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Is it just me or there's this thing that whispers to you once you are in a long distance relationship, you keep hearing things like "just cheat, you dunno wah he or she is doing over there", "have a back up plan in case something happens", "just keep at least one talking stage. Omor, how do you guys do it because sincerely the cold nights ain't funny anymore and it's not even because of seggzz..a romantic company can do a lot more than calm the nerves.
I am in a long distance ship and sometimes it almost drives me crazy, sometimes I just want a reassurance from my man that he is feeling it as much as I do and it's not even about the feelings really,it's a lot more...please share with me if you understand me or you have a good suggestion on how to handle this distance thingy.

Well, I'm not saying he'll cheat, but don't be surprised if one day you find out that he has another woman and children wherever he's based...

I wish you a happy long distance relationship...

As a man i can confidently tell you that every man in a long distance relationship even when he loves you with all his heart will still cheat on you either willingly or otherwise especially if he is well to do and or handsome.

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Anijay1212:
As a man i can confidently tell you that every man in a long distance relationship even when he loves you with all his heart will still cheat on you either willingly or otherwise especially if he is well to do and or handsome.

Not every man sha. I’ve been in a long term relationship that lasted for a year. I never cared about what the lady did. But that didn’t lead me to cheating on her. She might not believe it, but I never cheated on her. Sometimes I do invite her for segzzzz and I make sure we meet once in a month or in two months but I never cheated on her.

So your statistics is wrong and I’ll keep proving to others that there are some guys that are different.

SpencerForbes:
Not every man sha. I’ve been in a long term relationship that lasted for a year. I never cared about what the lady did. But that didn’t lead me to cheating on her. She might not believe it, but I never cheated on her. Sometimes I do invite her for segzzzz and I make sure we meet once in a month or in two months but I never cheated on her.

So your statistics is wrong and I’ll keep proving to others that there are some guys that are different.

See your saving grace is the fact that you do have the opportunity of reliving your sexual pressure once in a while with your woman but can you say the same for those abroad or who live in far flung places who doesn't meet for up to a year and more. You see you might not be a cheat but na one day monkey dey go market but to return come be wahala.

Anijay1212:
See your saving grace is the fact that you do have the opportunity of reliving your sexual pressure once in a while with your woman but can you say the same for those abroad or who live in far flung places who doesn't meet for up to a year and more. You see you might not be a cheat but na one day monkey dey go market but to return come be wahala.

Sure, I get what you’re saying. Living abroad is the extreme. I once had a friend that her boyfriend was in Dubai. She tried so much not to cheat but at the end she couldn’t help it. The guy is always fixing and changing dates. I’m not sure they’re together any longer.

Arrrh! What kind of confidence is this? Why are you people talk as if everybody are the same? I moved to Kuwait, for 1 hr I did not sleep with any woman even when my woman was still a gf, I came back after 1 hr and married her and went back. Right now, I am going another 2 yrs and I have not still sleep with any woman. Not even OS that advertise themselves around. Why, because I hate cheating and I detest it. I cannot withstand it... I used to tell my wife that I don't care how many people you have dated before, as far as I met you, I'm not a virgin like wise you, but I care about your present life. So, anytime I know that you cheated on me, you're gone, be it that I find out even when am old, otilor... Because, I have programme my mind that I can live without a woman since I lost the mother of my children.
So please stop generalising it abeg. Kilode.

Anijay1212:
As a man i can confidently tell you that every man in a long distance relationship even when he loves you with all his heart will still cheat on you either willingly or otherwise especially if he is well to do and or handsome.

tppzzy01:
Arrrh! What kind of confidence is this? Why are you people talk as if everybody are the same? I moved to Kuwait, for 1 hr I did not sleep with any woman even when my woman was still a gf, I came back after 1 hr and married her and went back. Right now, I am going another 2 yrs and I have not still sleep with any woman. Not even OS that advertise themselves around. Why, because I hate cheating and I detest it. I cannot withstand it... I used to tell my wife that I don't care how many people you have dated before, as far as I met you, I'm not a virgin like wise you, but I care about your present life. So, anytime I know that you cheated on me, you're gone, be it that I find out even when am old, otilor... Because, I have programme my mind that I can live without a woman since I lost the mother of my children.
So please stop generalising it abeg. Kilode.

Thanks… we need more men that can think like this, even ladies. I’ve had this argument even with clerics and they keep telling me it’s because I’m not yet married. That if I get married I’ll know that variety is the spice of life but I keep thinking if I didn’t cheat during my dating stage, why would I cheat when I get married. As you lay your bed so you lie on it.

Yes, men from creation has been polygamous but that doesn’t mean you can’t be monogamous if you want. Even my current partner doesn’t believe men can be faithful and I’m not trying to prove it to her but I’m happy knowing that with self will you can always beat some generalizations.

You can't imagine how I hate cheating. When I was in secondary school back the in 90's, I used to bringing girls to my parents house. I was the boldest amongst my siblings. I told myself then that any woman I impregnate, will be my wife. Mind you, I'm not used to using condom oo, I practiced withdrawal method. And I used to date more than one girl. Until I met my late wife, that was when I know what is called love, dated for like 4 years , then, one day, I made mistake and pour it inside, that was how we got married. I was 25 yrs while she was 20 yrs old then. Since then, God!!! I used to enjoy this woman. Everyday, I woke up to her, she's always like a new wife I just married, even after 3 kids oo. Menh!!! I missed that woman. For me, once I made up my mind that, this is the person I want to marry and she too said the same thing, then, it means I have gotten everything I needed in woman.

SpencerForbes:
Thanks… we need more men that can think like this, even ladies. I’ve had this argument even with clerics and they keep telling me it’s because I’m not yet married. That if I get married I’ll know that variety is the spice of life but I keep thinking if I didn’t cheat during my dating stage, why would I cheat when I get married. As you lay your bed so you lie on it.

Yes, men from creation has been polygamous but that doesn’t mean you can’t be monogamous if you want. Even my current partner doesn’t believe men can be faithful and I’m not trying to prove it to her but I’m happy knowing that with self will you can always beat some generalizations.

To be honest, I love long distance relationships that are not marriages, you do what you want and I do what I want and, we are together whenever I am around. We can even have a child together. Just be responsible.

Samantha125:
Well, I'm not saying he'll cheat, but don't be surprised if one day you find out that he has another woman and children wherever he's based...

I wish you a happy long distance relationship...

Lol, thank you so much...I get really scared when I think of it, he has assured me so many times that he won't cheat and I trust him but my work colleagues are of the opinion that all men cheat..maybe I just need to shut out the noise

Anijay1212:
As a man i can confidently tell you that every man in a long distance relationship even when he loves you with all his heart will still cheat on you either willingly or otherwise especially if he is well to do and or handsome.

My man is too handsome, it's scary and he is well to do but then a huge part of me is choosing to trust him, to believe that he is one of the few that wouldn't cheat.