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Badmashiii:
Guy you see this bolded? I really no expect am from you based on you be OG. As such you supposed noh sey u no fit trust any human being 100%.

Na u no r read well ooo.....U trust me nor me say I trust you ooo

Don't act foolishly as if you know...

Tell her more about how you appreciate her sister and how you think she's a big influence on your wife...

You have won for yourself a support in her family who is going to be protecting your relationship and interests in her family!

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021 we did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month
Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked
Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....
I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin
I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it
I am very displeased

That is her confidant.
If she hasn't started misbehaving, you have no reason to ruin things yourself.

Ha man your marriage is finish trust me, I have seen this every were
., send the sister away or let her go be with her and u find another wife , keep a back up wife , just Incase oo

Abeg say this ''I met her a virgin'' na d new slang 4 9ja ni?

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Is she truly a virgin?

Well, so long she's a virgin... Marry her! Or else you'll have nothing in the street but to end up with a retired hoe or an active working olosho.

Virgin again, maybe you have to stroll down the front page to see what a virgin wife has done to her man

That u lack love does not mean ur girl must lack job and support system.

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Let it go.
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If the advice given to her is good, don’t say anything o. That means that’s a good confidant. You can just advise her to not say everything you tell her to outsiders. The problem is a bad confidant, Omo if they see that opportunity they will try to use it to wreck your life. A married person must also be discerning to understand when an advice is bad for their spouse and family. So they can drop such advisers, but, a lot of people lack discernment. Because of emotions, if certain people advise them, they rush and carry out actions without thinking. Study your wife and also try to encourage her to have an independent mind. It’s very important for the survival of your marriage.

Some Men have low self esteem Sha,So She can not tell her sister things just because she is your fiancee.
But some of you have friends whom you share every of your relationship steps with.

advanceDNA:
Talking to her about it won't change much....that's her go-to person....but that doesn't mean u shouldnt tell her how u feel anyway...


I cannot marry a woman that I wont be her confidant, her gist or gossip partner, the first person she tells everything, whether it's just internet gist or who's sleeping with who in her office,....I mean I can't marry a woman that I'm not her paddi for jungle, her ride or die that she can bury a dead body with and be sure none of us will snitch...

You can say that again...You can say that again...You can say that again.

Don't place all ur mind on any women. Have a side chick to balance your heart pressure.

These days I no dey worry my wife anymore cos I have get a side chick. Before we use to fight everyday.

I have peace now.

I think most women have who they confide in. I dont think its a problem, especially if the Sister is giving her good advice.

Sorry for the interference, but you need to put up a privacy mode.

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Check if the elder Sister is a domineering kind who wants her own idea to be done even in someone else's business....

Pls do that assignment because you will definitely see it manifesting in your marriage to the point that your Wife will likely leave you to go and be with the Sister after any small issues because the Sister said she should come over....

And more importantly, if the findings prove that she is a commanding kind which is not evil but natural, then , you have to start having a strong decision ability and control over your Wife...
Also check if your Wife is the kind that follows or does the bidding of her Sister ..

Always State to your Wife your decisons and also to your Sister in-law....smile a little but be observant always if not they will pocket you...

Remember, is not what to be depressed about, just be happy you noticed it on time and start building immunity over it ..

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Is she respectful ? Is her sister happily married ?
If yes , you almost have nothing to worry about .

Reduce what you discuss with her. So anything you don't want her sister or anyone to know, don't tell her. That's her go to person but with time, it should be just you and not her sister anymore. If she ask you why you suddenly don't discuss some personal things to her again. Tell her nothing.

Modified: Never confront her, you will be losing your frame like that. You should be in control, don't let a woman know your weak point, she will use it against you in the future.

She can even say you want to spoil the relationship between her and her sister, and they will use that talk to make more bond and your marriage will go downhill.

Marriage is not for the faint hearted.

Marriage is for Chumps.

advanceDNA:
Talking to her about it won't change much....that's her go-to person....but that doesn't mean u shouldnt tell her how u feel anyway...

The real issue is...U are just her husband to be and nothing more, thats not a bad thing as long as there is peace and love....a lot of relationships works like that where the wife or husband's bestie or confidant is someone else outside the marriage..

It's not technically a bad thing for ur woman to have someone that they feel comfortable talking to.....but I personally feel it would be better if that person is the same person they are sharing a roof, challenges and exchanging saliva.....

I cannot marry a woman that I wont be her confidant, her gist or gossip partner, the first person she tells everything, whether it's just internet gist or who's sleeping with who in her office,....I mean I can't marry a woman that I'm not her paddi for jungle, her ride or die that she can bury a dead body with and be sure none of us will snitch...

God bless you for this wisdom. I concur with all your advice. With these, she will surely ammend.

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

See this one never ready to marry oo, she told her sister those things because she is proud of you. It's part of family to share such issues, you can't take her away from family, however, you can politely ask her not to let issue of intimacy between you and her out.

But i hope ego would allow you be a good man of house.

Talking as an experience person.

Everyone has a go to person. Count yourself lucky hers is her sister and pray the sister is a good person who gives the right advice. This is no issue brother, rest.

extol1:
Virgin again, maybe you have to stroll down the front page to see what a virgin wife has done to her man

Virgin are not Angels after all I have read today.

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Since this sis is happily married, you are good unless the sis is single or divorced.

Her Sister is Her support system. Once You Marry Her and Your Wife's Sister too Marries They both will have to reduce chats cos their support systems are now You guys their Husbands.. Also age plays a very big role cos the older the wiser..

This is your opportunity to woo the sister if you carry large equipment.

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

You can rest assure that your marriage will be controlled by her family members. She is still immature and doesn't know what she wants yet. It will surely not end well if it continues like this. I have a brother currently going through this kind of situation. His wife is being manipulated by her family members especially her mother and elder sister the mother has manipulated our of her own husbands house.
Your marriage will be a public affair in her family and that surely is not a good thing.
My brother hasn't had joy since he married that woman and she sure doesn't want to change.

Honestly is totally wrong and not advisable to tell her everything.
I am married and from my experience, it is not good, my wife did that and believe me a day will come when your sister inlaw will spite it out on your face and to those who care to listen.
Cheers

OP, you're looking for an issue where there's none, except there's more to the conversation she's having with her sister which you aren't cool with

Her sister is her go-to person, so you should be happy that her own blood sister is her go-to person

You should only be worried if her sister is divorced or a rebel to her own husband but as long as she's happily married, you don't have anything to worth about

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

and this one too is a man like this? So you don't know women discuss everything between themselves 100% Abi? What exactly is your problem? Obviously you will be the problem in that marriage if it happens, you better free the innocent lady before it's too late

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

did she also tell her sister that you’re Goody2shoez when it gets to doing things in the other room?? If she’s not done that, then she’s got some things that she’s still keeping.

Ezeimo:
Honestly is totally wrong and not advisable to tell her everything.
I am married and from my experience, it is not good, my wife did that and believe me a day will come when your sister inlaw will spite it out on your face and to those who care to listen.
Cheers

then divorce your wife and stay completely away from women because you can't rule out such in a normal woman, only sadist or mentally deranged women don't gossip

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

it just reflects the level of closeness between them. However, You need to confirm if she does this within her family circle and not just with her sister only (it's the norm for some families). After doing this, you need to have a discussion with her by letting her know boundaries shouldn't be joked with going forward. Watch her after this, if she does not adjust ditch her if you can't handle it.
This might not be a bad thing