still have to handle her neuroticism, shit tests, emotional tantrums and she can hurt or betray you if she chooses

@ luminouz

AlphaNugget:
Don't ever think you can change a woman.....that gender will leave you without remorse, learn game or perish 👍

AlphaNugget:
Cloning her WhatsApp is stress, that guy can't even gain access to her phone.....to comot girl pant dey hard the guy!

He should just obs the girl friends, her dressing is already a red flag.

A hoe can't mask herself for long, especially a Nigerian hoe

SnoopTech:
Hello Fam!

I need some advice from gurus here. The thing is, I have been dating this girl for some time now! Honestly, she loves me, though she tries hard to hide it. I have done my analysis and come to that conclusion.

Even when we had issues and broke up, she still came back and apologized. She also emphasized that she sees a future of us together (married) because at the beginning of the relationship, I told her that I date to marry.

I am in tech! Though I am not rich, I earn a decent amount of money for myself.

But my issues are as follows:

1. I suspect she’s involved in coded runs. I have done my research, and from some stories she tells me, though it's not 100% proof, there is a high possibility that she’s involved in "sugar daddy" relationships. She buys expensive phones, clothes, etc., and she doesn’t ask me for a dime. At the beginning of the relationship, she used to ask me for money, but after we broke up and she came back, she stopped. There was a time I even saw her Snapchat story in a hotel room. I confronted her, but she turned it into a fight until the matter died down.

2. She doesn’t listen! In fact, she warns me not to tell her what to do or not to do. If I insist, it turns into a full-blown argument. In fact, if not because I put her in her place, this girl wanted to dominate me and turn me into a "mumu" (fool) who does anything she wants.

3. She refuses to have sex with me. She always tells me she is a virgin, and no matter how hard I try, she will never admit that she has had sex before. Though she doesn’t ask me for money or even bother if I don’t call her for days, all she wants is for us to chat briefly in a day, and that’s it. But she wants me to be loyal.

4. She gets angry when I mention anything that isn’t positive regarding marriage. For example, there was a time I said I would marry four wives. She started giving me the silent treatment for days. Another time, when I said I’d have to complete my MSc before marriage, she got angry.

Please, experts! Can you help me analyze this situation and explain the way forward? A friend says she sees a bright future in me and wants to keep me as her backup husband when she starts reaching her "diminishing age." Because, going by the calculations, we are both young, in our early twenties.

Skepticus

Martinez39s

iichidodo

Rizzputin

Samueltemi337

AlphaNugget

Luminouz

Sabbiboi

SnoopTech:
Hello Fam!

I need some advice from gurus here. The thing is, I have been dating this girl for some time now! Honestly, she loves me, though she tries hard to hide it. I have done my analysis and come to that conclusion.

Even when we had issues and broke up, she still came back and apologized. She also emphasized that she sees a future of us together (married) because at the beginning of the relationship, I told her that I date to marry.

I am in tech! Though I am not rich, I earn a decent amount of money for myself.

But my issues are as follows:

1. I suspect she’s involved in coded runs. I have done my research, and from some stories she tells me, though it's not 100% proof, there is a high possibility that she’s involved in "sugar daddy" relationships. She buys expensive phones, clothes, etc., and she doesn’t ask me for a dime. At the beginning of the relationship, she used to ask me for money, but after we broke up and she came back, she stopped. There was a time I even saw her Snapchat story in a hotel room. I confronted her, but she turned it into a fight until the matter died down.

2. She doesn’t listen! In fact, she warns me not to tell her what to do or not to do. If I insist, it turns into a full-blown argument. In fact, if not because I put her in her place, this girl wanted to dominate me and turn me into a "mumu" (fool) who does anything she wants.

3. She refuses to have sex with me. She always tells me she is a virgin, and no matter how hard I try, she will never admit that she has had sex before. Though she doesn’t ask me for money or even bother if I don’t call her for days, all she wants is for us to chat briefly in a day, and that’s it. But she wants me to be loyal.

4. She gets angry when I mention anything that isn’t positive regarding marriage. For example, there was a time I said I would marry four wives. She started giving me the silent treatment for days. Another time, when I said I’d have to complete my MSc before marriage, she got angry.

Please, experts! Can you help me analyze this situation and explain the way forward? A friend says she sees a bright future in me and wants to keep me as her backup husband when she starts reaching her "diminishing age." Because, going by the calculations, we are both young, in our early twenties.

Skepticus

Martinez39s

iichidodo

Rizzputin

Samueltemi337

AlphaNugget

Luminouz

Sabbiboi