₦airaland Forum

Free2Fly:
This ChatGPT. You guys should stop this over reliance on AI, even in little issues.

essentialone1:
If it bothers you, feel free to commit suicide. Even your family will celebrate your exit.

Free2Fly:
Says one dumb ediot who can't think out anything by himself.

essentialone1:
It sounds like you've had a fascinating encounter with someone who was trying to be friendly, but only because of your apparent success and possessions. The fact that she was awkward and struggling to find things to say, while also admiring your 4Runner, suggests that she was more interested in your status than in genuinely getting to know you.

Your observation that people often treat you differently when they perceive you as successful is quite astute. It's unfortunate that some individuals will only show interest in you because of what they can gain from you, rather than valuing you as a person.

Your decision to be cautious and use people to your advantage is understandable, given your experiences. However, it's also important to remember that not everyone will treat you this way. There are still genuine people out there who will appreciate you for who you are, regardless of your possessions or status.

It's interesting that you mention learning to snub people and use them to your advantage. While this may be a necessary survival strategy in some cases, it's also important to maintain your integrity and treat others with respect, even if they don't always deserve it.

Sp1ritHusband:
People are people bro. Especially Nigerians. No true love and I have mastered that act myself. I honestly don't care anymore.

TyroneP:
I've got a lots of episodes... I really wish I could send a voice note instead. It ranges from domestic violence with his wife, physical confrontation with other property owners in the street and blaring extremely loud music. Maybe when I fence my house, it'll reduce.

Makaveli217:
Those people are crack heads, and such you match fire for fire, if I'm the one, I will just talk ones, (not shout o) And if they refuse to be reasonable, I'll wait till 11pm, I'll bring out my party speakers, fuel my gen, put on some hard metal collection, Plug in my ear protection unit and have an all night party, do this for a week and watch how sense will fall on them.

essentialone1:
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Chop knuckle!

trium:
I think adults can and should always set boundaries. It is not compulsory to befriend them, you can just have a cordial relationship with them because they are human beings and hopefully, there is a payback day when you need it. The human mind is strange, people collect deposits of what you have done to them and it can motivate them to act when it is time to do so.

We can't live this world alone. Some personalities like to be alone but we still need some bit of social interaction to survive in this world. Some of those neighbours, like you rightly said, only want access to you. Some of them want to establish dominance. Some of them behave like they are the landlords. Some of them who are older than you want you to respect them. There are all sort of things people do, those are their insecurities and it has nothing to do with you if you don't enterain it. People should just draw boundaries and that's it.

I will be who I want to be and I will only give you what I want to give you of my life. I will be nice to you as a human being, as my neighbour, as my NLer but my niceties have limits. Those are my boundaries, respect yourself and I respect you too.

kripen:
No matter what your neighbors is your first aid or saviour in time of emergency. Try to live amicably with them even if they are not friendly, to me God knows why he is closest to you as a neighbor.

I planted a tree in my compound you won't believe my neighbor cut it down not that it is even disturbing him or close to our boundary, when I confronted him lo and behold he told me he doesn't like trees close to houses.
Though I have been noticing him doing fetish things all around his house but still I still maintain my relationship with him. Now he is the one giving me water because he just dug borehole, so no matter what try to live amicably with them.

Sp1ritHusband:
Most of the people typing above will suddenly become friendly if the Neighbor parks a Range Rover in the compound. Nigerians are friendly based on your perceived level of success and what they think they might gain from you.
Over a decade ago, I used to attend this church and there is this family that are very successful and snub everyone in the church. They would never associate or talk to anyone perceived to be in a lower class.
Me, I was driving a Camry at the time as a normal young man.

I made some money, bought me a very recent, clean, black Toyota 4runner, immediately I parked in the church, this woman looked up, rushed and greeted me. This was a woman that would never even acknowledge my existence before o.

When you are very successful, most of your Nigerian Neighbors will be friendly forget all the crap people typed above me .
Me. I am the most unfriendly neighbor you will ever have as I lovd total privacy and silence.

NoToPile:
Just to give you update, the fire for fire approach worked.

You need some level of abnormality to deal with abnormal people. Sharply they cautioned their children.


This Lagos ehn phew

They now know if their children do anyhow, they know what is coming.

essentialone1:
Living with unfriendly neighbors can be challenging and stressful. Some common issues people face include:
- Noise complaints: Excessive noise or disputes over noise levels can create tension.
- Boundary disputes: Conflicts over property lines, shared spaces, or encroaching vegetation can be frustrating.
- Lack of respect: Neighbors who disregard personal space or property can make living situations uncomfortable.

If you're experiencing difficulties with your neighbors, it might be helpful to:
- Communicate openly: Try to address issues directly and respectfully with your neighbors.
- Seek mediation: If direct communication doesn't work, consider seeking mediation from a neutral third party.
- Document incidents: Keep a record of incidents, including dates, times, and details of what happened.

odimbannamdi:
Sharp!

Abeg, gist us. What approach did you employ? We can learn a thing or two from the incident

ChybuzzDD:
ChatGPT boy

NoToPile:
Just to give you update, the fire for fire approach worked.

You need some level of abnormality to deal with abnormal people. Sharply they cautioned their children.


This Lagos ehn phew

They now know if their children do anyhow, they know what is coming.