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As a foreign national on this forum, I'm curious to know what is considered an ideal dowry in your tribes in Nigeria... And for those who are married, I'd like to know how much dowry did you guys pay for your wives and same goes for ladies, how much did he also pay for you?

I'd also like to see other Nigerian tribes participate, it can't always be the Yorubas, Igbos, Hausas, and Fulanis.

Samantha125:
As a foreign national on this forum, I'm curious to know what is considered an ideal dowry in your tribes in Nigeria... And for those who are married, I'd like to know how much dowry did you guys pay for your wives and same goes for ladies, how much did he also pay for you?

I'd also like to see other Nigerian tribes participate, it can't always be the Yorubas, Igbos, Hausas, and Fulanis.

Before I can give you an answer I have to suck your breasts first so as to properly evaluate the value of the 'assets' you are bringing into the marriage

In my place, there's no specific amount, but #50 note must be on the table before the transaction is completed.

If there's no specific amount, does that means even #500 can be enough to pay as a dowry?

SafetyFirst:
In my place, there's no specific amount, but #50 note must be on the table before the transaction is completed.

Samantha125:
If there's no specific amount, does that means even #500 can be enough to pay as a dowry?

The essence of the #50 is because it's a must for money to be taken as dowry. Some families just take the #50 and return the rest of the money to the groom's family. I paid #1,000.00 as dowry for my own.

Wow! Just one thousand? And why did they return the money?

SafetyFirst:
The essence of the #50 is because it's a must for money to be taken as dowry. Some families just take the #50 and return the rest of the money to the groom's family. I paid #1,000.00 as dowry for my own.

There is no ideal dowry in my tribe, the bride's family come up with anything.

Majority act greedy though. They try to assume all the cost of raising the girl child, especially if she is educated, all the tuition fees are summed and assumed in the dowry.

The dowry is always in hundreds of thousands. And the list of other requirements requiring finance is endless. When added to the dowry, it is usually exorbitant.

Same thing here...

Antwan99:
There is no ideal dowry in my tribe, the bride's family come up with anything.

Majority act greedy though. They try to assume all the cost of raising the girl child, especially if she is educated, all the tuition fees are summed and assumed in the dowry.

The dowry is always in hundreds of thousands. And the list of other requirements requiring finance is endless. When added to the dowry, it is usually exorbitant.

Cash of $100

Boxesss full of attires, shoes, handbags, inner wears. Can cost BTW $650-$1k


The grooms house is going to be fully furnished by the brides family 🤷

USD for better understanding

Your dowry is quite affordable... Nice.

id4sho:
Cash of $100

Boxesss full of attires, shoes, handbags, inner wears. Can cost BTW $650-$1k


The grooms house is going to be fully furnished by the brides family 🤷

USD for better understanding

id4sho:
Cash of $100

Boxesss full of attires, shoes, handbags, inner wears. Can cost BTW $650-$1k


The grooms house is going to be fully furnished by the brides family 🤷

USD for better understanding

Which tribe is this?

Samantha125:
As a foreign national on this forum, I'm curious to know what is considered an ideal dowry in your tribes in Nigeria...

I think it's better if the Original Post ask that people include the tribes in their comments.

Just imagine that a tribe actually 'fully' furnishes the groom's house? The tribe needs to be known and commended.

We need to know that tribe and 'fully' commend their culture by making sure all their single women get married.

Nlfpmod

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

CrownedPhoenix:
I think it's better if the Original Post ask that people include the tribes in their comments.

Just imagine that a tribe actually 'fully' furnishes the groom's house? The tribe needs to be known and commended.

Nlfpmod

TheBreastSucker:
Before I can give you an answer I have to suck your breasts first so as to properly evaluate the value of the 'assets' you are bringing into the marriage

Ọrùkò Ọmọ ló ròòmọ

I’m not married…but in some Igbo communities you’ll be tasked maybe #100 or #1k(on the table,,cos there must be a transaction)..
The community might state through a custodian will state their bride price…could be 100k ,200k and stuffs within the range.
But the family in question might give you back the money,,,stating ‘we ain’t selling our daughter to you,,we’re giving her over to you cos you both have something of interest,,you should go take care of her….voila!’.

In some areas though….let’s just say some imo communities…you’ll be tasked a truck load of yams,bags of rice and other edibles….plus expensive clothing materials and shiids😁

Then what's the purpose of requesting the groom's family to pay for a bride price if they're going to give it back? Why can't they just get married without it?

Bouncing2:
I’m not married…but in some Igbo communities you’ll be tasked maybe #100 or #1k(on the table,,cos there must be a transaction)..
The community might state through a custodian will state their bride price…could be 100k ,200k and stuffs within the range.
But the family in question might give you back the money,,,stating ‘we ain’t selling our daughter to you,,we’re giving her over to you cos you both have something of interest,,you should go take care of her….voila!’.

In some areas though….let’s just say some imo communities…you’ll be tasked a truck load of yams,bags of rice and other edibles….plus expensive clothing materials and shiids😁

Samantha125:
Then what's the purpose of requesting the groom's family to pay for a bride price if they're going to give it back? Why can't they just get married without it?

It’s just the culture..
Some families might actually collect the whole money while some will only extract few and pass you back the rest (Anambra and Enugu especially)

If you don't want the dowry, then there's no need to request for one only to return it back... Or what do you think?🤔🤔🤔

Bouncing2:
It’s just the culture..
Some families might actually collect the whole money while some will only extract few and pass you back the rest (Anambra and Enugu especially)

There is nothing like an ideal dowry in Nigeria.

Each tribe have their unique dowry and bride price.

In my own case, marrying from the southern part of the country, I paid #260. #10 was returned to me and #100 was given to my wife... Meaning I only paid #150

Wow... Dowry is very affordable in your tribe, you can marry five wives within a year...

ogashman:
There is nothing like an ideal dowry in Nigeria.

Each tribe have their unique dowry and bride price.

In my own case, marrying from the southern part of the country, I paid #260. #10 was returned to me and #100 was given to my wife... Meaning I only paid #150

Samantha125:
Wow... Dowry is very affordable in your tribe, you can marry five wives within a year...

Lol

Samantha125:
If you don't want the dowry, then there's no need to request for one only to return it back... Or what do you think?🤔🤔🤔

It’s just tradition!..
A poor man deff’ gon’ collect that money 😀.
A rich man will extract only 1k(just to fulfill all righteousness)..and he’ll let you know that he ain’t selling off his daughter,,he’s just handing her out to you cos she’s into you,,treat her like an egg

TheBreastSucker:
Before I can give you an answer I have to suck your breasts first so as to properly evaluate the value of the 'assets' you are bringing into the marriage

Pervert.

Samantha125:
As a foreign national on this forum, I'm curious to know what is considered an ideal dowry in your tribes in Nigeria... And for those who are married, I'd like to know how much dowry did you guys pay for your wives and same goes for ladies, how much did he also pay for you?

I'd also like to see other Nigerian tribes participate, it can't always be the Yorubas, Igbos, Hausas, and Fulanis.

Hello Samantha. Welcome back. Among the Egbema, bride price is distinct from what is done traditionally in the course of marriage. The groom sends his people with a few palm wine jars to his would-be in-laws in what is called mai akpo ife afa (drink in which mission is not disclosed) . Thereafter what we call first, second and third visits follow in which the in-laws (groom's family) send various nuptial items ranging from drinks of different brands, cigarettes, clothes, etc of varying quantities as specified for the various stages. This varies from village to village. After the 3rd visit is the bride price, which might range from as little as 50 NGN to 500k NGN. It'smainly negotiated in monetary aspect. Pride price of 500k NGN is very rare indeed. In effect, the entire cost of visit items and the pride price might not sum up to 1m NGN. The main source of fund leakage is the marriage ceremonies proper (Traditional and white weddings) which may differ according to the taste of the couple.

TheBreastSucker:
Before I can give you an answer I have to suck your breasts first so as to properly evaluate the value of the 'assets' you are bringing into the marriage

Rapist alert. Everybody run

Samantha125:
Your dowry is quite affordable... Nice.

How much do you think your parents should take as dowry. Let's start with your parent

Interesting, do you guys also return the bride price money to the groom's family afterwards?😃😃😃

Yankiss:
Hello Samantha. Welcome back. Among the Egbema, bride price is distinct from what is done traditionally in the course of marriage. The groom sends his people with a few palm wine jars to his would-be in-laws in what is called mai akpo ife afa (drink in which mission is not disclosed) . Thereafter what we call first, second and third visits follow in which the in-laws (groom's family) send various nuptial items ranging from drinks of different brands, cigarettes, clothes, etc of varying quantities as specified for the various stages. This varies from village to village. After the 3rd visit is the bride price, which might range from as little as 50 NGN to 500k NGN. It'smainly negotiated in monetary aspect. Pride price of 500k NGN is very rare indeed. In effect, the entire cost of visit items and the pride price might not sum up to 1m NGN. The main source of fund leakage is the marriage ceremonies proper (Traditional and white weddings) which may differ according to the taste of the couple.

Pay 1k because we are not selling our daughter, but bring a truck load of items.


Wisdom

My bride price was R60k, four cows, three goats, and a trunk filled with native attires and other gifts.

Goodlady:
How much do you think your parents should take as dowry. Let's start with your parent

Samantha125:
My bride price was R60k, four cows, three goats, and a trunk filled with native attires and other gifts.

That's handful. I dunno how my folks will handle mine but I expect nothing less than N5m worth of items. I am worth more but make I no stress my boo too much.

Samantha125:
Interesting, do you guys also return the bride price money to the groom's family afterwards?😃😃😃

No, except there is divorce. Return of bride price spells end of marriage.