₦airaland Forum

irumole1975:
In the Nigerian system, the men do most of the heavy financial lifting in the family. But over there, the structure and system requires women to participate in the heavy financial lifting also. So along the line, these 9ja .women begin to get overwhelmed and they begin to loose interest in the man that took them there , because in the first place most of their reasons for settling down weren't from a strong conviction of love for the man, but just some that will lighten their financial burden.

So abroad system puts.. ...that financial burden back on them, then they find out that, they don't even love this man or need him after all. These men are innocent, it's just the women that mostly married for the wrong reason, no body treated them wrongly in Nigeria.

If for anything, the abroad is... helping to expose this Nigerian women and their ulterior motives.
Maybe if they start marrying for the right reason, then there will see that, geographical location has nothing to do here.

Jonathan:

Women naturally HÀTE men
We are each other's enemies and will only try to exploit each other for our selfish benefits.


Men naturally won't want to take advantage of Women except for sexual aspect, but will given a chance won't think twice.

theophorus:
You see ehn, Shebi you self get Brothers and you go still born Boy abi? Hope you will be VERY HAPPY when other Women treat your Brothers and Son(s), the way you treat/or want to treat your Husband?

Back to the Topic, Social media and wokeness did more damages than sharing of Financial responsibilities.
Some of our mothers handled more of the Financials when our Dad's finances hit a rock and our Mothers never divorce them.

Marriage is a Covenant and not a Contract and it is suppose to be a "Till death do Us path" but wokeness has led to lack of Loyalty.

Day169:
I feel the submission here by the Op is one sided and almost misogynistic.
I'm a man as well, but while there is some truth to his side of the story, the ladies I'm sure will have a reasonable side to the issue.
Let's put into context that the western culture seems more "gyno-centric" as against what obtains in African cultures, where women are a lot more independent and so want to have an equal say on almost every issue.
It thus is often a basis for conflict when a couple moves overseas from Africa.
In other words, rather than saying that women should marry for love, they should look out more for men who are compatible with their ideals or who's flexible in their thinking.
.. my 2 kobo.

irumole1975:
That’s why I advise my male friends that they need to slave for their wives in their marriages. That’s how the marriage can last. Make money just for her. Cook, clean and provide for her. Also, sometimes let her cheat in peace without you harassing her for cheating. That way she will know you truly love her and she won’t leave u

givedemwotowoto:
Many if not most Nigerians marriages fail abroad because women become rebellious, the society encourages and incentivizes them to.

Out of ignorance, they want to level the hierarchy of the traditional family system, and interestingly, many women think they will remarry and have a happier life when they leave their husbands, they don’t know there’s nothing out there for them.

That said, to the men, never lay hands on your wife. I don’t think our society stresses this enough.

irumole1975:
In the Nigerian system, the men do most of the heavy financial lifting in the family. But over there, the structure and system requires women to participate in the heavy financial lifting also. So along the line, these 9ja .women begin to get overwhelmed and they begin to loose interest in the man that took them there , because in the first place most of their reasons for settling down weren't from a strong conviction of love for the man, but just some that will lighten their financial burden.

So abroad system puts.. ...that financial burden back on them, then they find out that, they don't even love this man or need him after all. These men are innocent, it's just the women that mostly married for the wrong reason, no body treated them wrongly in Nigeria.

If for anything, the abroad is... helping to expose this Nigerian women and their ulterior motives.
Maybe if they start marrying for the right reason, then there will see that, geographical location has nothing to do here.

irumole1975:
That’s why I advise my male friends that they need to slave for their wives in their marriages. That’s how the marriage can last. Make money just for her. Cook, clean and provide for her. Also, sometimes let her cheat in peace without you harassing her for cheating. That way she will know you truly love her and she won’t leave u

Ruke1989:
The Nigeria society is full of dull and ignorant folks who generally don't have a personal vision in life but copy other people's life. So they watch nollywood and begin to desire marriage to a prince that can take them out of the village and upgrade their family. Then they come back to the village to pepper their uncle. Haven't you seen that the movies doesn't teach the steps to genuine riches or empower with knowledge. Rather it focuses on sudden twists of fate, occults money, princely heritage and other dull things

Day169:
I feel the submission here by the Op is one sided and almost misogynistic.
I'm a man as well, but while there is some truth to his side of the story, the ladies I'm sure will have a reasonable side to the issue.
Let's put into context that the western culture seems more "gyno-centric" as against what obtains in African cultures, where women are a lot more independent and so want to have an equal say on almost every issue.
It thus is often a basis for conflict when a couple moves overseas from Africa.
In other words, rather than saying that women should marry for love, they should look out more for men who are compatible with their ideals or who's flexible in their thinking.
.. my 2 kobo.

elmagnifico411:
which kain rubbish I just read so?

Ruke1989:
The Nigeria society is full of dull and ignorant folks who generally don't have a personal vision in life but copy other people's life. So they watch nollywood and begin to desire marriage to a prince that can take them out of the village and upgrade their family. Then they come back to the village to pepper their uncle. Haven't you seen that the movies doesn't teach the steps to genuine riches or empower with knowledge. Rather it focuses on sudden twists of fate, occults money, princely heritage and other dull things

chiommy123:
You want to share financial responsibility but you don't want to share other responsibilities. Who does that?

chiommy123:
You want to share financial responsibility but you don't want to share other responsibilities. Who does that?

chiommy123:
You want to share financial responsibility but you don't want to share other responsibilities. Who does that?

lextube:
You should understand also that some Nigerian women bring their Nigerian husbands abroad.

ednut1:
The men are not innocent. Abroad requires that the woman contribute. But many 9ja men don’t want to do house chores remember they had maids in Nigeria or the wife did all. So make the woman dey work still take care of kids, chores and cook while you chill

Some men beat their wives in Nigeria and the women got their vengeance when they relocated.

There are also 9ja women in the abroad that refuse to contribute to bills . In most cases the man has been paying her bills while dating and marriage. They are used to my money my money nonsense. The man will get frustrated and marriage scatters

elmagnifico411:
which kain rubbish I just read so?

BloomingDale:
Yet na una dey cry pass. Leave women alone. Most of them will rather be alone then being burdened by a man.

irumole1975:
That’s why I advise my male friends that they need to slave for their wives in their marriages. That’s how the marriage can last. Make money just for her. Cook, clean and provide for her. Also, sometimes let her cheat in peace without you harassing her for cheating. That way she will know you truly love her and she won’t leave u

bigpicture001:
Nigerian women don't marry u for love.. get that right into ur head.... Dnt b deceived, leme ask u . Why are Indians in diaspora not having same divorce rate of Nigerians when they bring there girl down to the UK... Abi, western culture no dey affect them..?

Rexnegro:
Lol chief me too follow read the rubbish come dey ask myself shey the guy head correct so ?