₦airaland Forum

AngelicBeing:
Chai, and Asylum Don Kala for several Western Nations ooo, oyinbo don taya for fake unsubstantiated kulikuli asylum stories from AFRICA

It is well

Kennitrust:
women does worse to men

Women 'does' what?

ppogba:
Leave betrayal out of the quadratic equation.

He only said the truth though it may not sound palatable.

Are there no cases like that ?

You too?
I didn't know things have degenerated to this extent o. People standing up with their full chest to justify this condemnable act

Mindlog:
He had a different plan....

One came to the UK in September 2021 for his Masters, with plans that the wife and their 2 kids would join him by January 2022....Uncle ghosted everyone, even his brother-in-law (wife's elder brother) who provided bulk of the funds for the tuition fees.

He graduated November 2022 with Msc. International Business Management , moved to 2 years Post Study Work visa while still working in a warehouse, couldn't get COS to switch to skilled worker visa....Post Study Work visa expired early February 2025....Uncle is still in the UK, illegally as an overstayer....no job as he has no right to work, still sustaining himself with his savings and talking about going to seek asylum in Ireland.

There are very unpalatable cases like this you narrated but when one talks about them especially on a forum like Nairaland, you see people who have never touched a Nigerian passport not to talk of knowing the way to an airport castigating you for filmsy reasons.

These women nowadays are something else, you no hear from the man, you don't know any of his family or friends that can reach him, so what makes you think he's still alive or even thinking straight? If na US he traveled to, maybe Trump's people don pack am and he's currently in detention?

Na the debt be her major concern, she no care to know if the guy is even still breathing......Na wa o

I don't blame him because majority of women brought abroad by their husbands are divorcing and recking the men that brought them.

By the way, I need proof of "our money" before I believe it's not the man's money he used to japa.

Bamss1:
You too?
I didn't know things have degenerated to this extent o. People standing up with their full chest to justify this condemnable act

Nobody is clapping for the guy for what he did. The valid argument still remains that if the situation were to be reversed, a woman can do same to the husband.

I have seen where a man sent his wife to UK for holiday fully paid by him only for the woman to overstay and decide that she is not coming back again. I am talking about someone who left two daughters behind.

We4all:
You were busy making plans with someone who had a different plan for himself. I'm certain the signs were there, but you were too dumb to figure it out.

How easy for you to believe a one-sided story.

Kobojunkie:
Find out what country/state he escaped to and contact the embassy or even law enforcement abi na immigration to inform them your husband has committed spousal abandonment. It is a criminal offense in most countries including Nigeria, so that might work in your favor.

Make sure to file a local case at the local police station, just in case, and record the case number for your reference. .

You wicked... enemy of progress. You don't know if the Wife never wanted the husband to be successful. Some wives can be very funny.

Trustedpronet:
➜You wicked... enemy of progress. You don't know if the Wife never wanted the husband to be successful. Some wives can be very funny.

How is that a reasonable excuse for the man to then what is a criminal offense even in Nigeria against her? And what part of it is my fault?

Hmm!

You had an agreement that he would send you money, but he went back on his word. How is that the same as running away?

Why is it that when a woman is the victim, other men praise the man responsible, but when the roles are reversed, they insult the woman?

The world view no really balanced.

Creamypie:
Madam calm down.na white e dey date for papers. E go come back for Una, but he will not take you to abroad sha, for his peace of mind

These TIKTOK women no dey Understand.
That same woman go spoil show for the man for this new administration.

Everything straight to Social Media.
Too many Idiots in circulation.
That man needs to stabilize before he would come for you all.
Imagine traveling with such Bagage now.😭😭

CrownedPhoenix:
What is the 'run away' here.

You both made the plans, only that he's no longer picking your calls and sending you money.
Have you found out if he is picking other people's calls?

Have you sought to find out if he's in trouble over there?

Nowadays women tire me.
She no care to know whether the man dey Guatanamo Bay. Just imagine what's coming from a wife😭😭😭. Men rarely abandon kids they have invested in. The woman no browse about abroad

The husband is facing the reality on ground so he will get to push through, stabilise before clearing any debt.

No man forgets kid

Madam be patient

Mindlog:
He had a different plan....

One came to the UK in September 2021 for his Masters, with plans that the wife and their 2 kids would join him by January 2022....Uncle ghosted everyone, even his brother-in-law (wife's elder brother) who provided bulk of the funds for the tuition fees.

He graduated November 2022 with Msc. International Business Management , moved to 2 years Post Study Work visa while still working in a warehouse, couldn't get COS to switch to skilled worker visa....Post Study Work visa expired early February 2025....Uncle is still in the UK, illegally as an overstayer....no job as he has no right to work, still sustaining himself with his savings and talking about going to seek asylum in Ireland.

He should have fight a way to bring his wife in then both will fight for COS separately

Nigerians are tyrant to themselves. Just give them an opportunity. Anyway we still dey wait for return leg.

fullclub:
He should have fight a way to bring his wife in then both will fight for COS separately

Too late, the marriage has ended and the woman has counted her losses and moved on.

Thundafireseun:
You are easily swayed by women…. To think that you actually believe this jargon is laughable….

Do you think relocating is easy?
Have you asked the blackmailer, how long has her husband been out of the country?
Do you know if the man has found his feet yet?

Stop sounding childish

Take one beer for my head

So, Yoruba people dey behave like this too but if you dey read their comments on all social media, dem go make you think sey na Igbos only dey commit sin for this world.

Mindlog:
He had a different plan....

One came to the UK in September 2021 for his Masters, with plans that the wife and their 2 kids would join him by January 2022....Uncle ghosted everyone, even his brother-in-law (wife's elder brother) who provided bulk of the funds for the tuition fees.

He graduated November 2022 with Msc. International Business Management , moved to 2 years Post Study Work visa while still working in a warehouse, couldn't get COS to switch to skilled worker visa....Post Study Work visa expired early February 2025....Uncle is still in the UK, illegally as an overstayer....no job as he has no right to work, still sustaining himself with his savings and talking about going to seek asylum in Ireland.

This is painful but very stupid of him. I once knew about someone like him t
too. He wanted to run to Canada with another lady, then planned to abandon his wife and kid in Nigeria. This wife is totally awesome and helpful lady.

Then Canada struck and reduced visa quotas for student. Long story short, their marriage is really in turbulence now. The painful part was that the girl's dad never wanted her to marry him.

I find it bizarre as to why a man would decide to ditch his biggest support system and behave like a coward. I mean, when done the right way, she'll literally have your back (work support, intimacy, prayers etc). But no, they'll want to behave like a possessed person. So sad to think about.

My normal demons from that way

In Europe and America, you don't pick money on the floor. No free money, you will not even see a dime on the floor.

Whoever told that as soon as he gets abroad, he will start sending money lied to her.

If you have a soft landing, like moving in with a person who is comfortable and absolves you of bills, it takes you about two years to settle down and start sending money home. If you don't have, I swear it can take up to 5 years to settle down. Though Grace differs.

She needs to be patient, the man is not making money and is finding it difficult to open up. Wetin eyes de see abroad, mouth no fit talk am finish

descarado:
It is well

Muchecheche, l am seriously missing Ssyasure, she is my darling always, because she is smart, intelligent, Strong willed lady, and l love 💕 her, where is she Na

Saladdin:
This is painful but very stupid of him. I knew about too. He wanted to run to Canada with another lady, then planned to abandon his wife and kid in Nigeria, an awesome and totally help lady at that.

Then Canada struck and reduced visa quotas for student. Long story short, their marriage is really in turbulence now. The painful part was that the girl's dad never wanted her to marry him.

I find it bizarre as to why a man who decide to ditch his biggest support system and behave like a coward. I mean, when done the right way, she'll literally have your back (work support, intimacy, prayers etc). But no, they'll want to behave like a possessed person. So sad to think about.

There are so many such stories around, many are stuck and can't face the family they abandoned in Nigeria, after the support that was provided.

Mindlog:
Too late, the marriage has ended and the woman has counted her losses and moved on.

The man is stupid. No one will listen to him on asylum in UK he could try Ireland cross over. I know some people that cross over last year via Belfast

UgoFly:
You must have been an abusive wife. Men don't behave like that pls.

This how women defend their fellow women when they divorce their husbands after Japa.

Sure If it was a woman, would you say this?

fullclub:
He should have fight a way to bring his wife in then both will fight for COS separately

He thought he could do better. That's the point.

Kobojunkie:
Find out what country/state he escaped to and contact the embassy or even law enforcement abi na immigration to inform them your husband has committed spousal abandonment. It is a criminal offense in most countries including Nigeria, so that might work in your favor.

Make sure to file a local case at the local police station, just in case, and record the case number for your reference. .

Keep deceiving yourself.

Kobojunkie:
Find out what country/state he escaped to and contact the embassy or even law enforcement abi na immigration to inform them your husband has committed spousal abandonment. It is a criminal offense in most countries including Nigeria, so that might work in your favor.

Make sure to file a local case at the local police station, just in case, and record the case number for your reference. .

If she does that she loses both ways, the money is gone and the husband is also gone...

It's better for the husband to be there and pay back the money or possibly help the woman, hopefully he's not crazy enough to abandon his family.

Normally normally u correct ohh, but when I remember ur gender, I dey get reasonable doubt due to una God given talents.

Kobojunkie:
Find out what country/state he escaped to and contact the embassy or even law enforcement abi na immigration to inform them your husband has committed spousal abandonment. It is a criminal offense in most countries including Nigeria, so that might work in your favor.

Make sure to file a local case at the local police station, just in case, and record the case number for your reference. .

Thundafireseun:
You are easily swayed by women…. To think that you actually believe this jargon is laughable….

Do you think relocating is easy?
Have you asked the blackmailer, how long has her husband been out of the country?
Do you know if the man has found his feet yet?

Stop sounding childish

Don't mind that guy. Woman just talking. She has not given us any detail at all, that is if she is even telling the truth. Travel abroad travel abroad, they think anybody can just travel to anywhere anytime and start packing money the next day.