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That last one is so true, women came into marriage with business mind. If they are acted friendly, it means you are still doing her selfish desires or needs.

allthingsgood:
Fastest way to kee yasef

It is better that way o.

They don't rest from demanding if they know you have money in your account. The best bet is to show them, while you hide the one you don't want to touch.

So you still believe in this gullible best friend stuff in marriage!
Lol!

Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

I used to take such crap written above seriously till I got married...!

No worry, marriage go clear una eyes.

I won't even be surprised that a lot such posts are made by people who have never stayed in marriage or gotten married.

I have been married long and happily enough to boldly and unabashedly tell you that there is no script or manual for a successful and blissful marriage... NONE!!!


You can do everything above and still suffer in marriage especially if you marry a demon! I'm speaking to both men and women equally here.


Op said your wife is not your friend... That summed up his ignorance and underscored his misogynistic thoughts about this sacred union.


Even the Bible says a man must leave his father and mother to cleave to his wife, and they shall be one flesh!

Who else can cleave to you like that if not your dearest and best friend?!!


Anyway... Don't worry! Get married first!

You're not answering the question...😒😒😒

Love800:
So you still believe in this gullible best friend stuff in marriage!
Lol!

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your account balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

After that they would be disappointed.

Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

Exactly!!! 💯

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


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*Don't ever be predictable.
* Hold your ground firmly, don't allow your woman manipulate you. They are professional in emotional blackmail , so shine your eyes !!!

Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

From a serpent mouth 🤔

Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

A Best friend is a best friend a wife is wife. Let there be limit to your conversations. Otherwise will you will talk too much and she will use it against you in a later day.

Honestly,I’d choose a kind partner all day ,and obviously it comes with a special feeling and love.

A man can be at his lowest and it takes an understanding and kind partner to be with you.

Marriage is not like relationship-We should always pray to find someone who will stay during the good and bad.

Unfortunately,this generation has lost it-Marriage is about interest not love.

What both parties can offer !

Angelfrost:
I used to take such crap written above seriously till I got married...!

No worry, marriage go clear una eyes.

I won't even be surprised that a lot such posts are made by people who have never stayed in marriage or gotten married.

I have been married long and happily enough to boldly and unabashedly tell you that there is no script or manual for a successful and blissful marriage... NONE!!!


You can do everything above and still suffer in marriage especially if you marry a demon! I'm speaking to both men and women equally here.


Op said your wife is not your friend... That summed up his ignorance and underscored his misogynistic thoughts about this sacred union.


Even the Bible says a man must leave his father and mother to cleave to his wife, and they shall be one flesh!

Who else can cleave to you like that if not your dearest and best friend?!!


Anyway... Don't worry! Get married first!

Seconded and thirded. It's tantamount to a priest giving marital counsel!

nedekid:
Oga don't show your woman your Acct balance period! Even if she is Mary magdaline, Mary or angel that drop from heaven.

!!! Bro, you guys will kill me with laughter. Well, I believe that's true.

EmperorIsaac:
Seconded and thirded. It's tantamount to a priest giving marital counsel!

Don't mind them... Everybody na Expert these days, thanks to social media.

His best friend is his mum. If they are in good terms though.

Samantha125:
You're not answering the question...😒😒😒

Then I'm sure he won't have issues with the woman also being best friends with either her own mother or father rather than him.

Love800:
His best friend is his mum. If they are in good terms though.

You're not making any sense...

7arrows:
A Best friend is a best friend a wife is wife. Let there be limit to your conversations. Otherwise will you will talk too much and she will use it against you in a later day.

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


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I subtract nos 7 and add it back as Ur best friend.

Your wife is not only Ur best friend, but Ur number 1 confidant.

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


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Men are required to love and provide.
The woman submits.

Rubyjade:
Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1. “A woman must love, a man must provide.”
False binary. Love and provision go both ways in a modern marriage. A woman can contribute. A man should show affection. Reducing relationships to transactions is why a lot of marriages feel like business contracts instead of emotional homes.

A man who only provides but doesn’t emotionally connect becomes a stranger in his own house.

And no — it’s not her job to chase you after marriage. If you stop pursuing your wife emotionally, someone else eventually might.

2. “You must always look like a god.”
Yes, personal hygiene and appearance matter — for both partners. But a healthy marriage allows space for comfort and vulnerability.
Looking good shouldn't be about fear of being left; it should be about self-respect and mutual attraction. If she’s only with you because of your beard oil and boxers, the problem is deeper than your look.

3. “You are the lord. Let her have a say, but have your way.”
Bro. That’s not strength — that’s domination disguised as leadership.

Real leadership listens.

Real men build with their wives, not over them.
Being decisive is good — being dismissive isn’t.

4. “She’s not a mind-reader.”
True. Communication matters. But it’s not just telling her what you want.
Try asking her what she needs, too. Love isn’t just about managing expectations — it’s about understanding and growing together.

5. “Women love conflict.”
No. They love connection. What looks like “random conflict” is often unmet needs or emotional disconnection.

Avoidance kills intimacy.

Mature couples face tough conversations together.
If you treat conflict as drama instead of dialogue, you’re missing the deeper issue.

6. “Prepare for the rainy day; never let your wife be the breadwinner.”
Prepare? YES.
Fear her success? NO.
If your masculinity collapses when your wife earns more, the issue is insecurity, not identity.

Strong men celebrate their partner’s wins.

Marriage is not a competition — it’s coverage. Some seasons you’ll earn more. Other seasons, she might. That’s life.

7. “She’s not your best friend.”
Why not?
If you can’t laugh, vent, dream, or be your full self with your wife — who are you even married to?
Friendship is the foundation of lasting love. You don’t lose your masculinity by being emotionally close — you lose it by being emotionally unavailable.

✨ FINAL WORD:
Real men lead, but they don’t lord.
They provide, but they also protect emotionally.
They pursue wisdom, not ego.
And they build with their wives, not just expect to be served by them.

We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

Meerahbel, the girl who uses ChatGPT to cook, eat and defecate.

Edoreborn:
1 & 2 crashed my marriage..I was so good looking then that she was d one that even initiated d romance.. When i finally secured her,,i loose guard..my fitness gone when i started taking all sorts of drinks including ogogoro..lost my physique...Was tall,,dark n very handsome..That people complemented.. i noticed she doesn't introduce me to her friends like before again..To cut d story short,,she called me say she no dey do again oo from another state..

Two of una nor born for each other..?? She wey dey dump you for changes, did she remain like Jenifer lopez....??

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your account balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

This is like asking people to let you sign your death warrant.

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your account balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

She fit knw my ballance nd hw much I make but u spend on wats important nd av a budget.. iyen normal

Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

Don't mind these copy and paste ppl

swears, even our mama

Hezzyluv:
Letting her know your account balance. Most women will not rest till they see THE END.

allthingsgood:
When it comes to Marriage, it’s common for men (and pretty much everyone) to mess up at some point. Whether it’s a lack of communication or a lapse in judgment, navigating a relationship requires a certain level of self-awareness. Here are some prevalent mistakes men make in marriage:

1. It is a woman's duty to love, it is a man's duty to provide
A man who continuously shows affection, without anything concrete is just sitting on time bomb and wasting his time. If she is not already cheating, she will eventually leave u in frustration. Women are complex, they are to be chased before marriage. After marriage, allow her to do the chasing. Focus on providing and protecting, that is your job as a man.

2. Letting your appearance suffer
When you first started dating her, you were probably extremely aware of how you looked, smelled, and presented yourself. But now? You walk around donning your dirty boxers upandan. Okay na, she will soon get tired and leave. A woman needs to see her husband as her god. So dont get too comfortable, or she will disconnect from you.

3. Take charge
You are the lord. Allow your wife to have her say, but you must have your way. She will secretly love you even more. No woman likes an indecisive man. Be a problem solver, not weak slub.

4. Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader
Bros, women arent prophets or psychics. Sometimes even if she has an idea what you mean, she just needs to hear the words. Dont just send money to your wife without giving specific instructions/information. You will have done nothing! Tell her exactly what you mean and what you want.

5. Avoiding conflict like the plague
We get it, no one likes fighting. It’s stressful and just all around not a good time. But conflict is pretty much a given in any relationship, besides it’s how you handle it that matters. So if you find yourself leaving whenever an argument starts to brew or just nodding to appease your partner, you’re being avoidant. Your partner wants to know how you feel and you should want to know how they feel, too! Also sometimes, women like conflict for no apparent reason, they can be that ridiculous. But its there way of seeking attention.

6. Prepare for the rainy day
Dont count on your wife to rescue you when things go bad, especially financially. You may be lucky that she does, but dont count on it. The only person who will probably accept you no matter what is your mother, so treat her well. You wife will begin to show signs when things get tough, and may eventually dump you. The biggest disaster is allow a woman become your breadwinner. My brother you are done for!

7. Your wife is not your best friend
Bro get it together. She is your wife and partner, not your best friend. Forget mumu woke generation


Add yours

just give your wife enough money, lobatan

Rubyjade:
Bro… relax. You're acting like you showed her your bank app and she morphed into Thanos.

1. Not Every Woman is a Villain in a Netflix Drama
Not every woman is sitting there, rubbing her hands together like, “Once I see that last zero… he’s finished.”
Some just want to know if you can split dinner or afford to fix that one squeaky door in your apartment.

2. Financial Disclosure Isn't a Horror Film
You’re acting like telling her your balance is like summoning a demon.
It’s not an exorcism, it’s adulting. If you're dating someone seriously, finances will come up. Eventually, she’s gonna notice that your “savings plan” is just a jar labeled “DO NOT TOUCH (unless emergency snacks).”

3. Plot Twist: A Lot of Women Are Balling
2025 called—they said many women are earning their own bags and don’t need yours.
In fact, some of them are looking at your account balance like:

“You know what? We’ll build… together.”
Or worse: “Sir, please leave the table. We don’t split bills under $10.”

4. You Might Just Have Trust Issues, Not Riches
If your account has $1,287.43 and you're guarding it like it’s Fort Knox, maybe it's not women you don’t trust—it’s math.
Let’s not act like every woman’s a gold digger when there’s not enough gold to dig.

5. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe
If you're always checking if someone’s after your wallet, you might miss someone who was after your heart.
Try attracting people who vibe with your energy—not just your income bracket. Because guess what? If she’s a real one, she’ll roll with you whether you’re ballin’… or budgeting.

In conclusion
Tell her your balance if you want. If she runs—she did you a favor. If she stays—you might’ve just found your MVP. Either way, the right one isn’t looking for the end of your account… she’s looking to build with you.

Now go fix your online banking password. Not because of her—because you probably forgot it again.

Why use AI without declaring it, in a normal conversation? The world is heading to a really strange place...people don't trust their own brains anymore.

Every marriage has its own spices. Don't nobody give us a 4kin guide. Ain't need no sh1t.

Samantha125:
If the wife is not his best friend, then who's his best friend?

His Best Friend