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Now that your family has supported it get a truck move her belongings inside asap

Na when she comot marriage she go Realize say nothing dey for street

Forget her and the birth prize, seen your child as the exchange for the birth prize. Believe me some men are out there deceiving her

For the sake of your child, don't leave. Let her decide it

alezzy13:
If only it were that simple, ie, knowing that person is the 'right' one from the beginning.

Nobody said it's simple...but there are 6 basic anchors...in any relationship before marriage decision...if you don't see it in him/her ....just disembark...its of no need...

1. Genuineness
2. Mutual respect
3. ***
4. ****
5. ****
6. ****

***...in my book...so I can't reveal all.

That a man is rich ...or a lady is endowed and beautiful is not enough reason to proceed with marriage...

You must check these basics 6 before you consider marriage... regardless of their physical attributes or pocket.

Ire oo

Why you go start wetin u no fit end

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

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Blitzking:
What job do you do?

Why does that matter? The 20m you hear don enter your eye abi?

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.
This paragraph is the genesis of ur marriage's nd most of marriages problem in Nigeria. Most of our single ladies nawadays double dated, or even into hook up b4 they marry .There is no way a woman that had many men in her life all of them satisfying her financial and sexual needs to able to remain patient in marriage except if her husband is very rich. I have said it several times that double dating and hook up is one of the the major problems of modern marriage.

You prepared watering pap and you are here complaining of it's water.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

You didn't marry your wife. That woman married you for her own selfish interest. She was never invested little wonder she always threatens to leave.

You obviously catered to her every need and she is now lazy and entitled. I'm sure she has never sacrificed anything for the marriage.

My advice is for you to let her go. Don't make the same mistake again. Ensure that your next wife loves you.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Get a divorce. It's not your fault. You're telling the identical story I went through. Get a divorce. The same, literally the same thing happened to me. Absolutely the same.
You have a child with her. How old is the child? How many years old?
Try to arrange with her for the child to live with you. She's the type of woman who isn't capable of taking care of a child. I know from personal experience. How old are you?
We will continue this conversation.

Kick her out of your house if no court marriage exist.
She is an ingrate and too entitled. Let her enter the street and see for herself there's nothing out there. Just vibes n insha'Allah.
By the time the playboys, diasporas (Chinedu china n Kelvin canada), Alhajis mess her up, she go come beg but too late.
Make your kids familiar with your family members too cos looks like the inevitable will happen

You paying all this bills in this Tinubu economy still feeding an ingrate? Mehn, you are a superman.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Right decision
She will regret it, they're so shallow minded.
Make it fast and concentrate on your child. Thank her and wish her well.
Life is too short to feeding an ungrateful adult in the name of I born for you.

Wakatumbit, you are hardworking man who deserves a hardworking woman with a good heart. Your wife is highly selfish and lazy.

Look I don't plan to get married cuz most of the good ladies are already married. The street is filled with problematic prostitutes parading theirselves as potential wife materials.

Nigga, you have two options.
1.) Manage your wife & have zero peace of mind.
2.) Divorce her and have a peace of mind.

Stop flaunting money to get women

thesicilian:
Why does that matter? The 20m you hear don enter your eye abi?

Not really just curious that a job that gives 20million naira should be able to still deliver except its not a job that gave the money but a one time hit

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

Your wife sounds like all these twitter losers that always claiming they will leave their men. You should try going through her social media posts to see for your self.

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

na you go marry woman wey need to buy hair when she no get cancer. I can never marry a girl that is so insecure about her natural appearance. it is a huge red flag! if she can not be satisfied with the hair she was born with, she will never be saisfied with anything in this life even if she go meet that rich man wey don dey seduce am.

advanceDNA:
.guy....na their way be that for you...
.they always over estimate their worth in a relationship, believing they are doing you a favour by being with you.....

All I see is......she's just playing with leverage that she doesn't even know how little she has

Her case even funny.....Person wey nor fit pay bills dey threaten who dey feed her with divorce!!

Oga....get lawyer make he draft you divorce document ....sign am..give am make she sign

One of the two will happen..
1)Dem nor born am well make she sign am..... Na cry she go cry....come add victim game join

2) pride will make her sign...u don free be that

Baba...no let any body rob u of ur peace ooo
be selfish and ruthless about your peace of mind

I swear e get one rich man wey don promise am heaven and earth in order to shine the congo. and the woman wey no get sense (because why buy artificial hair when you were born with hair) wan comot for the marriage

a woman will sacrifice her family for her selfish desires, a man will sacrifice his selfish desires for his family

thunder fire anyone wey claim gender equality, we are not the same

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

You bought a woman with money and now you're complaining bro⚠️

Yes... when you were buying her hair, she fell in love with your hands instead of yourself.

Women are like dogs, don't start what you can not finish with them. So stop complaining, continue to fund the lifestyle you started.

You ignored every red flag and jumped into marriage with a lazy unproductive woman so what do you expect??

Give a virtuous woman 500k for business and see wonders.

Now your money don finish your eyes don clear lol

This is the place marriages come to die! Not a single person advised to try to keep the family together. Nobody giving op solutions to correct her behaviour and his enabling behaviour. If op follows all these people, another one bites the dust! So many broken homes. So many single parents and abandoned children.

Double0h7:
This is the place marriages come to die! Not a single person advised to try to keep the family together. Nobody giving op solutions to correct her behaviour and his enabling behaviour. If op follows all these people, another one bites the dust! So many broken homes. So many single parents and abandoned children.

What advice should they give? To stay with an unproductive ingrate that can't manage a business of 3m, rob you of your peace of mind, and contribute nothing meaningful to your life.

thesicilian:
Why does that matter? The 20m you hear don enter your eye abi?

Hahahahahahaha!!

See sliding back tackle!!

Makaveli217:
What advice should they give? To stay with an unproductive ingrate that can't manage a business of 3m, rob you of your peace of mind, and contribute nothing meaningful to your life.

He's obviously enabled her bad behaviour. He could adjust his ways and lead his home instead of running away at the first sight of a problem. He has a child with her, that child shouldn't suffer for his father's choices. Men are always shouting about being leaders but when things become hard they run away from their children. Their marriage is still new, everyone goes through hardship in the beginning of their marriage, until they finally understand each other. He sounds weak af!

Double0h7:
This is the place marriages come to die! Not a single person advised to try to keep the family together. Nobody giving op solutions to correct her behaviour and his enabling behaviour. If op follows all these people, another one bites the dust! So many broken homes. So many single parents and abandoned children.

..but u ddnt even give him any advice how to keep living with a woman who doesn't want to live with him.? Yet u dey tackle others

Double0h7:
This is the place marriages come to die! Not a single person advised to try to keep the family together. Nobody giving op solutions to correct her behaviour and his enabling behaviour. If op follows all these people, another one bites the dust! So many broken homes. So many single parents and abandoned children.

Typical feminine rantings.

Instead of wailing & gnashing several molars & premolars, proffer solutions to the OP's predicament, wise sage!

Karlifate:
Typical feminine rantings.

Instead of wailing & gnashing several molars & premolars, proffer solutions to the OP's predicament, wise sage!

Don't hurt yourself now! Calm down.

Double0h7:
Don't hurt yourself now! Calm down.

As expected.


Sarcastic deflection is next in your manipulative arsenal, since your folly has been brought to full glare

Karlifate:
As expected.


Sarcastic deflection is next in your manipulative arsenal, since your folly has been brought to full glare

Ok. Well done!