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Marriage is a lessi that u can not fully solve but keep moving in the right direction

giftson102:
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Beautiful piece and ideal for a happy home.
Weldon for sharing let those who have ears hear

Samantha125:
1. I have both health insurance and funeral policy.
4. Get a domestic staff or a monitoring spirit? I still have trust issues there, especially when it comes to my own gender, we're our own biggest enemies.

Lol
You are one of the few women who are bold enough to admit that last statement

You dey whine....??
Family doctor
Family lawyer
No be for family wey don chop belleful...
My brother come to our level abeg

ruggedtimi:
No 8...I dis-gree with you on that. Talking from experience.

what he is saying is true bro. If your kids mingle with kids of influential people he stands to benefit from the association. Former minister of foreign affairs was a long time school mate of ABBA kyari and was always

Saw this on Facebook. Who is the original author?

Plagiarism?

giftson102:
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Whoever took advice from you before marriage will never make mistakes. I am learning some of them the hard way but subconsciously I knew some already.

Let me add -

If your wife don't have any means of income yet, get her one as soon as possible no matter how small like a kiosk.

If you have the means, buy 2 cars in advance if not you go turn to driver.

Don't live close to extended family unless you don't have the capacity to move after marriage.

NB: don't wait for everything to be perfect before you take action... Things will never be perfect. Just be conscious

thesicilian:
If you have enough money to pay school fees 3 months ahead and buy household items in bulk, then you don't really have a problem to begin with.

If you have enough money to pay school fees 3 months ahead and buy household items in bulk, then you don't really have a problem to begin with

Abi o.

Don27tiky:
what he is saying is true bro. If your kids mingle with kids of influential people he stands to benefit from the association. Former minister of foreign affairs was a long time school mate of ABBA kyari and was always

He placed emphasis on attending a pricey school, believing that’s where you’d most likely encounter elite kids...My argument is that even those who attended public schools have the potential to grow up and become prominent figures in society


While your friends back in the elite school might still be broke and staying in daddy house who is now a nobody. I attended one of the most expensive secondary schools back then in Port harcourt..They were students whose parents held positions as deputy governors, members of the House of Representatives, senators, commissioners, prominent traditional rulers, and influential pastors from Rivers State and other parts of the Niger Delta and some students came down from Canada/U.S... Many of those kids today are hardly remarkable , some have lost their footing and a few of their parents may be broke or deceased. Meanwhile, some of my friends who attended public schools back then are now thriving among the big boys likely the very classmates they had in public secondary school.

SyrusdeHansome:
Nice advice but everything you listed up there depends on how wealthy or rich a person is before getting married.

My point exactly.... Some who is not financially stable will find it difficult taking his kids to the best schools, register NHIS, and employ a house help. I think you should also line list decisions that are cost effective

This is like the best advice I have seen on marriage in a while.

ruggedtimi:
No 8...I dis-gree with you on that. Talking from experience.

You are right 30 abi 50 MASTER GRADUATE camera man at Peller application job joke 🤣, just have education to know what you are doing, like writing and reading . For getting a job nope in Nigeria is not possible.

giftson102:
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This is going to be one of the all interesting, important and relevant thread on Nairaland.

It's entirely inspiring, instructive and enlighten post.

May God bless you for the guidance and reminder.

immortalcrown:
I am still single but I already have to health insurance plans. Health insurance is necessary all the time. You need it before, during and even after marriage.

I have a family reliable private hospital I can visit anytime. So what exactly does it mean to have a family doctor?

Whoever has the money to pay school fees before school resumption can as well pay the fees when school has resumed. Who paid before resumption and who paid after resumption paid the same amount. It is not like inflation will change the amount within the term or semester. There is no benefit in paying the fees before school resumption unless you have a very bad spending habit.

I sincerely need an explanation on having a family lawyer. Does it mean you will be paying the lawyer monthly or yearly fee even if the lawyer does not handle any case for you within the month or year?

Domestic staff? Get one if you and your spouse are too occupied with office tasks and you don't have a relative that can live with you. As for me, I have relatives I can feed and train in school while they live with me and assist me with chores. But if my wife chooses not to do business or get a job, she can do the chores except when she is ill, pregnant or nursing a baby that is less than a year old. I will assist her when I am at home. If you like, claim that I am stressing her. All I know is that women who are committed to their marriages do not find chores difficult. They only want their husbands to assist when the husbands are available.

Slay queens are the ones that will be jobless and want a domestic staff so that they can jump from one salon to another to test all brands of hair, makeup and nails. They are addicted to "organic skincare" and refuse to even cook because the chemical makes their skin allergic to heat. 😂 And na dem dey divorce when money finish.

Every other thing you wrote here has always been a common practise among African or Nigerian parents.

Laughing. Are you a protagonist or antagonist because your post get as e be

ruggedtimi:
No 8...I dis-gree with you on that. Talking from experience.

Is he talking about primary school or secondary school or higher institution? The benefits he's talking about can hardly be gotten from both primary and secondary schools. And higher institution has to be going to private universities because that's where the kids of wealthy people attend

Juliearth:
It is not necessarily so. All it takes is proper planning. You preempt an expense and plan for it before it suffices. For instance you could dedicstr two months' income to shop for the year. To ease things up further, couples most times set up a savings plan for their children even before they are born. That serves as a reservoir of resources that could cover the kids' expenses.

Nice one ma'am. I've seen useless parents who didn't shop mother care items at point of birth 🤦

ruggedtimi:
No 8...I dis-gree with you on that. Talking from experience.

Why do you disagree? Imagine you have a secondary school classmate friend whose parents are into politics. It's easy for them to introduce you to their parents and you could get help. No be so?

This post belongs to Kelvin Onovo on Facebook. So except you are him, you should give credit.

This is really a great way to unit family. Thank you man

Good points but you see this no 8
8. See the friends and circle your kids will have tomorrow everything depends on the school they attend.
This one is very, very important.
Even if you don’t have money, find a way to send your children to one of the best schools.
You won’t realise what you’re doing until they come of age.

Send your kids to good schools but don't do beyond what you can afford.

This is really a great way to unit family. Thank you man.

Samantha125:
1. I have both health insurance and funeral policy.
4. Get a domestic staff or a monitoring spirit? I still have trust issues there, especially when it comes to my own gender, we're our own biggest enemies.

Just say you can't trust your spouse around other women. People use even beautiful house helps with no issues.

If you guys copied any write-up from other people, always give credit to the original authors. This is stealing of intellectual property. This was originally written by Kevin onovo on Facebook

giftson102:
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Very strategic. You see that health insurance, I go run and soon even though I done dey old for marriage.
These are the things counselling sessions should be about and not the other things that are irrelevant.
I done save am.

Nice advice

For mee 5 and 9 is ok by me. The others are for others.

ReacherSaidNoth:
In summary, have money. Nothing new.

What I want to know is why people in a country horrible in all things are eager to start a family while those in the developed world are avoidant

That's why they're having declining and ageing population and relying heavily on immigrants. It is a pandemic too for them

A woman can hate his fellow woman for no valid reason, but love and cherish an abusive man.

Iamzik:
Lol
You are one of the few women who are bold enough to admit that last statement

Good advice... Thumbs up!!! You know Nigerians love buying things small small. It's not everyone that knows the benefits of buying things in bulk.

Well, that's your opinion... And whether people use beautiful maids or not, that's none of my business.

Dandy1:
Just say you can't trust your spouse around other women. People use even beautiful house helps with no issues.

giftson102:
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Nice points here 👍👍👍

That NHIS point is very important oh.

I like number 7, small small change wey dey enter every day makes sense it mosn't be millions but it can save the day even when you are not around.

Buying things in bulk I'm already used to that as a guy walai it saves me when ever money no dey hand, sometimes all I need to buy to prepare a meal is fish or meat every other thing dey house...