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bayelsaowei:
lol.. because not many Nigerian women think this way. Or many black women. lol

They don't think that way cos they're close minded, they're people who have refused to evolve, knowing fully well that some things or ideas become obsolete after a period of time.
They're the ones who are quick to say , this wasn't done in the 19th century, it wasn't done in the days of our fore fathers bla bla bla but these same people have started using gadgets that their forefathers didn't use, they are people who I call double standard Homoesapiens

maestro299:
3/4 times per month?
Auntie forget story, that's a sexless marriage.
When you're not old people.

You're the kind of people that destroys societies.

Ehen Ehen Ehen, Ehenhenhenhennnnn

CaptainJune:
MissOpe, making a connection between marital obligation being proportional to financial provision places your union in the category of transactional relationship. It is his duty to provide for you and your kids whether you make your money or not. If he is honest, faithful, and responsible but falling short of his duty to be a provider probably owing to the worsening economic landscape you should better understand his plight more than anyone. It means he is not fulfilling his part owing to circumstances beyond his control. Can you honestly say that about your body? The only exception is where you imply negligence.

Before nko.
Is life in itself not transactional?.
Please find time , especially in one of your solitude moments and reflect deeply about life, U go know say life is transactional...
Even God wants you to serve him and obey his commandments so that you will not Go to hell..
Tell me is that one not transaction?..

Nothing is absolutely free......
Even parents pray to reap the rewards of their labour on their children...

CaptainJune:
I guess psychological compatibility is at the heart of the issue in this case of yours and is also applicable to other belief systems you mentioned. I understand your refusal to match your husband's sexual drive because I know there are many ladies built like you who don't relish the idea of regular sexual activity with their spouse. Pushing your husband into the arms of another woman may be detrimental to him and his mental wellbeing in ways you may not have anticipated. To avoid this, why not try and have a common ground where you both will have to compromise on your values where you may come up with creative ways to satisfy his sexual appetite without having to yield entirely to him so that the both of you are happy and get something from the experience? He loves you as you love him. He should be fine with the arrangement where he gets a reasonable satisfaction of his desire rather than get nothing in the process. This should tame his desire till when you are ready to fully give in to him. Not telling you what to do...no...never, just making a suggestion that may help avoid the drama that may attend keeping a side chic.

I have tried several times that we just stick to only romance when I don't feel like having it,but no every time we try, he always wants to enter the place, if e come eventually enter, body go dey pain me, so

MissOpe:
I have tried several times that we just stick to only romance when I don't feel like having it,but no every time we try, he always wants to enter the place, if e come eventually enter, body go dey pain me, so

Unlike a number of folks here, I think you are a wonderful wife, a wonderful mother and an irreplaceable partner to your husband. This is why he is not ready to entertain the idea of a side chic. I especially like the maturity with which you engaged those who spoke ill of you regarding your nature as it relates to sexual activity with your husband. I do not share the same thoughts with them. Just keep loving your husband in many other ways that will make up for the gap created by unfulfilled intimate desire. I have no doubts you have been doing that and will continue. In fact, I count your hubby lucky to have someone like you.

Omg! You aren't serious Madam. You are joking, already took your story so real. Anyway, you did put a smile on my face this morning. Take care Madam or even young miss Ope... 😂 😂

MissOpe:
Why not..
He disvirgined me and his gbola is too sweet and perfect that I don't ever crave for any other one ..but I don't like constant, all the time sex , I love quality 3 times in a month sex experienced during my ovulation period, but he wants it every other day, so to solve his problem , I advice that he gets a side chick but Baba dey vex .....
Maka why

MissOpe, don’t keep engaging in discussion with these guys, they are trying to get you frustrated and to disgrace yourself. They are humiliating you making you reveal all about yourself, it is no longer an argument but you haven’t caught on yet.

At a point if you continue they will just start insulting you. Find a way to get off the argument hook and leave this thread.

Besides, some want to cheat but that you as a woman should be unhappy about it at the very least. It makes some guys feel important. And if you try to be strong or get yourself ready so you won’t be disappointed, they’ll try to punish you for it. They believe you should be falling apart while they run around.

Consider though, that there are many things that could go wrong with an open marriage, more than you can bear like I stated earlier. It might not be so smooth like you expect.

Letmecum:
Marriage is getting boring everyday. She will be knacking on a steady too

Definitely that's why she is recommending such no woman who really deeply loves her man will advocate for such a lifestyle.

purples25:
Miss.Ope, don’t keep engaging in discussion with these guys, they are trying to get you frustrated and to disgrace yourself. They are humiliating you making you reveal all about yourself, it is no longer an argument but you haven’t caught on yet.

At a point if you continue they will just start insulting you. Find a way to get off the argument hook and leave this thread.

Besides, some want to cheat but that you as a woman should be unhappy about it at the very least. It makes some guys feel important. And if you try to be strong or get yourself ready so you won’t be disappointed, they’ll try to punish you for it. They believe you should be falling apart while they run around.

Consider though, that there are many things that could go wrong with an open marriage, more than you can bear like I stated earlier. It might not be so smooth like you expect.

🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

purples25:
MissOpe, don’t keep engaging in discussion with these guys, they are trying to get you frustrated and to disgrace yourself. They are humiliating you making you reveal all about yourself, it is no longer an argument but you haven’t caught on yet.

At a point if you continue they will just start insulting you. Find a way to get off the argument hook and leave this thread.

Besides, some want to cheat but that you as a woman should be unhappy about it at the very least. It makes some guys feel important. And if you try to be strong or get yourself ready so you won’t be disappointed, they’ll try to punish you for it. They believe you should be falling apart while they run around.

Consider though, that there are many things that could go wrong with an open marriage, more than you can bear like I stated earlier. It might not be so smooth like you expect.

once you look at ops profile with her picture from 2013 - you know this is trolling or maybe someone hijacked the account

topic also does not match the post history

MissOpe:
please advice a young bride in the house
I'm about 6 weeks pregnant....initially I didnt know until I
missed my period, about a week after I started vomiting and
salivating, I can seem to eat anything, I vomit everything out, I
manage to take just pap but I could barely take 5 spoons
before I Get tired of it...I feel weak and l'm emaciated
already.....now my husband is getting irritated of me...He's
saying he can't continue with this attitude of mine dat I'm
framing the whole thing up, that if I was working would I
resign and not go to work, that he knows of people who have
been pregnant but wuldnt act the way I do....He went as far as
saying that I can go to my mum's place until I give birth that
he cant tolerate this...Please MAMAS advice me on what to
do? IS is that I'm being lazy or has anyone being in my
position before ( being very weak and can't do anything in
pregnancy)...PLEASE HELP ME OUT ....

edit looks like engagement baiting

GloriousGbola:
once you look at ops profile with her picture from 2013 - you know this is trolling or maybe someone hijacked the account

topic also does not match the post history



edit looks like engagement baiting

Rage bait Abi? I go check am, thanks.

pocohantas:
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purples25:
Ah pocohantas liked my post. Dancing 💃🏿 💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿🥹

Stop it, Purple...😂😩😂😩🙈😩🙈😂

MissOpe:
I can relate with this...
I am married and given the numerous disagreement btw my spouse and I, at this point I don't mind if he has a small wife that takes his problem away from me....I don't like sex and ive told him numerous times he can get someone to warm his bed.
Marriage is not a do or die affair...
If I have my way I don't mind an opened marriage....

It seems you were circumcised.

Nefort:
It seems you were circumcised.

No sir...
I just enjoy it during ovulation and when I'm pregnant...

MissOpe:
No sir...
I just enjoy it during ovulation and when I'm pregnant...

MissOpe, maybe you should stop replying these posts accusing you of something or the other, or statements designed to elicit further details into your sexual inclination. The replies you have already given are more than enough to satisfy the questions of anyone. My 2 cents.

CaptainJune:
MissOpe, maybe you should stop replying these posts accusing you of something or the other, or statements designed to elicit further details into your sexual inclination. The replies you have already given are more than enough to satisfy the questions of anyone. My 2 cents.

Thanks Captain June....🙏🙏🙏.
I'll yield to the advice given....
Gracias.

THE MIRROR REFLECTS YOUR IMAGE, NA WETIN AUNTY GET FOR MIND TO ALSO DO WITH HER EXES BE THAT. IF YOU DO ME,..I DO YOU.