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Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Lanmonfishery:
Please dey try dey read well abeg, I never said anything about chasing unskilled woman na
Read bro, nawa for u o bro

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

GoodSpirit:
You are the one who doesn't know how to write, you insinuated this in your write up. Next time exude clarity when you churn out intellectual thought.

occfx:
If you are not earning at least 20k a day, hold on ooo

Juliearth:
Go on with your plans, but do a lowkey ceremony. Let your inlaws be considerate with the list. Satisfy all traditional rites and proceed to do a court weeding. The traditional wedding should be a parlour event with only those who matter in attendance. After that opt for court wedding instead of church wedding.

Love800:
Is it by force you must do traditional or court wedding!
Just see her parents. And later after 10yrs, both of you can wed!

yomi007k:
Answer these questions;

1.What if your family and friends don't add up the money to 2 M, what will you do?

2. After marriage where will the new couple live? How much is rent and furniture?

3.Is your lady working? After marriage, how much do you and your spouse set as your joint monthly income and expenses?

ibechris:
If u don't have regular income pls,avoid marriage ooh.

Don't marry a lady that isn't working,or have no skill.

Na beg I dey beg u oooh.

GoodSpirit:
Sh didn't tell him when to get married but gave him caution on his ife journey which is good. A lit of dudes have made decisions solely on emotions instead putting everything on the table including critical thinking skills.

Fxwarrior:
You didn't care to ask if they are Catholics.
Better to do Church blessing now with less than #250k than to wait for 10 years.

No serious Pentecostal church will allow that.

Olamideayomide:
See ehn
Responsibilities or no responsibility life cannot be rossy all the time, there will be a time that you won't be able to take the responsibilities at all but if the love is there the woman will cover up the lapses without complaining till you regain your strength back. That's because she loves you.
Why did you think some woman complains or leave their husband whenever he has a financial or any problem in the marriage?
Love is the Koko Sir/ma.
Ire o

Fxwarrior:
Op can opt for western style of marriage with few in attendance more like church blessing. Low budget. He still gets to have his marriage certificate.

Just refreshment after wedding in takeaway packs for the few gathered. No need for reception.

Love800:
Is it by force you must do traditional or court wedding!
Just see her parents. And later after 10yrs, both of you can wed!

Juliearth:
Unless you want to be a semi in-law, it's best to do the traditional wedding. The court wedding is also necessary as it provides a legality to the union
Why wait for 10 years when you can have something simple now?

Love800:
What makes her to stay with you during time of trials is your principles. She has already seen your abilities and know you will eventually win at the end. So without doubt, she will carry out the necessary tasks till you recover. Bros, dem nor dey chop love oh. Na your activeness and vision be the koko!

Ire o

Olamideayomide:
If the love is not there brr
No woman will wait till you come out of the storm o.
Money and love work together in marriage.
Everyone has to play their role when it's their time.
Ire o.
Please will advise you marry someone that loves you and if you have married make sure that your wife loves you dearly o

Love800:
It does not concern the church. Its between you and your woman to decide!

Joshchi19:
Do you earn 20k a day ?

Juliearth:
Unless you want to be a semi in-law, it's best to do the traditional wedding. The court wedding is also necessary as it provides a legality to the union
Why wait for 10 years when you can have something simple now?

occfx:
Na elderly advice I dey give you like this, it could get worse before 2027.

Some people even spends more than 50k every day.

Any family of 5, living in the city and somehow average comfortable spends at least 50k every day in that house.

Anguldi:
Do you mean traditional wedding is illegal?

Fxwarrior:
Wow! That's another one. Marriage doesn't concern the church?
Really?

The way you do it depends on those involved.
You can't tell me a church like Redeemed,Winners or Deeper life that even reject those that are pregnant from wedding will now do it 10 years later.