₦airaland Forum

irumole1975:
Men should also allow their wives to cheat in peace without hassle. Most women abroad want to taste new dick. A woman that’s making her own money now should be given such opportunity at least. Allowing your wife to bring home the man he craves will improve ur relationship and will ensure she won’t send you out of the home

irumole1975:
Same way men are seen as walking ATM. Same way men are seen as utility tools to be used and discarded by the female gender m. The female gender rarely achieve anything on their own without using men. Men are not loved. Tell me what’s the contribution of the average woman to marriage other than sex and cooking

irumole1975:
While you are right, but you still have to explain to that individual in a way he/she will understand. The fact that you’re right diesnt mean you should be harsh to them. What you’re saying is a scientifically proven fact..no one should disagree with that

ibedun:
Yeah! Jesus is coming…..!

Who planted that believe into your head? That you are a social animal.
Better protect your mind from manipulation and misinformation or miseducation.

DaddyCoool:
So we agreed - some Nigerian marriages are like jail for one or both partners, a jail they can't escape

1Sharon:
A man can very much take his wife abroad for selfish reasons. Don't be disingenuous. It happens.

It starts from Nigeria. Alot of igbo men want to marry nurses because they know it's easy for her to get a visa he can jump on.

They come abroad and the wife becomes the cash cow of the family. She gets frustrated and because she can afford to, she leaves the marriage

Later the idiot will start crying that brought his wife abroad and she left him. His ego won't allow him to say he used her visa.

Yes, as much as you all don't want to admit it, men use women for their resources too.

folake4u:
No lies told.

I had always wondered why majority of female doctors/nurses are always in serious relationship or engaged while in school. Them dey rush them truly. Lol.

1Sharon:
Yes o. They rush them for nefarious reasons, use her visa and she becomes the meal ticket for the family abroad.

1Sharon:
A man can very much take his wife abroad for selfish reasons. Don't be disingenuous. It happens.

It starts from Nigeria. Alot of igbo men want to marry nurses because they know it's easy for her to get a visa he can jump on.

They come abroad and the wife becomes the cash cow of the family. She gets frustrated and because she can afford to, she leaves the marriage

Later the idiot will start crying that brought his wife abroad and she left him. His ego won't allow him to say he used her visa.

Yes, as much as you all don't want to admit it, men use women for their resources too.

Acidosis:
Is this a bad thing or a good thing? I'm just wondering because women have been doing this since time immemorial. Women marry made men or men with prospect all the time.

folake4u:
Crazy times. But Nairaland men will act blind to this now. Lol.

Trophy wife nor be anybody mate.

1Sharon:
Are women now expected to provide for men? Are you into role-reversal?

These men that chase nurses tend to be uneducated themselves, they get w/ them and use them to shine so they can feel good about their unachievments.

1Sharon:
A man can very much take his wife abroad for selfish reasons. Don't be disingenuous. It happens.

It starts from Nigeria. Alot of igbo men want to marry nurses because they know it's easy for her to get a visa he can jump on.

They come abroad and the wife becomes the cash cow of the family. She gets frustrated and because she can afford to, she leaves the marriage

Later the idiot will start crying that brought his wife abroad and she left him. His ego won't allow him to say he used her visa.

Yes, as much as you all don't want to admit it, men use women for their resources too.

StaffofOrayan:
The phenomenon of wanting to date a local is universal! That is why indigenous people are still around, that is why we still have ethnic groups! It is not unique to Nigerian or African women!
There are women that leave their toxic husbands rightfully I might add, but for the most part it's an overdose of new 'freedoms'. Then they decide the only person they would be submissive to are their bosses, they forget their own inadequacies!

When you are desirable, you automatically get suitors, these women quickly find out no man wants them, so they toil away in the cold, getting infected with the European disease called depression,

imustsaymymindo:
Exactly my point. We are on the same page. Because there are mechanisms for divorce - culture, norms, and even an economy would be built with it. So the more we borrow from that culture, the more divorces or failed marriages. When there is less focus on divorce as an easy mechanism like the traditional society, people would resort to other ways of fixing the issue rather than divorce like the family example you gave.

The question now would be which is more efficient, divorce or the other strategies? Maybe, I'll need more data for that. But if divorce was that efficient, people wouldn't be experiencing 2nd, 3rd, or 4th divorce. I also know the dangers of some of the traditional strategies, however, the traditional strategies seem to be beneficial to the collective(Husband, wife, and children), while divorce seems to be more favorable to the unhappy individual only. Where my talk on "love" comes in is because the expectations in marriages these days are based on definitions of the "borrowed culture" while we expect the outcome of the "traditional values". But I guess it's high time we realize that it has come to stay, and divorce rates will get higher both in Nigeria and everywhere else.

EmmyDJourno:
Lol, yesterday newspaper rest please, as a man ages so does the demographic of women he can get, as a man ages so does he discover the secret to wealth
A man’s life is always on the rise, while a woman’s own is in decline, take your beef to nature, it has nothing to do with me, you bitter old newspaper🤣