₦airaland Forum

Sirchiboy:
Tough without helper

richmond500:
Smooth. Financially and mentally, I am okay.
I think I am more privileged that most people.

WantsandMore:
Counts your blessings and distribute your wealth in moderation whenever you can afford too

richmond500:
Wait o, I said I am financially okay, meaning I could feed myself and two to three other mouths, I didn't say I have wealth to distribute o.

pansophist:
For a man or woman?

For a man its tough, unless you are from a united wealthy family that can soak up most of the blows life punches at you.

If you are like the average Nigerian, then it is a miracle if there is peace in your family, because peace and poverty are hardly found in the same place.

Financial pressure everywhere, from yourself and family, especially your parents who are weak and hoped you can carry on from where they stop, and do a better job than them.

If you are the first child, you don enter am. You are basically a parent to your parents and siblings. Most of your income will go to them.

You will notice that its easier now to get fat, because as we grow older, our metabolism decreases, and the body store most of the food we eat, making you look chubby, then rounded, then overweight.

The pressure to settle down will begin to mount up, and your best time would be in the past, when you were young, no responsibilities, and ignorant. Ignorant is happiness.

You will struggle to be happy, and your esteem will be bruised because the women that you find attractive, will not like you. You are probably not their speck, even if on an objective basis, you are doing better than them.

They you will arrive at a bitter conclusion that women are not looking for a good man doing fine, but for a wealthy man, with the hope that he is a good man. Accepting you are average will be painful, but you need not live in delusions.

Remember those uncles that gave you 500 naira and biscuit when youre young, now you will be the uncle to their own kids.

People will be watching you, and if any improvement shows up in your life, it will attract request for assistance left and right, that due to self preservation, you will cut off some route from your path, and your whatsapp ''last seen'' status turned to invisible, or just go ghost mode.

Then you will come to appreciate your solitude, and realise that the only time you are free and can be yourself is when you are alone. When you were young, your father forced you to sleep, now you will be very happy to find time to sleep.

You will now also understand why young people fill the clubs, because the 30's and above are at home and actually enjoying the rent they paid heavily for. At best, a bar to drink and talk will hold more value than clubs.

You will now learn to appreciate your father and see clearly that he tried to raise maybe five kids, and handled it for decades. It will make it easy for you to forgive him for all the shortcomings you thought he had.

He was once your superman, but now, you can see clearly that he was just trying his best, and its your turn to go through that same route.

pansophist:
For a man or woman?

For a man its tough, unless you are from a united wealthy family that can soak up most of the blows life punches at you.

If you are like the average Nigerian, then it is a miracle if there is peace in your family, because peace and poverty are hardly found in the same place.

Financial pressure everywhere, from yourself and family, especially your parents who are weak and hoped you can carry on from where they stop, and do a better job than them.

If you are the first child, you don enter am. You are basically a parent to your parents and siblings. Most of your income will go to them.

You will notice that its easier now to get fat, because as we grow older, our metabolism decreases, and the body store most of the food we eat, making you look chubby, then rounded, then overweight.

The pressure to settle down will begin to mount up, and your best time would be in the past, when you were young, no responsibilities, and ignorant. Ignorant is happiness.

You will struggle to be happy, and your esteem will be bruised because the women that you find attractive, will not like you. You are probably not their speck, even if on an objective basis, you are doing better than them.

They you will arrive at a bitter conclusion that women are not looking for a good man doing fine, but for a wealthy man, with the hope that he is a good man. Accepting you are average will be painful, but you need not live in delusions.

Remember those uncles that gave you 500 naira and biscuit when youre young, now you will be the uncle to their own kids.

People will be watching you, and if any improvement shows up in your life, it will attract request for assistance left and right, that due to self preservation, you will cut off some route from your path, and your whatsapp ''last seen'' status turned to invisible, or just go ghost mode.

Then you will come to appreciate your solitude, and realise that the only time you are free and can be yourself is when you are alone. When you were young, your father forced you to sleep, now you will be very happy to find time to sleep.

You will now also understand why young people fill the clubs, because the 30's and above are at home and actually enjoying the rent they paid heavily for. At best, a bar to drink and talk will hold more value than clubs.

You will now learn to appreciate your father and see clearly that he tried to raise maybe five kids, and handled it for decades. It will make it easy for you to forgive him for all the shortcomings you thought he had.

He was once your superman, but now, you can see clearly that he was just trying his best, and its your turn to go through that same route.

starpower:
I'm married now with a son, and I can feel my body changing—frequent joint aches, shorter attention span, getting tired more easily. But I'm learning to manage my anxiety and adjust my expectations. Being a man, especially in Nigeria, is no small task. Inflation has been rough, and I’m also becoming more aware of the mistakes I’ve made, especially around capital allocation and opportunity sizing.

I’m not wealthy, but I’m not poor either—just very frugal. Lately, I’ve seen many of my friends experiencing some financial breakthroughs. I started early in my twenties, had good mentors, and I listened and experimented. Now, some of these friends try to impress me, but I just hope they also learn to allocate capital wisely—to enjoy some of the fruits but also save and invest properly.

Life can be unfair with how unexpected things happen. I’ve lost valuable relationships—young and old—to death. Starting life early has made my advice sound boring to my peers, so I’ve learned to stay quiet more often. These days, my compounding—both income and savings—has slowed down, but I’ve gained more time and experience.

I’m discovering that reading widely and cultivating quality relationships are the things that really matter. I'm now planning for my child’s education and hoping to build a house in the next 3 to 4 years. I’m in no rush anymore, and I’ve become a better judge of character. I turn 33 this year. Apologies for the long text.

pansophist:
For a man or woman?

For a man its tough, unless you are from a united wealthy family that can soak up most of the blows life punches at you.

If you are like the average Nigerian, then it is a miracle if there is peace in your family, because peace and poverty are hardly found in the same place.

Financial pressure everywhere, from yourself and family, especially your parents who are weak and hoped you can carry on from where they stop, and do a better job than them.

If you are the first child, you don enter am. You are basically a parent to your parents and siblings. Most of your income will go to them.

You will notice that its easier now to get fat, because as we grow older, our metabolism decreases, and the body store most of the food we eat, making you look chubby, then rounded, then overweight.

The pressure to settle down will begin to mount up, and your best time would be in the past, when you were young, no responsibilities, and ignorant. Ignorant is happiness.

You will struggle to be happy, and your esteem will be bruised because the women that you find attractive, will not like you. You are probably not their speck, even if on an objective basis, you are doing better than them.

They you will arrive at a bitter conclusion that women are not looking for a good man doing fine, but for a wealthy man, with the hope that he is a good man. Accepting you are average will be painful, but you need not live in delusions.

Remember those uncles that gave you 500 naira and biscuit when youre young, now you will be the uncle to their own kids.

People will be watching you, and if any improvement shows up in your life, it will attract request for assistance left and right, that due to self preservation, you will cut off some route from your path, and your whatsapp ''last seen'' status turned to invisible, or just go ghost mode.

Then you will come to appreciate your solitude, and realise that the only time you are free and can be yourself is when you are alone. When you were young, your father forced you to sleep, now you will be very happy to find time to sleep.

You will now also understand why young people fill the clubs, because the 30's and above are at home and actually enjoying the rent they paid heavily for. At best, a bar to drink and talk will hold more value than clubs.

You will now learn to appreciate your father and see clearly that he tried to raise maybe five kids, and handled it for decades. It will make it easy for you to forgive him for all the shortcomings you thought he had.

He was once your superman, but now, you can see clearly that he was just trying his best, and its your turn to go through that same route.

Sirchiboy:
Tough without helper

pansophist:
For a man or woman?

For a man its tough, unless you are from a united wealthy family that can soak up most of the blows life punches at you.

If you are like the average Nigerian, then it is a miracle if there is peace in your family, because peace and poverty are hardly found in the same place. Well put bro. You just wrote about my life I swear.

Financial pressure everywhere, from yourself and family, especially your parents who are weak and hoped you can carry on from where they stop, and do a better job than them.

If you are the first child, you don enter am. You are basically a parent to your parents and siblings. Most of your income will go to them.

You will notice that its easier now to get fat, because as we grow older, our metabolism decreases, and the body store most of the food we eat, making you look chubby, then rounded, then overweight.

The pressure to settle down will begin to mount up, and your best time would be in the past, when you were young, no responsibilities, and ignorant. Ignorant is happiness.

You will struggle to be happy, and your esteem will be bruised because the women that you find attractive, will not like you. You are probably not their speck, even if on an objective basis, you are doing better than them.

They you will arrive at a bitter conclusion that women are not looking for a good man doing fine, but for a wealthy man, with the hope that he is a good man. Accepting you are average will be painful, but you need not live in delusions.

Remember those uncles that gave you 500 naira and biscuit when youre young, now you will be the uncle to their own kids.

People will be watching you, and if any improvement shows up in your life, it will attract request for assistance left and right, that due to self preservation, you will cut off some route from your path, and your whatsapp ''last seen'' status turned to invisible, or just go ghost mode.

Then you will come to appreciate your solitude, and realise that the only time you are free and can be yourself is when you are alone. When you were young, your father forced you to sleep, now you will be very happy to find time to sleep.

You will now also understand why young people fill the clubs, because the 30's and above are at home and actually enjoying the rent they paid heavily for. At best, a bar to drink and talk will hold more value than clubs.

You will now learn to appreciate your father and see clearly that he tried to raise maybe five kids, and handled it for decades. It will make it easy for you to forgive him for all the shortcomings you thought he had.

He was once your superman, but now, you can see clearly that he was just trying his best, and its your turn to go through that same route.

Double0h7:
Those are the best years of your life! Health, beauty and wealth are at max! Everything declines after that.

FitCorper:
Run away from sin and watch ur life become stress free.

Kaczynski:
which mumu man today go get mind fork born 4-6 pikin? its best to have either 2 0r 1.

mrfizy:
It's been hard.
After getting a degree and later getting frontend web development skills,it seems I haven't been able to get any bearing on my life.
There are times I stay hungry like the last couple of days.
These days I just live life as it comes,one day at a time.
I will be 32 this September and a lot of time I feel so detached from geverything and everyone.