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Mr. Man, you are playing with your life. This is the problem with you men, you see clearly that the person you are dating or married to does not love you, instead of you to take action and look for how to send her out, you stay there and complain and she disrespect you more and you work without enjoying the fruit of your labor.

My brother, before a woman will be so confident to do those things to you;

1. She is ill mannered - Not well brought up
2. She has mingled with bad friends or allow social media influence her
3. She has seen you finish, you have no boundary, you have put her on a pedestal, you have played mugu for a very long time, you reward her f**lishness with money, gifts and trips and now you can no longer bear it, and maybe you dont even look at another woman.
4. She is cheating on you.

But no matter what it is, Number 3 is the most destructive, and the truth is that you may not be able to recover from it, ever.

I will advise you, Start by ignoring her, if you live in your own house, move out and go rent your own space, reduce the home spending, stock the house with food, and start living apart, and henceforth, do not argue with her no matter what, whenever the family needs something, only provide what they can eat, cancel all holidays and trips, extra monies and all and face your life. If you are a very social person, go out more and have more s*x and avoid her. After sometimes, she will start begging and crying, dont bulge, later she will start insulting and calling you names, Don't Respond, keep your cool, and enjoy your life.

If your kids are old enough, get them phones for communication, visit them in their school etc, but dint have anything to do with your wicked wife. Avoid her and any Drama and i tell you, in no time you will be a far better person.

I tell you, when people think or know you care about them too much, most of the time, it dosent usually end well. You respect people as much as they respect and honor you, its a two way street. Never in your life honor those who do not honor you.

When a woman knows it looks like you cant do without her, she will definitely misbehave.

Your life and well being is as important as anybody, even your children. Dont kpai yourself trying to fend for anybody, worse come to worse, you divorce and go your seperate ways and in Nigeria, YOU DO NOT SHARE PROPERTIES, unless they contribute significantly to buy or maintain it, S*x and Cooking for husband is not part of it, so you no get wahala.

Best of luck to you as you break free from your boundage you call wife.

WriterX:
Remember sir, whether your marriage fails or goes through, you are the head and you are responsible for it.

Stop it, guy! This is not true and shouldn't be preached

Wakatumbit:
I've made some previous posts about how my wife threatens me with leaving our marriage everytime we have small issues (I didn't post it with this account).
She always threaten to leave anytime we have misunderstandings, not even only misunderstandings, even when we are having normal conversations and someone refers to maybe a bad marriage experience, she always says if it's her she will leave. I've spoken to her about it several times, I have even spoken to her family about the issue but it keeps repeating itself.

She has this kind of mentality that she can leave the marriage at any time I do something to her and she repeats it every time, the last one was during an outing when we had a misunderstanding, even before hearing my own side of the story, she said she already tired of the marriage and wants to leave, so I told her to go if she wants. The next morning, she came to wake me up and told me she doesn't want to do again that she wants to leave, she said she'll call her people and I should call my people. I said fine.

I told my family about it, and they supported me because a woman can't threaten me with marriage after one child.

Another thing my wife does is that she constantly compares me to other men, telling people I don't provide for my family, I don't take care of her, to the extent her friends are telling her that if a man doesn't provide for his woman, then he's pushing her out to meet other men.

In regards to the issue of providing, when we met, things were going very well, it was just the two of us and I had money at the time, I took her on vacation, booked flights for her, bought her hairs, a new phone and all. But now we have a child, added responsibilities, and money isn't as it used to be before but one thing I never do is to starve my family.

Last year I made close to 20m but I didn't see the money, not because I'm an extravagant spender but because of family expenses, I can't even explained what happened to the money aside the fact that I bought a car.

I opened a business for her with almost 3 million, the business crumbled, she doesn't want to do anything, she stays home all day just pressing phone. If I don't have any money at all she can't support me, she calls me for everything, even to as little as salt in the house.

She started comparing our marriage to when she was single, that she used to wear the lastest clothes and buy the lastest hair, and now she's married she doesn't get those things forgetting those where the thing I used to do for her when there was enough money.


This whole thing has made me tired of the marriage and I don't feel like continuing it any more, I've told her to call her people since she doesn't want to continue the marriage so they can return the bride price. I just want to focus on my life

I believe before marrying her u never see beyond maybe her beauty, elegance etc and u never discuss and ask important questions with her ... Was she working when u are dating, is she financially disciplined, what is her perspective to goal and means of achieving them ....
Men ask questions
Is better now to divorce and correct ur mistake when is still better not when u are totally financially down

hardass:
Are you married?

You are funny 🤡

Don't ask another question, just say what will I understand

Starboytwo:
Thank God I no get this kain problem.


Baba modupe 🙏🏾🙏🏾

🤣🤣🤣🤣You got me laughing. We thank God for the problems we don't have honestly.

Zocalite:
You are funny 🤡

Don't ask another question, just say what will I understand

If teacher no give someone like u example, u no go understand.

Do u think it's that easy to end a marriage when children are involved? You'll probably understand when u get married. .

Makaveli217:
First you don't attract or try to buy anyone with money, either male or female, because money comes and goes, and when they have no genuine love and interest in you and for you, your fate is as good as he's when your money runs low.
Guys are the one giving this girls such mentality, ego and useless pride, you see a girl you like, you can't talk to her, let her get to know you for who you are, and not what you have, you don't know her character and temperament, the first thing that comes into your mind it to start wasting money, buy her stuffs take her on dates, try to spoil her so she'll like you, then she sees a maga, and she'll fall in love with the money you throw around her(not you) even when you're wrong, she'll make peace, cause she can't loose your money(not you). Then you taught you've found an angel, you got married(she settled for you), after wedding, things change, you stopped spoiling her, where you work, your contract got terminated, money stopped flowing, or you are funding a project that's draining you, no more wigs, clothes and stuff, no more dates, that's when you'll know what you married.
If you want to know if your girlfriend or wife really cares about you, act broke for just a week, beg them for money, wail, and see what you've been dating and what you married.

"Well, look, all of that is accurate. However, in that case, no one would ever get married, and we would biologically disappear very quickly."

Double0h7:
So men are leaders only when it suits them?

Is the ship not his?

Why wouldn't he fix it when his seed is on board the ship?

An honourable captain goes down with his ship!

It is easier building another ship. This one is wrecked beyond repair. Goodnight.

She think say she hot, all those attention she thinks she’s getting outside once she divorce she go understand. Them go runnnn.. she go suffer ehn. Them go mold the the tots..

na u go marry liability... pele bro

ChybuzzDD:
Stop it, guy! This is not true and shouldn't be preached

Stop? What do you think your vows on the altar are for? Do you think the ideals of divorce and separation are something to be excited about?

If you have ever worked hard and sacrificed over any relationship then I believe you wouldnt say this.

You are responsible for your relationship, a man's house is his responsibility.

Makaveli217:
First you don't attract or try to buy anyone with money, either male or female, because money comes and goes, and when they have no genuine love and interest in you and for you, your fate is as good as he's when your money runs low.
Guys are the one giving this girls such mentality, ego and useless pride, you see a girl you like, you can't talk to her, let her get to know you for who you are, and not what you have, you don't know her character and temperament, the first thing that comes into your mind it to start wasting money, buy her stuffs take her on dates, try to spoil her so she'll like you, then she sees a maga, and she'll fall in love with the money you throw around her(not you) even when you're wrong, she'll make peace, cause she can't loose your money(not you). Then you taught you've found an angel, you got married(she settled for you), after wedding, things change, you stopped spoiling her, where you work, your contract got terminated, money stopped flowing, or you are funding a project that's draining you, no more wigs, clothes and stuff, no more dates, that's when you'll know what you married.
If you want to know if your girlfriend or wife really cares about you, act broke for just a week, beg them for money, wail, and see what you've been dating and what you married.

If e never happen to you, advice go full your mouth.

All of you writing epistles over what you have no idea about should continue. E go reach everybody

@op
I dey pity your wife in advance 😥😥 Street go do her wetin no good.

Osanoghodua1:
This is why we always advise you allow God confirm for you if she's your wife but you guys said it's old school. Manage the situation sir.

...but God confirmed Adam and Eve's marriage. How about that?

I dey pity your wife in advance 😥😥 Street go do her wetin no good.

I reject this in the name of Jesus, I cancel every tongue against me. Hallelujah.

..but God confirmed Adam and Eve's marriage. How about that?

The scripture didn't reveal that both had personal fight, what happened is that Adam was a baby in a full grown adult body. He was still in the school of discipleship when he absconded.

laivwire:
Chief, you are not alone in this issue. A lot of husbands are going through the exact same thing.

Stay at home wives who feel entitled and unappreciative. Who always boast that they are loyal and their contribution to the marriage are the kids. Who glamorize their spinster years as the golden era and say they believe they would be better off if they didn't marry their current husband.

Ultimately, you should put yourself first and give yourself peace. Do what you can for the family and leave the rest. Don't expect gratitude. The people they would slander you to know better so don't worry as long as you know you're doing you own bit.

Learn to enjoy your life with or without family as this is your golden age.

This is one of the best comments. I don't know of other people, but women in general complain about this from their men both men doing well or not. Many married men you see out there have similar challenges with their wives. What keeps the marriage going is that they leave it to time. When the woman wants to leave, she leaves. The men don't initiate divorce proceedings unless the woman leaves. It's up to the op to make his decision. But there are basically no reasonable women out there. One thing, they all talk too much and perhaps nag. You begin to see this character after marriage. Only that the level of talk differs. Second thing is that they all compare their husbands to other men. Don't allow all these stupid talk affect you if the woman is not cheating or leaving the house. That's the problem most men face today. Even when they look happily married. They are dieing in silent from abusive (verbal) wives and keep on going until the woman leaves. The choice is yours. It's married women that push their husbands to cheat on them. But principled men, decides not to cheat due to reasons best known to them or their relationship with God.

If your dog starts barking at you, then someone else is feeding it meat.

Double0h7:
So men are leaders only when it suits them?

Is the ship not his?

Why wouldn't he fix it when his seed is on board the ship?

An honourable captain goes down with his ship!

Whaaat 😂