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Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

HawkTuahGirl:
Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

Helpout12345:
That was how one was telling me she was with me when I was living in a self contained apartment. The way I washed her d0wn eh, she never tried that rubbish with me again.

This was a lady that was homeless, pulling up with friends, was working a 10k naira monthly salary job, dating a market errand boy when I met her.

Me on the other hand had finished all my suffering. I had been working with number 1 oil company in the world for 6 months earning more than a university professor then, have travelled 2 times to Europe, I bought my first car same month I met her. The so called self contained was a first class apartment.

Sonnobax15:

Erigga the nightmare of an average Nigerian banny

Blitzking:
To some women dey think all men flashing things are willing to go all out lifetime commitment dey very different from 1month to 4yrs love bombing with goodies..d day the goodies stop your skin go tell sharp ppl go ask you aunty shey u sick?

illicit:
My babe doesn't buy Garri but she is my sugar, I am her water...

😯

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

HawkTuahGirl:
Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

nairalanda1:
That isn't always the case.

tunnyl:
What she meant was, “When so many peoples left you when you were drinking Garri i was there with you”

“When you were drinking Garri I could have gone to date other men and left you but i stayed, not to buy the Garri o but to watch you drink the garri and maybe drink out of it too.”

Women too get sense!

HawkTuahGirl:
I said most... If you are married you will understand...

Formularcr7:
My babe encouraged me to drink the garri , the thought of drinking it almost weighed me down.

HawkTuahGirl:
Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

StUriah:
Or better options are willing to make any serious commitment. Better options are only there to nack.

chinchum:
haha. Possibly even cheating and keeping a side nigga in the name of " i was with him"