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Laugh wan kill me here. All single ladies are hole

KiNg0G:
To be sincere I got disvirgined by prostitute while back when I was still in secondary school Jss2 to be precise. I still remember that day clearly I met with one of my class mate who took it upon himself to show me different joints since that day my life has never been the same.

I don't approach women not like I can't but I find it stressful when I could just go to a joint and pay to be serviced.

Years has gone pass I have graduated from arshawol joints to hook ups which we all know is very expensive. It's not like I can't keep up with the lifestyle but I am tired of having to live this way year in and year out with no changes.

Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

To be honest with if you , don’t condition your mind to discipline by shunning prostitution you will continue even after you re married and have children.
Go to a bible believing church and try relocate to another state where you can’t see them no more

KiNg0G:
To be sincere I got disvirgined by prostitute while back when I was still in secondary school Jss2 to be precise. I still remember that day clearly I met with one of my class mate who took it upon himself to show me different joints since that day my life has never been the same.

I don't approach women not like I can't but I find it stressful when I could just go to a joint and pay to be serviced.

Years has gone pass I have graduated from arshawol joints to hook ups which we all know is very expensive. It's not like I can't keep up with the lifestyle but I am tired of having to live this way year in and year out with no changes.

Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

Get a girl friend simple and start planning to settle down
Time waits for no one

KiNg0G:
To be sincere I got disvirgined by prostitute while back when I was still in secondary school Jss2 to be precise. I still remember that day clearly I met with one of my class mate who took it upon himself to show me different joints since that day my life has never been the same.

I don't approach women not like I can't but I find it stressful when I could just go to a joint and pay to be serviced.

Years has gone pass I have graduated from arshawol joints to hook ups which we all know is very expensive. It's not like I can't keep up with the lifestyle but I am tired of having to live this way year in and year out with no changes.

Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

just keep relaying your complaint to Jesus Christ. one day
your deliverance will come. Am telling
you this with all assurance never give up on yourself.

Na im be say na ashawo go be your wife for future. Your future wife now is very clear. No worry your life again. Just carry on with prostitute and fulfil your destiny. But if prostitute na gree you marry, abeg sharpaly buy sex doll marry. Na my ten kobo advice be that to you and people like you.

KiNg0G:
To be sincere I got disvirgined by prostitute while back when I was still in secondary school Jss2 to be precise. I still remember that day clearly I met with one of my class mate who took it upon himself to show me different joints since that day my life has never been the same.

I don't approach women not like I can't but I find it stressful when I could just go to a joint and pay to be serviced.

Years has gone pass I have graduated from arshawol joints to hook ups which we all know is very expensive. It's not like I can't keep up with the lifestyle but I am tired of having to live this way year in and year out with no changes.

Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

You are under Demon control if you are in Nigeria find one woman out of the millions and stick to her. Fucking different ashawos is risky and not wise.

That is why you don't just allow friend influence you anyhow. When the Bible says don't do this and that, it is not because you can do God any favour, but just for your own safety and wellbeing.
There some things you should not allow your eyes see.
There are some words you should not allow your ears hear.
There are some things you should not eat or drink. It is because they have the tendency to pollute your mind or derail you. Addiction is easy to get into but extremely difficult to get out from, only the strongest survive addiction, alot go down with it.

wow


every mallam with hin kettle, but this is a very trivial problem, if you can't talk to a girl yourself, ask your friends or relatives to matchamake you with someone due for marriage.

I believe funds shouldn't be your problem since you can patronize HK girls.

Pootle:
you a finished man, but there is away out jus marry one of the hookup babes

Is this all you could say?

Its unbecoming of you.

Nawao

fuckingAyaya:
Start attending prayer ministry's for deliverance you can also help yourself with fasting and prayers. But first of all seek the mercy's of God because no soul is too far gone to be reconnected with Christ. The mercy of the Lord is everlasting for those who asked genuinely.

Your advice is good but your moniker betrays you

fuckingAyaya:
this is too wrong, una go make people to dey die in silence rather than bringing their problem to a public forum for advice.

Face fact - do you hear him "wake up with different ladies at his side'




What he said is not wrong

It's only a finished person that will be addicted to harlotz at age 40

Hmmmn,First We listen we don't judge
But is this part of the Men we as ladies is waiting for to come and ask us out in marriage,haaa something is wrong somewhere ooo
My Bro please first calm down and restrategize,look for a good and calm lady or ladies(it may take some time) and ask her out then proceed to the next step of making her yours then do the necessary, please be patient because Rome is not built in a day.

Pootle:
you a finished man, but there is away out jus marry one of the hookup babes

The man is crying for help and you are opening your mouth to talk like you have absolutely no sense

Chei! Village people are real o

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You are not finished. There's always a starting point. Stop the lifestyle now and begin a new chapter. Congratulations

My brother, i perfectly understand you and this act of yours..Of course I would not be judgemental and make you feel ashamed. I would take my time to outline what I think would help you overcome this..

I would like to tell you categorically that you're not alone. Many people wrestle with patterns they didn’t choose but somehow feel trapped in. If you feel empty afterward, that's your soul speaking—and it means you’re ready for change. Here's a path I think you can walk at your own pace to help you overcome this:



1. Acknowledge the Pattern Without Shame

The first step isn’t about beating yourself up—it’s about honesty.

-Say to yourself: “This is a pattern I want to break because it's hurting me.”
-Not because society says it’s wrong, but because "you" feel the emptiness afterward. That’s real.
-Shame will only push you back into it. Awareness sets you free.

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2. Understand the Root

Ask yourself:

“What am I really looking for when I go to prostitutes?”

Is it intimacy?
Control?
Escape from loneliness, stress, or pain?
Sometimes the sex isn’t the issue—it’s the bandage for a deeper wound. Therapy or honest journaling can help uncover this.



3. Find a Safe Space to Talk

This doesn’t have to be a therapist right away (though that helps a lot). It could be:

-A men's support group (even online)
-A trusted friend who won’t judge
-A religious leader if you're spiritual

Speaking the truth out loud breaks the power of secrecy. That’s where healing starts.



4. Create Friction Between You and the Habit

Make it harder to act on the impulse:

-Block the numbers/websites you usually use.
-Don't carry extra cash if that's what enables you.
-Change routines that trigger the behavior (e.g., late nights alone, certain bars or hotels or certain kind of friends that can easily trigger you).
Trust me, habits die when we interrupt their patterns.


5. Replace, Don’t Just Remove

You can’t remove something that gives you comfort—even if temporary—without replacing it.

-Start small with things that feed you emotionally: a hobby, the gym, learning a skill, volunteering.
-Build relationships that don’t involve sex—just shared connection.

Loneliness often disguises itself as lust.



6. Seek Professional Help

This is not just about willpower. It's a mental health and emotional health issue.

-A trained sex addiction therapist can help you work through the deeper issues.
-You can also consider rehab-style support programs like SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous).

You are "not" weak for needing help. You’re wise if you reach for it.

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7. Redefine What Love and Intimacy Mean to You


- Reflect on what kind of partner, relationship, or life you'd want in 5 years.
- Imagine real connection—not just sex, but companionship, respect, vulnerability.
-Start making choices today that lead to "that" version of yourself.

It’s never too late. Forty is not the end—it’s the midpoint of a powerful comeback.



8. Forgive Yourself Along the Way

You will slip. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re human.
What matters is not perfection but direction.
Every time you get up, you rewrite the story.

My Final Words

You're not broken. You're not beyond redemption. What you’re dealing with is real and painful, but you’re strong enough to face it—and worthy of love beyond a transaction.

Every time you choose healing, you’re becoming the man you’ve always wanted to be.

everyone has his own issues i am addicted to porn nd soapy i am always empty with no ambition and motivation

Adaumunocha:
Shey d hookup girls are for free? Talk about dipping ur stick in a public hole

which girl no be public hole
.
Just choose your public hole and move on

That time wey you start, you go dey tell yourself say you dey enjoy....
Na now your day break.....
At 40 e go hard to stop ooooo
Even you marry, na the woman l pity pass no be you.

Well nothing is impossible with God sha

Wisewriter:
Women are really destined to be strong. After Ashawo have collected all the useful part of u, someone's daughter will be left to manage the remnant part of u.

have you thought that most girls are into hook up before they are finally lucky to marry abi 7 out of 10 girls are into hook up partly or full time so chill. Lol..

Kobojunkie:
Has your Jezzus helped all the other thousands of miserable addicts wey full hour church finish wey e go remain OP on the list? ,🙄🙄🙄

My dear, either you like it or not, JESUS saves!!! Nothing you can do about it.

fuckingAyaya:
this is too wrong, una go make people to dey die in silence rather than bringing their problem to a public forum for advice.

Lol...

Na mumu dey bring him matter come nairaland. A faceless community..

reubenobi:
My dear, either you like it or not, JESUS saves!!! Nothing you can do about it.

I have yet to see any saved individual in all of your Christian churches. So how can you add this man to a long list of people waiting on lies?

Go to any MFM church and explain your problem to him. He will help you out

Every morning with different girls? Abeg tell us another story again.

KiNg0G:
To be sincere I got disvirgined by prostitute while back when I was still in secondary school Jss2 to be precise. I still remember that day clearly I met with one of my class mate who took it upon himself to show me different joints since that day my life has never been the same.

I don't approach women not like I can't but I find it stressful when I could just go to a joint and pay to be serviced.

Years has gone pass I have graduated from arshawol joints to hook ups which we all know is very expensive. It's not like I can't keep up with the lifestyle but I am tired of having to live this way year in and year out with no changes.

Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

If this story is true.
You must displace that feeling with another.
That's your solution.
The world doesn't subscribe to vacuum.

KiNg0G:
Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

You need to learn to enjoy other aspects of relationships. Right now you're just focused on quick fix. Go on dates and enjoy other sorts of experiences. You will get similar dopamine hit by going to an arcade or concert. If you budget towards other experiences that are just as interesting you have less time, money and interest in prostitutes.

Kobojunkie:
I have yet to see any saved individual in all of your Christian churches. So how can you add this man to a long list of people waiting on lies?

lol.. do you go to all the all churches? Maybe you are one of the pharisees whose heart have been hardened to come into the full knowledge of GOD.

Jesus to the rescue, Jesus the panacea, Jesus the only solution.
Am among the uncountable He did it for.
Only with a heart of remorse and rejection of every of sins, accept Jesus as your Saviour and Lord .
He will stop the urge and make you hate the lifestyle.

Pootle:
you a finished man, but there is away out jus marry one of the hookup babes

Please don't mind him, don't try and marry one of the hookups babes because you two will later land on the street again

KiNg0G:
To be sincere I got disvirgined by prostitute while back when I was still in secondary school Jss2 to be precise. I still remember that day clearly I met with one of my class mate who took it upon himself to show me different joints since that day my life has never been the same.

I don't approach women not like I can't but I find it stressful when I could just go to a joint and pay to be serviced.

Years has gone pass I have graduated from arshawol joints to hook ups which we all know is very expensive. It's not like I can't keep up with the lifestyle but I am tired of having to live this way year in and year out with no changes.

Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

Remember that hymn we sang in primary school?

All things Bright and beautiful

All creatures great and small

All things Bright and wonderful

The Lord God made them all....

Indeed women and sex are wonderful creations of God.

The major problem is that we take sex out of context where God originally created it for: marriage.

Sex outside marriage is a very big problem and a great curse that many wrestle with.

fornication, adultery even masturbation has brought serious curses on humanity.

Repent, seek deliverance.