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I am married with two kids. I had only 2 ex girlfriends all my life. I married at 33, a virgin. My immediate ex gave me tough time before accepting my love. The feeling I had for the girl was too strong that I was loosing my senses and it was affecting my productivity even at work. All my mind Centred on this girl. Anytime I made advances, she turned me down and always warns (though jokingly) that I don't know what I am bargaining for. For nearly a year, I chased this girl and finally she accepted and our relationship started. As I said, my senses seemed to hibernate and my life revolved around this girl. I bought her things I couldn't buy myself. Bought her a new mattress, paid her fees, sold my desktop and laptop to sponsor her to school, even gave her my own cooking pots and my wardrobe while I piled my clothes on my carpet.
Anything this girl needs, I went extra miles to get. I would break huge logs into firewood for her family and even wash clothes for her. Though she showed me love, I couldn't explain why I'd put my issues on hold just to please her.
While I was chasing this girl, my elder brother who knew he family well, warned me that her family have witchcraft issues to the extent that their community nearly evicted them and as such, I MUST leave the girl alone. Two other people warned me to leave the girl. Due to the love I had for this girl, I turned deaf ears to all these warnings.

I later on was retrenchment and being an introvert, the thing hit me bad. Things were hard, I don't feed well, and I was also studying for my B.ed on a part time basis in our state university. Eventually I got severely depressed and was admitted into a psychiatric hospital. For three months I was on admission. After this, a friend to my dad took me into his family from where I go for reviews. All these while, neither my girlfriend nor he relatives visited or called.

What surprised me was how the feeling I had for this girl suddenly vanished. I visibly saw how foolish I had been in the relationship. This became pronounced after my dad's friend who is a vibrant Reverend prayed for me one day and led me to christ.

I called off the relationship citing the seduction spree this girl took me through. It was the grace of God that prevented me from sleeping with her. She to my surprise did not resist my point and accepted the breakup easily. I later got into a relationship with my now wife whom I met at the Reverend s house and we married two years after.

My problem is that close to our wedding, I felt strong feelings for my ex. I nearly went back to her. After the wedding, I would dream of her and next thing is we'd have serious misunderstanding with my wife the next day. I have constantly find myself regret breaking up with the lady, yet I love my wife and kids and would NEVER go back to my ex. I just need this feeling off my mind. I don't know why I am still attached to her after I was the one that cut off from her and was very okay with my decision then.

Please help me with any useful piece of advice. The story is long though and much of it I cut off.

Thanks and I am happy to be a part of this wonderful family.

Christboy01:
➜What surprised me was how the feeling I had for this girl suddenly vanished. I visibly saw how foolish I had been in the relationship. This became pronounced after my dad's friend who is a vibrant Reverend prayed for me one day and led me to christ.
I called off the relationship citing the seduction spree this girl took me through. It was the grace of God that prevented me from sleeping with her. She to my surprise did not resist my point and accepted the breakup easily. I later got into a relationship with my now wife whom I met at the Reverend s house and we married two years after.
My problem is that close to our wedding, I felt strong feelings for my ex. I nearly went back to her. After the wedding, I would dream of her and next thing is we'd have serious misunderstanding with my wife the next day. I have constantly find myself regret breaking up with the lady, yet I love my wife and kids and would NEVER go back to my ex. I just need this feeling off my mind. I don't know why I am still attached to her after I was the one that cut off from her and was very okay with my decision then.
Please help me with any useful piece of advice. The story is long though and much of it I cut off. Thanks and I am happy to be a part of this wonderful family.

There was no spell or curse on you. You were obsessed with the gal, probably due to personal trauma or insecurity of yours. And she, knowing this, took advantage of your vulnerability to her benefit. She wasn't into but into what she could get from your clingy behavior.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYnBECqI__w?si=OHZfqncJ3-l8Ypd7
The gal is not to blame for your insecurities, trauma, or lack of emotional and social intelligence. She isn't a witch, nor is her family of witchcraft, and not to blame for those who think they can obsessively gain their attention or love.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7V6qP1GqFNo?si=MLuErCV5fgOLkJB-

Other videos to help you understand why you may be rehashing those ideas about your past include:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GScIO3KkpZ4?si=FSUjDqhQi60IYtXl
AND

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAsH_LXT9P0?si=YB1KWJq5NFpI4_IZ

Prayer is the key. Break any connection between your souls. Things like this are spiritually influenced.

Kobojunkie:
There was no spell or curse on you. You were obsessed with the gal, probably due to personal trauma or insecurity of yours. And she, knowing this, took advantage of your vulnerability to her benefit. She wasn't into but into what she could get from your clingy behavior.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYnBECqI__w?si=OHZfqncJ3-l8Ypd7
The gal is not to blame for your insecurities, trauma, or lack of emotional and social intelligence. She isn't a witch, nor is her family of witchcraft, and not to blame for those who think they can obsessively gain their attention or love.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7V6qP1GqFNo?si=MLuErCV5fgOLkJB-

I found these very helpful. Thanks a lot and remain blessed

Christboy01:
➜I found these very helpful. Thanks a lot and remain blessed

. If you need, go back to your mental health therapist to get counseling on the issue, until you are certain it has been completely dealt with.

We are, all of us, broken beings, and seeking help for that which we need resolved is nothing to be ashamed of. I recommend spending some time in your day watching some of the YouTube videos from the following channels:

➜ The School of Life
➜ Psych2go
➜ TED-Ed
➜ Kurzgesagt
➜ Good Enough Psychiatrist

They could help you with incite into the workings of your mind and ideas on how to move forward in letting go of your past hurts and even these obsessions.

Thank you sir

terrezo2002:
Prayer is the key. Break any connection between your souls. Things like this are spiritually influenced.

Thank you so much

Kobojunkie:
. If you need, go back to your mental health therapist to get counseling on the issue, until you are certain it has been completely dealt with.

We are, all of us, broken beings, and seeking help for that which we need resolved is nothing to be ashamed of. I recommend spending some time in your day watching some of the YouTube videos from the following channels:

➜ The School of Life
➜ Psych2go
➜ TED-Ed
➜ Kurzgesagt
➜ Good Enough Psychiatrist

They could help you with incite into the workings of your mind and ideas on how to move forward in letting go of your past hurts and even these obsessions.

Thanks a lot. I will do that.

Spell is under you