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Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by saleh542: 12:31pm On Apr 03, 2025
Bobodee09:
Someone who doesn't have money must only have eye for starting small.


There are many businesses out there she can start with even 200k but most ladies want to show off.

Swallow pride ,hustle hard and grow.

1m is more than enough to start a business for someone who has sense.
God bless U..........
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Nobody: 12:32pm On Apr 03, 2025
cr7lomo:
Thank u very much ... all they know is to be wasteful...
Ah! Ah!

Why you dy take this thing personally, comrade?😆
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by daytona008: 12:32pm On Apr 03, 2025
Your own even better. I met this girl and all she can think of is shopping and vacation. Honestly, nothing wrong in that if you are already made financially.
I am an employee, currently trying to save up aggressively to start a business or relocate by the end of the year because job can end anytime. And all this lady has been talking about is us taking a trip to Dubai and how she will shop a lot. She even told an agency when they asked what type of hotel, that they should book a 5 star hotel. LMAO!
To crown it all, she told me to my face that she cannot date a broke guy. LMAO! For someone that cannot afford to transport herself to work at the moment.
Women are funny.

Again, nothing wrong with a woman having class and those desires. But as a man, know where your leg reach and plan your life accordingly.

In all of this, she is always comparing herself to her friends and sister dating politicians and fraudsters. I pack my kaya waka.

Just use your head men.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Leonardo4(m): 12:33pm On Apr 03, 2025
Letmecum:
Oga how 1millon wan take rent shop and stacked it up with goods. My friend give his newly wedded wife 5m to start a business renting of shop is not included. Oga u go start business with 1m abi na garri and yam u wan buy for the shop. Rawbish
Lol selling garri and yam is also business provided it's bringing profit
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by YemyTemmy: 12:34pm On Apr 03, 2025
dominique:
She's right, the money is enough to start a business without renting a shop. I don't know about other states but in Lagos, neighbourhood shops now go between 8-10k per month. Shops in busy areas, bus-stops and market places go for much higher and most landlords ask for 2 years rent upfront. The spending won't be on rent alone, she'll need to furnish the shop with chair, table, counters, shelves etc and make it look attractive to customers. She's only telling you the reality of things but you're here poverty shaming her. You strike me as the toxic abusive husband who will treat your wife like you're doing her a favour by marrying her. How I wish she can open her eyes and see how better she'll be far away from you.
Not necessary the shop must look cute for a start, get the shop, get small market and Grow the biz....thatz the mindset of someone with growth mentality, only the unserious ones Will wait for everything to be prime and proper before kickstarting.... The complainant has a point joor
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Odianose13(m): 12:35pm On Apr 03, 2025
dominique:
She's right, the money is enough to start a business without renting a shop. I don't know about other states but in Lagos, neighbourhood shops now go between 8-10k per month. Shops in busy areas, bus-stops and market places go for much higher and most landlords ask for 2 years rent upfront. The spending won't be on rent alone, she'll need to furnish the shop with chair, table, counters, shelves etc and make it look attractive to customers. She's only telling you the reality of things but you're here poverty shaming her. You strike me as the toxic abusive husband who will treat your wife like you're doing her a favour by marrying her. How I wish she can open her eyes and see how better she'll be far away from you.
Is her boyfriend not also facing the reality of things to have been able to still dole out 1m. I still I’m not understanding the ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY you are vehemently supporting here.

What happens to starting with 1m first and be resourceful with it? Then let her bf see what she has achieved if being honest and then he would even be interested to give more?

FYI, many ladies who make this unguided statement as you stated above “….. better she'll be far away from you“ always remained helpless even after years. Success has to be achieved by you and your ability to be resourceful. Not by threatening your helper that you would be in a better place. There are no better places without its cost which often may be a mirage until you go in.

You these woke ladies make me laugh sha. And this is what comes up on social media from most Nigerian female folks that makes young men treat relationships as transactional just to be safe. And then you complain knowing fully well that you are the cause of the problems.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Caleycash(m): 12:37pm On Apr 03, 2025
Bobodee09:
Fraud money has make alot of people lose there senses.

Anyone who say one 1m is small today is clearly into fraud.
No one with legitimate income will ever see 1m as small money despite whatever is happening currently in the current.

If she apply for 1million loan today for business does she no how much she will pay has interest.

See my brother we that understand value of money and how it pay to grow business aren't much.
EXACTLY 💯, OR THEY'RE STEALING GOVERNMENT MONEY/ANY ORGANISATION WHERE THEY WORK, even 500k hard die to get easily nowadays, how much is even level 14 salary in government?, bunch of entitled lazy ladies everywhere!
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by zuby4real10(m): 12:39pm On Apr 03, 2025
cr7lomo:
Ur friend is part of the problem with women in society... that business will not succeed... he will keep on pumping money into it for it to survive.... what does she know about that business, or u think its by pumping alot of money .... u marry new wife , u carry 5m go give am for business, like she is experienced in that trade ... after a few years he will get tired of pumping more money into it and that business will go down ... the reasonwhy men are always more successful that women in business is that they start small and they know if they fail , their live don over be dat ... but some men like u and Friend keep spoiling women like they are babies and they will forever be dependent on that man , and will never give blood and sweat to that business cos it came easy
And what is paining me for this matter is that if reverse is the case can she do such favour to him. Wch woman in Nigeria can carry N5m nd give man she newly married to start a business? Some men are just Poolish. Now the she is going to waste that 5m cos she didn't work for it she doesn't know it's value, nd she get hope that he will give her another one again.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by 12345baba(m): 12:43pm On Apr 03, 2025
Op na u no wise
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by chidiokay: 12:44pm On Apr 03, 2025
idahme:
Your response seems quite different why is that so? You didn't reason this way for the woman, this is the singular reason most women aren't are entitled and feels the society owe them but in actual sense they are adults who should be responsible and accountable for themselves, whatever they any gives.m should be a privelage and should come with a grateful heart.

I have observed that broke people who are entitled and don't see sacrifices people do for them don't usually successful even if they are given big amount. When i was broke if i see someone who will give me s million as a grant not even a loan i would literally worship that person for life, that i see more than that in a month now doesn't make it worthless for broke people to start with. There aare folks who will work to increase that amount by the end if the year. No one should despise gentle beginnings unfortunately some women will jettison the sacrifices of their partners because they feel they deserve more, a disadvantage of having a plethora of body count.....
it as to be different i am a Man, some ladies might even take offence but i am a realist
men pov and women pov no be same,

If your woman behave like a woman, you as a Man "act" the man naw, she brings emotion you bring a superior logic naw

babe i dont think we can afford a boutique business for now, how about food stuff business, home edible sales n delivery or something ... gradually you are putting sense into her coconut head

its not always about name calling, typing insults ... when you are driving sumtimes there are things you dont see wey be say naa pesin beside you go point out to you

Women are not like Men, dont have high expectations cheesy you can nurse her to reason like a man, even if she refuses to learn she wil understand the kind of man she marry
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by justmondris: 12:52pm On Apr 03, 2025
Sirchiboy:
I asked a lady I want to marry that if i give her 1m to start a business.
Hmmm she told me 1m cant start any business with a shop.
Someone that have not seen 1m in her life saying this.
Please guys if you have such lady in your life never make a mistake to wife her or she will put you in a chronic debt.
You will never achieve anything in life if you marry such girl
Things are very expensive now and 1million might not be enough to start the business she likes. The best thing you should have done before jumping into conclusion was to tell her to give you a breakdown of the business she wants to start and see if the figures make since.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by haybhi1(m): 12:54pm On Apr 03, 2025
id4sho:
There's serious money in polyethylene. From manufacturer down to retailing 👌💯
Can you please show me the ropes to this business? I promise to be rewardful and submissive.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by razzydoo(m): 12:57pm On Apr 03, 2025
Hmm. Obxaving. 1M is too small. grin Kuku kee me na. Take my epon do ritual so you fit open cement factory. grin
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by debbydams(f): 1:05pm On Apr 03, 2025
Sirchiboy:
I asked a lady I want to marry that if i give her 1m to start a business.
Hmmm she told me 1m cant start any business with a shop.
Someone that have not seen 1m in her life saying this.
Please guys if you have such lady in your life never make a mistake to wife her or she will put you in a chronic debt.
You will never achieve anything in life if you marry such girl
hummm
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by kingthreat(m): 1:10pm On Apr 03, 2025
Mathewrichard99:
I just picked something so important in your write up. If you really want to help her, get her a job.... That's a perfect advice, however, some ladies are so pompous that they would even tell you that they can't work under anybody.....

If you look at it as the OP said. I perceived this lady as a pompous lady here but the OP should tell her that he's getting her a job....there's a story of a guy I heard about that got his wife a job without the wife knowing that the salary they are paying her at her work place is coming from her husband. She was employed as Sales manager in a big bakery. She was seen as being lazy in her husband's house and the husband got so frustrated cos he's set her up severally in business but always failing. He got her a job in a bakery and had an agreement that he would be paying her salary but the management of the company shouldn't let anybody or his wife knows about this....he sent money to the bakery company before the month ends and did it consistently for about three years. He discovered that the wife became more business oriented, stop sleeping like a log of wood in the house. House became cleaner and she too became more responsible until after three 3 years when the man now revealed the truth to her. She has a bakery of her own today around Surulere in Lagos and doing so well too.......
Thanks for sharing such an inspiring story
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Mcslize: 1:12pm On Apr 03, 2025
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
She's right...

1m presently in Nigeria can't do no shiit angry.

Here in Ughelli where I'm,only store rent+ wicked agents fees go collect half of that 1m.......So she's definitely right bro..
If you're waiting for billions to start something, then you are not ready. Stop encouraging wastage in women.

He who can't manage little, even if given millions, can't manage it.

When you bear children, at a very tender age, teach them the value of money, how to manage money during critical times, how to show gratitude to those that render help to them, how to appreciate others.

No man on earth will tell you these simple things I just shared with you.

Wisdom they say is profitable, but many lack it.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by dangermouse(m): 1:14pm On Apr 03, 2025
Bobodee09:
Not every part of Lagos is expensive.

What happens to starting small??

1m is more than enough to start a business in lagos but ladies want do show off business.

I no a lady who makes over 500k every month on her nylon business and this cost 200k capital to start.
You dey mind them?

Give that lady 10 million naira and that shop will still crumble within a year.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Dollarmind001(m): 1:15pm On Apr 03, 2025
yinkeys:
Used to have this mindset
I don’t think God likes seeing people commit adultery & fornication
This days...the married ones even sleeps around more than the unmarried.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Mcslize: 1:16pm On Apr 03, 2025
Letmecum:
Oga how 1millon wan take rent shop and stacked it up with goods. My friend give his newly wedded wife 5m to start a business renting of shop is not included. Oga u go start business with 1m abi na garri and yam u wan buy for the shop. Rawbish
This is wreaked of lack of wisdom. So many persons in adult form lack the one thing king Solomon asked God for. That is, wisdom.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Cheeryfeet: 1:20pm On Apr 03, 2025
Bobodee09:
Not every part of Lagos is expensive.

What happens to starting small??

1m is more than enough to start a business in lagos but ladies want do show off business.

I no a lady who makes over 500k every month on her nylon business and this cost 200k capital to start.
You still dey talk. Abeg share update make w join her too
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by KINGsXchange(m): 1:21pm On Apr 03, 2025
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
She's right...

1m presently in Nigeria can't do no shiit angry.

Here in Ughelli where I'm,only store rent+ wicked agents fees go collect half of that 1m.......So she's definitely right bro..
Oh really
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Allthelight(m): 1:23pm On Apr 03, 2025
dominique:
She's right, the money is enough to start a business without renting a shop. I don't know about other states but in Lagos, neighbourhood shops now go between 8-10k per month. Shops in busy areas, bus-stops and market places go for much higher and most landlords ask for 2 years rent upfront. The spending won't be on rent alone, she'll need to furnish the shop with chair, table, counters, shelves etc and make it look attractive to customers. She's only telling you the reality of things but you're here poverty shaming her. You strike me as the toxic abusive husband who will treat your wife like you're doing her a favour by marrying her. How I wish she can open her eyes and see how better she'll be far away from you.
some women are just evil... 😂
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by aywagze(m): 1:23pm On Apr 03, 2025
Why would you ask to give her 1M in the fisrt place?! ..an alpha male will ask to start the biz as his and ask to employ her there and pay her so that she can be accountable to you ..🤔
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Marc3500: 1:28pm On Apr 03, 2025
Sirchiboy:
I asked a lady I want to marry that if i give her 1m to start a business.
Hmmm she told me 1m cant start any business with a shop.
Someone that have not seen 1m in her life saying this.
Please guys if you have such lady in your life never make a mistake to wife her or she will put you in a chronic debt.
You will never achieve anything in life if you marry such girl
so for ur mind 1 million go fit start better business undecided
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Marc3500: 1:29pm On Apr 03, 2025
aywagze:
Why would you ask to give her 1M in the fisrt place?! ..an alpha male will ask to start the biz as his and ask to employ her there and pay her so that she can be accountable to you ..🤔
this alpha male BS is getting cringe these days stop it
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by VicM6: 1:31pm On Apr 03, 2025
Jesuspistol:
Relationship is not always about sex. You should learn more about human relationship guy. It can lift you really high in life and give you opportunities with great people. Don't be a mumu
understood.....I no dey talk again.
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Johnn74: 1:34pm On Apr 03, 2025
dominique:
She's right, the money is enough to start a business without renting a shop. I don't know about other states but in Lagos, neighbourhood shops now go between 8-10k per month. Shops in busy areas, bus-stops and market places go for much higher and most landlords ask for 2 years rent upfront. The spending won't be on rent alone, she'll need to furnish the shop with chair, table, counters, shelves etc and make it look attractive to customers. She's only telling you the reality of things but you're here poverty shaming her. You strike me as the toxic abusive husband who will treat your wife like you're doing her a favour by marrying her. How I wish she can open her eyes and see how better she'll be far away from you.
cool
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by bixton(m): 1:37pm On Apr 03, 2025
brandon2009:
She is telling you the truth and you are complaining abi you want her to start hawking ?
Given that's the truth....
How much does she have to add to that 1 million to be able to start the business?
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by aywagze(m): 1:40pm On Apr 03, 2025
Marc3500:
this alpha male BS is getting cringe these days stop it
Anyways, this is how i will run things to ensure i dont get fleeced in the name of relationship and this age wokeness. Anyone that is not cool with it can kick rocks ..🤔
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Nobody: 1:50pm On Apr 03, 2025
Mathewrichard99:
So direct in your advice. That's the best question. Hope he has kicked her out before coming for discussion here o......Such a lady ain't fit to be in a man's life.....she would ruin him down....it's like pouring water inside a basket......and wouldn't even appreciate whatever the guy gives her......despite the fact that the economy is awful......1M is still a big money in Nigeria and you can do a lot of business with it and make profit.....You don't need a shop to do business as a woman......I know ladies that sell things from their houses through the phone and delivery bikes.....they don't own the delivery bikes also but al was system engage them when there's order.....some of these ladies started with far less money and they are making profit.......that lady ain't worth it.......1M....a whole One Million Naira...... 😂
It's not hard to spot a lady who will ruin U even if U give her 20M to start business she will still come up with excuses because the brain can't function. They're already on this thread if U look up there and some stupid guys are saying she's right. If U should do a background check on those goats non of them have made a million naira at once and they are here yapping shut. Business is not always about how much U start it with but rather how strategic are U in giving value. They want a furnished shop in an expensive complex in the heart of the city but guess what? Such people will still run it down because they can't appreciate the value of a Naira. Na why life hard some people till they learn the simple things and appreciate the value and power of startup before bossing up. They want to be bosses on credit. I see some comments from some supposed mature people on this thread I just laugh and smh 😂😂😂
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Nobody: 1:51pm On Apr 03, 2025
I see many people commenting how N1m can't start any business due to the economy hardship. Yes, you may be right but maybe the OP didn't make himself clearly or you guys didn't understand him.

The fact is a low-life lady who hasn't seen N1m in her life complaining that N1m is small is definitely a red flag, I mean there are ways you can improvise. I've seen many ladies sell from their home like bags, cloths etc. you can even rent a shed (must you start with a shop?)

Anyway low-life ladies are the most pompous and unappreciative set of people on earth
Re: Dont Marry Her Or Else You Will Keep Working Without Any Achievement by Nobody: 1:56pm On Apr 03, 2025
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
She's right...

1m presently in Nigeria can't do no shiit angry.

Here in Ughelli where I'm,only store rent+ wicked agents fees go collect half of that 1m.......So she's definitely right bro..
Use Ur stiff brains. People do businesses without shops. It's the fvcking digital age man why are U guys so backwards and slow? No innovation. People like U wait for the stars to align before making moves. Moves make ways and the progress is sweeter because U learn as U go and then U master Ur fvcking craft. U guys will always be mediocre with this entitlement mindset. Be fvcking creative with what U have or wait forever for Jupiter to meet Mars
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