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@og316 and Joeeee240,

Let me answer your question.

Well, I learned a lot about women's nature and psychology in this thread. So, this will be more of a summary and how I use them.

There is no set pattern to use them; just be aware of them when you put on your "red pill glasses." Then, as a man, you use logic (while keeping in mind that women are emotional) to determine your next step.

But in most cases, what my friend and I do is:

1. During our first conversation, be it a call or physical (excluding chats), we make sure we give off that aura of "I don't give a f***." If the mission clicks, good; if it doesn’t click, still good.

We also make sure to control the conversation flow. Yeah, what I’ve noticed is, once you give women the privilege to control the flow of your conversation, that’s when you start hearing things like, “my man must do this,” “my man must do that,” “I don’t like that.”

Be the boss; control the conversation. Don’t just shut her out, let it flow naturally.

2. After you have established control, then you use their game on them. How? Well, you’ve got to set your standards, but it should be done in a way she won’t notice you are trying to manipulate her. Make her feel like you are the prize, and she can’t easily get you.

What I usually do is try to make her insecure and destroy her ego.

Example: If she’s fair-skinned or, let’s say, under 20 years old, during the conversation, I will say something like, “I don’t usually date light-skinned women because of reasons I can’t mention,” or “I find girls under 20 kind of childish.”

Then, you top it up with something like, “But your vibe is kind of different, but I’ll still be observing you,” or “I hope you prove me wrong though.”

This creates some kind of orientation in their brain that they have to prove themselves to you.

After that, don’t think much about it; don’t be needy or clingy; be patient. With women, it’s always about patience. I usually continue the vibe on chat until the next time I feel like calling them.

I will continue with the next phase/steps later. I am kind of busy now.

I was walking down the road with a girlfriend then she asked me why I was walking close to the gutter that she was supposed to walk close to the gutter while I walk by her right because of moving vehicles. She said it wasn’t proper for a lady to walk close to the road when walking with a guy. I asked if I was Superman or if I couldn’t get hit by a car. She was surprised I asked cos according to her no guy had ever asked her that question. Then I realized the kind of guys she’s been with. But who even brought that law? It’s been messing with a lot of men(young boys to be precised). We need the gospel



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Careente7:
I was walking down the road with a girlfriend then she asked me why I was walking close to the gutter that she was supposed to walk close to the gutter while I walk by her right because of moving vehicles. She said it wasn’t proper for a lady to walk close to the road when walking with a guy. I asked if I was Superman or if I couldn’t get hit by a car. She was surprised I asked cos according to her no guy had ever asked her that question. Then I realized the kind of guys she’s been with. But who even brought that law? It’s been messing with a lot of men(young boys to be precised). We need the gospel



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Men are created by mother nature to protect and care for women. Let there be a war and the men will have to risk things while the women will be protected. This occurs because they are the gender that gives birth to children. From pure evolutionary terms, men are dispensable as one man can impregenate 100 women but if women die out, the tribe can go extinct.
In the bible in the book of judges chapter 20, the tribe of Benjamin was nearly wiped out because no women were left. They had to look for women.
If only one man is left with 100 women the tribe cannot go extinct but it may go extinct if it is the other way round.
It may sound harsh but we are the disposable sex even though we are stringer and maybe smarter. Women have the privilege of being valued just for existing.
Also this is whynancient cultures Place emphasis on the fertility of women. In fact in African culture, a barren woman is not safe in her holusbands house.
It has its advantages and disadvantages. We men have provider and protection instincts from mother nature. Women might exploit us for this bit it is the way it is

Thanks a lot boss

dreamxhaser:
@og316 and Joeeee240,

Let me answer your question.

Well, I learned a lot about women's nature and psychology in this thread. So, this will be more of a summary and how I use them.

There is no set pattern to use them; just be aware of them when you put on your "red pill glasses." Then, as a man, you use logic (while keeping in mind that women are emotional) to determine your next step.

But in most cases, what my friend and I do is:

1. During our first conversation, be it a call or physical (excluding chats), we make sure we give off that aura of "I don't give a f***." If the mission clicks, good; if it doesn’t click, still good.

We also make sure to control the conversation flow. Yeah, what I’ve noticed is, once you give women the privilege to control the flow of your conversation, that’s when you start hearing things like, “my man must do this,” “my man must do that,” “I don’t like that.”

Be the boss; control the conversation. Don’t just shut her out, let it flow naturally.

2. After you have established control, then you use their game on them. How? Well, you’ve got to set your standards, but it should be done in a way she won’t notice you are trying to manipulate her. Make her feel like you are the prize, and she can’t easily get you.

What I usually do is try to make her insecure and destroy her ego.

Example: If she’s fair-skinned or, let’s say, under 20 years old, during the conversation, I will say something like, “I don’t usually date light-skinned women because of reasons I can’t mention,” or “I find girls under 20 kind of childish.”

Then, you top it up with something like, “But your vibe is kind of different, but I’ll still be observing you,” or “I hope you prove me wrong though.”

This creates some kind of orientation in their brain that they have to prove themselves to you.

After that, don’t think much about it; don’t be needy or clingy; be patient. With women, it’s always about patience. I usually continue the vibe on chat until the next time I feel like calling them.

I will continue with the next phase/steps later. I am kind of busy now.

Philosopher1979:
Men are created by mother nature to protect and care for women. Let there be a war and the men will have to risk things while the women will be protected. This occurs because they are the gender that gives birth to children. From pure evolutionary terms, men are dispensable as one man can impregenate 100 women but if women die out, the tribe can go extinct.
In the bible in the book of judges chapter 20, the tribe of Benjamin was nearly wiped out because no women were left. They had to look for women.
If only one man is left with 100 women the tribe cannot go extinct but it may go extinct if it is the other way round.
It may sound harsh but we are the disposable sex even though we are stringer and maybe smarter. Women have the privilege of being valued just for existing.
Also this is whynancient cultures Place emphasis on the fertility of women. In fact in African culture, a barren woman is not safe in her holusbands house.
It has its advantages and disadvantages. We men have provider and protection instincts from mother nature. Women might exploit us for this bit it is the way it is

A man is almost like a god to a woman, true. What’s not true is the exploitation like you said

Careente7:
I was walking down the road with a girlfriend then she asked me why I was walking close to the gutter that she was supposed to walk close to the gutter while I walk by her right because of moving vehicles. She said it wasn’t proper for a lady to walk close to the road when walking with a guy. I asked if I was Superman or if I couldn’t get hit by a car. She was surprised I asked cos according to her no guy had ever asked her that question. Then I realized the kind of guys she’s been with. But who even brought that law? It’s been messing with a lot of men(young boys to be precised). We need the gospel



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Yeah, it doesn't really matter what side of the road you walk on lol.

The good thing you was not falling for her shìt test. You can walk wherever you feel like.

But depending on the girl, guy and context... walking close to cars can make a girl see you as sweet, a protector and attractive

luminouz:
I've had same experience as yours. That's why I laugh at people who said redpillers hate women. I don't hate them but understand them. I have been helped severally by women when my own gender turned me down. Not to say men never helped me at all. But I've received help from more women than men. If not for a lady, I would have died in 2016 in Abuja when my classmate (who was married) suddenly decided not to host me after previously agreeing (said his wife disagreed) when I already got to Abuja park. I knew no one in Abuja and I was turned down brutally by 3 different churches (after talking to their pastors).

I called Oge who I met online on NL and had never seen and she came to my aid. She called two yoruba guys in Abuja and they rejected me. She tried to take me to her house but her parents refused because I'm Yoruba (just by hearing my name on her phone, even though I look like Ibo). Oge kept going from house to house in that area looking for where I would sleep, ignoring her parents' calls to come home. I later found refuge in a church owned by an ibo prophetess around 1am. She took care of me till I left for my interview that day.

I finished late at the interview and Oge sneaked me back into her parents house when they were at work. I was in her room for three days, eating good food and fuqin good pussy. I was notified after 3 months that I passed the interview (a scholarship) and my greatest regret was losing my phone with Oge's number and not repaying that prophetess for her kindness when I went back to Abuja. That is just one of many help I've had from people/women and other tribes/races, which is why racism/tribalism is dead to me.

Bump. Pg 2063.

Just a quick one. The post is revealing but a small part is based off of stereotypes and is totally off.

How does an Ibo look like?

There's absolutely NO way of knowing from the body complexion (either dark brown or light-skinned) or facial looks if a person is an Ibo or not EXCEPT you listen carefully to the vocal accents. Some folks don't even speak with their ethnic accents at all so you can't even tell where they originally come from except they tell you. Folks from many Nigerian and non-Nigerian ethnic groups that I've seen over the many decades are naturally light-skinned in complexion from Ibibios, Esans, Ebiras, Yorubas, Idomas, and many more.

Konquest:
Bump. Pg 2063.

Just a quick one. The post is revealing but a small part is based off of stereotypes [/b]and is totally off.

[b]How does an Ibo look like?

There's absolutely NO way of knowing from the body complexion (either dark brown or light-skinned) or facial looks if a person is an Ibo or not except you listen to the vocal accents. Some folks don't even speak with their ethnic accents at all so you can't even tell where they originally come from except the tell you. Many folks from many Nigerian and non-Nigerian ethnic groups that I've seen over the many decades are naturally light-skinned in complexion from Ibibios, Esans, Ebiras, Yorubas, Idomas, and many more.

Tribes in Nigeria have a look. From Hausa to igbo or Yoruba. I have always been mistaken for an Igbo dude. Try to research the look-alike stuff. It occurs

emmaodet:
As a man, in whatever you do, please always constantly add value to yourself, try and make sure you are earning no matter what and please, improve your social life.
Working, earning, financially stable is not enough, please increase your social life i repeat because without increasing your social life, all what you have achieved will make you settle for less and be satisfied with it.

Join clubs be it Rotaract, 36 lioness, if you have the financial muscle golf club etc.
Register with a nice gym center, go swimming regularly etc.
Weekend movies, join tour/event groups that plans for weekend tours and beaches etc.
Mingle with friends that invites you to parties and events regularly etc.
With this, you will never be short of young beautiful women.
The problem with a low social life is that it makes you settle for less.
You will see your girlfriend as the best thing or woman you can get when in reality, your social status can afford you a far better lady.
Women will explore their femineity to the fullest to secure the best man they can get, while are we men not fully utilizing our masculinity and secure the best woman we can get also? we settle far too low

You go lie for me?

luminouz:
Tribes in Nigeria have a look. From Hausa to igbo or Yoruba. I have always been mistaken for an Igbo dude. Try to research the look-alike stuff. It occurs

@luminouz

I hope you're having a great weekend? Your feedback is revealing. I myself got some of the
"you don't look and sound like a Westerner" when I lived and worked in PH which I found a bit amusing and would ask back: "how is someone with roots in the West of Nigeria supposed to look and sound?" But I'll throw in some specifics so as to convey more clarity here.

There are slightly over "250" distinct ethnic groups in different regions of Nigeria. Each of these 250 distinct ethnic groups of Nigerian descent can CLEARLY NOT be identified by looks alone as that would be too simplistic. Ethnic accents are way easier for identifying the ethnicity of people than just looks.

I'm well-traveled internationally and within Nigeria either for business or leisure and have been to almost all the 36 States of Nigeria (except Ebonyi, Yobe, Borno and Adamawa States). I lived in PH decades back while working with a multinational company as well, so, I had a lot of contacts with folks from the Old Eastern Region (Ikwerres, Ijaws, Ogonis, etc, from Rivers State, Ibos from Imo, Abia and Anambra States, Ibibios and Annangs from Akwa Ibom State, Efiks and Ejagbams from Cross Rivers State, etc) all living in that city.

Because I pay attention to little details, I noticed that the Ibos in particular have different body complexions ranging from very dark to light-skinned just like everybody else. NO doubt, I noticed a preponderance of light skinned people from a few parts of Imo and Abia States (especially Umuahia), but I observed that many dark-skinned guys also originate from the same Imo and Abia States in places such as Owerri and Aba (with above 80 percent of Ibos being of dark brown skin complexions NOT light-skinned as ignorantly believed by some people who don't pay attention or have NEVER traveled beyond their geographical regions). All these are largely based off of human genetic selections.

So, you just pointed out what I've been emphasizing about people "subconsciously" or "deliberately" generalizing about other people's ethnic origins. Some people ignorantly think "Nigeria is simply Hausa, Yoruba, and Ibo" when infact 250 distinct ethnic groups exist. Some people from the East of Nigeria are notorious for referring to everyone from the North of Nigeria as Hausa (ndi Awusa), while I've heard some Yorubas referring to anybody who is NOT Yoruba or Hausa (Bini, Esan, Ibibio, Annangs, etc), as "omo Ibo" which to me are signs of lazy thinking and disrespect for others!

Whenever I come in contact with someone new, I usually do NOT assume that he or she comes from a SPECIFIC ethnic group which can be seen as a sign of disregard by many, BUT I simply ask where they come from (and that I would like to know more about their ethnic group, language and unique cultures. I usually get a lot of enthusiastic feedbacks from that approach).


Enjoy your day.

Ciao.

Emodeee:
You go lie for me?

Don't get you bro?

emmaodet:
Don't get you bro?

It's a slang that you are saying the truth.

emmaodet:
As a man, in whatever you do, please always constantly add value to yourself, try and make sure you are earning no matter what and please, improve your social life.
Working, earning, financially stable is not enough, please increase your social life i repeat because without increasing your social life, all what you have achieved will make you settle for less and be satisfied with it.

Join clubs be it Rotaract, 36 lioness, if you have the financial muscle golf club etc.
Register with a nice gym center, go swimming regularly etc.
Weekend movies, join tour/event groups that plans for weekend tours and beaches etc.
Mingle with friends that invites you to parties and events regularly etc.
With this, you will never be short of young beautiful women.
The problem with a low social life is that it makes you settle for less.
You will see your girlfriend as the best thing or woman you can get when in reality, your social status can afford you a far better lady.
Women will explore their femineity to the fullest to secure the best man they can get, while are we men not fully utilizing our masculinity and secure the best woman we can get also? we settle far too low

I agree with this %1000, imagine 2025 and niggas are still dating babes that ask for basic things like airtime,pad, deodorants ,wigs etc. bruh

What does it mean when we say every man should find his purpose?

Does it mean looking inward to discover your passion and following it?

PinkNature:
What does it mean when we say every man should find his purpose?

Does it mean looking inward to discover your passion and following it?

In the year 2025. A new form of mathematics called relational set theory will be developed. The theory will impact mathematics, computer science and other areas. It will be developed in nigeria.

I am working on a new form of maths that might chsnge the world.
I'm intruiged because I believe that universities and intellectuals round the world will embrace it and i will be called the african einstein.
Learn from this. Your purpose is an idea you are consumed by that you think will impact humanity. Big dreams like mine. What you are passionate about. That will be more important than mere pussy or sex.

Now that is what your purpose it. I pray I succeed anyway

emmaodet:
I will say relationship-wise, the average woman has a big edge over the average man.

If a relationship breaks today, how fast will a woman and man get over it and move on? The woman gets the edge

These are the metrics i will use to judge a broken relation -

- How fast to move on and enter a new relationship : Ask yourself, if you are in a relationship with a lady were both are faithful but at a point the relationship stopped, who will find it easy to enter another relationship at the shortest time? the woman.
While you may still be sucking or trying to convince another lady to date you, she already have a list of toasters disturbing her all these days.
All she had to do is to start picking the calls of any of them and start giving him attention then Boooom, she is already in another relationship within 2 weeks while you are still struggling to build a new relationship with another lady.

- The quality of the relationship: while you may be lucky to enter another relationship like the woman, the question is the quality?
Your Ex can easily replace you with a banker, young medical doctor or business owner quite doing fine. What is the quality of woman you are getting to replace her?
Are you leaving your 6.5/10 Ex just to getting a 5/10 lady as a stop-gap? how easy is it to get another 8/10 lady to quietly and easily replace her?
How easy is it for you to quietly get a lady working in Glo, Mtn, Dangote, LNG as mid to top staff to replace your Ex?
These are things that will make you to easily move on from a fresh broken relationship without looking back or stalking your Ex and been moody and depressed.
Remember, when you start dating your woman, she will try to cut you off from all other ladies all in the name of Love and relationship to avoid regular quarrels, knowing fully that if the relationship stops today, she can easily kick-start another one and move on compared to you.

- Quantity of sex: This is quiet different. Let me throw a challenge. How many ladies can you sleep with within a week excluding prostitutes or paid sex? compared to your woman? if a woman wants, she can sleep with up to 5 toasters or more in a week easily compared to a man that may still be wooing a woman within that period before convincing them to come to his house for sex. Even after coming, she may decide not to have sex with you thereby losing the 1 week challenge.
In other words, women gets sex far easily compared to men and that is why money is a game changer for men.
If i add money, the man automatically becomes the winner of the 1-week challenge because he can just order dozens of women to sleep with in a week.

This is one of the major reasons why most men are desperate to get into a relationship and while being in a relationship.
There was a time when I thought that men that are more desperate than women for relationships are just wimpy beta simps with low to no self-esteem, low to no self-love, who pedestalize women (generally low-quality women by the way) and who don't have an abundance mindset. But I eventually realized that the reality is more complex than this.


Suppose that tomorrow you wake up in an unknown remote city, speaking an unknown language, and with no access to electricity.
You have no possessions, no connections, and no means to reach the outside world.
Then, your belly starts disturbing you. You need to eat.
You resort to begging as you don't have any other choice (except stealing).
Days pass, your situation doesn't get any better. You are just getting used to it.
Now, as a beggar, how will your attitude be towards food?
Like any other beggar out there, you will most likely cherish any piece of food you can get. If someone throws dirty food your way, you will check how dirty the food is before throwing it away. If someone gives you food in a disrespectful manner, you are still going to take it and eat it. If someone asks you to do some humiliating or embarrassing stuff for a meal you are likely to do it, because you don't when you will get food again.
You can't afford to have an abundance mindset, because you are not in abundance and your urge to eat does not give a fvck about your mindset.
If you are too proud, you will probably die out of hunger,

See, most men are beggars in the sexual marketplace.
They can have all the mindset they want, the reality is that most of them are invisible and undesired by women.
It's so rare for them to receive anything from women (attention, sex), that the day it happens to them, they are overtly excited and are inclined to simping. For similar reasons, most men can't realistically afford to have an abundance mindset. Sure, there are many women out there. But how many of these women want you (except for money/stability)? You can lie to yourself that a lot of women want you, but reality will catch up to you.

I believe that the men who can afford to not be desperate simps in relationships with women are
1) men who are dealing with women who genuinely like them (i.e., who find them sexually attractive)
2) men who are dealing with women on a transactional basis (prostitutes, escorts, also some married women (marriage can be argued to be nothing more than acculturated prostitution))
3) men that are OK being single and sexless forever if it means not having to degrade themselves via simping, chasing, pandering, jestering, performing, betabuxxing, cuckolding, disrespect, etc.

luminouz:
I've had same experience as yours. That's why I laugh at people who said redpillers hate women. I don't hate them but understand them. I have been helped severally by women when my own gender turned me down. Not to say men never helped me at all. But I've received help from more women than men. If not for a lady, I would have died in 2016 in Abuja when my classmate(who was married) suddenly decided not to host me after previously agreeing(said his wife disagreed) when I already got to Abuja park. I knew no one in Abuja and I was turned down brutally by 3 different churches(after talking to their pastors).

I called Oge who I met online on NL and had never seen and she came to my aid. She called two yoruba guys in Abuja and they rejected me. She tried to take me to her house but her parents refused because I'm Yoruba (just by hearing my name on her phone, even though I look like Ibo). Oge kept going from house to house in that area looking for where I would sleep, ignoring her parents' calls to come home. I later found refuge in a church owned by an ibo prophetess around 1am. She took care of me till I left for my interview that day.

I finished late at the interview and Oge sneaked me back into her parents house when they were at work. I was in her room for three days , eating good food and fuqin good pussy. I was notified after 3 months that I passed the interview (a scholarship) and my greatest regret was losing my phone with Oge's number and not repaying that prophetess for her kindness when I went back to Abuja. That is just one of many help I've had from people/women and other tribes/races, which is why racism/tribalism is dead to me.

luminouz you can lie, I swear

JESHAL007:
Niggas be telling me that they will vet and vet
Oga U be veterinarian
No woman is without bullshit
What marry in the first place?
I tried to find out why most of our red pill guys still get married.
These are people that have been in the game longer than I have.
They can't even tell me something reasonable. I asked a couple of them on telegram.
Do you want to marry because of children?
-no
U want to find happiness
-no
U wanna give momma grand children
-no
Are you afraid of loneliness
-no
Is it the society
-no
Peer pressure
-no
I don't understand
Why the fvck do you want to get married then ?
I just want to get married and have the experience.
The fvck, are serious
Let me me ask you guys here
If you plan to get married
Please tell me why
I'm dieing to know
Please tell me

Children

smartlad:
luminouz you can lie, I swear

K

Philosopher1979:
Men are created by mother nature to protect and care for women. Let there be a war and the men will have to risk things while the women will be protected. This occurs because they are the gender that gives birth to children. From pure evolutionary terms, men are dispensable as one man can impregenate 100 women but if women die out, the tribe can go extinct.
In the bible in the book of judges chapter 20, the tribe of Benjamin was nearly wiped out because no women were left. They had to look for women.
If only one man is left with 100 women the tribe cannot go extinct but it may go extinct if it is the other way round.
It may sound harsh but we are the disposable sex even though we are stringer and maybe smarter. Women have the privilege of being valued just for existing.
Also this is whynancient cultures Place emphasis on the fertility of women. In fact in African culture, a barren woman is not safe in her holusbands house.
It has its advantages and disadvantages. We men have provider and protection instincts from mother nature. Women might exploit us for this bit it is the way it is

I agree that men are meant to protect and care -- they are stronger.

@the bolded,
But assuming no war, or in everyday life condition, women are not scarce , infact I think they are more than men.

Okay I noticed ever since I intentionally stopped dating and picking girls for the sole intent of sex, It's really been hard to meet a quality girl who honestly seek a non sexual healthy relationship. Must relationship always come with sex? What happened to the culture of fidelity and no sex till marriae that used to be a pride of our culture and conscience
Women complain all men want is sex, but my experience tells me that women believe it's the sex that validates a relationship, so they play the sex card and seem to project sex as the biggest game they bring to the table.

I'm currently not interested in sex, and it's not money thing, it's just change of perspective about life and sex and women. But then I realized it's yet hard to meet ladies who align with this perspective. All I see are beautiful ladies who plays the sex card, and loose ladies whose relationship mindset is transactional using sex as the product. Haba. I'm no longer interested in those life. It's not worth it.

Question is where are young vibrant ladies who truly live by the no sex policy, whose life or relationship philosophy still encompass chastity and are honest about it, and not some pretenders who say no sex to their boyfriend but have strings of friends with benefits lurking in different streets.
Honestly, everything makes me really disillusioned and aloof about sex and relationship thing and makes me feel it's not worth the stress

Kipaji:
This is one of the major reasons why most men are desperate to get into a relationship and while being in a relationship.
There was a time when I thought that men that are more desperate than women for relationships are just wimpy beta simps with low to no self-esteem, low to no self-love, who pedestalize women (generally low-quality women by the way) and who don't have an abundance mindset. But I eventually realized that the reality is more complex than this.


Suppose that tomorrow you wake up in an unknown remote city, speaking an unknown language, and with no access to electricity.
You have no possessions, no connections, and no means to reach the outside world.
Then, your belly starts disturbing you. You need to eat.
You resort to begging as you don't have any other choice (except stealing).
Days pass, your situation doesn't get any better. You are just getting used to it.
Now, as a beggar, how will your attitude be towards food?
Like any other beggar out there, you will most likely cherish any piece of food you can get. If someone throws dirty food your way, you will check how dirty the food is before throwing it away. If someone gives you food in a disrespectful manner, you are still going to take it and eat it. If someone asks you to do some humiliating or embarrassing stuff for a meal you are likely to do it, because you don't when you will get food again.
You can't afford to have an abundance mindset, because you are not in abundance and your urge to eat does not give a fvck about your mindset.
If you are too proud, you will probably die out of hunger,

See, most men are beggars in the sexual marketplace.
They can have all the mindset they want, the reality is that most of them are invisible and undesired by women.
It's so rare for them to receive anything from women (attention, sex), that the day it happens to them, they are overtly excited and are inclined to simping. For similar reasons, most men can't realistically afford to have an abundance mindset. Sure, there are many women out there. But how many of these women want you (except for money/stability)? You can lie to yourself that a lot of women want you, but reality will catch up to you.

I believe that the men who can afford to not be desperate simps in relationships with women are
1) men who are dealing with women who genuinely like them (i.e., who find them sexually attractive)
2) men who are dealing with women on a transactional basis (prostitutes, escorts, also some married women (marriage can be argued to be nothing more than acculturated prostitution))
3) men that are OK being single and sexless forever if it means not having to degrade themselves via simping, chasing, pandering, jestering, performing, betabuxxing, cuckolding, disrespect, etc.

I'm my category 3 even my close friend they wonder wether I be gay sometimes but the honest truth is that , majority of Nigeria girls no dey move me , they're aways on survival mode due to poor economy hence why they hardly stay loyal , they're materialism is excessive and is a major turn off for me,the skin tone between black babes abroad and here is wide.

Not saying abroad babes are saint but if babe is going to form for me or stress me then she should be worth it ,no be the one wey her parents dey trenches you dey expect me to chase you ,what is your value? ,what is your degree ? Mtcheeww.

I overheard one young girl who I think she should 19 , telling her friend that she wants a boyfriend that will spend on her ,I shook my head.

Sadly that's what majority of relationships in Nigeria are all about,women looking for men that spend ,no love ,no commitment,no talks about the future,just spend .


And it's always the girls that are looking mid smh .

FreeSpirited:
Okay I noticed ever since I intentionally stopped dating and picking girls for the sole intent of sex, It's really been hard to meet a quality girl who honestly seek a non sexual healthy relationship. Must relationship always come with sex? What happened to the culture of fidelity and no sex till marriae that used to be a pride of our culture and conscience
Women complain all men want is sex, but my experience tells me that women believe it's the sex that validates a relationship, so they play the sex card and seem to project sex as the biggest game they bring to the table.

I'm currently not interested in sex, and it's not money thing, it's just change of perspective about life and sex and women. But then I realized it's yet hard to meet ladies who align with this perspective. All I see are beautiful ladies who plays the sex card, and loose ladies whose relationship mindset is transactional using sex as the product. Haba. I'm no longer interested in those life. It's not worth it.

Question is where are young vibrant ladies who truly live by the no sex policy, whose life or relationship philosophy still encompass chastity and are honest about it, and not some pretenders who say no sex to their boyfriend but have strings of friends with benefits lurking in different streets.
Honestly, everything makes me really disillusioned and aloof about sex and relationship thing and makes me feel it's not worth the stress

This is what happens when when we downplay discipline, this generation mocked boys and girls keeping themselves, now when it time to marry they want tear rubber. Lol , I'm not shading you I'm just saying it in general.

there are virgins out there but you need to scout very hard and always target the age bracket 19-25 ,but sadly those girls are in their prime and deal with lots of attractions so e go hard .

Good luck on your search.

emmaodet:
While there has been a lot of discussion about the word "Love", the back and forths, honestly i have my reservation about it.
Simply because LOVE will fail you when you need it MOST.
The best time when we need love most is when we are at our lowest point in life - jobless, hopeless, futureless, everything LESS when we need a shoulder to lean on, someone to give us a reassurance and encouragement to keep moving on in life despite all the odds against us.
Moments when we don't even believe in ourselves anymore but someone is there giving us hope and encouragement.
It is at this wit-end, unfortunately that LOVE will fail you most. So i actually don't really believe in that Love ideology. This is my personal view and not imposed on anyone.
It is at this lowest point that your woman will start misbehaving, flirting with other men, even cheating, giving cold attitudes, insultive, confrontational and bold with it.

I relate to this personally. There have been times in my life where I have been severely lonely, hopeless, and broke. I thought: "If there is a woman out there that can genuinely love me, this is the time for her to show up. Not after I gather myself, overcome my depression, improve my finances, etc. If a woman only comes after that, then I will take her for what she is: an opportunist (that is if I take her at all)."

Nyascobar1414:
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😹. Exactly what I see in the university.
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Check out those guys that kinda look hungry and all,no female looks at them,no one notices them,they are all alone..
And it's so sad that most of them don't know the redpill,cos aswrr after making the so called money , women will play them(ignorance is truly death if you're male).

Yep. After working very hard in school and at work to make money, a lot of desperate men get into a relationship with the first h0e that gives them some attention (attention they never had; attention women always gave to bad boys, handsome men, popular dude, rich men, etc.; attention they always craved). They are so overjoyed to finally have some female warmth in their lives that they can't see through her disguise and manipulation. That's how a lot of financially stable men end up getting married with wh0res.

For me,cos I'm kinda aware of the redpill..

I don't really care about the female folks,the same game they play to guys they don't desire is the same game I play to them if they give me their so called fake greenlights.. It works better if you can control your sexual urge..

Though you'll be alone,yea it's okay.That's the life of males..
Well, I'm into philosophy,so I don't really give a a fvck bout girls cos I know that it's all about orgasm(which last for 9-10secs). And by the way everything is nothing..
Most of my colleagues give these girls attention,they worship these girls,but these girls don't really give a shit about them.

This was one of the main realizations that made me stop worrying/thinking about women. Why would I care about someone that doesn't even know I exist, someone that does not even care about me, someone that would not deal with me except to use me?
Except it's a woman I know personally and who positively contributes to my life, I DO NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT HER. She could be a whōre, a "good girl", an old or young woman, I don't care. It's her life. The time and energy wasted on her would be much better spent on improving and caring about myself.
That's why, for example, I stopped listening to redpill/MGTOW Youtube videos starring women. I think: "Why would I waste the next 10 minutes hearing this wh0re spout her nonsense when I could use these 10 minutes to relax, read something constructive, play a video game, engage with my family, work, watch some good anime, or just take a nap?" In the same vein: "why would I waste the next 20 minutes listening to women complain about the men they like, when I could use that time to do something that actually benefits me, like exercising, resting, relaxing, connecting with family, etc.?"
Also, I stopped giving so much time and energy learning "game", women's minds, and intersexual dynamics. I prefer to spend all that time and energy on me: my peace, my mental state, my spiritual wellbeing, my self-development, my finances, my goals, my body, my family, etc. After all these years, I think I learned most of the essentials of this "game". That is enough for me, I don't need to know everything. I will learn the rest in real life as I go through my life journey.

It's so painful,that girls got to know this game naturally,but men have to learn the game either through pain(heartbeak) or just learnig from their older bros..

What usually affirm my stand on MGTOW and shutting females out is that, they don't love us,even though you eventually get the girl,you are the one that will loose(looking deep into the game, nature made men to be losers).

Women are not your friends,so why smile with them,give them your time, attention etc..

I discussed about this here (https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know/2323#134045088)

When a young girl in the university sees her colleague she will think she's better than the guy just cos she got an organ,so why affirm It to her that she's better than you,dont look at her,no attention,no fvcks given,this will even make her intrigued 😹but still it ain't still worth it,cos all she's trying to do is to bring you down to simp for her(to prove that she's better than you)..
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Just for having that organ (just that and NOTHING ELSE), a woman can experience a life that the average man out there can only dream of, which includes easy access to sex as well as money, favors, and attention from the opposite gender.


[quote]But,there's a price for not acting along with your hormone and social conditioning..You'll be alone, you'll hardly have friends that are guys,since most of them are deep into the matrix (worshipping females and all that)..

Testosterone is the spell that nature casted on males😹 .If only we didn't have this urge ,I wonder who will give a fvck bout this entitled creatures ..

Well, life is to be overcomed..
Pain and isolation will only make you stronger,so go with the flow,I know it's hard cos I'm still there..

But Neiztche said,A man should have chaos in his soul to give birth to a new dancing ⭐ star..

How will a man arise anew if he has not first been burnt to ashes..

Most time I pity my male colleagues cos they are so dumb to this game,they are only interested in their books(medical students 😹),cos they are so vulnerable to the cold hands of female nature..

I think you should come to Philosophy,buy some books like "Thus spake Zarathustra,"Ecce Homo","Beyond good and Evil" etc... All written by Friedrich neiztche 🔥, if only you love knowledge or truth..

Neiztche said for the female,
Her great art is the lie..

And I'm aware of their nature,and it ain't desirable 😩.
Peace out..

The problem is that if you can really see guys that are aware like you,it will kinda be better,but no, you lost in an environment where you have to play dumb to be around these ignorant males✌️.


For an orgasm that lasts not more that 9 seconds ,man is born to suffer for 70yrs..

For we young guys,most of the time since we're not financially buoyant,girls will hardly give a shit about us,compared to our fathers of old,who kinda had girls that were not influenced by social media,materialism etc😹..

The game is the game though,and females play games with men.. Wonder why they hardly have video games on their phones?,cos the real game, they play it with males😹

Actually, since females cannot love,they will most of the time win the game with males..
One thing I discovered is that ,not being able to love,or easily deceived by a womans facial appearance,bossom etc..is truly a privilege 😹..

Men are suckers for beauty and that's our downfall..

It's hard though,but everything is all in the mind, channel your energy to other things like playing football,books other exciting things and loose yourself in those things,you'll forget females exist..
But when you're Hot, remember it will only last for a while, thereafter It will go off..

I think we need to train our minds, despite the face that females won't acknowledge us,our presence etc..
It's all part of the process,so when you're in your hey days,you play the game same way it was played to you..


Are you sure,women ain't what nature gave to us to test us to see if we're ready to transcend?
Life's kinda deep though.

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Transcend from what? and to where? Please expatiate on this, Nyascobar1414.

luminouz:
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hahahah when I saw his comment, I already predicted your reply before I saw it.

Adasun:
hahahah when I saw his comment, I already predicted your reply before I saw it.

No time to check time

Ballzproblemm:
I overheard one young girl who I think she should 19 , telling her friend that she wants a boyfriend that will spend on her ,I shook my head.

Sadly that's what majority of relationships in Nigeria are all about,women looking for men that spend ,no love ,no commitment,no talks about the future,just spend .


And it's always the girls that are looking mid smh .

Actually, have gotten to a stage i really don't see anything wrong in this.
It has always been the default setting of relationship for ages.
There is a higher chance of your relationship or marriage surviving in a set-up where the man provides and the woman gives sex and nuture your kids than the one built on Love.
Love has failed more relationships that money will ever do....a Fact.
Most of the people even roaming the surface of the earth are/were not born out of Love relationships.
My grandparent didn't born out of Love.
My grandmum was given to my grand-dad because he could provide and take care of her as a cocoa farmer and merchant and not Love.
He provided and my grandmum gave him kids and nuture them for him....Finito

During the week, a female quoted my reply on a thread, what caught my attention was the underlying classic female gaslighting

She said, "I should be chasing Value instead of vagina matter" 😅

Women like well to do men who don't know their worth, and not red 💊 aware, because most men who are not educated on the visceral nature of females operate from a scarcity mentality.

Red Pill awareness exists so that men do not resent women for being what they naturally are.

Working on one's self to increase earning power, staying in shape (physically fit with zero Pot belly) and being educated on female nature to spot their manipulative excesses effortlessly are not mutually exclusive.

I'll recommend "The Rational Male" series by Rollo Tomassi, It's free to download online.

Especially the Volume 1&2

emmaodet:
Actually, have gotten to a stage i really don't see anything wrong in this.
It has always been the default setting of relationship for ages.
There is a higher chance of your relationship or marriage surviving in a set-up where the man provides and the woman gives sex and nuture your kids than the one built on Love.
Love has failed more relationships that money will ever do....a Fact.
Most of the people even roaming the surface of the earth are/were not born out of Love relationships.
My grandparent didn't born out of Love.
My grandmum was given to my grand-dad because he could provide and take care of her as a cocoa farmer and merchant and not Love.
He provided and my grandmum gave him kids and nuture them for him....Finito

Why use the example of your grandparents from a century ago? Why not use the example of your parents or even yourself and your friends as well as other family members for example?

Moreover, how do you understand love? What is love to you

anonimi:
Why use the example of your grandparents from a century ago? Why not use the example of your parents or even yourself and your friends as well as other family members for example?

Moreover, how do you understand love? What is love to you

Which kain mumu question you dey ask?

Who brought the word love to Africa of not Shakespeare and his mumu stories?