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Rizzputin:
"Be yourself" This bs advice and many more is PRECISELY why guys do badly not just with women but in life as a whole. It's TERRIBLE advice

You want to be & BECOME the best version of yourself. The so called good life you want to leave doesn't come easy.

You're not charismatic? Fix it
You don't talk well? Fix it
You're shy? Fix it

Telling people to "naturally" stay who they are even when it hinders their progress is just terrible advice. No matter how you paint it

Your goal as a man is to grow and develo yourself. And this involves... CHANGING things about you. There's nothing wrong with change that makes you grow. Embrace it and learn from it.

Now.... let's continue

"Flaking (especially without explanation and tentative to fix another date) is disrespectful"

I know you read this in some redpoll book. But as I've said many times, book and real life are not entirely the same

It is quite hypocritical of you to address people you meet In your own life by how they present themselves BUT you ignorantly think women will be different.

Let's say you're a naturally confident & funny guy especially at work and around your friends or even with certain women....

Yet when you met this particular girl... you were shy... timid... boring... and practically annoying In your presentation... HOW do you expect her to see you?

Does she have a crystal ball to know that Kipaji is a funny guy? She will address based on your current presentation

I always tell guy this which you should tattoo at the back of your mind as well:

Women don't necessarily reject you.... they reject the VERSION of you that you show them

Stop being so bitter and worked up.... demanding for respect you most likely haven't earned or deserved.

So you want her to drop all she has for you even when her interest in you is LOW.... due to your bad game? That's living a fantasy lol

It's guys like you that shout about respect the most that have the most trouble getting women to respect them

Remember, that respect is EARNED. Not demanded.

CaveAdullam:
1. If you truly want to be logical about life, it will be hypocritical to know about suicide and still decide to be alive today.

Why do I say so?

Because the end of life is nothing. Literally nothing.

So, tell me, why do you struggle day and night for a brighter future?
Why do you dream big?
Why do you have ambitions?

Or, are you gonna lie to me that you don't know that all living things die? And you will die someday.

In fact, every breathe you take upon the surface of the earth fills you with life and at the same time draws you to your grave.

Why bother yourself when you will end down in 6 feet in less than 70 years from now?

If we truly want to be logical about life, there's absolutely nothing that makes sense. Absolutely nothing.

2. Despite this fact, we dear the adverse nature of life. We struggle for a better end. We work smart. We work hard. We like food. We like beautiful things. We like luxury. We like comfort. Because they are what makes life temporarily enjoyable till the coming of death.

3. Some see love and romance as what gives them happiness.
Some see their job as what gives them happiness.
Some see traveling as what gives them happiness.
Some see reading as what gives them happiness.
Some see adventures as what gives them happiness.

Therefore, it will be naive of you to think that because you chose work that gives you happiness, then, you are better than the one that chose love and romance. Or, vice versa.

Remember: it all ends in death. So, what makes you think that one is better than the other for following a transient point of happiness that differs from yours?

4. Let me state this clearly: the number 1 motivating force and power on earth is SEX - which is further substantiated on the foundation of relationships, love, romance, and marriage.

Your work as an inventor, scientist, innovator, engineer, thinker, writer, philosopher, etc will only be valued by a human population who can only come into existence through SEX.

5. Many great men in history never got married. But it took the population of men who got married to birth offsprings that made these men who would have been lost in the archives of history to remain known to the world and their works accessible by the sons of men on earth.

Nikola Tesla didn't get married. But nobody would have known about Nikola Tesla and his works if the people in his time shunned sex and marriage.

Hope you are getting the point now.

6. The problem we have today is that we are judging love and romance based on what we are seeing and experiencing today. Rather than judge by looking at their true meaning and purpose.

7. There can be sex without marriage. But there will be no society without marriage. Every society that seems to be collapsing today is because of the rampancy of sex. Where sex is not sacred under a notable institution, civilization declines gradually.

The importance of marriage is to make sex sacred. If sex becomes rampant and cheap with every cent and kobo, that society will end up down the drain.

So, marriage is not as useless as you think.

8. Again, the reason young men still find women difficult is because they expect women to be who they are not.

That's where the Redpill comes in. However, most men these days are trying to use it as an avenue to hate women or abstain from romance entirely.

Women are who they are. They will not change. It's simply their evolutionary and biological makeup. Instead of hating or avoiding them, you learn how to deal with them, hence, GAME.

9. Women are like pets. You will never expect your dog to start acting like a human someday. No matter the human training you give to a dog, a dog will still remain a dog. But should that stop you from loving the dog, no.

Will you now say because of the occurrences of road accidents, you will never ride a car? No.

Begin to extrapolate this logic to other areas of life - business, investments, etc.

10. It's the same thing with women. You understand their modus operandi and leverage it for a successful relationship.

If I'm not going to avoid other things in life because of their downsides - all things have both pros and cons - then, it will be ridiculous to avoid women because of their dark side. Even men have their dark sides too. All humans.

11. There's this hypocrisy men are now carrying around based on the revelation of female nature and psychology as if men themselves are innocents and saints. Meanwhile, we are all sides of the same coin; dress from the same material.

12. Women are a reflection of what men permit in society. And men become what women reward.
And don't forget this - SEX IS THE ULTIMATE RULER OF THE UNIVERSE.

13. To your question:

Marriage preserves the sanctity of sex. Because a society without tough rails on sex will turn into a cesspool.

A functional society is built on a sound micro system - a family. A system of similar people and cultures. And family is constructed with the bricks and fabrics of marriage.

Why sex? Without sex, the human population comes to an abrupt end.

The fact that this path doesn't makes sense to you doesn't in anyway makes it less important on a macro scale. It's the same way they will see your path too - useless.

It comes down to you finding a path that you enjoy and seems more meaningful to you.

Thanks.

jaycerichh:
I wan learn game, where I go start from?

pinokio6634:
From the first page of this thread

CaveAdullam:
, we are all sides of the same coin; dress from the same material.

12. Women are a reflection of what men permit in society. And men become what women reward.
And don't forget this - SEX IS THE ULTIMATE RULER OF THE UNIVERSE.

13. To your question:

Marriage preserves the sanctity of sex. Because a society without tough rails on sex will turn into a cesspool.

A functional society is built on a sound micro system - a family. A system of similar people and cultures. And family is constructed with the bricks and fabrics of marriage.

Why sex? Without sex, the human population comes to an abrupt end.

The fact that this path doesn't makes sense to you doesn't in anyway makes it less important on a macro scale. It's the same way they will see your path too - useless.

It comes down to you finding a path that you enjoy and seems more meaningful to you.

Thanks.

Iamblessed85:
I may teach on this some day. Many men think the idea of celibacy is impossible due to their lifestyle. The number one thing that fuels sexual indiscipline is bad diet and sugar.

chukshobayo:
Care to explain please.

jaycerichh:
thanks bro, seen.
How una take dey get shawties from Snapchat. What’s the OT?

luminouz:
So that's what you want your redpill for? Catch shawTs?

😂😂😂

Aaron12:
The same, one Muslim Yoruba guy dey collect shawts from Snapchat daily, and na Yoruba babes that use oil on their puxxies

luminouz:
So that's what you want your redpill for? Catch shawTs?

😂😂😂

emmaodet:
I Believe Nigerian Men that are Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them.
If you are rich or wealthy and have to beg a woman to marry you, then the issue is not about financial situation rather esteem issues.
If you are financially stable and averagely social, you will always have atleast 2 ladies in your hand at every point in time.
Ladies are not hard to get nor scarce, main issue for men are financial and long time of scarcity.
When a man has been exposed for too long to scarcity - inability to date for a very long time or no girlfriend for a very long time, it makes him appreciate little or no gifts or efforts from ladies and he is scared of losing a lady even if she is bad mannered. He is ready to manage or endure her.
He will be ready to take her bullshits.
Just a little kiss, he will always remember it or a little gift of singlet. He will remember the gesture for years. Something no one has ever given him.

JESHAL007:

emmaodet: I Believe Nigerian Men that are Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them.
If you are rich or wealthy and have to beg a woman to marry you, then the issue is not about financial situation rather esteem issues.
If you are financially stable and averagely social, you will always have atleast 2 ladies in your hand at every point in time.
Ladies are not hard to get nor scarce, main issue for men are financial and long time of scarcity.
When a man has been exposed for too long to scarcity - inability to date for a very long time or no girlfriend for a very long time, it makes him appreciate little or no gifts or efforts from ladies and he is scared of losing a lady even if she is bad mannered. He is ready to manage or endure her.
He will be ready to take her bullshits.
Just a little kiss, he will always remember it or a little gift of singlet. He will remember the gesture for years. Something no one has ever given him.

tensazangetsu20:
Men have actually never been the gatekeepers of commitment. Only the top percent of men are. Most men aren’t desirable so they aren’t gatekeeping anything.

Benee1000:
I understand your points, and I agree with most of them.
However, the idea of men avoiding marriage as a panacea against the annexation or incorporation of gynocentric laws in African states, I believe will only make matters worse.

Suggesting men avoid women altogether for sex and children, strips him of an instinctive desire for sex, and a group (family) where even the least of men in the commercial world would have the opportunity to exercise his instinct for leadership, a major trait of masculinity.
See bros, this thing is about instinct, and not really about "E dey sweet them to born pikin and be the powerful and respected red-pill patriarch in a traditional setting".
It is a man's biological imperative, and only few men have the will power to go against it.

Also, the children of most unmarried or irresponsible parents, especially single mothers, make up a very large source of feminized males and beta simps, as well as masculine ladies and whores, and it is this group of people who are the problem of intergender relationships and society.
It is this group who instigate, formulate, and propagate these gynocentric laws, when in position of power and influence.

Marriage itself is not the problem, the problem is the transfer of the regulatory authority of the institution of marriage from the individuals, families of couples and their cultural traditions, to the state, which started from the church.

If Marriage is strictly between couples and their families, Why should the state be involved in it? why does the state recognize marriages, and have to issue certificates for it? should the state have the powers to annul marriages and issue divorce certificates?
why should the state regulate my choice on the number of persons I choose to have a personal relationship with? (think bigamy).
If on the basis of protecting human or children rights the state has to interfere in a couples private matter, why is the interference from the lens of "gender" and not from "human" perspective?

Marriage should be regulated by the individual's, family and cultural preferences, and not state laws because it is a personal and cultural matter, and not state matter.

Gynocentric laws exist and will apply to marriages or relationship when people choose to give the state, authority over their personal decisions, through court marriage, because these laws are made by bitter masculine ladies for vengeful purposes, as well with feminized males, and beta simps influenced by cheap pus.sy and validation.
I understand, these gynocentric state laws have now been so modified by these guys that it now even applies to live-in couples who avoid official state recognized marriage in western countries.
However, gynocentric state laws don't apply to traditional marriages or personal relationships, at least not in African states or states with strong cultural marriage traditions like south american and asian states.

The problem is not marriage in itself, because the solution is not avoiding marriage, this will only make the problem worse.
The problem is designating marriage as a state function rather than an individual, family and cultural function, and we know the solution to this.

Kipaji:
This insight from emmaodet relates directly to this recent thread
https://www.nairaland.com/8386338/men-truly-gatekeepers-commitment#134868667

Given that most men begged their wives to marry, can we really say that men are the gatekeepers of relationships and commitment?

For most men out there, women are the gatekeepers of sex AND relationships.

luminouz:
Well to each his own but I'd like to think it's more than that.

FitCorper:
When I hear guys saying they love their girlfriends and can’t do without them, immediately I know they have the scarcity mindset. Make urself ur priority and work hard on urself (hit the gym, learn a high income skill, elevate ur status, work on ur confidence and tidy ur hygiene+grooming) get these right and u will know there are still babes who approach guys even in Nigeria.

Skepticus:
Personally, it's a reason I'm wary and cautious of addressing rich men as "alpha" (I hate to use that word but for the sake of clearing some things up, I'll use it here). Though, they are alpha by the standard of men just like the guy who could lift or squat the heaviest in the room, the guy(s) at the top ladder of a corporate organization, the guy who could get the most girls in the neighbourhood or on campus (whether he attracts them naturally or "rents" them as prostitutes).

Where men get it wrong is that what men consider as "alpha" is different on a deeper level than what "alpha" means to women (when dealing with women). With money, status or some other above-average talent/skill, men can pass off as alpha to other men even if they are natural betas and expectedly, attract women easily than the average joe. Men are impressionable at the surface. Since men get intimate with women than men, and with women having the natural conditioning to spot qualities that escape the attention of men, women expose men better. That's the reason why a guy who has achieved so much in wealth and status (what men consider "alpha" on a basic level) having control over millions of men who admire him and look up to him, is such a weak beta vagina being disrespected by his wife, girlfriends or women around him (though his wealth and status makes it easier to attract women who see him as a rich beta provider) much to the shock of the men who admire and look up to him.

The reasons for artisans being red pill at base level in relationship to women is that they learn skills/trades that are predominantly male, environment is traditionally conservative and date/marry women early, who, though hypergamous, have their hypergamy within their social class where they are looked up to as dominant patriarchs. They may not be rich but most have the basics necessary for a man which is shelter, food and a work that brings in money. I know more red pill aware artisans at base level than rich, highly educated men.

I have shared your sentiment earlier. I'll look for it and drop it once again. For those you who are seeking marriage or relationship with a woman where you are contributing partners but you, take the leadership role, you don't have to abandon education or not seek to make more money, but learn from these artisans and tweak the knowledge from their love life to suit your style.

EreluRoz:
Few years ago, a young talented man with the monika GLYCOLYSIS discovered the redpill somewhere else, having gotten enough knowledge about it, he decided to start writing about the redpill here on nairaland. He created a thread and started his journey.

There came a Southafrican based writer named ubunja who also knew about the redpill and wanted to desperately be the one championing the course on nairaland but Glycolysis was already ahead of him and gathering a lot of viewers and comments.

The Southafrican based writer ubunja secretly started nursing a plan on how to edge him out, he created another thread and started wooing the major contributors on Glycolysis thread because he needed that popularity. So he started mentioning and engaging the likes of martinez39s, luminouz, capslock, karlifate and CaveAdullam plus others and eventually he was gradually succeeding because Glycolysis was doing his thing on a solo. But ubunja's thread was not gathering enough viewers and engagement like Glycolysis's own, so he smartly device a means to come back to the main thread and furiously started engaging Glycolysis and accusing him falsely of stealing his content without referencing him and at this time he already won the hearts of those I mentioned. They started attacking him, insulting him and countering further contributions on his thread, even made him tender an apology for not referencing them .

That was how they started accusing him of stolen content, he started reducing in his writeup and each time he tried to measure up they'll furiously attack him. Then when it became too much for him, he tried to end the thread but these guys have already taken over by that time, ubunja was gradually getting the redpill fame he so desires. Glycolysis tried maintaining a peaceful ground with them but their mind was already made up and he eventually deactivated against his will.

That was how ubunja martinez39s luminouz capslock karlifate CaveAdullam and others took over somebody's sweat.

It's really sad and pathetic.

leetylee:
Females… lol ☕