₦airaland Forum

nairalanda1:
You should stop hating women, young padwan.

HawkTuahGirl:
I don't hate women, just tolerating them, because somehow no man can do without a woman.

But don't loose guard.

HawkTuahGirl:
Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

illicit:
My babe doesn't buy Garri but she is my sugar, I am her water...

😯

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

illicit:
My babe doesn't buy Garri but she is my sugar, I am her water...

😯

Sonnobax15:

Erigga the nightmare of an average Nigerian banny

HawkTuahGirl:
Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

DixseenMktPlace:
You have a point ❤️
Personally I’m not comfortable with my woman bringing what we shall eat or drink to the table.

Na knacks I marry you for, if children come during the knacks it’s fine but no disappoint for the knacks wey I marry you for.

HawkTuahGirl:
Most Nigeria women struggle with you because they don't have better options.

Sonnobax15:

Erigga the nightmare of an average Nigerian banny

DarkJeddi:
She didn't have a better option.
Women knows where their bread is most buttered.
She ain't with him because of love she was there because that's her best long-term option.

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

tunnyl:
What she meant was, “When so many peoples left you when you were drinking Garri i was there with you”

“When you were drinking Garri I could have gone to date other men and left you but i stayed, not to buy the Garri o but to watch you drink the garri and maybe drink out of it too.”

Women too get sense!

JayEdm:
I did all the above...was loyal,gave money,advice, everything I had. Would even share money people dashed me with him. I was so open. Helped him apply for jobs,talked to pple on his behalf,prayed for him etc...what did I get after he started seeing small cash (which is still as a result of my effort o). He said and I quote " I never forced you to help me". This life ,never help an ingrate who is also e titled.

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

dkidd:
At all... If ur eyes are truly open U will see the real reason and motive behind her staying there. She was definitely gaining a lot but U probably didn't know what it was.

Most women are users and will use U even when U are at Ur lowest and some of us men think they're being loyal staying when no one else was available lol baba check am well the real reason for her staying isn't to ur benefit but hers