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Was in my wife's shop and this guy came in, I have only ever seen him once...some weeks ago when I was in the shop and they (him and my wife) seemed to be going back and forth about a withdrawal he did via POS a few days prior, which she had even mentioned to me. He ended up proving that he indeed made the transfer but to a different bank from the one my wife had checked.
It seemed like a totally normal encounter, I mean both of them were very cool and relaxed about the whole issue while it was happening but it wasn't anything to think about.

I saw him for the second time 4 days ago, came in and something was immediately awkward.
He had a cunning smirk and didn't greet just asked her “how are you na".
I also must add he's a young guy and quite good looking alright.

The whole time my wife was acting very shy, she could barely look at his face and had a little sheepish smile. I know what that exact behaviour from ladies is, I have experienced it severally in the past.
Meanwhile he didn't even acknowledge my presence at all like I was invisible or something.

He came to withdraw money again and buy something which I was too bewildered to even recall now.
I've always been a jealous lover I'll admit but this is my WIFE we're talking about here. Married for 9+ years with 3 kids, and she should be at least 7 or 8 years older than this guy.

He left with a similar, even bigger smirk than the first and my wife had an obvious smile this time while she bade him goodbye.
She went back to sit and started pressing her phone like usual, with a normal facial expression. But I couldn't stop trying to decipher why my wife had been visibly blushing hard for a guy much younger, all while in my presence. I didn't even know what to say to her or ask her.

Ever since I have been trying to look up her WhatsApp chats and calls, something I have never done since I got married to her, but I haven’t found anything unusual.

My wife is a beautiful fair woman who doesn't look like she has multiple kids at all so I can understand why younger guys would be after her. I usually visit her shop like 4-5 times a week and spend a couple hours at most, but yesterday I spent almost the entire day with some excuse, hoping to encounter this guy again and witness my wife's reaction.

It's becoming obsessive at this point.

Didn't wanna add this, but we made love 2 nights ago and I literally thought about this guy while at it, made me go extra hard on her and have a doggy style position which my wife has never really liked, and I was spanking her butt and squeezing very hard while doing it to her shock, also something I've never really done.

This shit is basically derailling my life right now and I'm just looking for this to pass and everything to go back to normal. I guess as the days pass I'll forget about it but I'm just eager to witness both of them meeting each other again.

Am I overthinking this?? Should I bring it up?

Oga, don't let nonsense give you high blood pressure.

Do you expect her to frown and be mean to her customer?

Abeg, drink water, you'll be fine.

How do people manage to go through all these lengthy fake stories sef. I no even complete the second paragraph. If you wan lie, try to make it short. Stop wasting our time on fabrications abeg.

Obviously, you are the jealous type.

You might be unto something here or not.


Best way to find out is to ask your wife about this observation during the encounters.

Must be done while both of you are relaxed and in a romatic mood.

You can take it from there based on her reaction.

Mehn, with the way I hear someone following married women around this days ehn oga you should be very vigilante oo.

The honest answer is that your wife found the lad attractive. It’s a natural reaction. Just because she’s married doesn’t mean she’s blind. You could’ve taken that opportunity to embarrass her a little bit by jokingly mocking her reaction.

Imagine you were in her position and a beautiful younger woman was interacting with you. You would feel awkward, blush, lower your gaze (if you’re a decent faithful husband), and smile sheepishly! It’s a natural human reaction.

The problem is when you act on those impulses and commit adultery. You’re a jealous person and you should work on that. You could communicate your insecurities with your wife in a flattering manner and she would support you out of those insecurities. Don’t damage your marriage by imagined threats.

suckprick:
How do people manage to go through all these lengthy fake stories sef. I no even complete the second paragraph. If you wan lie, try to make it short. Stop wasting our time on fabrications abeg.

I wish I checked op out before I made that long comment up there! 👆

Erikkana:
Enugu peeps, who knows any olosho joint in Enugu town, close to Maryland / Unec precisely ?? Help a bro 🙏🙏

bruh we all need to come to terms with the fact that everyone (single or married) has a soft spot for good looking people.

Double0h7:
I wish I checked op out before I made that long comment up there! 👆

I'm no saint, but my wife was pregnant then and we hadn't had sex for weeks, but in the end I overcame the temptation and hence I deleted the initial message.
I have never cheated on her.

Borrow2222:
Oga, don't let nonsense give you high blood pressure.

Do you expect her to frown and be mean to her customer?

Abeg, drink water, you'll be fine.

There's a difference between smiling at your customer and blushing. Hers was so clearly the latter.

The worst thing a man can do is act and look badly jealousy. A little jealousy is okay but the obsessive kind will cause the type of problems you want to avoid..

9 years In marriage is enough for things to get boring, lose its spark etc. So a man finds your wife attractive? So what. Other women should find you attractive in front of her as well.

Most times when women cheat or at the verge of cheating something is missing in the relationship. So find out what that is.

Also, regarding how you fùcked her, do NOT tell her you did dòggy because you were jealous of her and the other guy. Don't even hint at it... just frame the reason as something positive she did that night or recently that makes your relationship stronger


For now, just play it cool, find out what's missing in your relationship and adjust accordingly

IceColdVeins:

bruh we all need to come to terms with the fact that everyone (single or married) has a soft spot for good looking people.

And we should also come to terms that all women will always trip for a more handsome dude than their men, sad truth

Op your BP go high no worry,u go cryyyyy

suckprick:
How do people manage to go through all these lengthy fake stories sef. I no even complete the second paragraph. If you wan lie, try to make it short. Stop wasting our time on fabrications abeg.

But can you prove it's fake ?








Complete am yourself to 40 akara seun

Erikkana:
I usually visit her shop like 4-5 times a week and spend a couple hours at most, but yesterday I spent almost the entire day with some excuse

And you say you get work?
This is what happens when as a man, you don't take care of yourself, you don't exercise, you keep OLD PAPA hair styles, you have no social vibes, nothing new about you.

Abeg where is that your wife's shop?

Your wife is also no saint for finding the guy attractive, she's just a human... So stop with all this drama.

Erikkana:
I'm no saint, but my wife was pregnant then and we hadn't had sex for weeks, but in the end I overcame the temptation and hence I deleted the initial message.
I have never cheated on her.

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Erikkana:
Was in my wife's shop and this guy came in, I have only ever seen him once...some weeks ago when I was in the shop and they (him and my wife) seemed to be going back and forth about a withdrawal he did via POS a few days prior, which she had even mentioned to me. He ended up proving that he indeed made the transfer but to a different bank from the one my wife had checked.
It seemed like a totally normal encounter, I mean both of them were very cool and relaxed about the whole issue while it was happening but it wasn't anything to think about.

I saw him for the second time 4 days ago, came in and something was immediately awkward.
He had a cunning smirk and didn't greet just asked her “how are you na".
I also must add he's a young guy and quite good looking alright.

The whole time my wife was acting very shy, she could barely look at his face and had a little sheepish smile. I know what that exact behaviour from ladies is, I have experienced it severally in the past.
Meanwhile he didn't even acknowledge my presence at all like I was invisible or something.

He came to withdraw money again and buy something which I was too bewildered to even recall now.
I've always been a jealous lover I'll admit but this is my WIFE we're talking about here. Married for 9+ years with 3 kids, and she should be at least 7 or 8 years older than this guy.

He left with a similar, even bigger smirk than the first and my wife had an obvious smile this time while she bade him goodbye.
She went back to sit and started pressing her phone like usual, with a normal facial expression. But I couldn't stop trying to decipher why my wife had been visibly blushing hard for a guy much younger, all while in my presence. I didn't even know what to say to her or ask her.

Ever since I have been trying to look up her WhatsApp chats and calls, something I have never done since I got married to her, but I haven’t found anything unusual.

My wife is a beautiful fair woman who doesn't look like she has multiple kids at all so I can understand why younger guys would be after her. I usually visit her shop like 4-5 times a week and spend a couple hours at most, but yesterday I spent almost the entire day with some excuse, hoping to encounter this guy again and witness my wife's reaction.

It's becoming obsessive at this point.

Didn't wanna add this, but we made love 2 nights ago and I literally thought about this guy while at it, made me go extra hard on her and have a doggy style position which my wife has never really liked, and I was spanking her butt and squeezing very hard while doing it to her shock, also something I've never really done.

This shit is basically derailling my life right now and I'm just looking for this to pass and everything to go back to normal. I guess as the days pass I'll forget about it but I'm just eager to witness both of them meeting each other again.

Am I overthinking this?? Should I bring it up?

Where's ya shop? Maybe it's me. This story sounds very familiar... I think it's me