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kushme:
Hmmm. Alaye, i had thoughts going through my mind after reading your comment, then i remembered the preacher's words.
Now, if my age is Ok, finance not Ok, Status(mostly attached to financial resources) is not Ok. Based on these 3(three) parameters. One scored 1/3.(Not a pass mark to marry),cos, half of it is 1.5.
Now, the pursue of happiness is never ending, it is natural and one of our problems as human. Mr A will work days just to unwind at the end of the week, while Mr B looks forward to hurting their next victim, society would condemn the Mr B, but as individuals, both Mr A and Mr B find happiness(pleasure) in their pursuit.

Politicians steal government funds to help themselves and their loved ones live large both home and overseas, thats happiness to them. Wicked men give good gifts to their children, and venom to others. Happiness vs Unhappiness.

Typically, speaking from what i have seen, several times. A man with a gov' appointment started stealing in order to make his growing family happy. The stealing ways of the appointed man would now affect and make a lot of families unhappy.
Can people be compatible or coorperate for that long if they don't have the same interests? I doubt. You want to talk about sci-fi and Yamal of Barca while she wants to talk about Verydarkman and latest celebrity weddings, marriage and divorce.
I hope she gets the piece of your mind for you guys to live peacefully.

I believe that one can find happiness, companion and peace of mind in a partner. We struggle with these three virtues daily from external to internal forces. So, finding one person to give you all three is an angel.

Jesus Christ who they worship didn't marry...some humans have low IQ and most are bitter from their unhappy miserable lives, ignore and avoid them.

Marriage is sweeeet o. But, if you don't have MONEY, emotional intelligence pls don't try it. If you're within marriage age and you have the above mentioned pls go and marry sharperly, cos you might live to regret if you procrastinate.

tanigororo:
I am 40, I have stable income, I am okay.
If you pressure me I pressure you back!!!

Na so una go talk till you realize your mistake com marry at 55years old. Your first pikin go dey 10 years and you go be 70 years. Go and marry now!!

Nobody can pressure me into disaster.

Oyindidi:
Na so una go talk till you realize your mistake com marry at 55years old. Your first pikin go dey 10 years and you go be 70 years. Go and marry now!!

Your mates are dead, some died as kids didn't live to grow old, some marry and divorce, some have kids out of wedlock couldn't stay with the woman. Focus on your small life or try to contribute to it, stop pokenosing into uneccesaries, do something better, there are a million things to talk and be worried about not an unmarried fellow. Jesus Christ who you people worship, John the Baptist all didn't marry yet you people worship them, because they are great men in history, not because of woman or marriage. Try to be something in life not a mediocre gossip head. I know several people who come to beg me crumbs as married men, you people just increase the population with children with no value, just like the almajiris and northern governors doing mass weddings in a region of poverty, this senseless marriages and procreation is also a challenge to our economy, creating liabilities everywhere.

Have you ever seen anyone who was noted as great just because he married?

GoodSpirit:


Imagine someone who can't feed his family advising someone that rakes in 7 digits monthly to get married .

Go marry

If you marry out of pressure get ready for divorce.

That is why there is high rate of divorce in our society.

Why is it always frustrated persons with low self esteem that always barge on marriage and relationships.

People are married and living happily, there are those who dont want it, but you dont hear them crying online and projecting their misery on others.

Go and fix your live, your inability to bet laid may be God's way of saving the universe.

mastermaestro:
Early marriage is not bad. But marry when you have the income, the shelter, the mental stability and the income.

Marriage is sweet when you get the choice right, and when your finances are good.

The last statement 🎯

dederocs:
Jesus Christ who they worship didn't marry...some humans have low IQ and most are bitter from their unhappy miserable lives, ignore and avoid them.

They would say Jesus Christ was on a mission, so no need for a wife. Most would say, you become old and lonely. No one can predict how the future bond of a family can be. Kids abandon parents at old age, siblings even abandon each other. It hits hard cos these parents have prepared and fantacized how lovely a full house with care for them would make life easier at old age. We feel dissapointed when we expect too much.

Don't forget, people would always hangout with people of like minds. So, whether married or not, people with reasonable IQ know very well to avoid miserable people with low IQ. Misery loves company. I am not ruling out the reality of miserable people with high IQ. Most low low iq folks have crowd/herd mentality. They don't think, they just follow like zombies.

HOSTCOM:
Marriage is sweeeet o. But, if you don't have MONEY, emotional intelligence pls don't try it. If you're within marriage age and you have the above mentioned pls go and marry sharperly, cos you might live to regret if you procrastinate.

I don't get it. They say money answereth all. If marriage can be sweeet, but with money, is life without marriage not sweet with money? People live to regret many things, not just getting married sharply and early due to available resources and emotional intelligence. People even regret the opposite(marrying).

gtassure:
You are giving bad advice to "40" year old man! Biologically he will have issues with offspring, half old age start at 50! Do you suppose motal humans will live forever?

Would you prefer I told him to commit suicide or grab the next available female and forcefully engage her?
Life is fickle and every decision leads us to a new path. One day maybe we will find a way to enjoy life without societal pressure.
Lastly i find it amusing that adoption is not considered as an option in this part of the world

Bros no b empty hand to step up hustle na, e no easy especially for person wen no get helper

Anguldi:
God Abeg 🙏. Step up your hustle 👌💯

kushme:
They would say Jesus Christ was on a mission, so no need for a wife. Most would say, you become old and lonely. No one can predict how the future bond of a family can be. Kids abandon parents at old age, siblings even abandon each other. It hits hard cos these parents have prepared and fantacized how lovely a full house with care for them would make life easier at old age. We feel dissapointed when we expect too much.

Don't forget, people would always hangout with people of like minds. So, whether married or not, people with reasonable IQ know very well to avoid miserable people with low IQ. Misery loves company. I am not ruling out the reality of miserable people with high IQ. Most low low iq folks have crowd/herd mentality. They don't think, they just follow like zombies.

How many of them secure their kids future?

All the area boys, criminals, touts, beggars, almajiris are people's children, they are just producing future liabilities and problems for the nation with so many poor kids...it is people with low IQ that mock others for this, great men are known by their inventions and contributions, it is dumb heads with their myopic view that think marriage or kids is an achievement, when even almajiris and mad men have wives and kids, even animals procreate.

Avoid and ignore such people.

dederocs:
How many of them secure their kids future?

All the area boys, criminals, touts, beggars, almajiris are people's children, they are just producing future liabilities and problems for the nation with so many poor kids...it is people with low IQ that mock others for this, great men are known by their inventions and contributions, it is dumb heads with their myopic view that think marriage or kids is an achievement, when even almajiris and mad men have wives and kids, even animals procreate.

Avoid and ignore such people.

True Story.👍

"Come, take 2 million dollars, oya go and marry"

Now you are talking.



.....If not, get the fck outa here mehn

BiGVEEN58:
People enjoy marriage?? Are you joking?

I'm happily married and I've enjoyed mine and wished I did it earlier

In terms of growth and business, my singlehood was nowhere near where I am today after marriage. This is my story and my truth

franchasng:
Lol, according to Maslow's original law of hierarchy of needs, there are five sets of basic needs: physiological, safety, love, esteem and self-actualization. These needs are related to each other in a hierarchy of prepotency (or strength) beginning with the physiological needs that are the most prepotent of all.


Marriage is part of man's needs, the need becomes more pressing when a man attains financial stability.



So op, people telling you to go and marry are not doing any bad.


I wonder how a man would derive complete fulfillment at 40yrs, financially buoyant and no family of his own; no wife or kids. It's going to be a very sad, boring, disorganized and messy life

If I have uninterrupted electricity, unlimited data, and the latest Playstation console, tell me why my life will be boring.

Me wey no get power to be yelling at children

BiGVEEN58:
It's very rare for a random Nigerian to see something good and advice you towards it. Lol. They tell you go and marry because they want the suffering from their miscalculated move to go round. Married people will never tell you the truth about what's going on in their lives or genuinely advice you about marriage. They want you to enter that trap also.


MISERY LOVES COMPANY.

If you even check well, 95% of those saying "go and marry" are poor men who can't even provide 3 square meals for their families

Annahh:
You sef go and marry, what are you waiting for...

It's not usually said to women cause a man might not approach a woman which might be the reason for delay but a man in his 40s not married is a RED flag....

Women.... Marriage favours you and your kind.


I understand

Subhanallah....hope your village people never promise say you no go get pikin like this....At 40....No....Early to bed...Early to Rise....[/quote]

InvertedHammer:
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There is time in life for everything. Even gestation has its period. If after 9 months there is no delivery, people get worried. If a child is born earlier than 8 months, it calls for concern as well. At 2, a child is supposed to have crawled and then walked. At 24, one should have graduated from college or learned a trade skill. There is also a retirement age. We may pretend but life has its cycle: Silver, golden age, you name it. Can we redefine life because we want it to selfishly fit into our loser lifestyles? Of course! Your life, your prerogative.

If you are 40 and single, there is no more vivid way to define a COLOSSAL failure. You are a loser! The person's conscience tells him/her. No pretense necessary. Must everyone get married? No! But those who don't or can't shouldn't try to convince others that it is normal. Isn't that what trans is all about? Forcing others to believe that alternative lifestyle is normal.

Go and marry!!!

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Choose one:

A 40yr old single man who can feed himself and loved ones.

Or a 40yr old married man who cannot feed his family

Your answer will determine whether you know what a COLLOSAL failure is

Uchesis:
Women.... Marriage favours you and your kind.


I understand

You guys never admit marriage favours you, it only favours the woman.. akuko.

Annahh:
You guys never admit marriage favours you, it only favours the woman.. akuko.

Tell me how it favours us men.

I have a friend who has never bought a new shoe since he started having children

Saviola86:
Sorry. For me all through 5yrs she spent in school I used that period to build my finances.

Same here bought 2 lands though I end up selling one so I could gather money for the rite only for the girl to disappoint me

Uchesis:
Tell me how it favours us men.

I have a friend who has never bought a new shoe since he started having children

"his children" your friend need to increase his income

dederocs:
Your mates are dead, some died as kids didn't live to grow old, some marry and divorce, some have kids out of wedlock couldn't stay with the woman. Focus on your small life or try to contribute to it, stop pokenosing into uneccesaries, do something better, there are a million things to talk and be worried about not an unmarried fellow. Jesus Christ who you people worship, John the Baptist all didn't marry yet you people worship them, because they are great men in history, not because of woman or marriage. Try to be something in life not a mediocre gossip head. I know several people who come to beg me crumbs as married men, you people just increase the population with children with no value, just like the almajiris and northern governors doing mass weddings in a region of poverty, this senseless marriages and procreation is also a challenge to our economy, creating liabilities everywhere.

Have you ever seen anyone who was noted as great just because he married?

You have said it all brother.. How is any married person without any sense of purpose or valuable contribution to the society apart from procreating and adding to the population of the world different from lower animals?

It is the last paragraph for me!

I am still waiting to see the list of great personalities from time immemorial in any part of the world who were never forgotten just because they got married. What a very silly mentality!

franchasng:
Lol, according to Maslow's original law of hierarchy of needs, there are five sets of basic needs: physiological, safety, love, esteem and self-actualization. These needs are related to each other in a hierarchy of prepotency (or strength) beginning with the physiological needs that are the most prepotent of all.


Marriage is part of man's needs, the need becomes more pressing when a man attains financial stability.



So op, people telling you to go and marry are not doing any bad.


I wonder how a man would derive complete fulfillment at 40yrs, financially buoyant and no family of his own; no wife or kids. It's going to be a very sad, boring, disorganized and messy life

Where did Maslow state that marriage is part of mans need? ITK.

The earlier people like you learn that everyone is different, the better for you.

Stop seeing everyone through the same lenses .

femi4:
Wrong

It's about taking responsibility and being responsible in the society.

Why do you think landlords n some country's visa give priority to a family man

So wen one gets married the person automatically becomes responsible. Nice one

HOSTCOM:
Marriage is sweeeet o. But, if you don't have MONEY, emotional intelligence pls don't try it. If you're within marriage age and you have the above mentioned pls go and marry sharperly, cos you might live to regret if you procrastinate.

In essence, Marriage + Money + Emotional Intelligence is sweet and we all know the same applies with being single. Without those conditions, life is hell and deeper hell if married.

We are just blowing grammar, what is important is productivity and being successful at it i.e. making money and building Intelligence through continuous
learning and development.

austynbch:
So wen one gets married the person automatically becomes responsible. Nice one

Let them keep deceiving themselves as if all of us don't have hundreds of married people around us within families, neighbourhood, churches, mosques, workplaces, alumni associations etc

We always hear marriage is sweet until they separate or divorce then you start hearing "you can never understand the hell I went through in the past 12 years!". But aunty/uncle your social media was constantly filled with beautiful family moments now, hell ke?

Use your head and understand your personal situation before making any decision including marriage.

As I'm writing some wives are getting knacked by landlord, yahoo boy, neighbor, high school mate, pastor, or even in-law and some husbands are regular short term hotel customers with anything in skirt. They are all happily married as every problem get solution