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omooba969:
In 2025??

Dey playyy!

Well, when a Child thinks His elders are foolish...

Luckily, in 2025, more children are not enjoying the Training of both parents anymore and please research the Children raised by single parents.

In 2025, more people are getting into Fraud in the name of "Outsmarting" others. We can't seal deals with simple handshake anymore just because people can Honour their Words.

Well, it's 2025.

irumole1975:
In the Nigerian system, the men do most of the heavy financial lifting in the family. But over there, the structure and system requires women to participate in the heavy financial lifting also. So along the line, these 9ja .women begin to get overwhelmed and they begin to loose interest in the man that took them there , because in the first place most of their reasons for settling down weren't from a strong conviction of love for the man, but just some that will lighten their financial burden.

So abroad system puts.. ...that financial burden back on them, then they find out that, they don't even love this man or need him after all. These men are innocent, it's just the women that mostly married for the wrong reason, no body treated them wrongly in Nigeria.

If for anything, the abroad is... helping to expose this Nigerian women and their ulterior motives.
Maybe if they start marrying for the right reason, then there will see that, geographical location has nothing to do here.

The truth is that marriage is not what most people think it is.... The plain truth and the only truth is that marriage is a torment.... Men who are married are wishing they never married, because in reality both Nigeria and abroad, marriage doesn't favour the man.... That is why you see healthy strong men dropping dead every hour, due to mental stress (High BP)....

I will never make that mistake of getting married to any liability whatsoever, I reject it on principle....

I am a bachelor and I will always be a bachelor to the end of time....

Kobojunkie:
Any man or woman who treats his/her son differently from daughters is already setting up well for failure in relationship, marriage, and life itself.

Absolutely, we all should raise our kids same way irrespective of Gender and no one should be thought to be the Provider but both of them.

aribisala0:
Which one be Covenant?

According to who? The United Nations or ECOWAS?

You people just wake up and start making silly pronouncements.

You can only speak for yourself

Marriage is what the parties make of it.
The world is changing and the function of marriage changes with it

Marriage in a fishing village in 1640 will have very different function from marriage in a military barracks in 2025
Marriage between an okada rider and a recharge card seller would be quite different from a marriage between a Supreme Court Judge and A Surgeon

Sorry, are you married?
Please check the marriage creed and details of marital vows and read in between the lines, then recall that Honeymoon Night is suppose to seal the deal (Water, Blood and Body Fluid all mixes together).

Kobojunkie:
Your list tells so much about your kind of person; I blame myself for the engaging you. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

! rather like engaging you - you're so easy to beat in arguments and I always beat you!😆
You're not a deep thinker at all and I don't have to think much to beat you - which perversly, I like

theophorus:
✓ Absolutely, we all should raise our kids same way irrespective of Gender and no one should be thought to be the Provider but both of them.

The men-are-providers-and-women-their-slaves marriage could never have worked for all.

LoneSoldier:
The truth is that marriage is not what most people think it is.... The plain truth and the only truth is that marriage is a torment.... Men who are married are wishing they never married, because in reality both Nigeria and abroad, marriage doesn't favour the man.... That is why you see healthy strong men dropping dead every hour, due to mental stress (High BP)....

I will never make that mistake of getting married to any liability whatsoever, I reject it on principle....

I am a bachelor and I will always be a bachelor to the end of time....

Don't marry a liability but at same time don't be a bachelor. Marry a non-liability - like me!

LoneSoldier:
The truth is that marriage is not what most people think it is.... The plain truth and the only truth is that marriage is a torment.... Men who are married are wishing they never married, because in reality both Nigeria and abroad, marriage doesn't favour the man.... That is why you see healthy strong men dropping dead every hour, due to mental stress (High BP)....

I will never make that mistake of getting married to any liability whatsoever, I reject it on principle....

I am a bachelor and I will always be a bachelor to the end of time....

Well, if I knew what I know now, I’ll never get married. The sex drive from my wife reduce just the moment I gave her the ring.. before it used to be sporadic now when I ask her for sex, she is tired and she’s not in for that.. and here I am burning myself just to make money for her

theophorus:
Sorry, are you married?
Please check the marriage creed and details of marital vows and read in between the lines, then recall that Honeymoon Night is suppose to seal the deal (Water, Blood and Body Fluid all mixes together).

Are you saying people who have sex are married, as long as they say the creed?

Day169:
I feel the submission here by the Op is one sided and almost misogynistic.
I'm a man as well, but while there is some truth to his side of the story, the ladies I'm sure will have a reasonable side to the issue as well.
Let's put into context that the western culture seems more "gyno-centric" as against what obtains in African cultures, where women are a lot more independent and so, they want to have an equal say on almost every issue.
It thus is often a basis for conflict when a couple moves overseas from Africa.
In other words, rather than saying that women should marry for love, they should look out more for men who are compatible with their ideals or who's flexible in their thinking.
.. my 2 kobo.

Guy you are talking trash. The main reason for our naija women misbehaving abroad is because majority of them never married for love but because they believe the young man will protect them financially.

I've heard my female nursing friends discussing about this same issues, they will tell you about women narrating to them that they now find their husbands irritating and hardly allow their husbands to touch them, why because these women are now making their own money too and their eyes don clear, they realize that they went into the marriage because of hunger and financial security.

And our Nigerian brothers are not helping matters, they think it's all about woeing women with money to make them love them and marry them, and sadly these women in their own part also thinks they are in love not knowing it's just because of the financial security the man provides that's making them fall in love.

Most women here in UK tricks their husbands into beating them so as to get divorced from their husbands, just because they now find the husband that sold his land and properties to bring them to the UK irritating and have fallen out of love with him for no just reasons.

Nigerian men should try and marry women that genuinely loves them and not the one that was forced into love with money and expensive gifts.

Person wey use money buy love no dey pay finish.

A woman can easily bend her rules for the man she genuinely loves no matter what.

theophorus:
Sorry, are you married?
Please check the marriage creed and details of marital vows and read in between the lines, then recall that Honeymoon Night is suppose to seal the deal (Water, Blood and Body Fluid all mixes together).

The Yoruba marriage creed and vows or the Ijaw one
You talk without sense

InvertedHammer:
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A man was asking a lady out for 3 years. She refused because he is not her type--she wants a spendrifth.

Now he is working on his visa to japa, stupidly showed her the documents and she finally agreed. They are processing their travel documents together. The wedding is next week.

Oh boy!

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You’re just an insecure and a jealous man who’s afraid his wife might leave him after sex with another man she admires and love more than you. You need to change or you won’t survive abroad. This is a norm abroad and it simply means you’re open and you’re a real man. If you can’t do this, better stay and keep suffering in Nigeria

DaddyCoool:
Don't marry a liability but at same time don't be a bachelor. Marry a non-liability - like me!

When I said liability doesn't mean I am referring to women one sided, be you a liability or not a liability.... I am not interested in any woman period....

The bolded, am not interested in you, find someone else....!

Ifybwoy:
✓ Guy you are talking trash. The main reason for our naija women misbehaving abroad is because majority of them never married for love but because they believe the young man will protect them financially....

Do Nigerian men, a majority of who end up cheating in marriage --side-chick culture is the norm --, some eventually marrying other women, marry for this love you pretend Nigerian women ought to marry for?

Why must a Nigerian woman marry for love when the vast majority of Nigerian men don't? What incentive exists for her doing any such?

irumole1975:
Well, if I knew what I know now, I’ll never get married. The sex drive from my wife reduce just the moment I gave her the ring.. before it used to be sporadic now when I ask her for sex, she is tired and she’s not in for that.. and here I am burning myself just to make money for her

People need to enlighten the young men about what marriage truly entails, not forcing people into what they don't know.... If it was left to me, I would have banned marriage never to ever take place again.....

irumole1975:
That’s why I advise my male friends that they need to slave for their wives in their marriages. That’s how the marriage can last. Make money just for her. Cook, clean and provide for her. Also, sometimes let her cheat in peace without you harassing her for cheating. That way she will know you truly love her and she won’t leave u

PLEASE DON'T BE OFFENDED, WHERE IS YOUR BRAIN LOCATED - IN YOUR HEAD OR UNDER YOUR FEETS THE WAY YOU REASON GET WHY

Kobojunkie:
Because she was programmed from a very young age to believe that her life is to be spent with a Nigerian man. That is the issue. Some of them eventually break out of that programming but a majority of them live and die even holding on to the delusion believing that somehow the Sky daddy will send them a Nigerian man to keep them. This is all connected to the Nigerian tradition of raising the girl child for marriage, a terrible thing.

I think it's because few men simp financially like naija men,

aribisala0:
The Yoruba marriage creed and vows or the Ijaw one
You talk without sense

Thank You Sir.
Na the Chinese Creed joor abi na Nicene creed self.

StaffofOrayan:
✓ I think it's because few men simp financially like naija men,

There is no truth to this claim of yours. You should probably take time to study other cultures to see that what you describe is in no way unique to Nigerian men.

irumole1975:
Don’t worry. If you live abroad (UK, US and Canada) and your wife want to cheat and bring another man home, tell her not to do it…you’ll learn lesson. You’ll know that women are the leader of the house and they should be allowed to lead in the way they want

You are not normal.

[quote author=Kobojunkie post=134281013]There is no truth to this claim of yours. You should probably take time to study other cultures to see that what you describe is in no way unique to Nigerian men. [/quote

Bro travel out of Nigeria first!, Most Nigerian women strongly believe in 'his money is our money, my money is mine'

Kyn4life:
PLEASE DON'T BE OFFENDED, WHERE IS YOUR BRAIN LOCATED - IN YOUR HEAD OR UNDER YOUR FEETS THE WAY YOU REASON GET WHY

Don’t worry. If you live abroad (UK, US and Canada) and your wife want to cheat and bring another man home, tell her not to do it…you’ll learn lesson. You’ll know that women are the leader of the house and they should be allowed to lead in the way they want

Nigerian men be jealous that their wives getting smashed by dudes better than them instead of leveling up and see where they get it wrong

givedemwotowoto:
Many if not most Nigerian marriages fail abroad because women become rebellious, the society encourages and incentivizes them to.

Out of ignorance, they want to level the hierarchy of the traditional family system, and interestingly, many women think they will remarry and have a happier life when they leave their husbands, they don’t know there’s nothing out there for them.

That said, to the men, never lay hands on your wife. Be careful who you pick as your wife. She can make or mar you. Do your due diligence and get to know her family better. Don't hurry into making a mistake. I don’t think our society stresses this enough.

Most Nigerian marriages are not built on love or understanding. They are mostly built on:

1. Who is ready to settle down let's do it?
2. I have come of age let me get marry to whomever is ready and looks presentable or that can pick the bill
3. She has nyash and breast and they lust over each other, not knowing that lust will quench one day
4. Unplanned pregnancy and they are forced into marriage

Once they are properly married they realized that they never truly love each other or that they have nothing in common.
I know ex's still talking to each other after being married to other people. They have come to realize that they should have waited a bit.

StaffofOrayan:
Bro travel out of Nigeria first!, Most Nigerian women strongly believe in 'his money is our money, my money is mine'

If you have ever indeed traveled outside of Nigeria as you pretend, you would have learned that it isn't just Nigerian women who think that way. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Also, you would also have learned that the only way you can end up in marriage with such women is if and only if you choose to marry a woman who reasons that way; essential the men who marry such women only to then complain about them are to blame.

dettolgel:
✓ Most Nigerian marriages are not built on love or understanding. They are mostly built on...

Do Nigerian men, a majority of who end up cheating in marriage --side-chick culture is the norm --, some eventually marrying other women, marry for this love you pretend Nigerian women ought to marry for?

Why should a Nigerian woman marry for love when the vast majority of Nigerian men don't? What incentive or benefit is there for her doing any such?

dettolgel:
Most Nigerian marriages are not built on love or understanding. They are mostly built on:

1. Who is ready to settle down let's do it?
2. I have come of age let me get marry to whomever is ready and looks presentable or that can pick the bill
3. She has nyash and breast and they lust over each other, not knowing that lust will quench one day
4. Unplanned pregnancy and they are forced into marriage

Once they are properly married they realized that they never truly love each other or that they have nothing in common.
I know ex's still talking to each other after being married to other people. They have come to realize that they should have waited a bit.

I sent a PM

Ifybwoy:
Guy you are talking trash. The main reason for our naija women misbehaving abroad is because majority of them never married for love but because they believe the young man will protect them financially.

I've heard my female nursing friends discussing about this same issues, they will tell you about women narrating to them that they now find their husbands irritating and hardly allow their husbands to touch them, why because these women are now making their own money too and their eyes don clear, they realize that they went into the marriage because of hunger and financial security.

And our Nigerian brothers are not helping matters, they think it's all about woeing women with money to make them love them and marry them, and sadly these women in their own part also thinks they are in love not knowing it's just because of the financial security the man provides that's making them fall in love.

Most women here in UK tricks their husbands into beating them so as to get divorced from their husbands, just because they now find the husband that sold his land and properties to bring them to the UK irritating and have fallen out of love with him for no just reasons.

Nigerian men should try and marry women that genuinely loves them and not the one that was forced into love with money and expensive gifts.

Person wey use money buy love no dey pay finish.

A woman can easily bend her rules for the man she genuinely loves no matter what.

Pls how how does a woman trick a man into beating her ?

I know what you are.

1Sharon:
✓ Pls how how does a woman trick a man into beating her ?
I know what you are.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

What is he?

OP! So it is only the Nigerian women who marry for the wrong reasons? Why didn't you highlight that some men also marry for the wrong reasons?

You are taking as if you don't know some men come to Nigeria and go fishing around the nursing schools for innocent nursing students who would get carried away with an abroadian who dangles marriage at them with relocation as the icing on the cake while the real intent of the man is to use her as his retirement plan of her working after nursing school while he lounges. And they will later cry and say I brought her abroad. So because you brought her abroad, you should collect every penny she works for? Who then caters to her family back home? Una don see cash cow na

Or the men who marry and refuse their wives working, for fear that the wives will be spoilt by other women in the diaspora. Who asked you to marry and be scared and not trust your wife? Why ask her not to work, did she fall from the skies? She has a family back home to provide for na.

So as you put all the blame on woman , I have just listed a few to make you know men are the cause.

Who is the head in that marriage? The man.
Who chose his spouse? The man.
Who is the driver in that car/marriage? The man

When a car has accident, who do you question and blame? The driver who s behind the wheels not the passenger.


So the man at the helm of affairs of his marriage is responsible for the outcome of his marriage. If the wife is bad. Naim fault, Naim choose with him own hand, carry him hard earned money to marry knife and not wife.

Know this and know peace

LoneSoldier:
When I said liability doesn't mean I am referring to women one sided, be you a liability or not a liability.... I am not interested in any woman period....

The bolded, am not interested in you, find someone else....!

Touché! Did I say I was interested in you?? Some creature on a faceless forum! For all I know you're not even human

DaddyCoool:
Touché! Did I say I was interested in you?? Some creature on a faceless forum! For all I know you're not even human

It is your likes that should be considered non-human, how can you be female and still answer a man's name.... Confused non-genital thing...!

Kobojunkie:
Your list tells so much about your kind of person; I blame myself for the engaging you. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

DaddyCoool:
! rather like engaging you - you're so easy to beat in arguments and I always beat you!😆
You're not a deep thinker at all and I don't have to think much to beat you - which perversly, I like

😁 I'd just be looking at arguments you could have made but are not smart enough to make.
Here for example, instead of stupidly arguing the obvious you could easily have said one didn't need to be married to experience all that!