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Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 9:28am On Mar 21, 2025
if you are a single man try not to marry a lady that falls under either of these two categories (it's worst if she falls under both categories).

1. A LADY DESPERATELY LOOKING FOR A HUSBAND FOR HER SURVIVAL

There's a popular phrase that was coined by young Nigerian ladies 'marry who is ready and not who you love'. Most women today are not married to the man they love rather they're married to the man who was 'ready'. That's one of the major reason you will see women married to rich men who's taking proper care of them not happy in their marriages and they end up frustrating their husbands who married them out of love, they'll cheat on their husbands and later frame up a story to divorce them after acquiring what they need for their survival.

Before you marry a lady, make sure she's not the type that's desperately looking for a man to take away loads of poverty from her life - these kind of ladies can show desperation to marry a man she have zero emotional feelings for. A post from the dairy section grabbed my attention, i will attach the screenshot at the end of this topic

2. A LADY DESPERATELY LOOKING FOR A HUSBAND FOR SOCIETAL VALIDATION
These set of ladies are usually ladies from 33+ and they become more desperate from 35 years. They are desperately looking for a man that will marry them just to get validations from the society and most times they can marry a man they have zero emotional feelings for, they just want to be seen as a married woman in the society.

These set of women can fake Angelic good character to get a man they do not love to marry them just to elevate their status in the society for instance you'll hear statement like 'at least man don put canopy for my papa house before', 'I dey among married women for my church and street', 'man don put ring for my finger' etc. These set of women can frustrate your life because they never loved you from the onset. They'll later frame up stories like domestic violence and abusive marriage and use that to end the marriage after frustrating and cheating on the man.

Lastly, if she falls under both categories above my brother run very far o

Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by pocohantas(f): 10:05am On Mar 21, 2025
The diary section is hidden from most Nairalanders for a reason. It is also impossible to quote a diary post for same reason.

As such it is very unethical to screenshot someone's diary post and bring to a general section.

Thank you
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 10:08am On Mar 21, 2025
pocohantas:
The diary section is hidden from most Nairalanders for a reason. It is also impossible to quote a diary post for same reason.

As such it is very unethical to screenshot someone's diary post and bring to a general section.

Thank you
I don't know about this rule. Can you point out where the rule is stated on Nairaland and I'll gladly take it down
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by pocohantas(f): 10:30am On Mar 21, 2025
ediko5:
I don't know about this rule. Can you point out where the rule is stated on Nairaland and I'll gladly take it down
No part of my post said it is a rule.
I clearly said it is UNETHICAL.

You might want to rephrase your question.
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 10:44am On Mar 21, 2025
pocohantas:
No part of my post said it is a rule.
I clearly said it is UNETHICAL.

You might want to rephrase your question.
As far as the post doesn't go against any published Nairaland rules I don't see why it's unethical. Maybe you should talk to the Admins and engineers of Nairaland to amend their settings because technically the post is opened to everyone as against your claim.

I'm not following the poster but I saw the post and I can decide to use the Nairaland share button as well. Will you also tell me it's unethical to use the Nairaland share button to share the post to my followers ?
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by pocohantas(f): 10:46am On Mar 21, 2025
ediko5:
As far as the post doesn't go against any published Nairaland rules I don't see why it's unethical. Maybe you should talk to the Admins and engineers of Nairaland to amend their settings because technically the post is opened to everyone as against your claim.

I'm not following the poster but I saw the post and I can decide to use the Nairaland share button as well. Will you also tell me it's unethical to use the Nairaland share button to share the post to my followers ?
Continue...
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by GloriousGbola: 11:46am On Mar 21, 2025
people, beware of people like this

people who engage in intellectual property theft - erasing watermarks and logos from other peoples copyrighted documents so they can present those documents as original work

beware of buyers of stolen goods. people who have no qualms about buying phones that may have been taken from kidnap victims . london used phone is simply a phone stolen in Nigeria and flashed with a uk rom.

also be ware of people with serious hygiene problems who do not have a relationship with bathing soap

Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 11:55am On Mar 21, 2025
GloriousGbola:
people, beware of people like this

people who engage in intellectual property theft - erasing watermarks and logos from other peoples copyrighted documents so they can present those documents as original work

beware of buyers of stolen goods. people who have no qualms about buying phones that may have been taken from kidnap victims . london used phone is simply a phone stolen in Nigeria and flashed with a uk rom.

also be ware of people with serious hygiene problems who do not have a relationship with bathing soap
Aww. Who's this wild animal?
Which cave did you escape from?
It's obvious you're a female parading with a male account due to inferiority complex.

My post really gave you a high BP because you fall among the two categories I warned the men to stay off?

Lolz, you have a rotten brain.
What has my post for reviews about London used phone review, cosmetic and graphic tool has to do with this topic?
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by GloriousGbola:
ediko5:
Aww. Who's this wild animal?
Which cave did you escape from?
It's obvious you're a female parading with a male account due to inferiority complex.

My post really gave you a high BP because you fall among the two categories I warned the men to stay off?

Lolz, you have a rotten brain.
What has my post for reviews about London used phone review, cosmetic and graphic tool has to do with this topic?
i am giving you your own energy

how does it taste when someone takes your posts and blows them up for content

i mean - one can argue that no one would have naything to do with a lazy copy cat pauper with body odor who cannot buy a brand new phone

maybe someone should start a thread on that

ladies beware of smelly dirty lazy paupers who cannot afford to buying bathing soap. if you go with ediko, make sure you wear nose mask so that you don't pass out. he may ask you to lend him your battery bank to charge his dead phone

you are a simple minded vacuous and jobless dunce who rather than face his own issues, is looking for others to punch down on

lazy useless IP thief, looking for how to erase peoples water marks from their documents
unsanitary in body, unsanitary in mind cry cry cry cry
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 12:14pm On Mar 21, 2025
GloriousGbola:
i am giving you your own energy

how does it taste when someone takes your posts and blows them up for contant

i mean - one can argue that no one whould have naything to do with a lazy copy cat pauper with body odor who cannot buiy a brnad new phone

maybe someone should start a thread on that

ladies beware of smelly dirty lazy paupers who cannot afford to buying bathing soap. if you go with ediko, make sure you wear nose mask so that you don't pass out. he may ask you to lend him your battery bank to charge his dead phone

you are a simple minded vacuos and jobless dunce who rather than face his own issues, is looking for other to punch down on
Someone just escaped from Yabaleft and needs a serious help
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by GloriousGbola: 12:17pm On Mar 21, 2025
ediko5:
Someone just escaped from Yabaleft and needs a serious help
is that the best you can come up with - smelly sewer rat? cheesy cheesy cheesy

obun. dorty thing., smelly foul boy.

this is what happen when women meet you in person

no wonder you are capping rubbish like a bitter incel

Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by SKhanmi: 12:18pm On Mar 21, 2025
The narrator in the attached screenshot kinds of support your narrative.

But personally I’m wary of people like you and her.

For you, you failed to consider men also do the same, propose to those who they know don’t like them , tie down women with pregnancies etc

For her, dismissing the other gender submissions with slurs, that’s common among the so called sensible feminists. Even those who most times relate & agree with men very well.

It points to a deeper problem, both of you have unresolved inner issues with the opposite sex and hide behind all this labels to dish out advice.

Make una heal first. Then deal from a place of neutrality especially as a guy. I’ve been there
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 12:31pm On Mar 21, 2025
SKhanmi:
The narrator in the attached screenshot kinds of support your narrative.

But personally I’m wary of people like you and her.

For you, you failed to consider men also do the same, propose to those who they know don’t like them , tie down women with pregnancies etc

For her, dismissing the other gender submissions with slurs, that’s common among the so called sensible feminists. Even those who most times relate & agree with men very well.

It points to a deeper problem, both of you have unresolved inner issues with the opposite sex and hide behind all this labels to dish out advice.

Make una heal first. Then deal from a place of neutrality especially as a guy. I’ve been there
Lolz, I don't have any relationship issues besides I've never been broken by the opposite gender emotional cos I got OTs about relationship from my early 20s.

My topic was focused on the men only, I understand men have their flaws. As for the attached topic I came across it when I already had this topic drafted in my head so I thought it wise to share it especially since it's coming from a female
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by RealNiggaDee(m): 12:51pm On Mar 21, 2025
3. Single mothers
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 1:01pm On Mar 21, 2025
RealNiggaDee:
3. Single mothers
Lolz, those ones are already known.
The ones I mentioned here are the ladies that hide under desperation of love to marry innocent men they don't love
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 1:04pm On Mar 21, 2025
GloriousGbola I now understand where your frustration is coming from. You're the lady I uploaded her screenshot and due to inferiority complex you can't comment with your real account, so you decided to use a pseudo account.

Where did I use or copy your work to make a content?

I only attached that post cos it supported my claim and especially it's coming from a female.
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by GloriousGbola:
ediko5:
GloriousGbola I now understand where your frustration is coming from. You're the lady I uploaded her screenshot and due to inferiority complex you can't comment with your real account, so you decided to use a pseudo account.

Where did I use or copy your work to make a content?

I only attached that post cos it supported my claim and especially it's coming from a female.
Stop projecting

You think everyone is a bïtch ass nigga like you with 10 plus interchangeable monikers?

BTW you don baff 2day?
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by dauntless15(m): 1:27pm On Mar 21, 2025
And the unrepentant oloshos who need the blanket of being married so they can continue carrying out their nefarious activities, btw pp you have body odour, deal with it first before carrying nairaland clout chasing for head.
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 1:31pm On Mar 21, 2025
GloriousGbola:
Stop projecting

You think everyone is a bïtch ass nigga like you with 10 and interchangeable monikers?

BTW you don baff 2day?
grin grin grin my last response to an inconsequential entity. Meanwhile you're worthless for me to waste a second to peep into your profile. Go ahead and do more exploration and throw back some memories of my NL posts it's fun.
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 1:34pm On Mar 21, 2025
dauntless15:
And the unrepentant oloshos who need the blanket of being married so they can continue carrying out their nefarious activities.
Exactly and most of them use religion as a cover up to continue their addicted lifestyle.

I've covered that in my post here: https://www.nairaland.com/8367785/religion-game-street-ladies-use

I pity men who think Olosho dey retire.
Olosho no dey retire o, they only go an a break or change modus operandi
It takes a real and divine touch from the creator for olosho to actually retire
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by GloriousGbola: 1:40pm On Mar 21, 2025
ediko5:
grin grin grin my last response to an inconsequential entity. Meanwhile you're worthless for me to waste a second to peep into your profile. Go ahead and do more exploration and throw back some memories of my NL posts it's fun.
Why would i

I could have catch something contagious from you.

Just going through your posts is Already making ones skin crawl
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Mopeola(f): 1:50pm On Mar 21, 2025
You are right man and lot of men have fallen in this trap thinking the woman love them not knowing the woman r only eager to married because of the shame around her


ediko5:
if you are a single man try not to marry a lady that falls under either of these two categories (it's worst if she falls under both categories).

1. A LADY DESPERATELY LOOKING FOR A HUSBAND FOR HER SURVIVAL

There's a popular phrase that was coined by young Nigerian ladies 'marry who is ready and not who you love'. Most women today are not married to the man they love rather they're married to the man who was 'ready'. That's one of the major reason you will see women married to rich men who's taking proper care of them not happy in their marriages and they end up frustrating their husbands who married them out of love, they'll cheat on their husbands and later frame up a story to divorce them after acquiring what they need for their survival.

Before you marry a lady, make sure she's not the type that's desperately looking for a man to take away loads of poverty from her life - these kind of ladies can show desperation to marry a man she have zero emotional feelings for. A post from the dairy section grabbed my attention, i will attach the screenshot at the end of this topic

2. A LADY DESPERATELY LOOKING FOR A HUSBAND FOR SOCIETAL VALIDATION
These set of ladies are usually ladies from 33+ and they become more desperate from 35 years. They are desperately looking for a man that will marry them just to get validations from the society and most times they can marry a man they have zero emotional feelings for, they just want to be seen as a married woman in the society.

These set of women can fake Angelic good character to get a man they do not love to marry them just to elevate their status in the society for instance you'll hear statement like 'at least man don put canopy for my papa house before', 'I dey among married women for my church and street', 'man don put ring for my finger' etc. These set of women can frustrate your life because they never loved you from the onset. They'll later frame up stories like domestic violence and abusive marriage and use that to end the marriage after frustrating and cheating on the man.

Lastly, if she falls under both categories above my brother run very far o
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by ISTP: 2:18pm On Mar 21, 2025
ediko5:
Aww. Who's this wild animal?
Which cave did you escape from?
It's obvious you're a female parading with a male account due to inferiority complex.

My post really gave you a high BP because you fall among the two categories I warned the men to stay off?

Lolz, you have a rotten brain.
What has my post for reviews about London used phone review, cosmetic and graphic tool has to do with this topic?
No need to take offense here—you simply reaped what you sowed.

Initially, an NL member gave you straightforward advice, explaining why sharing screenshots of others’ diary entries wasn’t appropriate, yet you became defensive. Then, when another member shared screenshots of your posts, you lost your composure.

Take a step back, practice humility, and be open to constructive criticism.

No need to reply, I will disregard you.
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 2:27pm On Mar 21, 2025
ISTP:
No need to take offense here—you simply reaped what you sowed.

Initially, an NL member gave you straightforward advice, explaining why sharing screenshots of others’ diary entries wasn’t appropriate, yet you became defensive. Then, when another member shared screenshots of your posts, you lost your composure.

Take a step back, practice humility, and be open to constructive criticism.

No need to reply, I will disregard you.
How was her criticism constructive? Coming out to abuse me?

I simply shared a post that backed my claim from the gender I talked about. I would've have shared the post if it was from a male.

I defended myself cos the person said it's unethical to share someone's post and also the post is somehow private - I had to educate her that the posts in the dairy section are technically public.

Then out of frustration another person came out quoting my old posts that have nothing to do with our discussion. Meanwhile I can never be pained at what she shared from my profile because it confirms her foolishness. What she shared has nothing to do with the topic of discussion.

Edited: I didn't take note of your last statement. I see simps or a female using a pseudo account feeling hit by the frustration my post carry.

I'll be dropping more updates to make as many men as I can become Alpha.
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 2:28pm On Mar 21, 2025
Mopeola:
You are right man and lot of men have fallen in this trap thinking the woman love them not knowing the woman r only eager to married because of the shame around her
Yes, many innocent men are suffering due to this and the single men have to be aware of this tricks
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 2:28pm On Mar 21, 2025
pocohantas:
Continue...
grin
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 2:38pm On Mar 21, 2025
SKhanmi:
The narrator in the attached screenshot kinds of support your narrative.

But personally I’m wary of people like you and her.

For you, you failed to consider men also do the same, propose to those who they know don’t like them , tie down women with pregnancies etc

For her, dismissing the other gender submissions with slurs, that’s common among the so called sensible feminists. Even those who most times relate & agree with men very well.

It points to a deeper problem, both of you have unresolved inner issues with the opposite sex and hide behind all this labels to dish out advice.

Make una heal first. Then deal from a place of neutrality especially as a guy. I’ve been there
Its very wrong when making a comment on a neutral thread ( because I don't think the op is out to bash women but expose truth) and then ur inclined towards bias because u want to favor a gender or u feel the need to play Voltron defender of the gender involved. Meanwhile, how does the bold happen? I'm much interested in that ? How does a man tie down a woman with pregnancy abeg grin
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by JovialJune(f): 3:40pm On Mar 21, 2025
ediko5:
How was her criticism constructive? Coming out to abuse me?

I simply shared a post that backed my claim from the gender I talked about. I would've have shared the post if it was from a male.

I defended myself cos the person said it's unethical to share someone's post and also the post is somehow private - I had to educate her that the posts in the dairy section are technically public.

Then out of frustration another person came out quoting my old posts that have nothing to do with our discussion. Meanwhile I can never be pained at what she shared from my profile because it confirms her foolishness. What she shared has nothing to do with the topic of discussion.

Edited: I didn't take note of your last statement. I see simps or a female using a pseudo account feeling hit by the frustration my post carry.

I'll be dropping more updates to make as many men as I can become Alpha.



You think you are an Alpha male?

Lmao 🤣 🤣 🤣
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by JovialJune(f): 3:48pm On Mar 21, 2025
dkidd:
Its very wrong when making a comment on a neutral thread ( because I don't think the op is out to bash women but expose truth) and then ur inclined towards bias because u want to favor a gender or u feel the need to play Voltron defender of the gender involved. Meanwhile, how does the bold happen? I'm much interested in that ? How does a man tie down a woman with pregnancy abeg grin
First, that guy was as neutral as a sane logical man can be, but because it hurts you that he didn't vilify women as per the usual, you had to regurgitate the usual name calling common among the likes of you for men that refuse to display childishness and mummy issues that most of you do here


Secondly, if you have an IQ above the minimum, you'd know men can tie down women with pregnancy, or simply ask Google to help you.
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 3:59pm On Mar 21, 2025
JovialJune:
First, that guy was as neutral as a sane logical man can be, but because it hurts you that he didn't vilify women as per the usual, you had to regurgitate the usual name calling common among the likes of you for men that refuse to display childishness and mummy issues that most of you do here


Secondly, if you have an IQ above the minimum, you'd know men can tie down women with pregnancy, or simply ask Google to help you.
I didn't want to acknowledge this but for someone with a high IQ like urself, its very funny how u assume u know and then jump to conclusions. I asked someone else a simple honest question and u had to bleed out ur rotten emotions all over. I hope u choke on wtv is eating u up. No be me cause ur problems grin
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by JovialJune(f): 4:05pm On Mar 21, 2025
dkidd:
I didn't want to acknowledge this but for someone with a high IQ like urself, its very funny how u assume u know and then jump to conclusions. I asked someone else a simple honest question and u had to bleed out ur rotten emotions all over. I hope u choke on wtv is eating u up. No be me cause ur problems grin
Lol below par is pained cos someone else gave him the exact doze he gave another grin

imagine saying he asked a simple honest question when all and sundry can see the obvious subtle jab, you tried to be clever by half but still failed, pathetic

Anyway, try not be blinded by hate for females cos it will keep eating you from the inside out, as it should kiss
Re: Men, Before You Marry Her Check She Doesn't Fall Into These Two Category by Nobody: 4:06pm On Mar 21, 2025
dkidd:
Its very wrong when making a comment on a neutral thread ( because I don't think the op is out to bash women but expose truth) and then ur inclined towards bias because u want to favor a gender or u feel the need to play Voltron defender of the gender involved. Meanwhile, how does the bold happen? I'm much interested in that ? How does a man tie down a woman with pregnancy abeg grin
The guy is arguing out of topic. The argument here should be if my claim happens are not.

He's talking about men tieing women down with pregnancies, he can open a thread for that let's talk about it.

It's like talking about how armed robbers are disturbing the neighbourhood and how to prevent armed robbery and you bring up an argument about politicians stealing if we attack the politicians the way we attack armed robbers.

Meanwhile, I drop more related topics in the coming days
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