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uick and summarized story of whats happened in my relationship and in a way my partner came up with some excuses and wants to pin the blame of what has happened on me. After the creation of this thread, I will show to her to go through so she can read through just so it don't look like a one sided story.
Been in the uk since 2023 Sep, she came in 2024 August after we both have gone through hell trying to secure her VISA to come. When she got here, even though we have had some few break ups and make up during the long distance ish, but the longest we had was in march for 1month and that largely seemed to have put a big crack on the relationship.

She got in, no intimacy, had arguments here and there, it was tiring...then in sep, coarsed her to join me somewhere, she came, made out for the first time but was not passionate, seemed like I forced myself on her, but I didn't mind as konji wanted to waste my life. Anyways relationship was not doing well as much as b4, I tried as much as possible to decipher why, but the only thing that could go through my mind was maybe chamge of environment, and maybe because she has had to live with her sis, whos got a son of 9 years old and living in a shared room with a landlay and landlord, or maybe because I wasn't as financially buoyant as I was back then in lagos, through all of this I still could not get a vivid answer. All in all, we only made out 4 times between aug and Nov, tracking back to Nov of 2024, we had an issue we didn't speak throughout dec, and then I tried to work it out with her again in Jan, which we did but things turned out to be even worse, she wont even allow me touch her, any romantic move, I always gotta be the one to make it, January passed, feb passed, march, no intimacy, her excuse is that, that one month break affected her, that if I can go that long without talking to her, then I don't have true feelings etc, then she'll come up with other excuses as go and get us an apartment, tired of going to hotels, not as easy as its thought to be in this country to get an apt, she's got points, but not enough for a partner who always show up for her at all times of her needs.

Anyways sha, with all the pushback and behaviour of feeling not wanted, I didn't flinch, I continued being who I should be to her regardless, then one day she says she was going to central London to see a female friend of hers who has also come into the country. My mind sha dey tell me sey the waka nor pure, but anyways she called me and saw on video call that she was with a female friend, but the legitimate insecurity and doubt kept telling me something isn't right. Called her late that day at around 6.53pm, she told me they were heading elsewhere to eat and then get uber to be going home. 55mins later, I called her, she didn't pick, and I saw her online on WhatsApp, gave her a call 7mins later again phone was off. I thought to myself, truly it could be that her battery drained, but then why didn't she pick when I called mins b4. Because I have been trapped in the pool of doubt based on some few actions and moves she had made in the past, I decided to drive down to her house and wait until she comes back to see if she actually did turn of her phone or phone actually drained off battery. got there, 25mins later an uber pulled up few meters away from where I was parked, though she didn't see me, she came down and I also got off the car to approach her b4 she makes any foul move with the phone, when she saw me, her phone was the first thing she pulled out of her bag, and was like my battery died and was putting the phone back on, she had 7%, but claimed she was charging it in the uber but never turned it on until she came down. We got in my car and started talking, next thing the uber that dropped her moved to turn in front of where I was parked, lo and behold I saw a guy at the back of the car staring at us, YEBA! I was like, who's that, she said she does not know, I was like, who is that person at the back, she said she does not know, was like even in nija, uber man can never carry two different passengers in a car, then she answered he's just a very good friend and I have only seen him twice. Omo my head burst, woman wey we never dey intimate for 3 months and am keeping to my own side of the relationship, u come back from outing na man come see u off with uber, I was vexed and angered, yelled and told her im done, I also recalled calling her olosho..few events happened in the car but nt big deal to discuss here, I left and the whole thing ended. Then next day she sent a message saying she has the right to chose whatever gender of friend she wants, and she sees no big deal in the guy dropping her off that they actually planned seeing, after they saw, the guy said he was coming to her area to do something so she joined his ride in order not to waste money, that am insecure and bitter, and that she finds it appauling that I had to come and lugo at her house before her arrival.

Sisters and brothers, I'm not saying that my actions were justifiably right, but in general, is my break up with her any wrong? Is there anything that I did boomerangs back to me as something I ought not to have done? Because my point to her was, if you were truly loyal and transparent as u would always claim to be in the last 4 years, shouldn't u have picked my call when I called? Shouldn't you have told me you were branching to see a male friend? All of that she didn't do, and yet still pinned the blame on me. EFF RELATIONSHIP, AM DONE AND I AM GLAD I LEARNED THE HARD WAY, JUST TOOK LONGER THAN I THOUGHT.

Whoever read the epistles should please summarize in 3 sentences.

My only advice is to focus on what took you abroad and stop entertaining distractions. Good luck.

CoronaVirusPro:
Whoever read the epistles should please summarize in 3 sentences.

MORRRON took his on-again/on-again GF to UK expecting a pussy galore.

Bitch REFUSED to Bleep him for 8 months.
Bitch travelled to another city to FUCCCK another guy.

MORRRON caught the bitch and her fucckbuddy together in an UBER.
Bitch DENIED knowing her fuccckbuddy.
Then she reluctantly admitted that her fucckbuddy is "just a friend".

MORRRON blew up and broke up with the bitch.
Now he's worried that he's OVERREACTING by dumping the WHOOORE.

In summary:

It's absolute MADNESS!

Ok

Namaster:
MORRRON took his on-again/on-again GF to UK expecting a pussy galore.

Bitch REFUSED to Bleep him for 8 months.
Bitch travelled to another city to FUCCCK another guy.

MORRRON caught the bitch and her fucckbuddy together in an UBER.
Bitch DENIED knowing her fuccckbuddy.
Then she reluctantly admitted that her fucckbuddy is "just a friend".

MORRRON blew up and broke up with the bitch.
Now he's worried that he's OVERREACTING by dumping the WHOOORE.

In summary:

It's absolute MADNESS!

Thanks!

The moment I saw the long epistle, I knew it was a morón in action.

Okay...okay... okay... Let's go over this again. She joined you in the UK after a while that you left. You made out but there was no connection. She lied she was going to see a female friend but ended up with a guy. You got mad and broke up with her.

Now, you want lazy Nigerian youths on Nairaland to validate your decision. The question is, are you happy that you broke up or do you want her back?

Cut all ties with her ... She n d Bleep buddy might set u up

Namaster pity lover boys Na.

Op, you are in order

Weak men everywhere.

He didn't bother pulling any of his family members to Uk first nah gf wey dey play him head hin carry enter.


No one should waste anytime advising an unreddemable SIMP.

He completely lost.

Did you apologize after you hurt her, or you just expect her to forget.

Sometimes the heart don't let go easily.

Namaster:
MORRRON took his on-again/on-again GF to UK expecting a pussy galore.

Bitch REFUSED to Bleep him for 8 months.
Bitch travelled to another city to FUCCCK another guy.

MORRRON caught the bitch and her fucckbuddy together in an UBER.
Bitch DENIED knowing her fuccckbuddy.
Then she reluctantly admitted that her fucckbuddy is "just a friend".

MORRRON blew up and broke up with the bitch.
Now he's worried that he's OVERREACTING by dumping the WHOOORE.

In summary:

It's absolute MADNESS!

Why all the Insults?

Foodqueen:
Did you apologize after you hurt her, or you just expect her to forget.

Sometimes the heart don't let go easily.

Hurt her how? Where did I mention that I outrightly hurt her?

Bobodee09:
Weak men everywhere.

He didn't bother pulling any of his family members to Uk first nah gf wey dey play him head hin carry enter.


No one should waste anytime advising an unreddemable SIMP.

He completely lost.

Na so una go dey yarn dust, who tell u sey my family dey nija abi u get info of my family structure? The girl has been good to me and loyal to a fault while in nija, I only paid her dues my assisting here come here? Besides it was a combined effort not like I did it all.mufu

Dbabs204:
Na so una go dey yarn dust, who tell u sey my family dey nija abi u get info of my family structure? The girl has been good to me and loyal to a fault while in nija, I only paid her dues my assisting here come here? Besides it was a combined effort not like I did it all.mufu

slowpoke you just a sore loser who can't control a girl.

She loyal ?? Pay her dues by assisting her come here? Hear a lost SIMP words
All your family and extended family are in UK?? Only fools render such help gf.


Better luck your wounds and learn from your stupidity.

Only weak men beg women for sex , if you sabi game nah she go dey beg you instead but she knows say you be otolo.

Dbabs204:
.... woman wey we never dey intimate for 3 months and am keeping to my own side of the relationship, u come back from outing na man come see u off with uber, I was vexed and angered, yelled and told her im done, I also recalled calling her olosho..few events happened in the car but nt big deal to discuss here, I left and the whole thing ended. Then next day she sent a message saying she has the right to chose whatever gender of friend she wants, and she sees no big deal in the guy dropping her off that they actually planned seeing, after they saw, the guy said he was coming to her area to do something so she joined his ride in order not to waste money, that am insecure and bitter, and that she finds it appauling that I had to come and lugo at her house before her arrival.
➜ Sisters and brothers, I'm not saying that my actions were justifiably right, but in general, is my break up with her any wrong?
➜ Is there anything that I did boomerangs back to me as something I ought not to have done?
➜ Because my point to her was, if you were truly loyal and transparent as u would always claim to be in the last 4 years, shouldn't u have picked my call when I called?
➜ Shouldn't you have told me you were branching to see a male friend? All of that she didn't do, and yet still pinned the blame on me. EFF RELATIONSHIP, AM DONE AND I AM GLAD I LEARNED THE HARD WAY, JUST TOOK LONGER THAN I THOUGHT.

It seems you are looking for a female slave/property and this gal wey you get your eyes on no want that kind nonsense at all. So, why are you still holding on to her?

2. You definitely need to break up with this gal, and honestly, you should not even go near any woman at all until you realize that women are not property and when a woman does not want sex with you, the correct thing to do is not to rape her anyways because you get konji problems.

3. Judging from your own posts, I can see where she may have tuned off you at some point. So, accept and move on abeg! Even if she comes back begging, please do not take her back for her own sake.

4. Rubbish! She should be able to pick up your call when she is able to pick up your call.

5. She shouldn't have because she is not your property and a boyfriend or husband is not supposed to be some sort of monitoring spirit or stalker. Your own post there indicates that you didn't tell her you would be driving to her place either. Leave that gal alone, abeg!

Kobojunkie:
It seems you are looking for a female slave/property and this gal wey you get your eyes on no want that kind nonsense at all. So, why are you still holding on to her?

2. You definitely need to break up with this gal, and honestly, you should not even go near any woman at all until you realize that women are not property and when a woman does not want sex with you, the correct thing to do is not to rape her anyways because you get konji problems.

3. Judging from your own posts, I can see where she may have tuned off you at some point. So, accept and move on abeg! Even if she comes back begging, please do not take her back for her own sake.

4. Rubbish! She should be able to pick up your call when she is able to pick up your call.

5. She shouldn't have because she is not your property and a boyfriend or husband is not supposed to be some sort of monitoring spirit or stalker. Your own post there indicates that you didn't tell her you would be driving to her place either. Leave that gal alone, abeg!

Psychopat, I sight you, feminist who is always on threads aa such as this..were onibata

Dbabs204:
➜Psychopat, I sight you, feminist who is always on threads aa such as this..were onibata

I am the psychopath and not you, the one who admitted to⚉ forcing sex on your girlfriend ⚉stalking her ⚉and requiring she submits to having her life and moves dictated by you on grounds that you dey date her? I see say your own dictionary dey different from the ones wey the professionals wey dey even treat people wey get that problem dey use. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Kobojunkie:
I am the psychopath and not you, the one who admitted to⚉ forcing sex on your girlfriend ⚉stalking her ⚉and requiring she submits to having her life and moves dictated by you on grounds that you dey date her? I see say your own dictionary dey different from the ones wey the professionals wey dey even treat people wey get that problem dey use. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Follow left, I dun follow right.

Bobodee09:
slowpoke you just a sore loser who can't control a girl.

She loyal ?? Pay her dues by assisting her come here? Hear a lost SIMP words
All your family and extended family are in UK?? Only fools render such help gf.


Better luck your wounds and learn from your stupidity.

Only weak men beg women for sex , if you sabi game nah she go dey beg you instead but she knows say you be otolo.

General sabi pass, aka sabinus

Bro, just have it in mind that everything will end in tears if you continue with this said lady.

Either way, I guess you are been used for better life. Wise up bro, women can be manipulative.

Dbabs204:
Follow left, I dun follow right.

Sorry that you have to learn a hard way.

The lady only used you to japa to UK. That guy has been f.uccking her since August 2024 she arrived in the UK.

Sorry . When we tell guys that they should stop all these investments on women, they will not listen.

People that carry even wives abroad, many of them regret it, not to talk of a girlfriend.

We asked for a summary but you gave us a script.

MORRRON took his on-again/on-again GF to UK expecting a pussy galore.

Bitch REFUSED to Bleep him for 8 months.
Bitch travelled to another city to FUCCCK another guy.

MORRRON caught the bitch and her fucckbuddy together in an UBER.
Bitch DENIED knowing her fuccckbuddy.
Then she reluctantly admitted that her fucckbuddy is "just a friend".

MORRRON blew up and broke up with the bitch.
Now he's worried that he's OVERREACTING by dumping the WHOOORE.

In summary:

It's absolute MADNESS![/quote]

Helpout12345:
Sorry that you have to learn a hard way.

The lady only used you to japa to UK. That guy has been f.uccking her since August 2024 she arrived in the UK.

Sorry . When we tell guys that they should stop all these investments on women, they will not listen.

People that carry even wives abroad, many of them regret it, not to talk of a girlfriend.

Una nor dey read well? It was a collaborative ish, she spent 60percentage I spent the rest, people dey epp people and I didn't bring her in for the purpose of kapnahing, she gets my support and me sef go need kpanshing too na. Wasn't expecting too much, reason I created this thread is to ask if ny action was as a result of insecurity and bitterness based on her words, or my action is rightly justified.