₦airaland Forum

franchasng:
Humans are nothing but animals with high level of reasoning, but in all, humans are still animals and they exhibit animalistic traits.


If you watch animal kingdom, monogamy does not exist there. In animal kingdom, one male animal mates with as many female animals in his domain as possible. You will never see a situation where 1 female animal will be mating with 20 male animals, it's not possible, I am a wildlife lover, that's the only thing I watch when I am bored aside comedy skits, war documentaries and politics news.


Whiteman created monogamy to control overpopulation in the world just as they created democracy. Naturally, humans don't practice democracy in community leadership just as the natural form of man don't practice monogamy.


In the Bible, we read about many great Kings and Queens, and we read about Kings having hundreds of wives and concubines but we never read about Queens having hundreds of husbands and lover boys because it's not natural.

Women by nature are the custodian of sexual chastity, it is not by their power or because they are too good, it is a natural gift bestowed on them by nature from birth to reduce human population, sexual sanity, etc. Yes there are female sex maniacs, but they are very few, it's not common.


Naturally, men and women don't have the same level of self control for sex, nature made it so to control population and to help women survive in the world. If most men don't desire sex or crave for sex so much like most women, women all over the world will suffer. Tell me how women will survive the world if men don't have higher sex drive and craven for sex than women? It means men can go about their lives without bothering to approach any woman for sex or for relationships, and this will translate to men not caring for women or having any iota of sympathy or compassion for women, guess what that means? Hell for women cos Kings, Presidents, Emperrors, Dictators, Rulers, etc who made laws to consider and protect women from men wouldn't have ever made such laws. Western laws that protected women rights wouldn't have existed cos men wouldn't be compelled to even make such laws.


So men cheat because it is their nature to cheat. Men that don't cheat (if any at all) are doing so out of extreme sacrifice and it has nothing to do with love for their wife or lover, it mostly has to do with spirituality, political position, fear of being caught, fear of the consequences (financial, disease, spiritual backlash, political, business, status).


Men that cheat on their wives doesn't mean they don't cherish their wife; a man can cherish his wife and still have extramarital affairs with other women albeit responsibly/respectfully.



And its funny reading people say Nigerian men abroad don't cheat, really? They also believe that Whitemen and other races don't cheat too? Oh really? They also believe that cheating abroad is very difficult for men or let me say difficult for Nigerian men, are you serious? Lolz



Dear ladies, stop letting this issue disturb you so much, and stop letting some women's claims that their husband is different, their husband doesn't cheat, their husband is disciplined, their husband loves them so much to dare cheat on them, bla bla bla to cause you depression, they never know and may never know.


The desire to mate or have sex with as many women he finds sexually appealing is inherent in all sexually active men, any married man that is very sure he hasn't had sex with any other woman except his wife deserve an applause but that doesn't make him a superman or a wonderful man or the greatest or best man, he only managed to avoid it out of fear of the consequences (financial consequences, legal consequences, spiritual consequences mostly based on doctrines & instructions) and most times due to lack of opportunities caused by any of the below reasons:

1.) Financial lack
2.) Location
3.) Societal/political/religious position



All sexually active men in their natural form, are promiscuous in nature.


If you doubt me, do the below assignment.


Get 1 good looking guy and 1 good looking girl above 18 years, go to a random market or street anywhere in the world, let the girl approach 20 different men with a short note on a blank sheet of paper that says:

You look cute, I really like you, can we find somewhere and have some good sex please?


I tell you that at least 15 out of 20 of the men the pretty girl will approach will say yes without stress.


Now let the handsome guy do the same by approaching 20 different women, I assure you that more than 15 out of the 20 women will flare up or even yell at him or say no to him.


This is a natural test that should make you understand that the desire to have sex with different women by men is a natural trait and weakness in all men, it's a natural curse on men, and nature made it so for so many reasons.


That you as a woman is able to control your urge or desire to have sex with different men for free is not by your power, it is a gift given to you by nature for so many reasons, so stop judging or blaming men.


You will be surprised to see that cheating man in heaven at the end of the day while those you feel are sexually disciplined and don't cheat end up in hell. Leave God that created men the way He created them to judge them with their sexual weaknesses, peace

lexy2014:
How is cheating the biological makeup of men?

What makes you think women don't have the same biological make up to cheat?

Linkwire:
I don’t know your lady colleague o, but I can categorically confirm to you that she’s not telling you everything . Marriage is where sex goes to die . E sure me say that her husband is sex starved . She go learn styles no mean say she no dey gatekeep sex . Women in marriage often think that sex should be once in 2 weeks and that if they try run am twice in 2 weeks then it’s a lot of sex . Again I no Sabi the lady o, but I am ready to drop 1 meter that she’s not telling the whole truth .

ValCon888:
Eating fried rice and chicken everyday no matter how delicious will get you tired. If one day you were offered garri and groundnut you will jump for joy.

pocohantas:
The reason anyone, male or female would cheat on their spouse is lack of discipline.

The major reason Nigerian men cheat on their Nigerian wives in Nigeria, is lack of consequence.

If they are indeed polygamous in nature, they will cheat in Canada, America and UK. They will cheat on their foreign wives too, but they don't. Instead they prepare egusi soup for her and upload videos on Youtube.

Any other reason they give is to gaslight you into seeing it as normal.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK8JVsRLn3g?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P52gK9szptU?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VxUoZi9LrDY?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ef8D4hO4_ys?

Learner247:
While sometimes married men tend to cheat because some wives weaponize sexual intimacy, I won't dwell on that because of your comments about the case study that you presented in your piece. So, I will talk about growing success of men and the hypergamous nature of women as key reasons many married men cheat.

Firstly, most men tend to get married at the beginning of their career and foray into wealth creation. As a result of this, they are usually very busy building their lives and climbing the success ladder. In fact, at times like these, many of them are religious, and are very committed to their partners. Significant part of their income goes into home upkeep. Nothing much is available for frivolities and they invest good portions of the little income left into personal development and emergency account. But as they have more disposal income, things tend to change as they can now afford to act on their wild desires.

In addition to the foregoing, most ladies in our society tend to get attracted to successful men, irrespective of their marital status. As husbands begin to have more and more disposable income, grow in their careers etc. they become more visible and attractive to most women. Since some of these men become managers, top leaders, captains of industries eventually, they have meetings outside of their usual places of residence and sometimes even have to go to such meetings with female colleagues and/or secretaries who have been looking for avenues to have amorous relationship with such men for various reasons. Men naturally find it difficult to resist what they see, particularly if it's the body aligns with his "specification".

As I conclude, rising disposable income plus the humongous drive of the female gender towards successful men are some of the major reasons males who have already tied the knots to cheat on their wives. It is important that married men understand that faithful wives deserve faithfulness as well, learn to be empathetic irrespective of their financial success and to create formidable boundaries against uncouth fellows.

Dandsome:
By nature men are not programmed to be with only one woman.
Even amongst animals, you will notice that it's one male to about 5 to 10 females.

That's why when you want to rear animals y9u bring more females to one male.

You can't cheat nature.

One man one wife is a "feminist" thing the white man brought to us by using religion to cover it up.

African men and men in general are not wired to be with one woman.

Now before you say "what if the woman cheats?", you should understand that in this case it's a man's world. Just like how when you hit a woman, the whole world will frown at you. That's a woman's world.

One funny thing is that women don't mind if you marry another wife, so far you make it known that's she's the queen mother and other cowives and sidechicks bow to her, she's fine.

Let me leave you with an illustration.

A key that can open many padlocks is a master key. A padlock that any key can open is useless.

Think about that.

MONEY247:
I was speaking with a lady colleague and she shared with me a story about her husband...
According to her she said she does everything, I mean everything for her husband...
From sexual needs to food to respect to whatever you can think of...to please him.

When she discovered/suspected he was cheating she went on to learn various sexual styles, even to the extent of watching pornography... just to make the bedroom game sweet for her husband....

This man still went ahead continuing the affair outside the marriage...
She threatened to leave the marriage and call it quits when he came back to his senses...
And became the family Man...
I can tell this woman is still beautiful, she keeps herself clean and classy....

My question is this, what makes a married man to commit adultery or cheat...
Just what...

papyjaypaul:
Don't believe everything you see on social media. There was a scandal on NL some years ago with our UK people who were cheating. If you were here back then you'll know what I'm talking about. It's even easier to cheat in those countries because they are not loud like us. Have we not seen YouTube couples EVERYWHERE IN THE WORLD break up after all the lovey dovey they show online?

Anyway it's the egusi soup in your comment I'm laughing at because it has a metaphorical meaning to your comment and to the topic

BreakingNews21:
This French blogger offered her viewpoints. She recently married a rich guy.

How To Treat Your Man So He Can't Leave You


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6ns_uvGMUs

tnerro1:
You need to talk to people that work in motels and low budget hotels, they will have plenty talk about married men and also married women coming to the hotel to do all sorts of things.


A woman once said “ women will also cheat if they are 100% certain they can getaway with it”

ValCon888:
Eating fried rice and chicken everyday no matter how delicious will get you tired. If one day you were offered garri and groundnut you will jump for joy.

Gerrard59:
This is something Nairaland women have blatantly refused to address - the arrogance of married women who weaponise sex.

pocohantas:
No part of my comment said people don't cheat all over the world. My comment was clear, the MAJOR reason they do it in Nigeria is lack of consequence. It is not easier to cheat abroad, that is why some of they unleash their libidos when they come back home during festive periords (without their wives).

Maeve7:
Lack of morals.

papyjaypaul:
And I'm telling you it's far easier to cheat abroad, especially because most of the people there mind their business so you will never know. Where are all the cheating stats from if it's the consequences you are talking about? How did that site for married men cheat come about if men were afraid of the consequences? Ashley Madison showed you that it's not the fear of any consequences, men of all type and species will continue to be animals that they are. They can't cheat nature.

pocohantas:
It is not far easier for a Nigerian man to cheat or do anything bad abroad. If it were, they won't be scared of migrating with their wives. Thank you

papyjaypaul:
Don't worry. What you don't know, doesn't kill

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
you are allergic to truth

MemoriesAndMe:
Nicely said!
I have a friend whose marriage got ruined from this you just said. He is happily married with 2 kids and we all knew his wife and saw them as a happy family. His wife was a God fearing woman that dedicated herself to her family.

He eventually had a side chick that eventually gave him gonorrhea. He ended up passing it to his wife and suddenly ran to us his friends when him, his wife and his side chick all were experiencing the symptoms of gonorrhea - that's an STD. The only advice everyone could give him was to open up to his wife because everyone knew she was the homely type, the side chick was all over the place and he met her at a club to start with.

He ended up treating all three of them, but the wife left him because she thought he could have passed something more serious like HIV to her from his randy habits.

casualobserver:
Men with one wife who don’t have side chicks are liable to live a miserable existence and die before their wives.

pocohantas:
The reason anyone, male or female would cheat on their spouse is lack of discipline.

The major reason Nigerian men cheat on their Nigerian wives in Nigeria, is lack of consequence.

If they are indeed polygamous in nature, they will cheat in Canada, America and UK. They will cheat on their foreign wives too, but they don't. Instead they prepare egusi soup for her and upload videos on Youtube.

Any other reason they give is to gaslight you into seeing it as normal.

Nyascobar1414:
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Pls,I really wanna know why?

casualobserver:
Because as soon as you have children, nobody has your time. Your wife’s focus is the children….rightly so. That is how mature designed it for the man to provide and the woman to nurture the young. You work hard to provide and come home and you are not a priority to anyone at home, they give the the biggest mean to make you feel good and that’s it. You have no outlet unlike other men with side chics so you become miserable. Yet you are expected to be a man and carry on like everything is ok because you are the head of the family. This is why men die before their wives.

Back in the day you would have a side chick to fulfil your emotional needs who would invariably become wife no2 until she has her own kids and you find wife no3 etc etc. but we have bought into Oyinbo way of life that has told you it is tabboo. So your option is to remain monogamous faithful and miserable!

Good luck to the faithful monogamous men!

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