₦airaland Forum

I strongly believe that the growing negativity, coming from men, about the moral inclination of ladies today is not evidence backed, it tends to be more of an emotion based trend. Now, let me point out that I do not have concrete evidence that beats the one being widely propagated by those with opposing views on this matter. What I have, however, is a reasonable plea for the use of common sense by both parties.

It is no longer strange to come across female bashing contents online, from men, and sometimes even women. However, one common factor of all the content creators is the fact that their views are based on personal experiences, or the experiences of someone they know. It is hardly based on any effectively conducted survey that proves their claims. Now, I do not doubt their experiences or the experiences of those close to them, but I am concerned about using the experiences of one million people (with big mouths) to judge the behaviour of one hundred million people (who do not see the need to announce their life stories online).

But if we must judge based on personal experiences, then we can also arrive at a different conclusion when more people begin to share the good in their marriages while remaining silent on the bad.

In a nutshell, I am simply saying, could it be possible that female (or even male) bashers are products of brainwashing by a few unsatisfied individuals, who project their failures on others?

Because to be honest, I refuse to agree that Nigerian ladies are all golddiggers, slots, broke, messed up, disloyal, and only using marriage or relationship to meet selfish aims.

As an extremely happy husband, I cannot fully explain how blessed I am to have my wife. Also, by my experience, I know quite a lot of ladies that are a blessing to their husbands. I also believe that many wives can say something similar about their husbands too. So going by my experience, there are many good Ladies out there, (and good men) and I believe I am not the only one who came across them.

The problem is, we hardly come online to mention the good ones, but rush to mention the bad.

It is not fair.

Twist: If all the women or men you've met are a mess, could it be that you are attracting what suits you?

SAS

In every multitude, there are Jews and the Gentiles.

Every gender has good people and bad people. All man are not the same. All women are not the same.

immortalcrown:
In every multitude, there are Jews and the Gentiles.

Every gender has good people and bad people. All man are not the same. All women are not the same.

Very true. It is sad that people seem to be more interested in posting on the bad ones from both parties.

A happily married spouse hardly write about how blessed he/she is to have their partner. And when they do, it hardly goes viral. But the moment an unhappy spouse writes, they become celebrities.

It's crazy.