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I got married last year June ending and my wife is 7 months pregnant now. I never know that pregnancy alone comes with alot of financial demands ranging from antenatal and other medical check ups. We just came back from hospital now like play like play N73k done go within some hours. All these wahala and the baby did not yet arrive.

As a young man that is just growing up financially, anytime i think about the financial sacrifices i made since i got married, my mood will change. Now there are many things running in my mind.
1. Sex is never free for a man.
2. Sex in marriage is even more expensive for a man beacuse the money we spend daily to maintain our homes can comfortably afford sex outside change go even remain.
3. Penis is more of a liability to a man than enjoyment.
4. As a man always think twice b4 u have an errection, it do come with heavy price.
I stand to be corrected if anybody found anything i said wrong.

zuby4real10:
I got married last year June ending and my wife is 7 months pregnant now. I never know that pregnancy alone comes with alot of financial demands ranging from antenatal and other medical check ups. We just came back from hospital now like play like play N73k done go within some hours. All these wahala and the baby did not yet arrive.

As a young man that is just growing up financially, anytime i think about the financial sacrifices i made since i got married, my mood will change. Now there are many things running in my mind.
1. Sex is never free for a man.
2. Sex in marriage is even more expensive for a man beacuse the money we spend daily to maintain our homes can comfortably afford sex outside change go even remain.
3. Penis is more of a liability to a man than enjoyment.
4. As a man always think twice b4 u have an errection, it do come with heavy price.
I stand to be corrected if anybody found anything i said wrong.

baba nothing to be corrected here, you just said the truth, but the fact s you can run from it, because after marriage na still picking follow.

When the child arrive your joy will make.you forget the burden for some minutes and the bill continues until the child finish university.Man up boy

zuby4real10:
I got married last year June ending and my wife is 7 months pregnant now. I never know that pregnancy alone comes with alot of financial demands ranging from antenatal and other medical check ups. We just came back from hospital now like play like play N73k done go within some hours. All these wahala and the baby did not yet arrive.

As a young man that is just growing up financially, anytime i think about the financial sacrifices i made since i got married, my mood will change. Now there are many things running in my mind.
1. Sex is never free for a man.
2. Sex in marriage is even more expensive for a man beacuse the money we spend daily to maintain our homes can comfortably afford sex outside change go even remain.
3. Penis is more of a liability to a man than enjoyment.
4. As a man always think twice b4 u have an errection, it do come with heavy price.
I stand to be corrected if anybody found anything i said wrong.

lol

zuby4real10:
I got married last year June ending and my wife is 7 months pregnant now. I never know that pregnancy alone comes with alot of financial demands ranging from antenatal and other medical check ups. We just came back from hospital now like play like play N73k done go within some hours. All these wahala and the baby did not yet arrive.

As a young man that is just growing up financially, anytime i think about the financial sacrifices i made since i got married, my mood will change. Now there are many things running in my mind.
1. Sex is never free for a man.
2. Sex in marriage is even more expensive for a man beacuse the money we spend daily to maintain our homes can comfortably afford sex outside change go even remain.
3. Penis is more of a liability to a man than enjoyment.
4. As a man always think twice b4 u have an errection, it do come with heavy price.
I stand to be corrected if anybody found anything i said wrong.

Do you have a point? Yes but Your complaints are grossly over flogged due to your financial situation.

The day you get married and start having sex with your wife, you should have started saving an ample amount for the emergence of a child, 70k monthly savings over 9months is 630k which is more than enough to birth two kids.

Financial planning should be a better part of our lives as husbands and fathers, also this is not to say you are wasteful. It might be you dont earn enough so I understand.

₦73,000 in one day might feel like a lot, especially when you're just starting out financially. But what you're paying for isn't luxury; it's basic healthcare for the woman carrying your child. And compared to what she's enduring; morning sickness, hormonal changes, physical pain, and the constant risk of complications; that bill is honestly the least of the cost.

Let's be real:
Before starting a family, have honest conversations about finances, readiness, and responsibilities. Don't assume love alone can carry the load.

If you knew you weren't financially ready, you had no business getting married. And even if marriage happened; pregnancy should have waited.

Ladies, your body and future matter.

Use birth control.
Protect your body, your future, and your sanity until both of you are ready

Because here's the truth:
The real weight of marriage falls on women; emotionally, physically, and mentally.

Pregnancy will change your body, your mind, and your life.

So please; don't hand over your womb to a man who can't even carry basic responsibility.

It's true, please be in charge of your genitals and always be financially buoyant for your wife.

Yes! True! Sex comes with a price but remember the purpose of it in marriage is
1. To build intimacy
2. To bring new off-springs
3. Leisure and pleasure
4. Fulfil the purpose of multiplying and reproducing

Nevertheless, just as it comes with a price for you so does it come with a price for your wife.
9 solid Months of struggling, mentally, emotionally, physically and financially is all she knows.
You only facing the financial burden which is also a very important part of pregnancy but it’s necessary to remember the good that comes from it.

One woman dies every 7minutes in child-bearing in Nigeria, so it’s very important you don’t back down financially and finish the work gracefully.

If you can’t afford a big hospital enroll in primary health center, The seeds are blessings, they are baby factories selling babies to those who needs it, be grateful for yours, appreciate every moment, do your best, show love to her, care for her, care for your unborn child.

zuby4real10:
I got married last year June ending and my wife is 7 months pregnant now. I never know that pregnancy alone comes with alot of financial demands ranging from antenatal and other medical check ups. We just came back from hospital now like play like play N73k done go within some hours. All these wahala and the baby did not yet arrive.

As a young man that is just growing up financially, anytime i think about the financial sacrifices i made since i got married, my mood will change. Now there are many things running in my mind.
1. Sex is never free for a man.
2. Sex in marriage is even more expensive for a man beacuse the money we spend daily to maintain our homes can comfortably afford sex outside change go even remain.
3. Penis is more of a liability to a man than enjoyment.
4. As a man always think twice b4 u have an errection, it do come with heavy price.
I stand to be corrected if anybody found anything i said wrong.

I truly understand where you're coming from. Your frustration is valid, and many young husbands and fathers silently go through similar emotional and financial battles. The pressure is real. However, I feel it’s important to gently correct some of the conclusions you’ve drawn — not to attack you, but to add clarity for others reading this, especially young men trying to build meaningful lives.

1. Marriage and Pregnancy Are Investments, Not Expenses
Yes, N73,000 in one day for antenatal and check-ups is tough. But you’re not “losing money” — you’re investing in your wife’s health and your unborn child’s safe arrival. Would you rather spend less and risk complications or regret later? This is what mature love and responsibility look like — protecting what matters most.

2. Sex in Marriage is NOT Transactional
Saying sex isn’t free or becomes "more expensive" in marriage misses the point. Sex in marriage is not a transaction — it’s a part of emotional intimacy, partnership, and shared life. If you’re measuring marital sex against transactional sex outside, you’ve misunderstood the foundation of marriage. You don’t just “pay” for sex — you provide for your family because it's your home, your responsibility, your legacy.

3. Your Penis is Not a Liability — Your Mindset Is
Blaming biology for the consequences of our choices isn’t the answer. Your penis isn't the problem — it's the decisions made without fully understanding their long-term implications. A man doesn't become a victim of his erection. A wise man learns to master his desires, make informed choices, and prepare for what comes next.

4. Fatherhood is a Badge of Honour, Not a Burden
The world may never fully understand the sacrifices of good fathers, but that doesn’t mean the sacrifices are in vain. Building a family is hard — emotionally, mentally, and financially — but it is also one of the most rewarding journeys a man can undertake. You’re not suffering because you’re married or expecting a child — you're growing. Growth is painful, but it's necessary.


To other young men reading this: Don’t let fear of responsibility turn you into a cynic. Plan well, delay marriage if needed, but when you do commit — commit with your full chest. It's not always rosy, but there's deep fulfillment in watching your children grow, knowing you gave them your best.

Real men don’t run from responsibility — we rise to meet it.

Jef4u:
I truly understand where you're coming from. Your frustration is valid, and many young husbands and fathers silently go through similar emotional and financial battles. The pressure is real. However, I feel it’s important to gently correct some of the conclusions you’ve drawn — not to attack you, but to add clarity for others reading this, especially young men trying to build meaningful lives.

1. Marriage and Pregnancy Are Investments, Not Expenses
Yes, N73,000 in one day for antenatal and check-ups is tough. But you’re not “losing money” — you’re investing in your wife’s health and your unborn child’s safe arrival. Would you rather spend less and risk complications or regret later? This is what mature love and responsibility look like — protecting what matters most.

2. Sex in Marriage is NOT Transactional
Saying sex isn’t free or becomes "more expensive" in marriage misses the point. Sex in marriage is not a transaction — it’s a part of emotional intimacy, partnership, and shared life. If you’re measuring marital sex against transactional sex outside, you’ve misunderstood the foundation of marriage. You don’t just “pay” for sex — you provide for your family because it's your home, your responsibility, your legacy.

3. Your Penis is Not a Liability — Your Mindset Is
Blaming biology for the consequences of our choices isn’t the answer. Your penis isn't the problem — it's the decisions made without fully understanding their long-term implications. A man doesn't become a victim of his erection. A wise man learns to master his desires, make informed choices, and prepare for what comes next.

4. Fatherhood is a Badge of Honour, Not a Burden
The world may never fully understand the sacrifices of good fathers, but that doesn’t mean the sacrifices are in vain. Building a family is hard — emotionally, mentally, and financially — but it is also one of the most rewarding journeys a man can undertake. You’re not suffering because you’re married or expecting a child — you're growing. Growth is painful, but it's necessary.


To other young men reading this: Don’t let fear of responsibility turn you into a cynic. Plan well, delay marriage if needed, but when you do commit — commit with your full chest. It's not always rosy, but there's deep fulfillment in watching your children grow, knowing you gave them your best.

Real men don’t run from responsibility — we rise to meet it.

Thank you so much sir for taking much of your time to respond to each and every point.

Abeg oo, i no use condom last week. Why am i seeing this post now

shomutuski:
Do you have a point? Yes but Your complaints are grossly over flogged due to your financial situation.

The day you get married and start having sex with your wife, you should have started saving an ample amount for the emergence of a child, 70k monthly savings over 9months is 630k which is more than enough to birth two kids.

Financial planning should be a better part of our lives as husbands and fathers, also this is not to say you are wasteful. It might be you dont earn enough so I understand.

It is always easy to know those who are not married yet by the kind of advise they give.

zuby4real10:
I got married last year June ending and my wife is 7 months pregnant now. I never know that pregnancy alone comes with alot of financial demands ranging from antenatal and other medical check ups. We just came back from hospital now like play like play N73k done go within some hours. All these wahala and the baby did not yet arrive.

As a young man that is just growing up financially, anytime i think about the financial sacrifices i made since i got married, my mood will change. Now there are many things running in my mind.
1. Sex is never free for a man.
2. Sex in marriage is even more expensive for a man beacuse the money we spend daily to maintain our homes can comfortably afford sex outside change go even remain.
3. Penis is more of a liability to a man than enjoyment.
4. As a man always think twice b4 u have an errection, it do come with heavy price.
I stand to be corrected if anybody found anything i said wrong.

Omo! I don spill coffee for shokoto!. Now imagine how you will get to travel the world if na only you? Most marriages are poverty alleviation schemes.

Only venture into marriage with a warrior queen who can pull you out alive in the hottest battle.

I always do imagine how a poor man survives because brother e no easy for this 9ja wey we dey

thesicilian:
It is always easy to know those who are not married yet by the kind of advise they give.

I could dunk on you but I'll pass. If even I am married to two wives right now, I can handle whatever comes. Dont compare my life with yours or anyone as a matter of fact. You dont know me as i dont know you.

shomutuski:
I could dunk on you but I'll pass. If even I am married to two wives right now, I can handle whatever comes. Dont compare my life with yours or anyone as a matter of fact. You dont know me as i dont know you.

Pele o, eyan Michael Jordan

u for do hmo

thesicilian:
Pele o, eyan Michael Jordan

Different tax brackets. Different problems.

zuby4real10:
I got married last year June ending and my wife is 7 months pregnant now. I never know that pregnancy alone comes with alot of financial demands ranging from antenatal and other medical check ups. We just came back from hospital now like play like play N73k done go within some hours. All these wahala and the baby did not yet arrive.

As a young man that is just growing up financially, anytime i think about the financial sacrifices i made since i got married, my mood will change. Now there are many things running in my mind.
1. Sex is never free for a man.
2. Sex in marriage is even more expensive for a man beacuse the money we spend daily to maintain our homes can comfortably afford sex outside change go even remain.
3. Penis is more of a liability to a man than enjoyment.
4. As a man always think twice b4 u have an errection, it do come with heavy price.
I stand to be corrected if anybody found anything i said wrong.

An alarming read. It's infuriating reading the comments that are all out of touch with reality. I reluctantly agree despite how cynical it sounds, finances would cushion these effects. But let's not pretend any of this inconvenience is worth it. Childbirth and fatherhood enjoy a lot of whitewashing. It's not an "investment". You might as well calculate all these expenses and leave it in a fixed deposit for that big gratuity paycheck that would offset the nursing home fees

This needs to be spoken about much more. The only thing I foresee could make this bearable is if the woman carrying the child is stupendously riveting. Then I guess you're paying for waking up beside her and the prestige of going out with her. Otherwise, it's punishment, a thief of joy and a scam

I can't believe men lure others into marriage with their eyes wide open

Now you understand why almost every husband say to the wife at some point. “If say I no marry quick I for go far pass like this”. It’s good to get your hustle on lockdown to stockpile easily before tying the knot. Responsibility is what you’re going through, it’s just a phase, chillax so you don’t transfer aggression to innocent person.

Wahala... Nigeria no be for the weak it's a real world here

I've spent nearly 800k treating my wife's infertility issues just after 2 years of marriage. I'm even praying God to bless us with just a child, and you are here complaining about 73k. Please pass that pregnancy to my wife, we need it badly.

dandollaz:
When the child arrive your joy will make.you forget the burden for some minutes and the bill continues until the child finish university.Man up boy

simp sharap!!! Slave to women make we hear word