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WISDOM DIGEST FOR TODAY – 22/6/2025

Topic: The Influence of Friendships on Your Marriage

Bible Verse:
“...He who walks with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed...” Proverbs 13:20

Friendships are powerful. They either build your marriage or break it. The people you allow close to your heart and home will eventually shape your thinking, behaviour, and attitude toward your spouse. Some marriages have fallen—not because the couple didn’t love each other—but because wrong friends whispered the wrong advice at the wrong time.

If you walk with people who despise marriage, joke about infidelity, or dishonour their spouses, it will rub off on you. But if you keep company with God-fearing, faithful couples, your marriage will grow in wisdom and strength.

Christlike Behaviour:

Jesus was intentional about His relationships. Though He loved everyone, He didn’t entrust Himself to just anyone (John 2:24). He surrounded Himself with those who shared His purpose.
Christlike behaviour in marriage includes:

1. Guarding your inner circle wisely.

2. Cutting off friendships that mock or undermine your marriage.

3. Encouraging friendships that nurture faith, accountability, and integrity.

4. Being a friend who uplifts your spouse—not someone who compares, criticizes, or gossips.

Medical and Emotional Insight:

Toxic friendships increase marital conflict, plant seeds of suspicion, and often lead to emotional detachment. On the other hand, supportive social circles contribute to emotional stability, better conflict resolution, and a longer-lasting, happier relationship.

Friendships should be filtered, not just accepted.

Application:

Evaluate your friendships: Are they helping or harming your home?

Pray together for godly friendships that strengthen your union.

Set boundaries with people who promote disrespect, gossip, or immoral behaviour.

Connect with couples who model godly love, and learn from their example.

Be accountable: Invite spiritual mentors who can speak truth into your life and relationship.

PRAYER:
Heavenly Father, give us the wisdom to walk with the right people. Remove every friendship that threatens our unity and draw us toward relationships that honour You. Help us to be a blessing to others and protect our home from toxic influences. Let our marriage be surrounded with grace-filled, Christ-centered connections.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Encouragement:
Your marriage is sacred—protect it from friendly fire. Walk with those who walk with God, and your marriage will flourish. You don’t need many friends—just the right ones.

Final Word:
Every marriage is either strengthened or weakened by its associations. Choose wisely, speak wisely, and stay planted in relationships that water your union in love.

Your Beloved in Christ,
Pastor Olanrewaju G. L
Christ Leads Assembly Church

There's little or no advice from Jesus regarding marriage, sex, child upbringing, etc.

The issue is that? your lifestyle determine your friends.

The only thing a couple can do is stay clear of your family discussion with friends

Very important factor in the survival of marriage and relationships.

You won't understand until you experience it. Friends and family.

At least read and learn from the post before posting a comment.

Pastor Olanrewaju, wow, what a powerful message! It's so easy to overlook how much our friends really shape our marriages, isn't it? Your point about how friendships need to be "filtered, not just accepted" absolutely nails it.
It's a tough but essential truth that toxic friends can genuinely mess things up between a couple, while the right ones can build so much strength. This is a crucial reminder to actually look at who's in our inner circle and be brave enough to step away from connections that might be undermining our most important relationship. Just like Jesus was super intentional about His closest people, we need to be too.
Thanks for this vital call to protect our marriages from what you rightly call "friendly fire" and really seek out those connections that truly help our love grow.

Bestwt001:
Pastor Olanrewaju, wow, what a powerful message! It's so easy to overlook how much our friends really shape our marriages, isn't it? Your point about how friendships need to be "filtered, not just accepted" absolutely nails it.
It's a tough but essential truth that toxic friends can genuinely mess things up between a couple, while the right ones can build so much strength. This is a crucial reminder to actually look at who's in our inner circle and be brave enough to step away from connections that might be undermining our most important relationship. Just like Jesus was super intentional about His closest people, we need to be too.
Thanks for this vital call to protect our marriages from what you rightly call "friendly fire" and really seek out those connections that truly help our love grow.

No friend or foe or Family can destroy a family a man wants to protect…Period

I pity u people for these ur eviI teachers. Marriage is not of thing of friendship. It's a thing of duty. Husband love ur wife and wife submit. It ends it. It's not a game it's serious business

AntiChristian:
There's little or no advice from Jesus regarding marriage, sex, child upbringing, etc.

Silence is golden. You don't have to share your bitterness against Christianity on every thread.

Many women want to marry a friend cos a friend is one that they will treat like thrash and won't respond. One that they will not be submissive to but will want to be tolerated. Thats the evil teaching that has made Christian homes so weak and lacking order and discipline today.

Proverbs 18:24 "A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother". 

Proverbs 27:17 notes that "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another,"

Proverbs 13:20? Whoever walks with wise people will be wise, but whoever associates with fools will suffer

Have you noticed some people change friends when they marry? Some drop their single, divorced or those they may perceive can threaten their marriage. Some want friends whose children can relate with their own. Some want friends they can entrust their families to when not around or available, or when they are in need and need some privacy to cover shame and judgment.

Jesus said He no longer calls us servants but friends. Friendship is a strong relationship. If Jesus the Saviour of the world can be a friend, why can't a man be a friend to his wife or a wife be a friend to her husband? Or even with their children? So as a man if you play football with their 4 year old or 4 year old it is demeaning? Or as a woman if you play lido with your young girls it's disrespectful? Or as a man if you loosen your wife's braids while you na dey gist see finish go enter? Or as a woman if you follow your husband take play table tennis something go happen?

@Ablaf, good write-up you shared here, thanks

stonebil:
The issue is that? your lifestyle determine your friends.

The only thing a couple can do is stay clear of your family discussion with friends

Most especially from women angle,......many of wives have been sent parking, no thanks from influence they got erroneously from friends, family, colleagues, even pastor/imam.

AntiChristian:
There's little or no advice from Jesus regarding marriage, sex, child upbringing, etc.

There is my brother! The life of Jesus as a whole, the way He lived is the advice for marriage and every relationship for that matter.

omoredia:
Many women want to marry a friend cos a friend is one that they will treat like thrash and won't respond. One that they will not be submissive to but will want to be tolerated. Thats the evil teaching that has made Christian homes so weak and lacking order and discipline today.

May too much sense not kill you. This is amazing

WantsandMore:
No friend or foe or Family can destroy a family a man wants to protect…Period

u never sabi anything
maybe u are not married yet

AntiChristian:
There's little or no advice from Jesus regarding marriage, sex, child upbringing, etc.

Jesus doesn't give "advice" to his children. He gives instructions.

If you ant to know Jesus' instructions concerning all you mentioned, look into the Bible.

Define friendship! All I see are people who are there when you are up. When the chips are down, they disappear. EVEN IN CHURCH!

luckyz4rea:
There is my brother! The life of Jesus as a whole, the way He lived is the advice for marriage and every relationship for that matter.

Can you live exactly like Jesus today and die exactly when died?

No marriage!

No family relationship!

No offspring!

Even country doesn't know him!

Infact, was hungry many times and seemed poorer than your pastors today!

dahmie2013:
Silence is golden. You don't have to share your bitterness against Christianity on every thread.

Truth is bitterness to you!
And since you can't contradict the truth then you result to verbal attacks!

AntiChristian:
Can you live exactly like Jesus today and die exactly when died?

No marriage!

No family relationship!

No offspring!

Even country doesn't know him!

Infact, was hungry many times and seemed poorer than your pastors today!

He was a model for all you stated above hence, He expects every believer to live that way.

He knew this ab initio therefore, He stated in Matt 5:46 or 48, that we should work towards His being like Him.

Whether a man married or not, they can achieve Jesus lifestyle. We have examples even in our days

luckyz4rea:
He was a model for all you stated above hence, He expects every believer to live that way.

He knew this ab initio therefore, He stated in Matt 5:46 or 48, that we should work towards His being like Him.

Whether a man married or not, they can achieve Jesus lifestyle. We have examples even in our days

Have you been living like Jesus?

Jesus never ate together with his family!
In fact, little was know of his youthful life from 0-30 years!

So you lied when you said people copied him!

What is present in the Bible is less than 15% of Jesus's lifetime. Mainly three last year's and one or two extras!

AntiChristian:
Have you been living like Jesus?

Jesus never ate together with his family!
In fact, little was know of his youthful life from 0-30 years!

So you lied when you said people copied him!

What is present in the Bible is less than 15% of Jesus's lifetime. Mainly three last year's and one or two extras!

Did you not see Him answer when they told Him that His Family where asking after Him? You just love to talk rubbish

Sp33i:
May too much sense not kill you. This is amazing

Hmmmmm 🤔
Could that be the reason they do always wanna marry a friend?

It's an interesting angle to the conversation.

AntiChristian:
Have you been living like Jesus?

Jesus never ate together with his family!
In fact, little was know of his youthful life from 0-30 years!

So you lied when you said people copied him!

What is present in the Bible is less than 15% of Jesus's lifetime. Mainly three last year's and one or two extras!

What’s your point exactly?
You don’t wish to marry or you are against married people or you are not living like Jesus?
What’s the issue exactly?

It’s not good to judge a book by its cover, but your name seem to portray opinion in the inconsequential questions you are asking me

Encouragement:
Your marriage is sacred—protect it from friendly fire. Walk with those who walk with God, and your marriage will flourish. You don’t need many friends—just the right ones.

Final Word:
Every marriage is either strengthened or weakened by its associations. Choose wisely, speak wisely, and stay planted in relationships that water your union in love.