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We all face tough moments in life times when we feel overwhelmed, confused, or just need someone to talk to. Among this list, who is that one person you feel safe confiding in when things get really hard?

Nobody abeg. I talk to God solemnly and pray for healing

I'd prefer confiding in a stranger... Strangers are the safest people you can confide in, you don't know them and they don't know you.

It depends. I think I have someone for every occasion. Different struggles require different solutions. There's things only friends can help with, things only siblings can help with, and somethings only a partner can solve. Man is not an island.

Chilipepper:
✓ We all face tough moments in life times when we feel overwhelmed, confused, or just need someone to talk to. Among this list, who is that one person you feel safe confiding in when things get really hard?

Nobody: I find that talking to absolute strangers --- or a mental health therapists ---is one of the best ways to get issues off my chest and also get a perspectives different from mine where possible.

Police is your friend. Talk to police.

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It depends on what to discuss about and their maturity

this life is now per head. I keep to myself only.

This life has transformed from communal living to extended family living now to nuclear family setting.

Even bestfriend institution is dying.

This has made self reliance even greater. As I dey like this, I bottle up most of what I'm going through. It's not the best but its the reality on ground now.

Samantha125:
I'd prefer confiding in a stranger... Strangers are the safest people you can confide in, you don't know them and they don't know you.

Ok.

Tell me your problem.

I swear, I won't tell anyone .

None of them. I will talk to myself by myself and with myself. Nairaland, I hope e don reach forty words now?

Chilipepper:
We all face tough moments in life times when we feel overwhelmed, confused, or just need someone to talk to. Among this list, who is that one person you feel safe confiding in when things get really hard?

My community. They've shown me tremendous support.

AllBlack:
Police is your friend. Talk to police.

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With whose data, make Seun ready to dey sub for us oo. Tinubu regime don Colombi us ooo.

No one. Not a single soul except to pray.

My Partner for sure. Who else?
As a Child, i would have picked my parent

It depends on the kinda of tough.

But on a good day, I think I'll go with my friends.

When I was younger, I would have said my parents..

If it were street tough (if you know, you know), then I'll be speaking to my lawyer.

Olosho. Na she I dey tell everything.

Once I no get money ahe go gove me free kpekus.


I don carry my salary for last month Gove am make she open saloon

Well i am married, so she is the only one i can talk to, especially when the issues require some level of advise and prayers...Mother is late, Dad is 90+yrs.

The creator................................

I think neutral people would do.
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Nobody

I just download movies, pray and sleep then continue another day and another day

Na my sneaky link I de confide in, that werey de keep secret pass satan

Samantha125:
I'd prefer confiding in a stranger... Strangers are the safest people you can confide in, you don't know them and they don't know you.

That's not correct..,

How many times ,have you come on nairaland to share your fears ..

Double0h7:
It depends. I think I have someone for every occasion. Different struggles require different solutions. There's things only friends can help with, things only siblings can help with, and somethings only a partner can solve. Man is not an island.

Correct!
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I confide only in God. No man can solve my problem except God

I confide in my friends any day any time twice on Monday.

They can relate and they can be less judgemental and together we can find a way forward.

But you see my parents (my dad especially), he can be very judgemental and be sure he will cast you later. Somebody that once helped me treat a stubborn gonorrhea lasan, all his public sermons for that week was about shunning adultery. He repeated the sermon to the extent that everyone knew something was up.

My mama own be sey after she don comfort you, she'll use that thing to be blackmailing you. You'll hear stuff like when you were sacked from work and you were penniless, shebi I was there for you. All your useless girlfriends ran away. If you don't give me what I asked for, I'll tell the whole world how I was there for you and how you didn't want to take care of me now that you've bounced back. I'll just be like; "O.K, I surrender".

As for my wife, she'll stay with you o, she'll comfort you but she'll be reminding you twice every day of how she stood by you. She won't blackmail you, but she'll never stop singing it to your ears how she's a good wife and your everything. She'll bore you to death with the reminder.

But my friends are the real deal! Piam! Conference call among the four of us. They will first of all laugh to their hearts delight before comforting you. In the process of making jest of you, you'll loosen up. They are the least of the evils (in a good way). But you see that laughter and jest, you can't escape it. One of us bought a problematic car (NISSAN PATHFINDER), we nicknamed him PATHFINDER and made jest of him until he sold the car. Even now, we still call him PATHFINDER to annoy him.

Chilipepper:
We all face tough moments in life times when we feel overwhelmed, confused, or just need someone to talk to. Among this list, who is that one person you feel safe confiding in when things get really hard?

Depend on the situation that I found myself, I don't have permanent person I confide with, I hardly share my problem with people, but nevertheless, I confide more for my wife than anybody.

Meanwhile, you supposed to also involved
Doctor
Psychologist
Pastor/imam.

A real man deals with his shit alone....#on code

Chilipepper:
We all face tough moments in life times when we feel overwhelmed, confused, or just need someone to talk to. Among this list, who is that one person you feel safe confiding in when things get really hard?

Omo plenty will peeps will pass it to another person. Clue to know is when they start telling you how they sent 1k to someone because of difficulties, those aren't the type of friends you divulge ur weakness to.

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nobody

Instead of talking to friends/family,I rather talk to strangers. there is high chance I won't get to see them again and won't be judged for my vulnerabilities.

Nobody....just hurt, cry pray and move on...