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Don't ever show a cunning wife how much you love your kids..
I will urge men to know the kind of family they'll be marrying from.
Women are extremely calculative. If a woman say I love him, she love something else and not that person

Kobojunkie:
Stop ranting. You can equally file for full-custody of your children in court, too. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

The law allows anyone to file for full-custody of the children in a divorce case. During the proceedings, both may decide to negotiate and settle for shared custody instead. Stop making unnecessary noise for zero-value attention. If your case is in court, you are best to be on your best behavior and maybe leave social media until after the case is done.

Sense far from u, see how u are shaming him for speaking up because he is not an evening newspaper, una no dey ever get sense.

Him sperm done finish? Make he go born another nah

Namaster:
People FRET too much over legal matters.
They get a message from a lawyer and they PANIC.

This is a just a LETTER. It does NOT mean anything.

ANYBODY can demand ANYTHING from ANYBODY in a letter or even a lawsuit.

Doesn't mean they'll get it.

The man NEEDS to get himself a lawyer. And STOP posting of social media.

Without evidence of abuse or abandonment, JOINT legal and physical custody is more likely.

Andtheir finances will determine the child support arrangements.

ONLY thing that is guaranteed is she'll definitely take half HIS properties and investments. But he's also going to be able to take half of HER own properties and investments. However little they may be.

FINALLY, men need to stop acting like FOOLS!

You got married in Nigeria, DON'T divorce her abroad.

That's what DETTY DECEMBER is for.

"Yes Honey, your Christmas gift is at Ikeja High Court".

You have to be STRATEGIC about these things.

The only way to protect yourself is to protect your assets, irrespective of where the divorce happens is immaterial as long as your assets are protected from the law that's where the game changer lies.

Kobojunkie:
Joint custody is not always in the best interest of the kids. That is why each situation is treated on a case by case basis in the courts.

Joint custody isn't in the best interest if the child so says you that's why most people in prison and prostitution are products of single mothers aka joint custody isn't always in the best interest of the child.

Kobojunkie:
A good father can raise his children the same way a good mother can. The problem however, is that way too many women keep having kids with men who are terrible fathers. I am surrounded here by men who are examples of good fathers, so I have no mercy for terrible fathers.

In a foreign country without other family members to help, I think it is hard - a girlfriend who in turn start the borning process for him is the solution.

Best they do the divorce or separation amicably. Let the woman keep the property with you having right to the home and time with the children - stability for the children is very important. Once the kids get to 18 years, you can sell and share the profits or buy out.
Thoughtful people do it this way. Everything should not be war.

Wande22:
Do you know why he had to walk out of the marriage

I might not support him 100% (cos I don't know why le walked away) but I will support him 95% cos we are on the same road

Sorry to hear that. But marriage is not something you walk away from, it's something you have to make work.

No matter who or what we marry

dustmalik:
Isn't it better to walk away if things are not working out? Would you prefer he stays in a toxic marriage that could lead to violence? Walking away from a marriage doesn't mean walking away from your children.

He never said why he walked out.
I dunno what he was passing through, but I know there was a point the marriage was sweeting him.

Nothing in life is perfect, u just have to find how to make it work

Kobojunkie:
Stop ranting. You can equally file for full-custody of your children in court, too. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

The law allows anyone to file for full-custody of the children in a divorce case. During the proceedings, both may decide to negotiate and settle for shared custody instead. Stop making unnecessary noise for zero-value attention. If your case is in court, you are best to be on your best behavior and maybe leave social media until after the case is done.

If he commits suicide he is termed weakling, allow him to pour out those emotions

Kobojunkie:
Joint custody is not always in the best interest of the kids. That is why each situation is treated on a case by case basis in the courts.

The woman requesting for full custody has got no job, she is interested in child's support, why can't they make it 50/50 it's both parents responsibility

Na unfortunate men dey buy property in a land where you can go from 100 to zero instantly due to biased laws.

If he had no property there, na to simply book the next flight and just walk jejely to Nigeria to clear his head. Staying there will make him start thinking evil should he remember all he is about to lose.

patrickcollins:
✓ The woman requesting for full custody has got no job, she is interested in child's support, why can't they make it 50/50 it's both parents responsibility

The Law does not require that one first have a job before being able to demand for full custody of the kids. So, what exactly are you attempting to argument?

patrickcollins:
✓ If he commits suicide he is termed weakling, allow him to pour out those emotions

Suicide merely on grounds that she filed for full custody where the same law that allows her file also allows him to do same would amount to blatant foolishness on his part.

mrdharkchild:
Before you start blaming the woman, I remember reading the part where he said he decided to walk out of the marriage.

But you somehow forgot to read the part where he clearly stated (paraphrasing) that the wife and her family had shown him pepper and walked out because he couldn’t take it anymore?

Some of you are worse than the devil.

Helpout12345:
The man should get a lawyer if his case is complicated.

What I know is that if the man is not a criminal, a drug addict and no proof of him being abusive to his children, he can get 50pct custody in court by just showing up in court even without a lawyer.

Women requesting full custody and all assets when they file for divorce in western countries is a general standard template. It doesn't mean she will get all the "wish list" on the template in court.

Absolutely 👍 The court will look into what’s best for the children. Those who start a race don’t get to decide the outcome. The man should calm down, stop over reacting, stay unprovoked, look for a lawyer and the opportunity to present his case.

QVicky10:
All this endless ranting, as if he’s blameless, when he’s the one who chose to abandon the marriage.
Did he stop for a moment to think about the pain he’d cause his children, about how his leaving tears their world apart? Now he’s upset, that she’s asking for child support—how else was she supposed to provide for their children?
It’s heartbreaking, the way he turns his back and then complains when life demands responsibility.
Additionally, he has the option to pursue joint custody if he wishes to spend more time with his children.

He abandoned the marriage and caused them pains. ?

BreakingNews21:
Me thinks Bro was a cheater and this is the end result. 99% of women/females won't put the father of their children through this type financial punishment without sound reason. More for their kid/s and less to spend on his side chick/s.

Dey play till it happens to you...

Better learn from this man's experience now (and also the one that committed suicide)

The man should get a lawyer and keep quiet. Everything will be used against him in court. Is there nobody to advise him?

I don’t think she can get sole custody if she holds no cards against him.

Dexy4yah:
Please Nigerian men don't take your wife or girlfriend abroad...let them remain here in Nigeria.

And see their children once a year?

Always Igbos as usual I am not surprise.In one of the post hete last week a lady told us how her boyfriend's mum disapproved their plans to get married because of her tribe,God bless that woman for saving her son from evil wicked and tribe filled with hatred. .

armyofone:
➜In a foreign country without other family members to help, I think it is hard - a girlfriend who in turn start the borning process for him is the solution.
➜ Best they do the divorce or separation amicably. Let the woman keep the property with you having right to the home and time with the children - stability for the children is very important. Once the kids get to 18 years, you can sell and share the profits or buy out.
Thoughtful people do it this way. Everything should not be war.

1. I don't think so. A man can survive without a woman until he has gotten his deck in order, much the same as a woman can. Any woman who girlfriends a man unable to get his act together as a father to his children is only setting herself up for a miserable life with him. It is sort of the same way, only a stewpid man would boyfriend a woman who has yet to get her act together as far as being a mother to her kids.

2. Nah! I think shared custody is better where possible, so that both the man and woman equally experience parenthood with x number of days off.

Kobojunkie:
Says the Law, Psychiatrists, and other Childcare experts whose opinions may be called upon to weigh in on the situation.

Especially when these professionals are women. Expect them to give emotional verdict that will favour them and not the three parties involved.

Idaytesj29:
➜Especially when these professionals are women. Expect them to give emotional verdict that will favour them and not the three parties involved.

Bullsheet!

Kobojunkie:
Suicide merely on grounds that she filed for full custody where the same law that allows her file also allows him to do same would amount to blatant foolishness on his part.

Full custody when she doesn't have a job, next is to suck the guy with child's support which can make him commit suicide

Kobojunkie:
The Law does not require that one first have a job before being able to demand for full custody of the kids. So, what exactly are you attempting to argument?

She wants to have a full custody so she gives all her time taking care of the children why the ex is burdened with financial responsibilities

IkeAnumudu:
But you somehow forgot to read the part where he clearly stated (paraphrasing) that the wife and her family had shown him pepper and walked out because he couldn’t take it anymore?

Some of you are worse than the devil.

You didn't know before you married the woman? Smh.

patrickcollins:
➜She wants to have a full custody so she gives all her time taking care of the children why the ex is burdened with financial responsibilities

So?

Maeve7:
And see their children once a year?

Yes

Dexy4yah:
Yes

Are you a father?

GloriousGbola:
instead of getting a lawyer the silly man is looking for sympathy in the court of nigerian public opinion.

the woman has already lawyered up. the man better get a lawyer and the nastier the better. all this rubbish the man is posting online can also be used against him - stalking, mental health, etc.

get a lawyer who understands the game. ensure all your documentation is correct. hopefully, the man has not been like your typicaly nigerian male who outsources the entire rearing of the children and running of the house to the mother - which would make a solid case for the wife.

I like as he's fooling himself abeg. More of it please. 😂😀

Chilipepper:
Canadian-based Nigerian man cries out as estranged wife allegedly demands full custody of their kids, total control of family assets, and leaves him emotionally drained: ‘I gave them the best life, now I’m not even allowed to decide in my kids’ lives!’

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The woman is right.

Those who choose not to heed advice should continue to suffer. I don't feel sorry for those who played CBEX, MMM, pay tithe or take their wives abroad. They are all part of the tragi-comedy that excites me.

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