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(For context: I’m not desperate for a relationship, and I know how to approach women—just feeling a strong vibe with her.)

met this amazing lady (21F) a week ago, and our connection has been solid—great conversations, no dull moments, and she’s mature for her age. I’m (27M) genuinely interested but don’t want to rush things.

Question: Is it too early to ask her to be my girlfriend, or should I give it more time?

kodeforce:
(For context: I’m not desperate for a relationship, and I know how to approach women—just feeling a strong vibe with her.)

met this amazing lady (21F) a week ago, and our connection has been solid—great conversations, no dull moments, and she’s mature for her age. I’m (27M) genuinely interested but don’t want to rush things.

Question: Is it too early to ask her to be my girlfriend, or should I give it more time?

A week ago and you are thinking of kicking off something with her... Very early if you ask me!¡!!

MORIERA:
A week ago and you are thinking of kicking off something with her... Very early if you ask me!¡!!

right..so we just keep talking and keep in touch with each other. i get you, but what's the activity until it's okay enough to kick things off, and how long till it's time to be serious with her ?

One word of advice. As u are friends just continue nursing her and hatch her without ever making the mistake of asking her out. It is when u guys nack without lieing to ur self (forming relationship) that u will know her true character. She gives u sex and keeps u company and then u give her cash when u can afford to (na Wetin most relationships de about and u can enjoy them without being in a relationship) Let her prove herself no rush give ur commitment.

U see those vibes u feel .. that's ur brain pushing u to procreate so you can keep feeding existence. Ud eventually see when there is no more things to discuss. However having lots of those "vibes" is what a joy filled life means. U should have it more from urself being alone without being lonely. After sex it would diminish.

"How do you know she's the one?"

Easy, she's NOT!
The One does NOT exist outside of romance novels.

Also you just met ONE week ago.
In that timeframe, EVERYBODY seems like the one.

By the way, you need to KILL the idea that "you don't want to rush things".
That's NONSENSE.

People, and especially women, BLOW UP their 15-year marriage for a person they met 45 minutes earlier.

There is NOTHING like rushing anything.

Plus, the new relationship still makes both of you think you are the 21st Century Romeo and Juliet.
CAPITALISE on that.

DON'T DAWDLE!

Get what YOU want while the attraction is still burning HOT.

That could be a long-term relationship or a quick fling.
Either way, there is NO point in delaying it.

But regardless of the kind of relationship you want with her, it's best to start with SEX.

Finally, NEVER ask her to be your GF. Even if that's what you want.

DON'T table the relationship talk like you are negotiating a peace deal for Ukraine.

Coming out and asking her to be your GF is boring and puts you in a position to be FLEECED and MANIPULATED.

Just treat her like your GF.
Talk to her like your GF.
And demand things you'd demand from your GF.

Have fun!

You said you're looking for a girlfriend not wife. So why ask if she's the one: one like ..wife or just girlfriend?

Lemme give you a sincere answer. No! She's not the one. Men of 30+ are still trying to instill sense in the brain of ladies in their late 20s and early 30s and they've not succeeded, na 21 year old rabbit go come be wife? A girl that age is looking forward to an adventure with you. If you like dull yourself.

You better date what you want to date and comot mind from if na the one or not. Girl weh no fit endure hardship or handle jealousy. Does she even know what it means to be a helpmeet? You yourself, which status you don achieve for your career and life goal?

Guy knack Na,shey y.be Jew?

DOUBLEBARREL:
U see those vibes u feel .. that's ur brain pushing u to procreate so you can keep feeding existence. Ud eventually see when there is no more things to discuss. However having lots of those "vibes" is what a joy filled life means. U should have it more from urself being alone without being lonely. After sex it would diminish.

you have very high IQ.

Lol abeg how Una take dey ask girls to be Una girlfriend's... I no remember again

Uchenna10:
Guy knack Na,shey y.be Jew?

Lol be like say na big J him be oo

A week ago?

If she hasn't billed you yet, she's not the one for you. Let her go.


A woman who truly loves you will be after your money.

Get to know her better and also know her temperament

Run am now now but use condom bros.

Op invite am come house knack am akpako. na she go later ask you what are we? women no dey like dull guys like you.go sexual shaparly with any woman that shows you greenlight without doubting yourself if she grew fine ,if she no gree life goes on.

kodeforce:
Question: Is it too early to ask her to be my girlfriend, or should I give it more time?

Jeez! I cringe when I hear things like
I ASKED HER TO BE MY GIRLFRIEND
I ASKED HER OUT

God forbid such lame game

AllBlack:
Jeez! I cringe when I hear things like
I ASKED HER TO BE MY GIRLFRIEND
I ASKED HER OUT

God forbid such lame game

nice..so what's a better game ? I mean don't hold back such info from us

FitCorper:
One word of advice. As u are friends just continue nursing her and hatch her without ever making the mistake of asking her out. It is when u guys nack without lieing to ur self (forming relationship) that u will know her true character. She gives u sex and keeps u company and then u give her cash when u can afford to (na Wetin most relationships de about and u can enjoy them without being in a relationship) Let her prove herself no rush give ur commitment.

thanks for dropping by with this. However, I've had this form of relationship in the past and I'm looking out for something more solid.

DOUBLEBARREL:
U see those vibes u feel .. that's ur brain pushing u to procreate so you can keep feeding existence. Ud eventually see when there is no more things to discuss. However having lots of those "vibes" is what a joy filled life means. U should have it more from urself being alone without being lonely. After sex it would diminish.

You sound just like me and for this reason no one believes me when I tell them I like a girl. My question is for how long will I have this narrative about ladies and the future ?

Namaster:
"How do you know she's the one?"

Easy, she's NOT!
The One does NOT exist outside of romance novels.

Also you just met ONE week ago.
In that timeframe, EVERYBODY seems like the one.

By the way, you need to KILL the idea that "you don't want to rush things".
That's NONSENSE.

People, and especially women, BLOW UP their 15-year marriage for a person they met 45 minutes earlier.

There is NOTHING like rushing anything.

Plus, the new relationship still makes both of you think you are the 21st Century Romeo and Juliet.
CAPITALISE on that.

DON'T DAWDLE!

Get what YOU want while the attraction is still burning HOT.

That could be a long-term relationship or a quick fling.
Either way, there is NO point in delaying it.

But regardless of the kind of relationship you want with her, it's best to start with SEX.

Finally, NEVER ask her to be your GF. Even if that's what you want.

DON'T table the relationship talk like you are negotiating a peace deal for Ukraine.

Coming out and asking her to be your GF is boring and puts you in a position to be FLEECED and MANIPULATED.

Just treat her like your GF.
Talk to her like your GF.
And demand things you'd demand from your GF.

Have fun!

your last statements are solid game for the dating scene we've found ourselves. like I said I don't need a sex partner as I'm sexually active and I don't think sex has made such much of a difference as many paint. Thanks for dropping by with this.

Jesuspistol:
You said you're looking for a girlfriend not wife. So why ask if she's the one: one like ..wife or just girlfriend?

Lemme give you a sincere answer. No! She's not the one. Men of 30+ are still trying to instill sense in the brain of ladies in their late 20s and early 30s and they've not succeeded, na 21 year old rabbit go come be wife? A girl that age is looking forward to an adventure with you. If you like dull yourself.

You better date what you want to date and comot mind from if na the one or not. Girl weh no fit endure hardship or handle jealousy. Does she even know what it means to be a helpmeet? You yourself, which status you don achieve for your career and life goal?

👏👏👏
I usually date towards marriage right from when I was younger, I actually hoped that by now I would have been running strong a 2-4 year relationship leading to marriage and the past 4 years I've tried all sorts of techniques in getting a lady to stay. I'm quite productive as a person as well.

Uchenna10:
Guy knack Na,shey y.be Jew?

i can't sleep with all the girls that like me. That's embarrassing to say the least and I've never held in high esteem people that go all "have sex" as a moral and relationship advice. thanks for dropping by with this.

dkidd:
Lol abeg how Una take dey ask girls to be Una girlfriend's... I no remember again

🤣🤣💔
we just find ourselves doing boyfriend duties

Magnoliaa:
A week ago?

If she hasn't billed you yet, she's not the one for you. Let her go.


A woman who truly loves you will be after your money.

I'm sorry but this is very funny, that means I would have alot of lovers based off this. I actually come to understand that many men have problems understanding what a woman really wants, and it's not like I do but this advice feels botched.

Peskid147:
Get to know her better and also know her temperament

Right. I told her I was more interested in knowing more about her while seeing where things take it. ngl..i hope she ticks the boxes

Bookhub:
Op invite am come house knack am akpako. na she go later ask you what are we? women no dey like dull guys like you.go sexual shaparly with any woman that shows you greenlight without doubting yourself if she grew fine ,if she no gree life goes on.

while being sexual with a lady from the beginning of meeting can be a huge mood setter. i honestly think it's been the approach of boys. When looking to build something solid you find out there's more important areas to explore. Thanks for dropping by with this.

imagrg:
Run am now now but use condom bros.

I'm sorry, is there any married person in here ?

kodeforce:
👏👏👏
I usually date towards marriage right from when I was younger, I actually hoped that by now I would have been running strong a 2-4 year relationship leading to marriage and the past 4 years I've tried all sorts of techniques in getting a lady to stay. I'm quite productive as a person as well.

Baba b4 dat girl will take ur friendship serious na after sex with u. Funny but true, Bleep her and Bleep her well, then just be casual with her and I can guarantee u she will profess her love at some point. That’s when u win but I hope over sex don’t make u lose ur ballz.

kodeforce:
while being sexual with a lady from the beginning of meeting can be a huge mood setter. i honestly think it's been the approach of boys. When looking to build something solid you find out there's more important areas to explore. Thanks for dropping by with this.

Oga leave big grammar,you can never understand women ,there is no difference between the 18 years old girl and the one of 30 years old woman they all behave the same,just go for the kill but do it skillfully and wisely

To nature A man has 2 primary function .. replication and sustenance a.k.a to get laid and to get paid.

kodeforce:
You sound just like me and for this reason no one believes me when I tell them I like a girl. My question is for how long will I have this narrative about ladies and the future ?

DOUBLEBARREL:
To nature A man has 2 primary function .. replication and sustenance a.k.a to get laid and to get paid.

hmmmm

FitCorper:
Baba b4 dat girl will take ur friendship serious na after sex with u. Funny but true, Bleep her and Bleep her well, then just be casual with her and I can guarantee u she will profess her love at some point. That’s when u win but I hope over sex don’t make u lose ur ballz.

sad truth for folks like me, but true. I believe you're Christian. are you saying christianity no longer guide morality in relationships ?

some things shouldn't happen imo..we're just setting standards for a flawed society