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I'm financially ok despite the failling economy. But mumsi thinks im still struggling.
I sent her 200k last month for upkeep. i had some personal struggles in my life which i told her to pray for me..

On friday a got a video sent to my whatsapp from my relative. A video of my mom in one church as the pastor prophesy and call my name
My mother run out to the altar and start telling the pastor that i'm struggling that all my mates have married and build houses but whatever i do it dosent work.

Mind you this is a televised church program and she had the guts to disgrace me infront of many people
Now everybody back home will know i'm struggling. These are ny personal problems i confided in her secretly.
I can't even come back home to visit,everybody in the street know my matter see finish

Im so confused on what to do
I called her and yelled at her since then she refuse to pick my call

You better thank your mom, now everybody will stop disturbing you for any assistance since they are all aware of your struggling position.
Leverage on this and build yourself up.

Sometimes, when dungs happens, try converting it to organic manure.

Atleast village people will forget ur matter small
When it comes to my mum, she can do no wrong

Tell your mom to pray for herself
She's the one struggling


No be her mate be Okonjo Eweala, Alakija etc?

She is using marriage,having a family and a house to rate you that normal, the church part can be of use to you some people will be off your back now🙂 if you are financial stable build a family

RollinTNDA:
I'm financially ok despite the failling economy. But mumsi thinks im still struggling.
I sent her 200k last month for upkeep. i had some personal struggles in my life which i told her to pray for me..

On friday a got a video sent to my whatsapp from my relative. A video of my mom in one church as the pastor prophesy and call my name
My mother run out to the altar and start telling the pastor that i'm struggling that all my mates have married and build houses but whatever i do it dosent work.

Mind you this is a televised church program and she had the guts to disgrace me infront of many people
Now everybody back home will know i'm struggling. These are ny personal problems i confided in her secretly.
I can't even come back home to visit,everybody in the street know my matter see finish

Im so confused on what to do
I called her and yelled at her since then she refuse to pick my call

Now you would understand the reason First sons assumes the role of a Father and husband to their "MOM" (the supposed widow) at the demise of their Father
It's traditional in Africa. Women are wired differently.
Since I learned to start walking away, my mental sanity has returned.🤣🤣
If not for them, most Religious gatherings would have gone into extinction.

Owon:

Tell your mom to pray for herself
She's the one struggling
No be her mate be Okonjo Eweala, Alakija etc?

🤣🤣🤣

Nah bro you shouldn't have yelled at her na.
She's your mom , she simply just want the best for you , I understand d way she approached d case isn't cool but it doesn't change the fact that she only wants a better life for you.
You should apologize to her and make peace with her.
Only your Mom wants you bigger. Nobody else.

phorget:
You better thank your mom, now everybody will stop disturbing you for any assistance since they are all aware of your struggling position.
Leverage on this and build yourself up.

Not all situations are entirely hopeless. I like this style bro. Indeed, he should use this time to build himself up and then be able not to make noise again even as things look sweet for him. It's a perfect cover.

Nigerian parents are generally psychologically,emotionally (especially the mothers towards their sons) and even physically abusive towards their children.

Until the children begin to recognize this pattern of abuse and stand up to these deeply selfish parents,the children will continue to endure more abuse throughout their lifetime.

Dyfynezz12:
Atleast village people will forget ur matter small

Ehn! You say wetin??

Hope its not Zion ministry

Caleb15:
Hope its not Zion ministry

i rather not mention it

RollinTNDA:
i rather not mention it

It is then, they have a very wide internet and cable followership, I don't know why people prefare to tell their problems to men of God not knowing the highest they will receive is their testimonies been published at the back of pamphlets. Is your mother from the easthen part of the country?

THOSE PART OF THE PEOPLE FROM EAST MuMu ABI ? ? ?

Caleb15:
It is then, they have a very wide internet and cable followership, I don't know why people prefare to tell their problems to men of God not knowing the highest they will receive is their testimonies been published at the back of pamphlets. Is your mother from the easthen part of the country?

RollinTNDA:
I'm financially ok despite the failling economy. But mumsi thinks im still struggling.
I sent her 200k last month for upkeep. i had some personal struggles in my life which i told her to pray for me..

On friday a got a video sent to my whatsapp from my relative. A video of my mom in one church as the pastor prophesy and call my name
My mother run out to the altar and start telling the pastor that i'm struggling that all my mates have married and build houses but whatever i do it dosent work.

Mind you this is a televised church program and she had the guts to disgrace me infront of many people
Now everybody back home will know i'm struggling. These are ny personal problems i confided in her secretly.
I can't even come back home to visit,everybody in the street know my matter see finish

Im so confused on what to do
I called her and yelled at her since then she refuse to pick my call

lol



mama loves u, she just expressed it d wrong way...


Don't take it on her... try to make her understand it affects u when she behaves lyk dat


I wish my mum cared abt us when she was alive...
na only money my family dey pursue

RollinTNDA:
I'm financially ok despite the failling economy. But mumsi thinks im still struggling.
I sent her 200k last month for upkeep. i had some personal struggles in my life which i told her to pray for me..

On friday a got a video sent to my whatsapp from my relative. A video of my mom in one church as the pastor prophesy and call my name
My mother run out to the altar and start telling the pastor that i'm struggling that all my mates have married and build houses but whatever i do it dosent work.

Mind you this is a televised church program and she had the guts to disgrace me infront of many people
Now everybody back home will know i'm struggling. These are ny personal problems i confided in her secretly.
I can't even come back home to visit,everybody in the street know my matter see finish

Im so confused on what to do
I called her and yelled at her since then she refuse to pick my call

Her body go calm down. She's trying to come to terms with her actions. Take a chill pill, no shaking, we move.

This is actually in your good interests. The downside is the public display.

Just because you care about other people's opinion on your personal life....You yelled at your phone.

It is better to make them know you are struggling than they knowing you are doing well. At least to distract the evil eye

Afolue:
It is better to make them know you are struggling than they knowing you are doing well. At least to distract the evil eye

Real world no be nollywood oo
Success attract success whether you're faking or you actually are!

APOPTOSIS:
Now you would understand the reason First sons assumes the role of a Father and husband to their "MOM" (the supposed widow) at the demise of their Father
It's traditional in Africa. Women are wired differently.
Since I learned to start walking away, my mental sanity has returned.🤣🤣
If not for them, most Religious gatherings would have gone into extinction.

First sons don't and will never assume the role of a father. That's an abomination and ridiculous role.
Women who know their onions will never allow such. A child is a child and a husband is a husband.
They have nothingbin common.

Maybe it's practiced in your place. We know the diff my area.

ruggedtimi:
Just because you care about other people's opinion on your personal life....You yelled at your phone.

Cos she gave birth to him and trained him, he shouldn't yell at her when she is frustrating his life?

Even emotional qoutient, you guys score zero.

phorget:
You better thank your mom, now everybody will stop disturbing you for any assistance since they are all aware of your struggling position.
Leverage on this and build yourself up.

Why will he build himself?
He is OK at his speed.

Na only his mum get pikin.

Women like her are the reasons pastors own private jets.

They don't know when to shush it and mind their business.

If she care for her son,she should get better job for him or give him some money from her savings abi somebody stopped her from becoming a millionaire.

I hate unintelligent and dull people.

And hey, I am a mother. I create oortunities for my kids to thrive and leave them to do their things in their own ways at their own pace.

And I will support them anytime with inheritance and finance if they need it.

That is the job if parents. Nit running to church to disgrace her child.
Who knows, that 200k is in the pocket if the pastor who had shared it to his women.
Nonsense

Op, you better apologize to your mom, that woman wants what is best for you. You say you are doing ok in your own right. But your mom wants something way bigger than that. She want what's best for you.

OnlyChris:
Real world no be nollywood oo
Success attract success whether you're faking or you actually are!

you will not tell an igbo man this.

Rich igbo business men disguise in full to a wretched appearance especially when embarking on a journey or in a strange land he is not sure of. Even amongst his kinsmen. They will never tell you they but in real life they loaded..!

OnlyChris:
Real world no be nollywood oo
Success attract success whether you're faking or you actually are!

you will not tell an igbo man this.

Rich igbo business men disguise in full to a wretched appearance especially when embarking on a journey or in a strange land he is not sure of. Even amongst his kinsmen. They will never tell you they have but in real life they are loaded..!

Tell her to desist from it

descarado:
First sons don't and will never assume the role of a father. That's an abomination and ridiculous role.
Women who know their onions will never allow such. A child is a child and a husband is a husband.
They have nothingbin common.

Maybe it's practiced in your place. We know the diff my area.

he wasn’t referencing sexuality. He means Interms of focus and who the women look up onto.
The most elder male automatically assume that position for anything and in turn pray for their success as well. It is true

Stayingalive:
he wasn’t referencing sexuality. He means Interms of focus and who the women look up onto.
The most elder male automatically assume that position for anything and in turn pray for their success as well. It is true

Anybody in the house can help. It does not stop on the table of first sons. That's how you guys kill first sons with stress because you want him to act like a father. When they say mothers should look for something to do, it's guys like you that will scream traditional wife. Now, hus and is gone, she will transfer all her burden to her first son because she gave birth to him.
What happened to mothers that help their sons financially abi she no get hands and head to go out there and make money like other women?

No wonder, daughters in law are threat to their comfort and milking machine.
The monsters we create in the name of culture.
I blame men that enables this nonsense cos mothers emotionally blackmail them with nonsense sob stories

descarado:
Why will he build himself?
He is OK at his speed.

Na only his mum get pikin.

Women like her are the reasons pastors own private jets.

They don't know when to shush it and mind their business.

If she care for her son,she should get better job for him or give him some money from her savings abi somebody stopped her from becoming a millionaire.

I hate unintelligent and dull people.

And hey, I am a mother. I create oortunities for my kids to thrive and leave them to do their things in their own ways at their own pace.

And I will support them anytime with inheritance and finance if they need it.

That is the job if parents. Nit running to church to disgrace her child.
Who knows, that 200k is in the pocket if the pastor who had shared it to his women.
Nonsense

There's always a reason or reasons for one to build him/herself.