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I lost my mum as kid ,so my dad allowed my uncle take me away because he couldn't Carter for all of us in the family ,I think that was the worst mistake my parents made that ruined our lives, for a very long time, I was constantly beaten and insulted by my uncle's wives,they insult me, my family,call us poor,they literally made me feel like I am worthless.
The whole aftermath started when I was a teenager ,I notice i am always comparing myself to the other kids ,I feel they are better and I am shiit,I was reserved and shy,I really suffered low self esteem as a teenager,people so not understand me, I tried so hard to blend with my mates but I always feel not good enough.
My situation started improving when I read the book , "the power of positive thinking" that book really helped me fix my mind and secondly when I read the book the "bang rule" I brought the book because I a wanted to be able get women I like but surprisingly it just improved my self esteem I carried myself with pride.
Though I have defeated Inferiority complex by 80% and low self esteem by 90% I still have lots of work to do because that stuff really messed my sanity,grateful to God in all.

Yours is a bit better, my own trauma was caused by my parents themselves. Especially my mom. She will constantly physically assault and verbally abuse me n my siblings. Compare me to other kids. She's well in her 50s now but she still does the comparison thing even to this day. Even till I became an adult . In my late teens and even as a 20 year old she will still try to hit me. Deep down I developed some sort of resentment for her. I'm still struggling to overcome the effects now as a full grown adult man several years later. I barely have a relationship with both of them. Like no form of emotional connection or healthy attachment with my mom. I can go an extended time without speaking to her and she too wont be bothered. Infact i find it difficult to build relationships with older persons even at work. All what u complained of I've experienced them. Barely have friends, I was always very quiet, feel inferior growing up Especially during my teenage years. My social life was nonexistent in uni, barely spoke to anyone, nevermind girls. Had to be intentional to start working on myself by reading books and practising what I read. The bang rule and advanced bang rule, I've read them both n many others. My bro just be deliberate on working on yourself, it's well

Vintage9999:
Yours is a bit better, my own trauma was caused by my parents themselves. Especially my mom. She will constantly physically assault and verbally abuse me n my siblings. Compare me to other kids. She's well in her 50s now but she still does the comparison thing even to this day. Even till I became an adult . In my late teens and even as a 20 year old she will still try to hit me. Deep down I developed some sort of resentment for her. I'm still struggling to overcome the effects now as a full grown adult man several years later. I barely have a relationship with both of them. Like no form of emotional connection or healthy attachment with my mom. I can go an extended time without speaking to her and she too wont be bothered. Infact i find it difficult to build relationships with older persons even at work. All what u complained of I've experienced them. Barely have friends, I was always very quiet, feel inferior growing up Especially during my teenage years. My social life was nonexistent in uni, barely spoke to anyone, nevermind girls. Had to be intentional to start working on myself by reading books and practising what I read. The bang rule and advanced bang rule, I've read them both n many others. My bro just be deliberate on working on yourself, it's well

It may be the way she was brought up herself

Brave up man. Rewrite your story. They will beg you for forgiveness.

Books and motivational speeches (on YouTube) does wonders. I didn't suffer any the things you guys mentioned though but I was a very shy introverted person at young age.

During my teenage years, I read Power of positive thinking, think and grow rich, you can if you think you can, and some other books. They helped me work on myself and broke out from the norm.

For motivational speeches, I once worked in a toxic workplace and it killed all my energy and courage. To get back up, I listen to motivational speeches every morning which helped get back and become even my better self, develop new skills, and got to a level where no employer can ever joke with me again. I still work for a company but have my company where I employed many people as well.

Goodmarlian:
It may be the way she was brought up herself

it's not.

Trauma changes one fundamentally. It's unfortunate but you have to keep doing the healing work for as long as you live.

My own problem is that I feel confused, frustrated, and slightly depressed because I don't know a specific purpose to commit my life to.

I think I can sing.. but should I pursue a music career? I am confused.

I love good writing. Should I pursue a writing career? I don't even know what to write about.

Should I try a tech skill? Video editing, content creation etc I don't think I'm tech savvy enough to make any meaningful progress. Or may be I'm just lazy and unmotivated.

Should I just forget everything and go into buying and selling? What should I sell? How do I raise capital?

So many questions. I feel lost in this world most of the times.

It's hard to imagine life without post traumatic stress disorder. I wonder what that life would have looked like. Sincerely.