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I don't agree with number 2 totally. Y my wife no go know how much I get for Account? What of if death comes suddenly nko? There are numerous bank accounts that these Banks have taken over due to this secret. My wife knows what I have in my account, if I go give her, I go give, if I no go give her, I no go give after all, she makes jer own money and I no dey ask her.

SifonAbasi:
Nobody should have a secret. It destroys a relationship faster than cheating.

These is trash coming from inferior men...all secret should be shared In a marriage

All these are for the eyes to read and pass.....

When you meet the ladies, or your spouse, be a reflection of what they bring forward, adjust when your thoughts are not your observations, always be dynamic, and as a man, please make sure you take care of yourself very well even as bills or responsibilities slap you from all corners, find a place, rest and thank your God for the ones you have done , then forge ahead, is only you and your God that knows about you to a greater percentage...

SifonAbasi:
Nobody should have a secret. It destroys a relationship faster than cheating.

lol…even you that is talking has secrets so I don’t understand what you mean by “ nobody should have a secret”

That is one of the reasons we are not growing, a lot of lies and secrets, two people living together as husband and wife yet they are total strangers. The moment revelation starts coming out from outside about one of the two, the other person would be like, is it true, tell me it's a lie, tell me it's not your own okechukwu, Olarewaju or Ibrahim that they are talking about but then, it will be too late to mend the surprise and the shock that comes with it.

Why should a man keep secrets away from his wife_ aren't they one flesh?

SifonAbasi:
Nobody should have a secret. It destroys a relationship faster than cheating.

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Pygmalionn:
No. 8 should be written in gold


Never cry in a woman's arms... It happened at birth, it should never again...

Who are the wereys that even cry in their women's arms? Dem be small pikin?

Modern man and foolishness sef...

SMH

SifonAbasi:
How does revealing your secrets to your partner a symbol of weakness?

The question should have been: how does my revealing my secrets to my partner a symbol of strength?

Body count for men? Are you gay or effeminate?

For every woman a man sleeps with , he's made a crown with

Remove your number there except you're a copy and paste OP

Cry in the shadow? Na wetin my 80+ mother customer dey always tell me be this, "Una dey die quick because of una no dey gree share una problem" Nai make we dey last past una See me 80+ but my husband don die even before i clock 50" Make una dey always share nothing human ears never hear before.

Oga be a man, be a man nai make man dey pass Kpai go, another man go come chop beans wey e no plant guuuuuuuyyyyyyyssssss? If e pain u cry abeg cry well well, make she see say that situation dey weigh u down no form come die troway if not somebody else go oil that exhaust before one week .

U don see oyibo man dey hide tears? African women want u to act strong while them dey free to pour out their own emotion thereby making them free and live longer meanwhile they love those oyibo men for tv wey dey cry well a infact them dey cry wit them sometimes, Oga i say cryam out not in public but face her in private face to face cry for her hand infact make the tear touch her lip make she taste if na real or fake

May we Live Long

[color=indigo] There's no one-size-fits-all rule in marriage.

What works for one can lead to doom in another.
Marriage takes two to work out. Both partners must be committed.
Find ye a spouse that both of you understand yourselves and you both want to build a family together
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Why should a man and his wife keep secrets and I can tell you for free that this is why most marriages break. Never marry a woman you can't trust with your money and life affairs.
Secretive Men have nothing to do with a partner and that's why most powerful men of renowned don't have families or even keep a wife

These may be the case in some people marriage but it's not the actual problem in marriage honestly speaking. The main problem is getting married to a wrong person.
Some people think because they are doing well and can sleep with as many girls as they like, they can as well marry any beautiful girl of their choice bro it's not true.

So if you have a lovely wife and you go broke without having even 10k in your bank account you will hide it from your wife? Aswear una no get sense for this app. How can she manage with you if she doesn't know you are deadly broke?

You never see anything. You think say marriage na boyfriend and girlfriend

Just dey play

bigpicture001:
40 characters on the spot... How u take know... Abi u dey count am..?

Na dem dey do the counting.👇 i dey use sense type

The first point is 100% correct. Don't show your wife how much you love your children.
She will use them against you.
I wish I can divorce my wife and my children will not miss her.
Some partners and their family are low life and very terrible.
Terrible partner always associate every event with something.
God punish terrible partners from terrible family.

9. Don't tell her everytime you send money to members of your family.

Brazino:
No matter the love, don't ever try to share these few Secrets with a woman. They may comfort and empathize with you today, and go on to use it against you tommorow.

Some guys, when they drink or need sex seriously, they go to any extent to spill out some very deep secrets. Men, you'll learn the hard way if you share these secrets.

You can add other secrets to these if you feel the list is not complete.

Secrets you should never tell your woman?
Here’s the truth every man needs to know:

child probably
Wrote this....imagine talk that u shouldn't cry in hands of ur woman

SifonAbasi:
Nobody should have a secret. It destroys a relationship faster than cheating.

I agree with your submission. If you cannot trust your partner enough with these details, then why go into partnership/relationship with them?

It's just unfortunate that our generation is laced with broken (wo)men who just want to project their trauma.

Samantha125:
I know all of these points about my husband apart from his personal bank balance, but we have a joint bank account for house hold essentials and emergencies... He also doesn't know my personal bank balance.

We also share each other's location...

Please don't show him pepper anytime he offends you

Shawarmagirl:
OP I want to disagree with you in all you listed. When you both got married, two has become one. Let me give you example:

From day one I met my partner till we got married he has never lied to me about his salary or any money in his account. This single act made me love him the more. Once he tells me there is no money I believe him and assist him. Everything about him I know it. He has no secret.

Secondly, he opens up to me and showed me his two ex before we got married. That's a man who is transparent.

Lastly but not the list, there is no decision he wants to make or take now in his life without telling me first before anyone else's hears it. Telling me his next move or plans gives me joy to assist him financially, spiritually and mentally. So I still maintain that all men and women are not the same. That you have issues with your partner or marriage does not mean you'll come here to impose your experience on others to buy.

Maybe it's because he's yet to learn the hard way. Maybe a SIMPle Man

Samantha125:
I know all of these points about my husband apart from his personal bank balance, but we have a joint bank account for house hold essentials and emergencies... He also doesn't know my personal bank balance.

We also share each other's location...

what are you using on him, kayamata abi? You try well well 😊😊

What about 'YOUR FUTURE PLANS'. Most women cannot keep their mouth shut. Cho cho cho every time till they disclose to your enemies.

spiSeyi:
Why should a man and his wife keep secrets and I can tell you for free that this is why most marriages break. Never marry a woman you can't trust with your money and life affairs.
Secretive Men have nothing to do with a partner and that's why most powerful men of renowned don't have families or even keep a wife

I like your last paragraph, which would explain explain my point.

It's not that you don't trust or love the woman, but often, it's about the capacity or weakness of the woman to carry tru a consistency, discipline and carefulness that is required to bring out a wider glory or vision for the family.

* * * In the Bible, if Abraham had told Sarah that God told him to bring up their only Child Isaac for a sacrifice, Sarah wld have hidden the boy away. He had to hide it due to her measure of faith and strength.

We should take care of our wives and love them, but we must be careful to emerge successful and fulfilling in the marriage. Otherwise it is the same woman that wld dump you when you get urself completely naked.

I share almost all with my wife because she's God fearing. I'm comfortable whenever I share some deep things with her. She shares hers with me also.

Samantha125:
I know all of these points about my husband apart from his personal bank balance, but we have a joint bank account for house hold essentials and emergencies... He also doesn't know my personal bank balance.

We also share each other's location...

what you think you know about his deepest fears or darkest secret may not be the deepest fears afterall.

And what happens when she finds out??
U go explain tire!