₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
I don't believe in African traditions let alone the traditions of my own culture. Don't go around assuming every African does. It's disrespectful to do so.

Kobojunkie:
Contracts can be updated every anniversary and so on. It does not have to be static, but it is better than nothing at all. Communications and agreements are better when backed by written agreements. That much we have learnt, and this model works even in family and romantic relationships.

DaGC:
➜Honestly, you don make me dey laugh for this my break🤣😂. You sound like a hedge fund manager with marriage, I mean no disrespect 🙏🏿. It's just that it's not often you see some Nigerians speak with so much 'logic' about life issues. We are human beings, some certain parts of life is to be experienced and not because you signed an agreement that forces you to experience it.

tiswell:
Are you an African man?

Kobojunkie:
Again, I disavowed African traditions from when I began realizing how insane many of them are. Plus, I didn't get a vote on any of the ideas, and I don't see the logic in living by standards that do not benefit me or my future in any way.

tiswell:
➜Your personal beliefs doesn't negate the efficacy of the African heritage. You are on your own

DeepSight:
Reconsider.

Kobojunkie:
Your statement immediately reminds me of the many people out there who lend money to friends and family members without written proof of such a transaction. They claim that the trust, or is it a bond between them, should be enough to carry the agreement. But, after some time has passed, many of these same people come back wondering why their debtors would not pay them back the money owed. Some treat them like beggars when they go asking to be paid the money borrowed. When such people complain, I can't help but see them as fools who deserve the treatment they keep getting.😐

Sigh! You are free to continue experiencing your unsigned realities with others. It's just that...don't complain about it later on, abeg! 😐😐

DaGC:
➜Ogbeni, you be Judiciary? This one you are always keen on agreements before any action

Kobojunkie:
A relationship between two human beings is an agreement. Yes, that relationship you have with your parents, your siblings, your beau, your friends... all agreements with contract/agreement details explicitly or implicitly stated.

DaGC:
➜The question still stands Sir🙄

DeepSight:
Reconsider.

Kobojunkie:
Do you need to be in the judiciary to acknowledge the facts stated, or something?

advanceDNA:
So if we are not having sex before marriage... I am not supposed to expect sex in marriage??

there some basics that should be in marriage without signing an affidavit and police report about it during courtship...... I mean..... why would someone not cook and clean in their own home...?? Y'all just like making marriage look harder than it is

Kobojunkie:
Your statement immediately reminds me of the many people out there who lend money to friends and family members without written proof of such a transaction. They claim that the trust, or is it a bond between them, should be enough to carry the agreement. But, after some time has passed, many of these same people come back wondering why their debtors would not pay them back the money owed. Some treat them like beggars when they go asking to be paid the money borrowed. When such people complain, I can't help but see them as fools who deserve the treatment they keep getting.😐

Sigh! You are free to continue experiencing your unsigned realities with others. It's just that...don't complain about it later on, abeg! 😐😐

parags:
➜The moment you accept that not all people are built or conditioned like you , the easier life becomes .

Psoul:
This argument is totally irrational in this issue.
When courting, you're supposed to know if your girlfriend can be your wife.
You dated a person that cannot cook as a girlfriend and your expect her to cook as a wife.
If she can't do those basic things and you went ahead to marry her only to divorce her, then you are the phool.

tiswell:
African marriages traditionally requires a wife to cook,wash and take care of domestic front.


We are not Beyonce and Jay z

GboyegaD:
I wondered what they were doing while courting not to have discussed roles and expectations in the home. Should he choose to remarry, he should remember what courtship is for.

iamnotillicit:
Who washes a sneaker in a washing machine...

It takes days to dry that way

A dumbo

Olanre05:
Certainly! Here's a refined version of your message while preserving its core meaning:


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Forget religious teachings for a moment—courtship is incredibly important. It's the period where you truly get to know each other: your likes and dislikes, whether you can live together peacefully, and how well you can handle each other's flaws. During courtship, disagreements are bound to happen, and it's through these moments that you learn if your partner is forgiving, kind, or has habits you can’t tolerate. Simply spending weekends together isn’t enough to understand one another deeply. Marriage is a mix of sweetness and challenges.

DaGC:
What she said!!🙎🏿‍♂️🙎🏿‍♂️🙎🏿‍♂️

Olanre05:
Did i say something wrong pls

DaGC:
Oh God no... I was just saying I concur with every word you said, but in a comical cartoon way like when they ask someone his own opinion and he just says 'yes, what she said', that's my opinion😏

I was just being a clown ma. Good evening.

Olanre05:
Lol... now I get. Thank you.
Good evening. Bet your day went well.

sanesta:
lol. There's no standard formula for these things bro; as a good girlfriend can become a bad wife.

Chilipepper:
Man shares why his friend blocked him on social media following discussion about why he divorced his wife.



https://x.com/Chrisllionaire/status/1929912597148525003?t=D-zPbhzPI06X5WHxvc3kTQ&s=19[/quote]First of all how come a young man gave his wife sneakers to wash, what happened to his own hands? That shows you how unreasonable he is and that made to ignore the cooking and washing stuffs during the courtship