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Listen up, Men! There are so many things to ask her but

As an Alpha, you don’t fall in love at first sight, and you don’t blindly admire a vvoman you just met. Attraction is natural, but validation is earned. Before you even consider her as an option, you must test her mindset, values, and history.

Here are 15 unconventional questions that will expose the truth about her - her body count, values, father issues, respect for men, and understanding of money.

1. “Tell me about your father. What’s your relationship like with him?”

If she respects her father, she respects men. If she has daddy issues, she’s likely to disrespect and use you.

2. “What do you think about traditional gender roles?”

If she hates traditional roles, she won’t respect you as a leader. She wants equality when convenient but submission when beneficial.

3. “How long was your last relationship, and why did it end?”

If she blames her ex for everything, she will never take accountability. If she cheated, she’ll cheat again.

4. “What do you bring to a relationship other than sex?”

If she struggles to answer, she has no value beyond her body. A real woman will talk about her loyalty, support, and ability to build with a man.

5. “Do you have a savings plan or investments?”

If she’s financially irresponsible, she will expect you to fund her lifestyle. Run!

6. “Would you delete your social media for your husband?”

If she says no, she values attention over commitment. That’s a walking red flag.

7. “Have you ever been in a ‘situationship’ or friends-with-benefits arrangement?”

If she has a past of casual sex, she is not wife material.

8. “Do you think a man should pay all the bills?”

If she says yes, ask her what she will contribute. If she offers nothing, she’s looking for a sponsor, not a partner.

9. “How do you handle conflict in relationships?”

If she says ‘I block and ignore’, she is childish and unfit for marriage.

10. “Do you believe a man should have authority over his home?”

If she resists male leadership, she will fight you instead of following you.

11. “What do you think about body counts?”

If she says "It doesn’t matter," she is hiding hers. If she shames you for asking, it’s high.

12. “Have you ever taken a break from dating to focus on self-improvement?”

If she has never taken time off men, she is always dependent on male validation.

13. “What’s your stance on prenups?”

If she hates prenups, she’s counting on divorce to cash out.

14. “Do you think a man should tolerate cheating from a vvoman?”

If she makes excuses, she will justify her own infidelity.

15. “How do you feel about submitting to a man?”

If she hates submission, she wants control. Let her be independent somewhere else.

Final Warning!

A vvoman’s beauty means nothing if her values are rotten. Many men fall for a pretty face and overgrown body parts, then destroy their lives because they never ask the right questions.

Use these 15 questions and vet her ruthlessly. If she fails even a few, she’s not worth your time.

So what are the 15 ruthless questions to ask a man on a first date

Nairaland men haven't changed even after all this years

Lol

Goldplucker:
Listen up, Men! There are so many things to ask her but

As an Alpha, you don’t fall in love at first sight, and you don’t blindly admire a vvoman you just met. Attraction is natural, but validation is earned. Before you even consider her as an option, you must test her mindset, values, and history.

Here are 15 unconventional questions that will expose the truth about her - her body count, values, father issues, respect for men, and understanding of money.

1. “Tell me about your father. What’s your relationship like with him?”

If she respects her father, she respects men. If she has daddy issues, she’s likely to disrespect and use you.

2. “What do you think about traditional gender roles?”

If she hates traditional roles, she won’t respect you as a leader. She wants equality when convenient but submission when beneficial.

3. “How long was your last relationship, and why did it end?”

If she blames her ex for everything, she will never take accountability. If she cheated, she’ll cheat again.

4. “What do you bring to a relationship other than sex?”

If she struggles to answer, she has no value beyond her body. A real woman will talk about her loyalty, support, and ability to build with a man.

5. “Do you have a savings plan or investments?”

If she’s financially irresponsible, she will expect you to fund her lifestyle. Run!

6. “Would you delete your social media for your husband?”

If she says no, she values attention over commitment. That’s a walking red flag.

7. “Have you ever been in a ‘situationship’ or friends-with-benefits arrangement?”

If she has a past of casual sex, she is not wife material.

8. “Do you think a man should pay all the bills?”

If she says yes, ask her what she will contribute. If she offers nothing, she’s looking for a sponsor, not a partner.

9. “How do you handle conflict in relationships?”

If she says ‘I block and ignore’, she is childish and unfit for marriage.

10. “Do you believe a man should have authority over his home?”

If she resists male leadership, she will fight you instead of following you.

11. “What do you think about body counts?”

If she says "It doesn’t matter," she is hiding hers. If she shames you for asking, it’s high.

12. “Have you ever taken a break from dating to focus on self-improvement?”

If she has never taken time off men, she is always dependent on male validation.

13. “What’s your stance on prenups?”

If she hates prenups, she’s counting on divorce to cash out.

14. “Do you think a man should tolerate cheating from a vvoman?”

If she makes excuses, she will justify her own infidelity.

15. “How do you feel about submitting to a man?”

If she hates submission, she wants control. Let her be independent somewhere else.

Final Warning!

A vvoman’s beauty means nothing if her values are rotten. Many men fall for a pretty face and overgrown body parts, then destroy their lives because they never ask the right questions.

Use these 15 questions and vet her ruthlessly. If she fails even a few, she’s not worth your time.

Please no need going for the date, just forget about it.



Meanwhile, welcome to Nigeria

Goldplucker:
Listen up, Men! There are so many things to ask her but

As an Alpha, you don’t fall in love at first sight, and you don’t blindly admire a vvoman you just met. Attraction is natural, but validation is earned. Before you even consider her as an option, you must test her mindset, values, and history.

Here are 15 unconventional questions that will expose the truth about her - her body count, values, father issues, respect for men, and understanding of money.

1. “Tell me about your father. What’s your relationship like with him?”

If she respects her father, she respects men. If she has daddy issues, she’s likely to disrespect and use you.

2. “What do you think about traditional gender roles?”

If she hates traditional roles, she won’t respect you as a leader. She wants equality when convenient but submission when beneficial.

3. “How long was your last relationship, and why did it end?”

If she blames her ex for everything, she will never take accountability. If she cheated, she’ll cheat again.

4. “What do you bring to a relationship other than sex?”

If she struggles to answer, she has no value beyond her body. A real woman will talk about her loyalty, support, and ability to build with a man.

5. “Do you have a savings plan or investments?”

If she’s financially irresponsible, she will expect you to fund her lifestyle. Run!

6. “Would you delete your social media for your husband?”

If she says no, she values attention over commitment. That’s a walking red flag.

7. “Have you ever been in a ‘situationship’ or friends-with-benefits arrangement?”

If she has a past of casual sex, she is not wife material.

8. “Do you think a man should pay all the bills?”

If she says yes, ask her what she will contribute. If she offers nothing, she’s looking for a sponsor, not a partner.

9. “How do you handle conflict in relationships?”

If she says ‘I block and ignore’, she is childish and unfit for marriage.

10. “Do you believe a man should have authority over his home?”

If she resists male leadership, she will fight you instead of following you.

11. “What do you think about body counts?”

If she says "It doesn’t matter," she is hiding hers. If she shames you for asking, it’s high.

12. “Have you ever taken a break from dating to focus on self-improvement?”

If she has never taken time off men, she is always dependent on male validation.

13. “What’s your stance on prenups?”

If she hates prenups, she’s counting on divorce to cash out.

14. “Do you think a man should tolerate cheating from a vvoman?”

If she makes excuses, she will justify her own infidelity.

15. “How do you feel about submitting to a man?”

If she hates submission, she wants control. Let her be independent somewhere else.

Final Warning!

A vvoman’s beauty means nothing if her values are rotten. Many men fall for a pretty face and overgrown body parts, then destroy their lives because they never ask the right questions.

Use these 15 questions and vet her ruthlessly. If she fails even a few, she’s not worth your time.

Enuff said

I don't know why I dislike God fearing lady. That term God fearing na pure scam.

Fear lion, now we are talking

virginprincess:
So what are the 15 ruthless questions to ask a man on a first date

Nairaland men haven't changed even after all this years

Na you won pay the bride price 😏😏

Walking around with these questions means You nova ready to fuckToto be that. After doing this JOB INTERVIEW, you will find yourself ALONE in your bed wanking.

Before you know it, 5 years don pass and you nova see toto because 99% of Nigerian girls will not answer these questions.

Good Luck with the KONJI

Mtcheww so this op no know say person fit pass for theory come fail for practical.

You guys are still doing talking stage in this 2025 .. Mehn I don wash my hands comot from it

This is intense HR vibe...

franchasng:
Please no need going for the date, just forget about it.



Meanwhile, welcome to Nigeria

What's the problem?

These are issues to discuss over a period of time, not on the first date. Its not a job interview.

These are questions that make sense .
However , it is not all that can be asked on a first date .
Always have them in mind and ask them in the most subtle and direct of ways over a period of time.
A first date should not be an interview .
If there is a chemistry between the two of you , flow with it.
Do not commit if there are so many red flags

virginprincess:
So what are the 15 ruthless questions to ask a man on a first date

Nairaland men haven't changed even after all this years

Ask him can u give me money i am hungry?

franchasng:
Please no need going for the date, just forget about it.



Meanwhile, welcome to Nigeria

What is wrong in any of the questions above? Oh i forget a date for you ladies is a time to eat free food

franchasng:
Please no need going for the date, just forget about it.



Meanwhile, welcome to Nigeria

What is wrong in any of the questions above? Oh i forget a date for you ladies is a time to eat free food ..

AllBlack:
Walking around with these questions means You nova ready to fuckToto be that. After doing this JOB INTERVIEW, you will find yourself ALONE in your bed wanking.

Before you know it, 5 years don pass and you nova see toto because 99% of Nigerian girls will not answer these questions.

Good Luck with the KONJI

Na just to dey nack make them dey think say them wise.... But seriously A lot women can't say anything about those indepth questions but you see them writing on their SM profile that i like deep chat , what is deep chat to them? A time to eat free food i guess

FakeDoktor:
These are issues to discuss over a period of time, not on the first date. Its not a job interview.

Most women will buckle after the first date, a girl brought out issues of finance to me while still chatting in phone, she said 'you are supposed to take care of all my financial responsibility as the man" so i took it up from there to make the necessary corrections and educate her what i think finances can play in relationship and marriage. I was very clear and unambiguous that I don't believe in the selfish agenda of "my money is my money and your money is our money" that i believe" your money is our money and my money is our money " that was how she left that she is not supposed to sacrifice her finances for any man but i should do because na mumu i be.
I agree it should be done over a period of time, some lady wants to be a child forever so becoming an adult and taking responsibility and accountability is so scary to them.

FakeDoktor:
These are issues to discuss over a period of time, not on the first date. Its not a job interview.

Most women will buckle after the first date, a girl brought out issues of finance to me while still chatting in phone, she said 'you are supposed to take care of all my financial responsibility as the man" so i took it up from there to make the necessary corrections and educate her what i think finances can play in relationship and marriage. I was very clear and unambiguous that I don't believe in the selfish agenda of "my money is my money and your money is our money" that i believe" your money is our money and my money is our money " that was how she left that she is not supposed to sacrifice her finances for any man but i should do because na mumu i be.
I agree it should be done over a period of time, some lady wants to be a child forever so becoming an adult and taking responsibility and accountability is so scary to them..

idahme:
Most women will buckle after the first date, a girl brought out issues of finance to me while still chatting in phone, she said 'you are supposed to take care of all my financial responsibility as the man" so i took it up from there to make the necessary corrections and educate her what i think finances can play in relationship and marriage. I was very clear and unambiguous that I don't believe in the selfish agenda of "my money is my money and your money is our money" that i believe" your money is our money and my money is our money " that was how she left that she is not supposed to sacrifice her finances for any man but i should do because na mumu i be.
I agree it should be done over a period of time, some lady wants to be a child forever so becoming an adult and taking responsibility and accountability is so scary to them..

Well, i guess you're right.

IfyAwazie:
Mtcheww so this op no know say person fit pass for theory come fail for practical.

Hmmm. Wise girl. Which one you go pass and which one you go fail. Theory or practical

Serious relationship na headache.
Hookup vibes dey make sense.
Depending on the kind of girl you carry.
Marriage sef dey make sense, depending on the kind of girl you marry.
Like if you go Marry Karashika( like the Kardashians). Mhen! You are gone.
Ask Kanye West wetin him eye see.

virginprincess:
So what are the 15 ruthless questions to ask a man on a first date

Nairaland men haven't changed even after all this years

.Will they ever change their Online 'toughness' .


Welcome back ,Good to have you around again.
Missed your Pictures and stories. How are you?

virginprincess:
So what are the 15 ruthless questions to ask a man on a first date

Nairaland men haven't changed even after all this years

You still dey ??


Dem never defile you yet

poshestmina:
.Will they ever change their Online 'toughness' .


Welcome back ,Good to have you around again.
Missed your Pictures and stories. How are you?

I'm good dear, thanks so much🤗🤗

Silentgroper:
You still dey ??


Dem never defile you yet

I still dey

Hope say you don marry😋😋

1. He's my bestie.
2. I have nothing to think about... A relationship should be build on compatibility.
3. A couple of months and it ended because my father chased him away.
4. I bring hunger.
5. You're my savings and investment plan.
6. If he deletes his for me, then yes.
7. I've never benefitted anything from any of my friends.
8. If he wants to be the head of the house, then yes, but if he wants to be the half head of the house, then no.
9. I become silent until he's ready to talk.
10. If he meets up to his expectations as a man, then he can be my authority and I'll be his management.
11. How can I count my body when I only have one?🤔🤔🤔
12. No, hence I'm looking for a self improved man.
13. Do whatever makes you sleep at night.
14. No one should tolerate cheating.
15. What will I be submitting to him? Food, his work documents, or what?

Samantha125:
1. He's my bestie.
2. I have nothing to think about... A relationship should be build on compatibility.
3. A couple of months and it ended because my father chased him away.
4. I bring hunger.
5. You're my savings and investment plan.
6. If he deletes his for me, then yes.
7. I've never benefitted anything from any of my friends.
8. If he wants to be the head of the house, then yes, but if he wants to be the half head of the house, then no.
9. I become silent until he's ready to talk.
10. If he meets up to his expectations as a man, then he can be my authority and I'll be his management.
11. How can I count my body when I only have one?🤔🤔🤔
12. No, hence I'm looking for a self improved man.
13. Do whatever makes you sleep at night.
14. No one should tolerate cheating.
15. What will I be submitting to him? Food, his work documents, or what?

You dahn ready you marry so?