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My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op):
Fellow Nigerians and other Visitors of this forum from within and outside Nigeria, it is my pleasure to be here amongst you. I have followed this noble forum for years, I have seen the banters, I have seen the toxicity and hazardous nature of the forum but in all these, I have always taken everything to be fun and nothing personal.
I already know the outcome and reviews this post will generate, so I am not surprised.

My Mum is on my neck to get married. I've always told her to be patient, and that God will make everything beautiful in His own time. She has four children. I'm the first and aged 31. The second is a male(28) who is already married and almost a father of two. The third is female(24) in her 300level in the university while the last is also female(22) already married with two lovely kids. My mum is now a grandmother, so I don't understand why she's still hellbent on pushing me into marriage against my wish. I like to get married, but we all know the situation of things in the country right now. Even if anyone gives me money to marry now, I would rather put the money into any lucrative business than spending it on marriage. As a matter of fact, I may not get married in life. I can decide to have a child or two outside wedlock and take good care of the children to the Best of my ability. Marriage no be achievement to me.
I've also told her that my major concern is to make money and take good care of her, establish a good business for her and take care of my siblings. That's my priority, not marriage.
I met a girl on Facebook, and we've being dating online for over a year now. We have never met. She is from my place. Same tribe. She is still an undergraduate and apparently a good girl. She pressured me to send her my mum's number & I did. They keep in touch, and my mum wants me to marry her. The girl wants to get married immediately after graduation, as she still has a year left to graduate. From all indications, she's a good girl. But I'm NOT ready yet. I've told my mum that I'm a Man not a woman. Only women fear to get married late due to their limited time for reproduction, men no dey reach menopause. However, I know it is good to marry and birth early. But I never ready. Whenever I speak with my mum on the phone, she must talk about marriage, I'm starting to avoid her calls cos I'm already tired.
As for this same girl, I tested her las year but she failed the test. I asked a friend to chat her up on Facebook and ask them to meet and greet. My friend chatted her for a week and demand that they meet. To my greatest surprise, she agreed to meet with him. While she was busy communicating with my friend via chats, I was stylishly asking her if she was cheating on me, but she denied everything and I kept laughing within me. It was on the day they agreed to meet that I opened up to her. She was shocked. Begged for forgiveness and I forgave her. But till date, I still feel like she messed up.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by hatozeck: 10:23am On Feb 27, 2025
Whatever you do, do not base your verdict on the girl being a good girl having met her online. Thread with caution and always know that there's a lot about her yet to be uncovered.

As for your mom, she's just being a mother and doing what every typical Nigerian mom will do. You can always talk your way out of it
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by God1000(m):
Your mom is disturbing you to marry because you are the first son but follow your heart, make sure you are ready before you do anything

As a man, you must plan well before you settle down
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Xannadu: 10:40am On Feb 27, 2025
God1000:
Your mom is disturbing you to marry because you are the first son but follow your heart, make sure you are ready before you do anything

As a man, you must prepare well before you settle down
The job of the heart is to pump blood, not to make logical decisions, which is the function of the brain.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by God1000(m): 10:42am On Feb 27, 2025
Xannadu:
The job of the heart is to pump blood, not to make logical decisions
Lol, whatever


Following your heart means listening to your intuition. The heart is more than just an instrument that pumps blood around your body.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by visaclick: 10:45am On Feb 27, 2025
Xannadu:
The job of the heart is to pump blood, not to make logical decisions, which is the function of the brain.
someone that can’t identify a heart function is giving advice
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 11:06am On Feb 27, 2025
Xannadu:
The job of the heart is to pump blood, not to make logical decisions, which is the function of the brain.
😂😂😂😂😂
Abeg I use God beg u, no kill me laff I never chop. Chaii.. nairaland oo
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 11:07am On Feb 27, 2025
God1000:
Lol, whatever


Following your heart means listening to your intuition. The heart is more than just an instrument that pumps blood around your body.
Pls understand her sense of humor and sarcasm. No play she dey follow u play 🙏
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Domainer1999: 11:09am On Feb 27, 2025
I've read same story on Nairaland. Your verbatim lines gave you out!
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by ibechris(m): 1:58pm On Feb 27, 2025
If u are doing well pls,get a working class girl with a stable income and marry.

Your mum is right and u are also right but make ur choice clear.

All the best.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 3:36pm On Feb 27, 2025
ibechris:
If u are doing well pls,get a working class girl with a stable income and marry.

Your mum is right and u are also right but make ur choice clear.

All the best.
Thank u Sir. This is how a reasonable, responsible, educated, and an enlightened person makes a logical comment and not the f**l above.
I appreciate u Sir 🙏🙏
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by ibechris(m): 3:45pm On Feb 27, 2025
Ikonse:
Thank u Sir. This is how a reasonable, responsible, educated, and an enlightened person makes a logical comment and not the f**l above.
I appreciate u Sir 🙏🙏
U are welcome.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op):
ibechris:
U are welcome.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by 2cribz: 5:02pm On Feb 27, 2025
No later come marry,begin post pics say make we donate,your pikin sick,he never chop,your house rent.just dey your lane oh.
Wife and pikin cost pass car or even house rent
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 5:13pm On Feb 27, 2025
2cribz:
No later come marry,begin post pics say make we donate,your pikin sick,he never chop,your house rent.just dey your lane oh.
Wife and pikin cost pass car or even house rent
Lol.. no I won't
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by 1Sharon(f): 5:43pm On Feb 27, 2025
You want to be a single father.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 5:46pm On Feb 27, 2025
1Sharon:
You want to be a single father.
Yes baby ❤️❤️
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by We4all: 6:34pm On Feb 27, 2025
Plan a fake marriage just to please her. After six months tell her the woman cheated and you sent her away. Do this and she will never disturb you again.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 6:43pm On Feb 27, 2025
We4all:
Plan a fake marriage just to please her. After six months tell her the woman cheated and you sent her away. Do this and she will never disturb you again.
😂😂😂😂
You're a bad Boy.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by saintmm(m): 6:56pm On Feb 27, 2025
A man is called a man for some reasons.
One of them is the ability to analyze issues, take logical decisions and stand by them.


If you allow emotions to prevail over logic on this issue everyone will blame you and you will have nobody to blame.

So get your acts right and stand by it
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 7:02pm On Feb 27, 2025
saintmm:
A man is called a man for some reasons.
One of them is the ability to analyze issues, take logical decisions and stand by them.


If you allow emotions to prevail over logic on this issue everyone will blame you and you will have nobody to blame.

So get your acts right and stand by it
Great comment. I love the part you said, " Everyone will blame you and you'll have nobody to blame"
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Starz825(m): 7:30pm On Feb 27, 2025
You never meet or live in with girl m.you say na good girl grin

I dey laff your brain
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by galantjoe(m): 7:52pm On Feb 27, 2025
She has not cheated
She is a smart girl because smart person does not put all his or her eggs in one basket
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Gandollar(f): 2:34am On Feb 28, 2025
Ikonse:
Pls can I reach u on your mail?
Why? 🙄🙄
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Hailstone: 8:46am On Feb 28, 2025
hatozeck:
Whatever you do, do not base your verdict on the girl being a good girl having met her online. Thread with caution and always know that there's a lot about her yet to be uncovered.

As for your mom, she's just being a mother and doing what every typical Nigerian mom will do. You can always talk your way out of it
Tread not thread that means something else.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by frozen70(f): 12:36am On Mar 02, 2025
Ikonse:
Fellow Nigerians and other Visitors of this forum from within and outside Nigeria, it is my pleasure to be here amongst you. I have followed this noble forum for years, I have seen the banters, I have seen the toxicity and hazardous nature of the forum but in all these, I have always taken everything to be fun and nothing personal.
I already know the outcome and reviews this post will generate, so I am not surprised.

My Mum is on my neck to get married. I've always told her to be patient, and that God will make everything beautiful in His own time. She has four children. I'm the first and aged 31. The second is a male(28) who is already married and almost a father of two. The third is female(24) in her 300level in the university while the last is also female(22) already married with two lovely kids. My mum is now a grandmother, so I don't understand why she's still hellbent on pushing me into marriage against my wish. I like to get married, but we all know the situation of things in the country right now. Even if anyone gives me money to marry now, I would rather put the money into any lucrative business than spending it on marriage. As a matter of fact, I may not get married in life. I can decide to have a child or two outside wedlock and take good care of the children to the Best of my ability. Marriage no be achievement to me.
I've also told her that my major concern is to make money and take good care of her, establish a good business for her and take care of my siblings. That's my priority, not marriage.
I met a girl on Facebook, and we've being dating online for over a year now. We have never met. She is from my place. Same tribe. She is still an undergraduate and apparently a good girl. She pressured me to send her my mum's number & I did. They keep in touch, and my mum wants me to marry her. The girl wants to get married immediately after graduation, as she still has a year left to graduate. From all indications, she's a good girl. But I'm NOT ready yet. I've told my mum that I'm a Man not a woman. Only women fear to get married late due to their limited time for reproduction, men no dey reach menopause. However, I know it is good to marry and birth early. But I never ready. Whenever I speak with my mum on the phone, she must talk about marriage, I'm starting to avoid her calls cos I'm already tired.
As for this same girl, I tested her las year but she failed the test. I asked a friend to chat her up on Facebook and ask them to meet and greet. My friend chatted her for a week and demand that they meet. To my greatest surprise, she agreed to meet with him. While she was busy communicating with my friend via chats, I was stylishly asking her if she was cheating on me, but she denied everything and I kept laughing within me. It was on the day they agreed to meet that I opened up to her. She was shocked. Begged for forgiveness and I forgave her. But till date, I still feel like she messed up.
Make up your mind and get settled down. You have nit convinced your mum with enough reason why you are yet to settle down

Getting a faithful partner now is not easy especially when they are single but once married she may respect the marriage by staying faithful
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by AbeeNetwork001(m): 6:21am On Mar 02, 2025
How old is she
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Watcharena: 7:25am On Mar 02, 2025
You can actually meet a good girl online.



But please if she is not a virgin avoid her like disease.

You can't afford to pay for what othersssss have eaten for free , destroyed willingly and deliberately manhandled.

Is only a foolish man that accept a hoe as a wife.
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 7:41am On Mar 02, 2025
frozen70:
Make up your mind and get settled down. You have nit convinced your mum with enough reason why you are yet to settle down

Getting a faithful partner now is not easy especially when they are single but once married she may respect the marriage by staying faithful
Ok ma. Thanks for your input. I appreciate. You've spoken well🙏🙏
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op): 7:42am On Mar 02, 2025
AbeeNetwork001:
How old is she
She will be 24 later this month
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by Ikonse(op):
Watcharena:
You can actually meet a good girl online.



But please if she is not a virgin avoid her like disease.

You can't afford to pay for what othersssss have eaten for free , destroyed willingly and deliberately manhandled.

Is only a foolish man that accept a hoe as a wife.
She is not a Virgin. She claimed to have been forcefully nacked by her ex twice. 😂😂
Re: My Mum Is On My Neck To Get Married by frozen70(f): 8:53am On Mar 02, 2025
Ikonse:
Ok ma. Thanks for your input. I appreciate. You've spoken well🙏🙏
Thanks dear, God will be there for you in all things
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