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CaveAdullam:
NB: With Green light alone you will get fewer women around you, compare to when you are a pick up artist. The former is highly important when you need to commit and the later when you need to exercise your sexual prowess. It is better you go for a woman that choose you (well armed with the vetting parameters) because she's highly invested and can easily submit, than the one you selected from your "whoring" adventures. Lol!

However, the amount of green light you received is directly proportional to the height of your sexual market value, your stance in the society's totem pole and the place you occupy in the pyramid--upper echelon with top tiers men e.g Politicians, Celebrities, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Inventors, etc. It is also dependent on the environment you place yourself. Pastors, youth leaders, choirmasters, have access to women because in their environment(church) women are in a plethora.

Green lights are abundant where women are abundant or where your high value is shining resplendently. Green lights can be direct or indirect, but irrespectively, watch out for the following signs. However, these are few and not comprising of all.

She always touch you.

Call you pet names.

Lean on you.

Want to be around you.

Always text/call you.

Respect you in public.

Always listen to you.

Always seek your advice.

Relates her personal secrets with you.

Don't pick offence easily even when you deliberately wrong her.

Always want to play with you.

Bridge: the above can also be similar to the friendzone, then, to be able to bye pass it and fully know if it is a "potential" greenlight;

She allows you to touch her freely or resist slightly when you touch her on her bo*bs and as*.

Allow you to rub her tummy. You can easily turn her on if you are very good with the tummy game.

Uses her bo*bs to brush you.

She makes sexual jokes.

She eager to sit on your legs.

She doesn't get angry when you peck or kiss her.

She eagers to come visit you.

Eager to cook for you.

Eager to want you taste her food.

Eager to share in your work.

She's jealous when you add/mention another woman in the triangle.

She allow you to lift her by placing your hands on her as*.

The key point: if she doesn't reject any of your sexual advances just know she's into you. And you must also be good in the understanding of body language and most especially reading people's intents from their eyes.

Authority: For love/marriage, let a woman choose you, but for lust, you can decide to go fishing yourself.

PS: green light guarantees high investment, high submission, high respect. But it doesn't in anyway guarantees that a woman will stick to you forever, because hypergamy is an inherent female nature. Although, the relationship can tarry for a long time depending on your frame.

JESHAL007:
I want to tell you for Free that many Nigerian Men most especially the Financially Poor Men are aware thier Wives are being fvcked by other Men but they just decide to feign ignorance because They are at their Wives Mercies and they know how difficult it is to get Modern Ladies if you are not a Financially Successful Man.

Believe Me, Many Nigerian Men either Elite/Wealthy/Rich/Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them. It's an Open Secret.

Life is very Terrible for Most Nigerian Men.

JESHAL007:
I want to tell you for Free that many Nigerian Men most especially the Financially Poor Men are aware thier Wives are being fvcked by other Men but they just decide to feign ignorance because They are at their Wives Mercies and they know how difficult it is to get Modern Ladies if you are not a Financially Successful Man.

emmaodet:
I Believe Nigerian Men that are Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them.
If you are rich or wealthy and have to beg a woman to marry you, then the issue is not about financial situation rather esteem issues.
If you are financially stable and averagely social, you will always have atleast 2 ladies in your hand at every point in time.
Ladies are not hard to get nor scarce, main issue for men are financial and long time of scarcity.
When a man has been exposed for too long to scarcity - inability to date for a very long time or no girlfriend for a very long time, it makes him appreciate little or no gifts or efforts from ladies and he is scared of losing a lady even if she is bad mannered. He is ready to manage or endure her.
He will be ready to take her bullshits.
Just a little kiss, he will always remember it or a little gift of singlet. He will remember the gesture for years. Something no one has ever given him.

SnoopTech:
Hello Fam!

I need some advice from gurus here. The thing is, I have been dating this girl for some time now! Honestly, she loves me, though she tries hard to hide it. I have done my analysis and come to that conclusion.

Even when we had issues and broke up, she still came back and apologized. She also emphasized that she sees a future of us together (married) because at the beginning of the relationship, I told her that I date to marry.

I am in tech! Though I am not rich, I earn a decent amount of money for myself.

But my issues are as follows:

1. I suspect she’s involved in coded runs. I have done my research, and from some stories she tells me, though it's not 100% proof, there is a high possibility that she’s involved in "sugar daddy" relationships. She buys expensive phones, clothes, etc., and she doesn’t ask me for a dime. At the beginning of the relationship, she used to ask me for money, but after we broke up and she came back, she stopped. There was a time I even saw her Snapchat story in a hotel room. I confronted her, but she turned it into a fight until the matter died down.

2. She doesn’t listen! In fact, she warns me not to tell her what to do or not to do. If I insist, it turns into a full-blown argument. In fact, if not because I put her in her place, this girl wanted to dominate me and turn me into a "mumu" (fool) who does anything she wants.

3. She refuses to have sex with me. She always tells me she is a virgin, and no matter how hard I try, she will never admit that she has had sex before. Though she doesn’t ask me for money or even bother if I don’t call her for days, all she wants is for us to chat briefly in a day, and that’s it. But she wants me to be loyal.

4. She gets angry when I mention anything that isn’t positive regarding marriage. For example, there was a time I said I would marry four wives. She started giving me the silent treatment for days. Another time, when I said I’d have to complete my MSc before marriage, she got angry.

Please, experts! Can you help me analyze this situation and explain the way forward? A friend says she sees a bright future in me and wants to keep me as her backup husband when she starts reaching her "diminishing age." Because, going by the calculations, we are both young, in our early twenties.

Skepticus

Martinez39s

iichidodo

Rizzputin

Samueltemi337

AlphaNugget

Luminouz

Sabbiboi

emmaodet:
We need to separate categories of financially stable men we have to that we won't mix them up.
Even if you are doing fine, long years of scarcity, background, exposure etc all play a big role in your decision making.
A man from a poor background with long years of struggling and scarcity will quickly marry his heartthrob if he experiences breakthrough.
He will quickly settle for less even though he could have gotten something better that will match his new status because that is what most women will do anyway.
I connected my immediate brother to a lady who works with me and looking for a husband.
After about 6 months, I asked my brother how far the relationship is going with her and he told me they are no more talking.
Calling the girl, she was very angry with me that I rated her low. That my brother is too low in everything for her.
He is just a driver in Dubai earning probably 200k then while she is a second engineer earning 1.2m.
I had to beg her and closed the case.

Raalsalghul:

luminouz:
Lol .a driver in Dubai is too low for mama wey wan marry? Hypergamy is real oh... The funny thing is she might even be older with lower sexual market value yet she believes she deserves Dangote.

Boss, your boy never marry oh .. make I marry engineer na...

emmaodet:


Hypergamy is a bastard. It is not as if the girl is even beautiful like that.
You never marry? Oboy, time dey go oooo, do make you marry make you born 7 kids ooo.... Lol

emmaodet:
You even gave her attention. She called me out also and called me monkey face but I am used to ladies like her here abusing me for saying the truth so I just skipped.
Come to think of it - if ladies who just came to this earth and for no reason have taste and levels, for no reason are been given gifts, money, helped with car lift and so many more. If they can be discussing among themselves about how Kemi shouldn't date Jide because he is not in her level, she is more educated, earn equally or more, beautiful or dated someone financially better than Jide in the past, So why do they think a man shouldn't have taste too?
Why do they think a man who has worked up the ladder without help and against all odds shouldn't have taste or class or levels or requirements?
If a lady without anything can have it how much more someone who has paid the price to have what women have for free?
So they expect him to be cheap? Without taste and just pick a random girl on the street?
Most Nigerian ladies who travelled abroad will never look back at their boyfriend in Nigeria and they justify it by claiming she has stepped up but wants a guy who travelled out to be grateful of coming to pick a local girl back home?

Skepticus:
I've seen the back and forth about the issue of masturbation here and you'll find same on every fora of red pill discussions. I ignore because i think everyone is entitled to their positions on it.

Among the popular proponents of TRP/MGTOW, there is no general consensus on being pro- or anti- masturbation.

The cons of masturbation are very valid from a health and psychological perspective. For some, the cons reach into the metaphysical (spiritual realm). However, the pros of masturbation bring a conflict, when you consider its benefits to men trying to avoid the distractions and pitfalls that comes with dating women or nutting off with prostitutes.

Personally, I'm against masturbation because of its health effect and prone to being addictive. I'm okay with masturbation when its done in "moderation" (whatever moderation means to you). Just like alcohol, it's advisable to stop or reduce it, when the negative effects begin to outweigh its benefits.

Skepticus:
Jerking off to porn is not SIMPING because it reduces the need to put women on a pedestal while fulfilling the biological "necessity" of sex. Generally, it's frowned upon by men because of the bad side of its addictive nature. When done in moderation (moderation is subjective), it reduces the INCEL problem. In fact, the "POST-NUT CLARITY (Men returning to their "senses" after ejaculation) side of masturbation makes you realize that the "pedestalization" of women in porn and outside of it, is the nonsense made up in your head that has nothing to do with reality.

Like most guys, I'm no fan of it, but its "tangible" benefits for men is not one to be overlooked.

emmaodet:
I Believe Nigerian Men that are Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them.
If you are rich or wealthy and have to beg a woman to marry you, then the issue is not about financial situation rather esteem issues.
If you are financially stable and averagely social, you will always have atleast 2 ladies in your hand at every point in time.
Ladies are not hard to get nor scarce, main issue for men are financial and long time of scarcity.
When a man has been exposed for too long to scarcity - inability to date for a very long time or no girlfriend for a very long time, it makes him appreciate little or no gifts or efforts from ladies and he is scared of losing a lady even if she is bad mannered. He is ready to manage or endure her.
He will be ready to take her bullshits.
Just a little kiss, he will always remember it or a little gift of singlet. He will remember the gesture for years. Something no one has ever given him.

Skepticus:
It's a reason I don't envy half of these dude "saving" hoes every Saturday.

Make I "burst"people head here, "small". It may sound controversial to the religious folks around here but if you have an open mind, you'll get the crux of my point.

Some, who run to their religious leaders who they greatly admire to pick girls for them (in marriage) would likely be given girls that these religious leaders are tired of banging. The same girls get rewarded for spreading their legs for these religious leaders under the guise of "prophecies " "miraculous anointing" or "working for God". The man who is the admirer of this religious leader is the fool who is being played. These religious leaders would often sponsor the marriage while continuing with his banging escapades.

#InsideLife

Skepticus:
At the bolded, a girl/woman can be truly "in love" with you, though it is extremely rare to find such but when you do, count yourself extremely lucky. Here, my definition of finding a girl who is truly "in love" is not the nigerian man's "definition" of a woman that is truly in love with him. Most of them (Nigerian guys/boys/men) know NOTHING about females' truest attraction nor leadership in relationship. I'll get to that later.



At the bolded, I saw the whole discussions and drama that happened in relation to the paternity fraud trend on Social Media. What i found very worrying, that escaped the attention of most people on the issue of paternity fraud is that NIGERIA as country was mentioned (the only country in Africa) in ALMOST every documented research done on the issue of paternity fraud worldwide. The ones done in Nigeria put it between 50 - 75 percent of women giving birth to babies who are fathered by men who have no genetic connection to these babies. I saw one TEDx talk research putting it at a conservative 30 percent.

The disturbing point of these researches proves that a high number of Nigerian men (poor, middle-class, rich, old, middle-aged, and young) are mostly SIMPs who are also highly ignorant of the nature of women, and that Nigerian women (from the south to the so-called "prudish" north) are highly promiscuous or a terrible combination of both.

If you are a Nigerian man in the "business of promiscuity" whether as a gigolo, pim.p. player, religious leader (some religious leaders like pastors, imams, and those in secular leadership positions like CEOs use it to great advantages in getting women attracted to them) or just an average "fuûck boy", you'll slay a lot of pûssies (single, about-to-be-married, married, pregnant, divorced etc) easily because of the ignorance of the average Nigerian guy on what women do or are capable of doing.

I remember sharing the link of a Nigerian guy who revealed his escapades with so-called "decent" married women earlier on this thread. There have been many threads on front page of Pastors, Imams, Native doctors sleeping with women of all status and background without the knowledge of their boyfriends, fiances and husbands. I have had some personal experiences in this "promiscuity" too, and like most men who have been in my shoes, they stay off marriage because they see the nonsense that modern women are made of. I don't trust a woman telling me "Good morning ". I'll go outside to confirm of it is truly morning time. Like someone said earlier on this thread, most of those Saturday Marriages are just men saving hoes.

Ubunja in his miseducations and miseducashins, has revealed some of these, but the "moral" posturing (which includes some red-pillers) and blue-pill conditioning of nigerian men is so strong that the underlying message of these miseducations and miseducashins fly over their heads.

Gerrard59:
You made strong points here. However, with the present alpha male gospel that's preached on social media, I want to believe a growing number of young Nigerian men are now aware of the inner strengths they have especially as their income status increases. It will take time tho and maybe na why some if not most of these men begin to "explore" immediately they get married because the attraction will now be more than they expected. It's something (immense and intense attraction from women) they've never experienced.

Martinez39s:
A woman who has more money than you and has a higher status will not select you as a husband. Her hypergamous nature will seek a higher male. Women marry their best financial options higher than them.

If you started out higher than your wife and she started earning better than you during the marriage and her status surpasses yours, the disrespect and resentment from her towards you will build up. When a man has all the wealth and status, he tries to make them reflect on his wife and kids; in the case of a woman, she looks upon her husband with disdain and pride and asks herself "is he the best I can do?" It is what it is. A wife with a higher cash worth and higher status cannot respect her husband.

In other news, hear this:
Red pill: "Nothing builds resentment and disrespect to a husband greater than when his wife brings home the bacon (ie. when she is the breadwinner). The resentment and disrespect will come from the wife"

I am sure Hollywood, Nollywood, IrokoTV, romance novels and Disney have painted women to be beings who can love you as much as you love them, and they are equal partners who should run things equally in the household (no male authority), and they are selfless and considerate enough to lend you a helping hand in your down times and make sacrifices for you. This is BUUULLLLLSSSSHIT.

Edit: any gift or financial assistance she renders you comes with conditions: you must pay back or give her something in return. Besides, when she does that or some breadwinner role, she will continuously drum it over your head and to everyone when the opportunity presents itself.