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Dear men,
It is both a waste of time and deeply unfair to be in a relationship with someone you have no intention of marrying. If you don’t already see her as a potential wife, please don’t lead her on. Stop dating her and allow those who are genuinely serious about building a future to have the chance.

Relationships aren’t just for fun or convenience , they’re a journey toward commitment and partnership. Don’t hold someone’s heart hostage while you “figure things out.” Be honest, be intentional, and don’t play with emotions you don’t plan to honor.

A real man respects time, values feelings, and leads with clarity. If it’s not heading anywhere meaningful, let her go. She deserves better, and deep down, so do you.

Did the man weld her with a welding machine or used super glue to glue her down in the relationship?

She can also take a walk if it's not working.

Women don't even wait for men to allow them go. They take a walk once their mathematics is not adding up with you.

Any woman that stays with a man for long has already done her mathematics and the man is her best offer for that period.

You are not 💯 percent right

What says about women who keep chopping men's money, knowing that they will leave the man, once they find someone better

Ibkay32:
Dear men,
It is both a waste of time and deeply unfair to be in a relationship with someone you have no intention of marrying. If you don’t already see her as a potential wife, please don’t lead her on. Stop dating her and allow those who are genuinely serious about building a future to have the chance.

Relationships aren’t just for fun or convenience , they’re a journey toward commitment and partnership. Don’t hold someone’s heart hostage while you “figure things out.” Be honest, be intentional, and don’t play with emotions you don’t plan to honor.

A real man respects time, values feelings, and leads with clarity. If it’s not heading anywhere meaningful, let her go. She deserves better, and deep down, so do you.

Why dear men?

Ok you haven’t met some women who are time wasters too?

As e dey for man na so e dey for woman too…nobody holy pass

Ibkay32:
Dear men,
It is both a waste of time and deeply unfair to be in a relationship with someone you have no intention of marrying. If you don’t already see her as a potential wife, please don’t lead her on. Stop dating her and allow those who are genuinely serious about building a future to have the chance.

Relationships aren’t just for fun or convenience , they’re a journey toward commitment and partnership. Don’t hold someone’s heart hostage while you “figure things out.” Be honest, be intentional, and don’t play with emotions you don’t plan to honor.

A real man respects time, values feelings, and leads with clarity. If it’s not heading anywhere meaningful, let her go. She deserves better, and deep down, so do you.

I've had times I just wanted to be with a guy, marriage or not. Because he gives me a certain something. He makes me come alive

OlaOfLagos:
Why dear men?

Ok you haven’t met some women who are time wasters too?

As e dey for man na so e dey for woman too…nobody holy pass

How can a woman be time waster? Her biological clock is ticking while you're getting free tuotuo

Something so simple yet you'll find people who will still argue it. The what aboutism. The contrarians. Some people will argue with their own shadow in a dark room!

Nice write up op! The world would be a kinder place if just 1 man took this advice and ran with it.

Ibkay32:
Dear men,

A real man respects....

A REAL WOMAN should not be talking about what a real man is except she is actually a man.

You have breast and toto but you are a professional at knowing who A REAL MAN is and all the things he should or shouldn't do as long as it fits into your profit and advantage scheme.

QuinQ:
How can a woman be time waster? Her biological clock is ticking while you're getting free tuotuo

Unfortunately he is right.
Just in a week we have had two cancelled marriage plans by women on Front page.
One for not going to his church, the other was because of abroad based maga.
Though I prefer a broken relationship than divorce but it is what it is

Helpout12345:
Did the man weld her with a welding machine or used super glue to glue her down in the relationship?

She can also take a walk if it's not working.

Women don't even wait for men to allow them go. They take a walk once their mathematics is not adding up with you.

Any woman that stays with a man for long has already done her mathematics and the man is her best offer for that period.

Not all women stay in relationships because they've calculated the man is their best option—many stay for love, hope, or emotional reasons. Likewise, not all women leave quickly; some hold on despite challenges. Relationships are built on mutual respect, not force or manipulation, and decisions to stay or leave are more emotional than logical.

ChangedMan1999:
You are not 💯 percent right

What says about women who keep chopping men's money, knowing that they will leave the man, once they find someone better

Some women do take advantage in relationships even men too, but that doesn't define all women. People should be judged individually, some are users, but many are genuine and sincere. It's more about character than gender.

OlaOfLagos:
Why dear men?

Ok you haven’t met some women who are time wasters too?

As e dey for man na so e dey for woman too…nobody holy pass

True, nobody holy pass, but let’s be real, the rate at which men waste women’s time is on another level.

A lot of men will lead women on, make promises they have no intention of keeping, and keep the relationship going with no real plans. Some will date for years with no commitment, knowing they’re not ready but won’t let the woman go either.

Yes, women waste time too, but if we’re comparing stats, men often take the crown in time-wasting Olympics.

QuinQ:
I've had times I just wanted to be with a guy, marriage or not. Because he gives me a certain something. He makes me come alive

So what’s stopping you from being with him, fear, timing, or something else? If he makes you come alive like that, isn’t it worth exploring, even if just to see where it leads?

QuinQ:
How can a woman be time waster? Her biological clock is ticking while you're getting free tuotuo

A woman wasting time isn’t doing herself any favors, especially with her biological clock ticking, while the guy might just be enjoying the moment without real intention. She has more to lose if she’s not careful.

AllBlack:
A REAL WOMAN should not be talking about what a real man is except she is actually a man.

You have breast and toto but you are a professional at knowing who A REAL MAN is and all the things he should or shouldn't do as long as it fits into your profit and advantage scheme.

You’re right, but what you said doesn't really match the topic. It’s not about who’s allowed to define a "real man", we all have opinions, regardless of gender. Just because a woman has breasts and a "toto" doesn’t mean she can’t spot a real man! We’re all talking about mutual respect and honesty here, not running a profit-making scheme. Let’s not act like only men can know what makes a man real, everybody’s got their version!

JOACHINpedro:
Unfortunately he is right.
Just in a week we have had two cancelled marriage plans by women on Front page.
One for not going to his church, the other was because of abroad based maga.
Though I prefer a broken relationship than divorce but it is what it is

Yeah I read it too, let to think of the ones we don't hear or see, those situations definitely seem wild, And sometimes people are just being true to themselves. A broken relationship might hurt, but it's often better than staying in something that isn’t right for either person. At the end of the day, both parties need to be aligned on values and intentions, or it's just setting up for more problems down the line.

Nobody force anybody

Baronthecelebri:
Nobody force anybody

Yimu 😂
When you’re still indulging in the other side of the package, it's easy to overlook. Sometimes, it's not about being forced, but about the temporary pleasure that blinds you to the bigger picture.

Ibkay32:
A real man respects time, values feelings, and leads with clarity. If it’s not heading anywhere meaningful, let her go. She deserves better, and deep down, so do you.

Y'all just like making womwn victims in every of their dealing with men...is it ásslicking or forming over righteous??

QuinQ:
How can a woman be time waster? Her biological clock is ticking while you're getting free tuotuo

It doesn’t happen often does not mean they don’t exist. If they don’t feel the same vibe, you will just be dating yourself till they find someone who matches the same vibes and energy with their own. It might take them months to get someone who matches there energy (even if na her ex.) Once they see who they like, off they go…No take woman play oooo! I don see things for women mater alot of shared experiences

Like I said, they are everywhere. It just like tellin someone it doesn’t rain in Europe…

advanceDNA:
Y'all just like making womwn victims in every of their dealing with men...is it ásslicking or forming over righteous??

I understand your frustration, but it’s important to recognize that acknowledging women's challenges in relationships or interactions with men doesn't mean all men are at fault. It's about highlighting where things can be improved for mutual respect and understanding. It's not about ass-licking or trying to be righteous; it's about standing up for what's fair and creating a balance where both men and women are treated with respect.

QuinQ:
How can a woman be time waster? Her biological clock is ticking while you're getting free tuotuo

What is free tuotuo.. ..y'all like making sex look like a favour women do for men.....

Stopped reading when i got to "Real men"


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dhiqson:
Stopped reading when i got to "Real men"


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Which one are you? 🤥

Ibkay32:
I understand your frustration, but it’s important to recognize that acknowledging women's challenges in relationships or interactions with men doesn't mean all men are at fault. It's about highlighting where things can be improved for mutual respect and understanding. It's not about ass-licking or trying to be righteous; it's about standing up for what's fair and creating a balance where both men and women are treated with respect.

Lol....Frustration?? Are u trying to be hilarious or ur babe monitors ur comment on nairaland

U are viewing marriage like a piece of bread ..relationships are not black and white ..

..no one meets a woman and know from the start he will marry her...only desperate pple do that...people date and at some point decide to take it to the altar...

More than half of the time, women are the ones guilty of ur so called time wasting...because they are the ones that will say yes to dating you for money, for sex, just for the fun of it because they don't have any one they can put some of their responsibilities on at the time....

You will hear them say..."i ddnt like him initially because he wasn't my spec...but I said because yes because he's nice, gives me gift" .....

.both men and women should set realistic goals, look out for red flags and stop assuming everyone they meet owes them a marriage just because they agreed to date....

advanceDNA:
Lol....Frustration?? Are u trying to be hilarious or ur babe monitors ur comment on nairaland

U are viewing marriage like a piece of bread ..relationships are not black and white ..

..no one meets a woman and know from the start he will marry her...only desperate pple do that...people date and at some point decide to take it to the altar...

More than half of the time, women are the ones guilty of ur so called time wasting...because they are the ones that will say yes to dating you for money, for sex, just for the fun of it because they don't have any one they can put some of their responsibilities on at the time....

You will hear them say..."i ddnt like him initially because he wasn't my spec...but I said because yes because he's nice, gives me gift" .....

.both men and women should set realistic goals, look out for red flags and stop assuming everyone they meet owes them a marriage just because they agreed to date....

If you look at what I've been posting here very well, you'll see I haven't been biased based on gender. I'm not trying to be hilarious or being monitored by anyone; I post what I genuinely think. Relationships are complex, and I agree with you that they are not black and white. People often date to understand each other better, and it's normal for the journey to evolve over time. Both men and women need to be realistic and mindful of their expectations and actions in relationships.

Ibkay32:
Dear men,
It is both a waste of time and deeply unfair to be in a relationship with someone you have no intention of marrying. If you don’t already see her as a potential wife, please don’t lead her on. Stop dating her and allow those who are genuinely serious about building a future to have the chance.

Relationships aren’t just for fun or convenience , they’re a journey toward commitment and partnership. Don’t hold someone’s heart hostage while you “figure things out.” Be honest, be intentional, and don’t play with emotions you don’t plan to honor.

A real man respects time, values feelings, and leads with clarity. If it’s not heading anywhere meaningful, let her go. She deserves better, and deep down, so do you.

Origin of generational porverty. Be guided oOoOO, Dem no dey tell person. I know lots of ladies that emotions beclouded their sense of reasoning and got entangled. Many got divorced or about to or separated. Some graduates are doing hard labour just to feed kids, others simply ran and abandoned their young families. Be careful of humble beginnings approach, hardship is real.
MOGs and motivational speakers have lead many astray and it hits the ladies harder. Dem go encourage you to marry but still charge you for wedding ceremony in cash or kind 🤷

I laugh when I hear time wasters

id4sho:
Origin of generational porverty. Be guided oOoOO, Dem no dey tell person. I know lots of ladies that emotions beclouded their sense of reasoning and got entangled. Many got divorced or about to or separated. Some graduates are doing hard labour just to feed kids, others simply ran and abandoned their young families. Be careful of humble beginnings approach, hardship is real.
MOGs and motivational speakers have lead many astray and it hits the ladies harder. Dem go encourage you to marry but still charge you for wedding ceremony in cash or kind 🤷

I laugh when I hear time wasters

Regardless of gender, let’s agree this is happening in Nigeria, only that one gender may be experiencing it more than the other.

Ladies equally lead men on and exploit them financially only to dump them for other men after years of dating. But you Captains-save-a wh0re don't talk about that! All you do is guiltrip men into marrying just any lady on account of having dated for a long time.

No! We will not

OlaOfLagos:
It doesn’t happen often does not mean they don’t exist. If they don’t feel the same vibe, you will just be dating yourself till they find someone who matches the same vibes and energy with their own. It might take them months to get someone who matches there energy (even if na her ex.) Once they see who they like, off they go…No take woman play oooo! I don see things for women mater alot of shared experiences

Like I said, they are everywhere. It just like tellin someone it doesn’t rain in Europe…

So how has she wasted your time??

advanceDNA:
What is free tuotuo.. ..y'all like making sex look like a favour women do for men.....

It is a big favour. She risks pregnancy, reputation of looseness, biological clock, VD, etc.
What do men risk? Just brag to mates