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COMRADES, when a babe or babies confided in you, how do you handle it?

Melagros:
COMRADES, when a babe or babies confided in you, how do you handle it?

for billing

She wan use ur head...

Make no Nigerian banny trust me for this life again

Sonnobax15:

Make no Nigerian banny trust me for this life again

shey your sister fit be my babymama

Trust weytin? My brother run......

Simps are better comforters to them

Why?

Sonnobax15:

Make no Nigerian banny trust me for this life again

Melagros:
COMRADES, when a babe or babies confided in you, how do you handle it?

When a babe trusts me I THRUST back

Because you be Dodoyyo

And she doesn't trust her parents and siblings enough to tell them her problems abi?

I just watched the justice show before seeing this post


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Akn2ZNKucVQ


COMRADES, when the babe confided in the friend, he raped her and said bad things about him to her. The guy was ready to tell lies about his friend just to get to her pants.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pPjKmVkw-jU

BUT hold on guys, if you only listen to one side, you will make the wrong judgment. If she comes to meet you, tell her to say the same thing in front of her guy. Avoid man and woman matter, it can be complicated.

Person wan bill you,he say na trust.. Trust fire

Xannadu:
And she doesn't trust her parents and siblings enough to tell them her problems abi?

Nonsense, do you, as a man, trust your own parents and siblings enough to tell them everything about you?

Myrepublic:
Person wan bill you,he say na trust.. Trust fire

The major reason you lot think that way is probably because you suffer from low self-esteem yourselves. It is OK if a stranger — male or female— tells you stories of their struggles and even asks you for help in one way or another. It is equally OK for you to say, "No," if you don't have to give or if you don't wish to help them.

However, concluding that whenever a member of the opposite gender tells you of his/her troubles or struggles, that what is sort of even without it being asked is billing is a sign of low self-esteem. Also, thinking that the only way you could relate to that person in question would be to volunteer yourself as some sort of savior is a sign of low emotional intelligence.

This is 2025, let's all, together, strive for better social and emotional intelligence.

Firebox123:
for billing

yes o

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense, do you, as a man, trust your own parents and siblings enough to tell them everything about you?
The major reason you lot think that way is probably because you suffer from low self-esteem yourselves. It is OK if a stranger — male or female— tells you stories of their struggles and even asks you for help in one way or another. It is equally OK for you to say, "No," if you don't have to give or if you don't wish to help them.

However, concluding that whenever a member of the opposite gender tells you of his/her troubles or struggles, that what is sort of even without it being asked is billing is a sign of low self-esteem. Also, thinking that the only way you could relate to that person in question would be to volunteer yourself as some sort of savior is a sign of low emotional intelligence.

This is 2025, let's all, together, strive for better social and emotional intelligence.

Am average Nigerian girl telling you about her problem,is indirectly asking you for help.. Except it doesn't require financial help,then you know that she is probably seeking for advice. I doubt if you are in Nigeria,or maybe you are in Nigeria and you read stories online only. I personally I praticalize and I don't just comment for likes..

I doubt you know the meaning of low self esteem..

My parent and siblings were there all through my growing up,we understand each other more than anyone else.

Now this other gender is coming from a different background,and I can't even make mistake of trusting them. (The kind of ladies we have everywhere in the country these days)

So wtf are we not saying..

Last year,I advised a nigga/frd who was going astray in handling his relationship with his "so called serious girlfriend"

He called me insecure and all of that. I smile and use the VDM phrase.. "you gon learn the hard way"

He is currently heart broken as we speak. He was telling me he will never take any girl serious again. I told him you don't have to be insecure

If you have not been there before, please don't assume.

There are good people out there, people that are genuine with what they discuss with you and all of that,BUT MAJORITY AREN'T JUST IT AT ALL..

Take a look at the CS ,see replies.. or do you think you know more than they do?

If this gets to fp,you will get to see more inputs. We no dey joke here madam

Myrepublic:
➜Am average Nigerian girl telling you about her problem,is indirectly asking you for help.. Except it doesn't require financial help,then you know that she is probably seeking for advice. I doubt if you are in Nigeria,or maybe you are in Nigeria and you read stories online only.
➜ I personally I praticalize and I don't just comment for likes.. I doubt you know the meaning of low self esteem.. My parent and siblings were there all through my growing up,we understand each other more than anyone else.

1. I agree up in that same Nigeria, and back then, we did not all generalize like you do here. I heard the story of the struggles of many a girl, and not a single one did I act as a savior to— I was mostly broke and didn't have money to throw around back then. So, when I speak, I also speak of Nigerian girls.

2. I happen to be very close to my mother to this day, I visit her often and end up spending weeks with her, but even she does not know of every one of my struggles.

I have talked extensively on here about how baring one's mind to a total stranger or even one removed from one's close circle is a good way to get needed release from stress and frustration. I practice that and I know how cathartic it is too. Do I do it because I need someone to solve the problem for me? No! Do I offer myself to be used by others similarly, regardless of gender? Absolutely! Do I assume those who use me in this manner are out to enter my pocket? No, I am not that neurotic. Do I think I am in some way obligated to save someone else from their suffering after the unburdening? I have no delusions that I may be some sort of savior to any person.

That means she trusts you

Myrepublic:
➜Now this other gender is coming from a different background,and I can't even make mistake of trusting them. (The kind of ladies we have everywhere in the country these days). So wtf are we not saying..
➜Last year,I advised a nigga/frd who was going astray in handling his relationship with his "so called serious girlfriend" He called me insecure and all of that. I smile and use the VDM phrase.. "you gon learn the hard way" He is currently heart broken as we speak. He was telling me he will never take any girl serious again. I told him you don't have to be insecure
➜ If you have not been there before, please don't assume. There are good people out there, people that are genuine with what they discuss with you and all of that,BUT MAJORITY AREN'T JUST IT AT ALL.. Take a look at the CS ,see replies.. or do you think you know more than they do? If this gets to fp,you will get to see more inputs. We no dey joke here madam

1. ugh! Your paranoid delusions against an entire gender are just yours alone... your paranoid delusions.

2. Your friend dated a girl whom he thought was serious, but they eventually broke up. So, what if he believed he was in a serious relationship with her? Don't people break up again? What is this rambling here for?

3. Currently, there are approximately 8 billion people on the planet today, 200 million of them live in Nigeria. Assuming you live to be 100 years of age, you will probably only get to meet, face to face, fewer than 500,000 of them— most people will meet way less than that. For you to insist that, after meeting only a handful thus far, you can rightly declare to have a good idea about most speaks volumes about the sort of delusion you are operating under.

But when guys tell them their problems it is "this guy just dey complain."
Please don't tell me your issues. Tell your dad and your brothers.

The guy you trust today can be the guy to thrust you tomorrow.

Karlifate:
The guy you trust today can be the guy to thrust you tomorrow.

and after he thrusts u, he trucks u out of his life

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense, do you, as a man, trust your own parents and siblings enough to tell them everything about you?
The major reason you lot think that way is probably because you suffer from low self-esteem yourselves. It is OK if a stranger — male or female— tells you stories of their struggles and even asks you for help in one way or another. It is equally OK for you to say, "No," if you don't have to give or if you don't wish to help them.

However, concluding that whenever a member of the opposite gender tells you of his/her troubles or struggles, that what is sort of even without it being asked is billing is a sign of low self-esteem. Also, thinking that the only way you could relate to that person in question would be to volunteer yourself as some sort of savior is a sign of low emotional intelligence.

This is 2025, let's all, together, strive for better social and emotional intelligence.

If you want me to engage you like a normal human being, don't start your comment with "Nonsense."

She needs something and she knows you have it.

Nijimog:
and after he thrusts u, he trucks u out of his life

Exactly!

Firebox123:
for billing

No be lie

Most women have daddy issues, positively or negatively. Stop talking to women like their friend or your too much rizz. Just talk to her like her father, caring but stern.

Xannadu:
➜If you want me to engage you like a normal human being, don't start your comment with "Nonsense."

Given your previous comment, I had no hopes of you engaging anything like a normal human being would.

okrikaboi:
➜Most women have daddy issues, positively or negatively. Stop talking to women like their friend or your too much rizz. Just talk to her like her father, caring but stern.

This is not a gender-based issue when it comes to Nigerians as a population. Most of the children raised in Nigerian homes end up with Daddy issues due to the way a lot of fathers are not present in the lives of their children during the developmental stages, primarily due to traditional influence. All these boys here jumping to silly conclusions equally have negative daddy issues... nothing positive about them.

obinna58:
Simps are better comforters to them

Yeah. That's why they get all the girls.

Mariangeles:
Yeah. That's why they get all the girls.

Yeah and couldn’t nail one

obinna58:
Yeah and couldn’t nail one

Trust me, they do. If you will be honest with yourself.

With patience and kindness, "simps" keep getting and keeping the girls, while the "hard guys" keep starting over.