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Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous.
All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.

Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

Kaczynski:
Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous.
All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.

Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

Marriage even go far, even staying with a woman long term fit bleed you mentally, physically, financially.


Begs to ask what really is their benefit!

Op what's your philosophy on marriage?

Once you marry a woman she starts seeing herself as the Lord of the house even without saying so because she believes she has gotten to her promised land.

She then starts acting out things you never dreamed of and if care is not taken you may go insane.

Kaczynski:
Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous.
All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.


Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

Oga na choice no body force you to marry or not. Some men see the best side of life after getting married. Some see the worst side of life after getting married. If na to complain you go cry tire because you still enter this marriage matter na just time.

Everyday247:
Op what's your philosophy on marriage?

marriage is simply not worth it , although you find love and companionship, after courting for a long time and planning to have kids, you can proceed to marriage. courting should be long as possible, no need to rush somebody you'll be with for a life time


a lot of people marry out of social pressure and society after marriage they born pikin like fowl without consideration of the kids they're bringing into existence

Kaczynski:
marriage is simply not worth it , although you find love and companionship, after courting for a long time and planning to have kids, you can proceed to marriage. courting should be long as possible, no need to rush somebody you'll be with for a life time

Exactly spot on!
People go dey do like say they are growing old.
Then come go give themselves punishment.

a lot of people marry out of social pressure and society after marriage they born pikin like fowl without consideration of the kids they're bringing into existence

This part cracked me up 😂🤣

Kaczynski:
➜Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous. All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
➜I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.
➜ Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

1. I think what people mean when they refer to love is marriage is a reference to the artificial enforcements you refer to in your next statement.

2. When it comes to raising kids, the more mature individuals involved in the process, the better.

3. Your girlfriend has the right to break up with you since you are both not headed in the right direction. You are being unfairly cruel to her by suggesting she remain your girlfriend when you are not at all compatible — she wants marriage, and you don't. If you truly loved her, as you pretend, you would want nothing but her happiness above all, not yours. Nothing you spew can cover this obvious fact. Let her go and find someone else who does not desire marriage to frolick with.

Kaczynski:
➜marriage is simply not worth it ,
➜although you find love and companionship, after courting for a long time and planning to have kids, you can proceed to marriage. courting should be long as possible, no need to rush somebody you'll be with for a life time
➜ a lot of people marry out of social pressure and society after marriage they born pikin like fowl without consideration of the kids they're bringing into existence

Bullsheet, given that the true worth of any idea is determined, not by those who forgo it out of fear or anxiety, but by those who embrace it and maybe even actually test it out for themselves. 🙄🙄

2. This is how you know people are just full of sheet! Earlier, you had said
⚉ Couples can't stay in love for the entirety of their lives
⚉ That only those in an artificially enforced arrangement— the stay in love part— remain in marriage after even the appealing period — the 5-year average, according to you — is over.

Given these claims of yours, what then does it matter whether one spends 1 minute or 3 years courting? Also, you think there is worth in marriage since you insist on this long courting period even though you already declared it of no real worth. Why not simply admit your commitment phobia instead of jumping around with these contradictory claims? 🙄🙄🙄

2. Unmarried individuals equally have kids like fowl all over the place. Are you now going to argue entirely against procreation? 🙄🙄🙄

Look, go deal with your psychological issues you seem to be having in your life due to relationship stress, and stop creating useless threads all over to further confuse already confused beings out there. 🙄🙄🙄

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Kobojunkie:
Bullsheet, given that the true worth of any idea is determined, not by those who forgo it out of fear or anxiety, but by those who embrace it and maybe even actually test it out for themselves. 🙄🙄

2. This is how you know people are just full of sheet! Earlier, you had said
⚉ Couples can't stay in love for the entirety of their lives
⚉ That only those in an artificially enforced arrangement— the stay in love part— remain in marriage after even the appealing period — the 5-year average, according to you — is over.

Given these claims of yours, what then does it matter whether one spends 1 minute or 3 years courting? Also, you think there is worth in marriage since you insist on this long courting period even though you already declared it of no real worth. Why not simply admit your commitment phobia instead of jumping around with these contradictory claims? 🙄🙄🙄

2. Unmarried individuals equally have kids like fowl all over the place. Are you now going to argue entirely against procreation? 🙄🙄🙄

Look, go deal with your psychological issues you seem to be having in your life due to relationship stress, and stop creating useless threads all over to further confuse already confused beings out there. 🙄🙄🙄

I recommend that you subscribe to and watch videos from the following YouTube links to help grow your mind in the meantime
https://www.youtube.com/@TEDEd
https://www.youtube.com/@theschooloflifetv
https://www.youtube.com/@Psych2go

i am an anti natalist . i advocate for not having kids. its better to have never being born than to have

Kobojunkie:
1. I think what people mean when they refer to love is marriage is a reference to the artificial enforcements you refer to in your next statement.

2. When it comes to raising kids, the more mature individuals involved in the process, the better.

3. Your girlfriend has the right to break up with you since you are both not headed in the right direction. You are being unfairly cruel to her by suggesting she remain your girlfriend when you are not at all compatible — she wants marriage, and you don't. If you truly loved her, as you pretend, you would want nothing but her happiness above all, not yours. Nothing you spew can cover this obvious fact. Let her go and find someone else who does not desire marriage to frolick with.

i hope you really find love
what do you mean mature??


is not it foolishiness satisfying someone when you are unhappy?

Kaczynski:
➜i hope you really find love
➜what do you mean mature??
➜is not it foolishiness satisfying someone when you are unhappy?

1. Here's a simple request. Define love!

2. Not your Nigerian idea of maturity, but rather those who are at least emotionally and socially intelligent enough to unselfishly cater to the needs of the children.

3. Ah, I see! So, is it OK for her to remain unhappy as long as you are happy? Is that how you go about defining this love you have for her...

Kaczynski:
➜i am an anti natalist . i advocate for not having kids. its better to have never being born than to have

It is OK if you are anti-natalist, but surely you see the sense in why not all humans need be that which you are otherwise, even you who have already been born — no undoing that fact—would have to unduly for in that case.

Kaczynski:
i am an anti natalist . i advocate for not having kids. its better to have never being born than to have

Nothing wey Adamu no go see for gate 🤕

Kobojunkie:
1. Here's a simple request. Define love!

2. Not your Nigerian idea of maturity, but rather those who are at least emotionally and socially intelligent enough to unselfishly cater to the needs of the children.

3. Ah, I see! So, is it OK for her to remain unhappy as long as you are happy? Is that how you go about defining this love you have for her...

love is when when you and partner joyfully partake in some hobby


how many nigerians are emotionally intelligent to cater for their children? 70% of nigerians are mentally inadequate and use numerous coping mechanisms to cope with it like alchol, s3x, money, religion


the happiness should be balanced, i will marry her but no need to rush after marriage is not a child's play

Kobojunkie:
It is OK if you are anti-natalist, but surely you see the sense in why not all humans need be that which you are otherwise, even you who have already been born — no undoing that fact—would have to unduly for in that case.

i prefer to never have been born than to have

Kobojunkie:
1. I think what people mean when they refer to love is marriage is a reference to the artificial enforcements you refer to in your next statement.

2. When it comes to raising kids, the more mature individuals involved in the process, the better.

3. Your girlfriend has the right to break up with you since you are both not headed in the right direction. You are being unfairly cruel to her by suggesting she remain your girlfriend when you are not at all compatible — she wants marriage, and you don't. I[b]f you truly loved her, as you pretend, you would want nothing but her happiness above all, not yours[/b]. Nothing you spew can cover this obvious fact. Let her go and find someone else who does not desire marriage to frolick with.

This is why no man should listen to a relationship advice from a woman, imagine the man has to be unhappy to show that he loved her according to most women why isn't the other way? Your guess is as good as mine. This delusional mindset is the main reason 80% of relationships and marriages are broken up by women.

GoodSpirit:
➜This is why no man should listen to a relationship advice from a woman,
➜ imagine the man has to be unhappy to show that he loved her according to most women why isn't the other way? Your guess is as good as mine.
➜ This delusional mindset is the main reason 80% of relationships and marriages are broken up by women.

What are you rambling on about? 🙄🙄🙄

OP and his girlfriend are incompatible, given that his idea of love is for the woman to exist in an unhappy state about him. In what universe does that seem to you like love— the dictionary meaning, at least? His relationship is propped up by the very same artificial enforcements—not dictionary love — force that OP himself claimed earlier is responsible for why marriages last.

3. The only delusion here is OP's belief that the artificial enforcements prolonging his current relationship are any better than or different from the artificial enforcements used by married folks in prolonging the life of their appeal-less marriages.

Kaczynski:
➜love is when when you and partner joyfully partake in some hobby
➜ how many nigerians are emotionally intelligent to cater for their children? 70% of nigerians are mentally inadequate and use numerous coping mechanisms to cope with it like alchol, s3x, money, religion
➜ the happiness should be balanced,
➜ i will marry her but no need to rush after marriage is not a child's play

Even prostitutes and gigolos do that regularly with their clients. Do we equally declare all of that as love?

2. I don't have a clue, since I have yet to meet many.

3. According to whose scale? Yours alone?

4. Moments ago, you declared you had no true desires for marriage. Now you claim you will marry her. Don't you see you are right at this moment in your development, the textbook example of men that women should not date? Why not leave that woman alone so she can find herself a man ready for marriage like her, while you focus on your very own emotional and social development, as clearly, you need that help for yourself.

Kaczynski:
Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous.
All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.

Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

Does antinatalist loves to see women...? Antinatalist should hate seeing the face or sight of girls/females... They should have deep hatred for girls or females...misogynist and antinatalist... You are now saying you wants to marry, that means you are not antinatalist...

Kaczynski:
Why are we lying to ourselves that two people can stay in love for the entirety of their lives? It's ridiculous.
All the stats support the reality that marriage, unless artificially enforced, just isn't appealing to people past like 5 years or so, on average.
I wonder if people are going to figure out how to raise kids without marriage and just see who they want to see. I think it'd be healthier in the long run.

Last week my gf threatened to break up with me because i don't have plans of marrying her even tho I love you , why do women like complicating matters

Senior man I've been trying hard to reach you. Abeg the least you can do is to hear me out I beg you. It is very important to me. Please...I'm losing my mind.

Tenrack:
Senior man I've been trying hard to reach you. Abeg the least you can do is to hear me out I beg you. It is very important to me. Please...I'm losing my mind.

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