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ayusco85:
The later a woman marries,
the harder she is to build with.

Because while the world praises “maturity” and “independence,”
real men know:

You don’t marry potential at its expiration date.

Let’s break it down:

—

1. Youth Means Flexibility—Age Means Resistance

A young woman comes into marriage fluid.
She’s teachable. She’s open. She adapts.

Not because she’s weak—
But because she hasn’t been hardened by life yet.

At 19, she learns through love.
At 29, she only learns through trauma.

By 30?

She’s no longer learning.
She’s negotiating.

And now every instruction feels like control.
Every correction sounds like oppression.
Every standard gets labeled as “toxic.”

You can’t lead someone who thinks they’ve already arrived.

Ablesam171:
Those who choose self-deception may continue to live in denial, but as for me and my household, we will always consider a woman’s past before paying her bride price.

A woman’s purity is her pride and should be a cherished gift to her husband. You cannot live recklessly and expect no consequences.

Men should no longer bear the burden of repairing what they did not break.

Na de past of woman na en mata and na man future mata. If you know you know.

Kaido:
It is better to marry a lady that a guy nack 45 times than to marry a lady that got dickmatized by 45 different guys.

BafanaBafana:
My own sef, what she did in a relationship is not a problem. The issue is what she did outside the relationships. I can't be with a girl that has slept with more guys than she has dated.

gift2xl:
Who contributed to her past, is it not men? There are more stupid men than women. A woman will love and trust a man and that same man will break her heart.

irumanle:
Nice writeup. The my 33 year-old ex hate me ehn. You will think I was the one that was responsible for the breakup. She become more toxic as she aged. She was not like this in the past o.

Kaido:
It is better to marry a lady that a guy nack 45 times than to marry a lady that got dickmatized by 45 different guys.

ayusco85:
The later a woman marries,
the harder she is to build with.

Because while the world praises “maturity” and “independence,”
real men know:

You don’t marry potential at its expiration date.

Let’s break it down:

—

1. Youth Means Flexibility—Age Means Resistance

A young woman comes into marriage fluid.
She’s teachable. She’s open. She adapts.

Not because she’s weak—
But because she hasn’t been hardened by life yet.

At 19, she learns through love.
At 29, she only learns through trauma.

By 30?

She’s no longer learning.
She’s negotiating.

And now every instruction feels like control.
Every correction sounds like oppression.
Every standard gets labeled as “toxic.”

You can’t lead someone who thinks they’ve already arrived.

danietohbadt:
A woman's value is determined by her past,
A man's value is determined by his future.

End.

salem1996:
Those ladies literally slept with men when growing up, so why don't you talk about the men too?

ediko5:
So you believe her past is passed and the important aspect of her life is her present and future?

You believe she is now born-again and her past doesn't matter ? You're heading to a pit of burning fire.

A lot of men with this mentality have learned or are currently learning the hard way. The past of a woman is what she operates on and in most cases is her operating system.

The reality is that you can't domesticate what belong to the street and it's very dangerous to domesticate a wild animal.

You think a lady who have spent her past 5, 10, 15 or even 20 years on the streets will suddenly become a good domestic lady?

A lady who's used to 5, 10, 15 - 20 different cassavas on a monthly basis will suddenly get used to your cassava because you're taking good care of her financially?

A lady who have different kind of men expert in different kind of sexual act ranging from different styles of penetration (the man that will satisfy her with dog - gy, wheelbarrow, cow-girl etc), the men that are very good in oral and use of fingers etc will suddenly be used to you ? My brother and oga please think again.

I've personally seen women married to well-to-do men who take good care of their financial needs sleeping around with random men just to satisfy their lifestyle accumulated from their past.

Avoid converting community property to your personal property because your house will attract many strangers coming to whisper to the community property to come outside for playtime.

Please judge a lady's past mercilessly because if you marry a lady with a dirty past you will live with the consequences of her dirty past.

This is a prophetic message and warning to the men

ediko5:
I wrote about that here: https://www.nairaland.com/8458261/dont-responsible-decent-man-see

The fact is no one seeks a God fearing, decent and well coordinated man than a damaged street girl.

So in summary, this post is to protect the innocent men from the street girls. If you grew up dating Yahoo boys, married men, sugar daddies and others please go to those category of men for marriage and don't go to that young man who sacrificed his youthful pleasure to build his career and life.

ayusco85:
The later a woman marries,
the harder she is to build with.

Because while the world praises “maturity” and “independence,”
real men know:

You don’t marry potential at its expiration date.

Let’s break it down:

—

1. Youth Means Flexibility—Age Means Resistance

A young woman comes into marriage fluid.
She’s teachable. She’s open. She adapts.

Not because she’s weak—
But because she hasn’t been hardened by life yet.

At 19, she learns through love.
At 29, she only learns through trauma.

By 30?

She’s no longer learning.
She’s negotiating.

And now every instruction feels like control.
Every correction sounds like oppression.
Every standard gets labeled as “toxic.”

You can’t lead someone who thinks they’ve already arrived.

ediko5:
Wow, I just had a second look at this comment. Very brilliant write-up.

They say a woman judge a man by his future while a man judge a woman by her past. But the future is determined by the past, for instance as a woman looking for a well to do man should judge how the man build his career and life. Sometimes even a Yahoo boy will have to invest like 1-2 years for apprenticeship in an HK.

Imagine a man marrying a lady in 30s who's not used to feeding herself with her 'earned' money through a legit business or work. A lady who has been feeding from her male lovers for the past 10 - 15 suddenly get married and the husband give her money to start a business, believe me 90% of the ladies won't know where to start from.

RollinTNDA:
Women judge men by their future
Men judge women by their past

ediko5:
So you believe her past is passed and the important aspect of her life is her present and future?

You believe she is now born-again and her past doesn't matter ? You're heading to a pit of burning fire.

A lot of men with this mentality have learned or are currently learning the hard way. The past of a woman is what she operates on and in most cases is her operating system.

The reality is that you can't domesticate what belong to the street and it's very dangerous to domesticate a wild animal.

You think a lady who have spent her past 5, 10, 15 or even 20 years on the streets will suddenly become a good domestic lady?

A lady who's used to 5, 10, 15 - 20 different cassavas on a monthly basis will suddenly get used to your cassava because you're taking good care of her financially?

A lady who have different kind of men expert in different kind of sexual act ranging from different styles of penetration (the man that will satisfy her with dog - gy, wheelbarrow, cow-girl etc), the men that are very good in oral and use of fingers etc will suddenly be used to you ? My brother and oga please think again.

I've personally seen women married to well-to-do men who take good care of their financial needs sleeping around with random men just to satisfy their lifestyle accumulated from their past.

Avoid converting community property to your personal property [/b]because your house will attract many strangers coming to whisper to the community property to come outside for playtime.

Please judge a lady's past mercilessly because if you marry a lady with a dirty past you will live with the consequences of her dirty past.

This is a prophetic message and warning to the me

nonny1212:
The message, the punch-line.. if you like, turn deaf ear