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Uchesis:
Choose one:

A 40yr old single man who can feed himself and loved ones.

Or a 40yr old married man who cannot feed his family

Your answer will determine whether you know what a COLLOSAL failure is

lagonovo:
A failure is a man who cannot provide for himself and a colossal failure is a married man who cannot provide for his immediate family.

However, wisdom dictates that you remove that word "failure" from your mouth with positive mindset. Success is a journey, not a destination.

I pray life does not suddenly give you a brain-resetting reality check with all those age-based landmarks of yours .A popular FM radio personality in the 90s had everything going well for him with all your success checkmark ticked until an accident took all his three wonderful children the same day. He never recovered, life was perfect until that moment. A former president, Shehu Shagari lost 4 children the same day and never recovered. These examples are to encourage moderation in our views. Let us seek wisdom to guide our mindset.

ibechris:
This topic is between some of us that agreed and those who are likely to disagree.

The truth is this,if u have money and had the opportunity to have married like 5yrs ago when u were 35 and u didn't marry,as soon as u clock 40 and got married u will know within u,that u have messed up considering retirement and the lost yrs.


And to those who have decided not to marry,it is also a good decision. Reason is, every decision has its consequence and such is life.

Everyone should enjoy.

For me,I will advice that if u don't have money,pls don't marry.

Marriage can kill u before ur time...the cost of running a family is crazy under this current president.

I used to advice men to marry in their 30s but not anymore.

Pls,avoid it if u can.

SeriouslySense:
After the marriage, the next thing is where are the children

After the children the next thing is Japa probably. or where is the house you have built

Mekuseh11:
That is life... it aint fair and perfect

Its left for people to learn and adapt.

Women relationship shelf life is perishable in fulfilling their reproductive proclivity that is hard wired in every human being, that is reality.

From 35y/o above they become susceptible of geratic pregnancy, so their best fertile years is in their 20s.

The woke virus mindset has told people espercially women to not see marriage as an achievement to live their life and chase career over being a loyal wife and mother.

But in the west women who are above 35y/o, unmarried and childless are the highest consumption of SSRIs/antidepressant medication, from tracking their purchase.

This trend is creeping gradually into our African society.

My stand is our boilogical hard wiring by God aligns with the standards traditional societies of every civilization since time immemorial has created.

Yes, its not a straight line, life wont be fair to everybody but these are the foundational standards rooted in our natural boilogical proclivities.

InvertedHammer:
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You are busy chaining your mind to tragedies.
What happened to the millions that didn't lose all their families in one day? Such never cross your mind.

One thing losers are very successful at is inventing excuses. Life do throw curve balls but that's not a reason to be stuck. Do you stop traveling and lock yourself up at home because accidents happen? Do you stop eating because people choke and die at lunch?

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InvertedHammer:
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Both are losers!

At 40, no man should be single especially the one you mentioned that will be busy taking care of leeches in his life.

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lagonovo:
All it takes to dispute a blanket statement is to cite a couple of well-known and verifiable examples. Focus on the logical process and the lessons not the messenger.

Samakus:
Truth is...

Those telling you.. 'go and marry' are not doing it from the place of love for you. If they really cared, how come they don't trouble you about having multiple streams of income as much as they trouble you with marriage

InvertedHammer:
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Remain single till 70.

Congratulations!

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GoodSpirit:


Imagine someone who can't feed his family advising someone that rakes in 7 digits monthly to get married .

shadrach77:
Never listen to anyone who tells you to go and marry. Marry only because you feel a genuine need to do so and you feel it will add benefits to your life.

85% of people who advice others to marry use that as a subtle way of mocking single people. Then some people are jealous of you because you don't have the kind of financial responsibilities they have so they want you to marry so that you can be like them.

Then you'll hear some people say unmarried people are irresponsible. Another foolish talk. When did marriage become an achievement? There are many married people who are irresponsible. Some of of the richest people in the world are unmarried - Bill Gates, Dangote, Elon Musk, Anthony Joshua etc.

Don't let anyone push you

Ndidi2:
But at the end of the day you might wish u married earlier..

GoodSpirit:
Same wish happen to people who did earlier that then enter to the rat race such is life, one cannot win all the time. But the crux of the matter is enjoy yourself no matter the prevailing circumstances and no one should project themselves unto another, life isn't a script everyone has his own race to run

dederocs:
Your mates are dead, some died as kids didn't live to grow old, some marry and divorce, some have kids out of wedlock couldn't stay with the woman. Focus on your small life or try to contribute to it, stop pokenosing into uneccesaries, do something better, there are a million things to talk and be worried about not an unmarried fellow. Jesus Christ who you people worship, John the Baptist all didn't marry yet you people worship them, because they are great men in history, not because of woman or marriage. Try to be something in life not a mediocre gossip head. I know several people who come to beg me crumbs as married men, you people just increase the population with children with no value, just like the almajiris and northern governors doing mass weddings in a region of poverty, this senseless marriages and procreation is also a challenge to our economy, creating liabilities everywhere.

Have you ever seen anyone who was noted as great just because he married?

Blitzking:
Ppl don't mind their business I remember it took me 2yrs before I had a child after marriage..I wasn't willing to get my wife pregnant but ppl no gree mind their business even the pastor wey join us see me one day dey ask when we go invite am for naming I tell am say when it's time we go let am know me wey dey use cd with my wife..dey begin dey give one eye..even neighbours..until we ready na im we born..no be them go buy aptamil and Hughes for me

Katcall:
madam dey give u doggy and header?

tanigororo:
Oya Coman marry me

Oyindidi:
Face front oga, very soon children go dey refer to you as that brother