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A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 12:33pm On Mar 02, 2025
I met a lady in December 2019, and we showed mutual interest. However, I hesitated to take our relationship to the next level due to a previous heartbreak. Shortly after, I lost my job and had to relocate.

We lost touch for a while, but she reached out after being involved in a minor accident. She offered to help me find a job at her workplace, and although I didn't succeed, her kindness,prayers and encouragement meant a lot. I began to develop strong feelings for her.
So November 2021, I asked if she'd consider dating me , she said she'd think about it.
So I eventually found a new job, so I asked again if she'd consider dating me. To my surprise, she declined this time. She said she can't date me. I was confused and hurt, so I distanced myself.

Despite her lack of romantic interest, she continued to initiate contact and long conversations. I had to set boundaries, informing her that I couldn't maintain a close relationship if she wasn't interested in dating.

It's been over five years since we met, and I've struggled to find someone else. No one seems attractive to me, and her memory lingers daily. I'm exhausted from carrying this torch.
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by ajailer(m): 1:20pm On Mar 02, 2025
You need to work on your psyche. Develop an abundant mentality and not this your scarcity mentality, you need to always remind yourself that there are many Fishes in the Ocean.
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adeleketj: 3:09pm On Mar 02, 2025
Same situation here
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 5:47pm On Mar 02, 2025
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Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Axzobr: 8:15pm On Mar 02, 2025
Focus on building yourself
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by obinna58(m):
U men wey dey carry love for head needs to be unalived, you’re destroying humanity and it’s existence
If you have seen a man carrying 4 innocent looking women for his pleasure, or have seen the babe you die for being rammed by a poor hopeless tout, you’ll be disgusted with love

A woman who moved on long time ago and may have been run through by many different sizes of dck is what you can’t stop thinking about, so disgustingly disgusting 🤢

Even if you have no shame at least be brave enough to tell your heart and mind that this is not the right thing to be thinking about I mean you have success waiting for you yet to be achieved, instead of wasting your time thinking about love you can think about plans on how to make life better
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 10:33pm On Mar 02, 2025
obinna58:
U men wey dey carry love for head needs to be unalived, you’re destroying humanity and it’s existence
If you have seen a man carrying 4 innocent looking women for his pleasure, or have seen the babe you die for being rammed by a poor hopeless tout, you’ll be disgusted with love

A woman who moved on long time ago and may have been run through by many different sizes of dck is what you can’t stop thinking about, so disgustingly disgusting 🤢

Even if you have no shame at least be brave enough to tell your heart and mind that it’s not the right thing to be thinking about I mean you have success waiting for you yet to be achieved, instead of wasting your time thinking about love you can think about plans on how to make life better
This sound harsh.
But it's cool
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by IceColdVeins(m): 10:43pm On Mar 02, 2025
Download bumble app and upload your dopest pictures. Thank me later
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by AllBlack: 3:38am On Mar 03, 2025
Adekunlegold9ja:
I'm exhausted from carrying this torch.
You need to lift that torch very high like the STATUE OF LIBERTY. Nothing must happen to that torch oh.
Your mind go dey.
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by helinues: 6:08am On Mar 03, 2025
As long as you are not a tree, move bro
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 8:06pm On Mar 03, 2025
helinues:
As long as you are not a tree, move bro
Ok
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 11:06pm On Mar 05, 2025
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Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 2:31pm On Mar 09, 2025
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Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Goodmarlian: 2:43pm On Mar 09, 2025
She is not into you,I wonder how una take dey feel this love thing e no dey reach my side,I am too hard hearted.
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 4:43pm On Mar 09, 2025
Goodmarlian:
She is not into you,I wonder how una take dey feel this love thing e no dey reach my side,I am too hard hearted.
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Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 9:54pm On Mar 11, 2025
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Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Helpout12345: 10:31pm On Mar 11, 2025
Move on. She had a better offer by the time you found another job and asked her out.

Your new job and financial strength is below the man f.uccking her now.

You have to go and understand how women view emotional and sexual relationships with men, to understand what I just dropped up there.
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 8:52pm On Mar 12, 2025
Helpout12345:
Move on. She had a better offer by the time you found another job and asked her out.

Your new job and financial strength is below the man f.uccking her now.

You have to go and understand how women view emotional and sexual relationships with men, to understand what I just dropped up there.
We actually work in same place
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 6:31pm On Mar 16, 2025
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Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Beloved4heart: 7:28pm On Mar 16, 2025
Adekunlegold9ja:
I met a lady in December 2019, and we showed mutual interest. However, I hesitated to take our relationship to the next level due to a previous heartbreak. Shortly after, I lost my job and had to relocate.

We lost touch for a while, but she reached out after being involved in a minor accident. She offered to help me find a job at her workplace, and although I didn't succeed, her kindness,prayers and encouragement meant a lot. I began to develop strong feelings for her.
So November 2021, I asked if she'd consider dating me , she said she'd think about it.
So I eventually found a new job, so I asked again if she'd consider dating me. To my surprise, she declined this time. She said she can't date me. I was confused and hurt, so I distanced myself.

Despite her lack of romantic interest, she continued to initiate contact and long conversations. I had to set boundaries, informing her that I couldn't maintain a close relationship if she wasn't interested in dating.

It's been over five years since we met, and I've struggled to find someone else. No one seems attractive to me, and her memory lingers daily. I'm exhausted from carrying this torch.
I myself created a thread similar to yours few minutes ago, although I've not gotten any advice yet,but what I see that's of great importance is "TO WORK ON YOURSELF"...


I'VE NEVER SEEN A BIG MAN HAVING PROBLEM WITH WOMEN, TAKE FOR INSTANCE NED NWOKO,THAT GUY ALWAYS BAFFLES ME
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Beloved4heart: 7:32pm On Mar 16, 2025
Adekunlegold9ja:
I met a lady in December 2019, and we showed mutual interest. However, I hesitated to take our relationship to the next level due to a previous heartbreak. Shortly after, I lost my job and had to relocate.

We lost touch for a while, but she reached out after being involved in a minor accident. She offered to help me find a job at her workplace, and although I didn't succeed, her kindness,prayers and encouragement meant a lot. I began to develop strong feelings for her.
So November 2021, I asked if she'd consider dating me , she said she'd think about it.
So I eventually found a new job, so I asked again if she'd consider dating me. To my surprise, she declined this time. She said she can't date me. I was confused and hurt, so I distanced myself.

Despite her lack of romantic interest, she continued to initiate contact and long conversations. I had to set boundaries, informing her that I couldn't maintain a close relationship if she wasn't interested in dating.

It's been over five years since we met, and I've struggled to find someone else. No one seems attractive to me, and her memory lingers daily. I'm exhausted from carrying this torch.
OP to be honest your own dey learn,I now refer to all ladies as my sister now 😇😇😇😇😇, for my peace of mind,I don't think I'll ever get married,but I can't do without children,I know one day I'll make this money, but I have to spread love out, hence the reason for an adoption maybe 3 to 5 children,I love children.....
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 9:10pm On Mar 17, 2025
Beloved4heart:
OP to be honest your own dey learn,I now refer to all ladies as my sister now 😇😇😇😇😇, for my peace of mind,I don't think I'll ever get married,but I can't do without children,I know one day I'll make this money, but I have to spread love out, hence the reason for an adoption maybe 3 to 5 children,I love children.....
Hmm
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Adekunlegold9ja(op): 9:52pm On Mar 19, 2025
Beloved4heart:
I myself created a thread similar to yours few minutes ago, although I've not gotten any advice yet,but what I see that's of great importance is "TO WORK ON YOURSELF"...


I'VE NEVER SEEN A BIG MAN HAVING PROBLEM WITH WOMEN, TAKE FOR INSTANCE NED NWOKO,THAT GUY ALWAYS BAFFLES ME
Kindly share the link
Re: A Lingering Heartbreak by Yoluba: 10:34pm On Mar 19, 2025
I don't no why some nigga day loose guard them selve because of one banny, babe plenty for street now if you toast sister a if a no gree go for b ,c,d,e..........z somebody must say yes .
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