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There's this particular female Corps Members( we're serving in the same "village"that we started having affairs in October last year. Though she told me initially that she was in an almost 7 year relationship when I approached her. We agreed majorly on having fun and "see" how things go. Fast forward to December last year, I noticed her with another guy here ...this guy happens to be from our tribe , and he's into carpentry and "furniture". I talked to her gently in February, and fortunately she didn't deny it . Although the guy in question told me everything before I finally decided to talk to the lady....one of the things he told me was that, the lady told him that we were just friends, which I responded to be true. Additionally, my major concern and why I decided to talk to her ( even when I've been aware since Dec) was that the guy talks too much , we're serving in a remote area and I wouldn't like a situation where she'll be embarrassed. I warned her to be careful and that it's left to her to decide if she'll continue with the guy or not. After some days, I noticed she has stopped talking to the guy , the guy also told me that she has stopped giving her attention.
The issue:
She complained of seeing her period just for a day last month. I received her call yesterday that she did a Pregnancy Test ( using strips) and the result was positive.
Honestly, we used condoms for sex for several weeks when we started and somehow we started having it raw, 99% of the time , I do pull out. I stopped having sex with her temporarily when I noticed her and the guy.
I think my mistake was not stopping when I discovered there's something going on between them.
I haven't given her a bold response yet.
Kindly advise me on what to do please .

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olucephas:
There's this particular female Corps Members( we're serving in the same "village"that we started having affairs in October last year. Though she told me initially that she was in an almost 7 year relationship when I approached her. We agreed majorly on having fun and "see" how things go. Fast forward to December last year, I noticed her with another guy here ...this guy happens to be from our tribe , and he's into carpentry and "furniture". I talked to her gently in February, and fortunately she didn't deny it . Although the guy in question told me everything before I finally decided to talk to the lady....one of the things he told me was that, the lady told him that we were just friends, which I responded to be true. Additionally, my major concern and why I decided to talk to her ( even when I've been aware since Dec) was that the guy talks too much , we're serving in a remote area and I wouldn't like a situation where she'll be embarrassed. I warned her to be careful and that it's left to her to decide if she'll continue with the guy or not. After some days, I noticed she has stopped talking to the guy , the guy also told me that she has stopped giving her attention.
The issue:
She complained of seeing her period just for a day last month. I received her call yesterday that she did a Pregnancy Test ( using strips) and the result was positive.
Honestly, we used condoms for sex for several weeks when we started and somehow we started having it raw, 99% of the time , I do pull out. I stopped having sex with her temporarily when I noticed her and the guy.
I think my mistake was not stopping when I discovered there's something going on between them.
I haven't given her a bold response yet.
Kindly advise me on what to do please .

Bro, what if the carpentry guy’s secretly been plotting to build more than just furniture, and now you’re caught in his master plan? 🛠️🤔👶

Simple case.

If u r so damned sure its not yours. Nothing to be worried about. If u aint too sure (coz pulling out na scam told to youngies) then make una two yarn. Coz sex is between 2 people

The babe try. A 7year relationship with another guy, then you she met recently, then another guy she met most recently.

She was using u guys, y'all thought u were using her
She got sex, attention, probably money for free. Thats what prostitutes like a lot. She's a slut who doesn't give a F about u guys and even d pregnancy

According to ur narration, 3 of una dey gbensh d babe. I tell u sincerely from my heart that there are others involved. E sure me say una pass 3 wey dey gbensh her during that period

Dont take d chance that u are not d father.
1. Ask her to keep it. U gotta tell her that a DNA will b done though. U'll accept the kid n not her
2. Ask her to remove it. Wrong move though

She'll rush to that number 1 option to remove it shaperly,dont give her shishi oo since u told her to keep it.

Make i bounce abeg.

[quote author=Natbrowny post=134571903]Simple case.

Nicely said.
But the first guy is not here, we're far away in another region of the country

Thank you

[quote author=olucephas post=134571946][/quote]Shr must av travelled once or twice..
If yes, d guy must have gbenshed onto say distance don make am miss d babe.

Bro. Ask her to keep it. U aint on d losing side here

She'll want u to respond by saying. Babe abeg comot d belle. DO THE OPPOSITE, ask her to keep it. That's where u'll know wats up.. she'll know u av somtin up. Coz u use condoms and u use pull out, let's assume ur pullout worked, she'll believe u do pull out too.
Mention dat DNA o. Na dat one go break d camels back.

Werey go remove am. Remember don't drop shishi. And from now..control ur dick. No dey send her again, focus on somtin else. Remove dat attention u always give her. Ignore her calls. No go dey form pity o.

Wake up dat sadistic beast inside you. U knw what to do. Suspend all emotions for few months. If u fit do am b dat sef..dont be a p*ssy. Wake up nigg*

The only thing I can tell you is that no birth control method is 100% foolproof!

Misplaced priorities.

You don’t even know if you’ll get a job after service.

The youths of these days only think about sex, nothing else is in your head, instead of using your nysc period to work on yourself and build meaningful connections you’re busy impregnating a girl on top your chicken change 33k allowance.

I pity your life, incase you don’t know Nigeria is very tough, a woman should not be your priority.