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Have accepted my faith and moving on with my life. With time, I'll be alright, from all the advise here, have gathered all the strengths I need.

Damn the repercussions, she is interested or not bold enough, wetin be this, in this time and age

flakkybakky:
Damn the repercussions, she is interested or not bold enough, wetin be this, in this time and age

She's not bold enough to defy her family and follow her heart.

I know what it seems like 'getting candy from a child',its hurt but u gotta keep ya head and handle it.

As painful as it is, you will get through this and you’ll find your woman when the time comes.

You are still very young. With time, things will fall in place for you.
Keep striving.

The lady is gone actually. But you will be fine, i am very very sure of this.

Time sorts us all out.
All the best bro!

Forge forward with your life, you don’t get everything you want in life,guess this is one of those thing…

Being in a relationship or marrying an adult stops nonsense like this. If you want to date a man or a woman, date an adult, not just a grown baby. As long as you know and trust who you are marrying, heaven will not fall if family members don't support your marriage or attend your wedding but I'm sure the overgrown baby you were dating didn't know that.

Sorry, na so heartbreak be
You will be fine
Focus on your life and your own love will find you

labake1:
Sorry, na so heartbreak be
You will be fine
Focus on your life and your own love will find you

Thank you 😊

davosea:
I know what it seems like 'getting candy from a child',its hurt but u gotta keep ya head and handle it.

Thank you 😊

labake1:
Sorry, na so heartbreak be
You will be fine
Focus on your life and your own love will find you

Thank you 😊 I'll do that

Talkisneeded:
Forge forward with your life, you don’t get everything you want in life,guess this is one of those thing…

Thank you 😊

Nonexisting1:
Being in a relationship or marrying an adult stops nonsense like this. If you want to date a man or a woman, date an adult, not just a grown baby. As long as you know and trust who you are marrying, heaven will not fall if family members don't support your marriage or attend your wedding but I'm sure the overgrown baby you were dating didn't know that.

Hmm, it's hard for her choosing a man over her family i guess.

Don’t force yourself to family who doesn’t want you it always end up bad because that what people are already expecting. Leave her two month is too close to fall .

lmao

Instead of you to be grateful to the family for removing the distraction in front of you, you’re here crying like a small child.

In the very near future, when the love has whittled down and you didn’t take out time to become a better person, she will blame you endlessly for making her lose out on a supposed good life that she was supposed to have.

Leave love, go hustle. Be a better version of yourself. There will be better women waiting to marry you at that time. Love is not what men need in marriage, respect is what is needed. And respect comes when you’re fully able to provide for your family

Mut4y:
I'm just starting my life and building my life and I believe I'll make it with the grace of God if I put in more effort in my business and God answer my prayer. The person they want her to marry is based abroad, and it even breaks my heart more that he has more advantage than me financially, and that makes me feel not put in more pressure not to look selfish, I'm in my late 20s the person they want her to marry is in his mid 30s or late 30s. Life isn't fair at all.

Let her go and marry him. Go and make money, there are better girls than her out there.

Focus on your business and/or career. Along the line, you will meet ladies who are gainfully employed and you share the same values.

Stop crying over a woman. Don't you have a job, or something fruitful to spend your time on?

Just forget about her and focus on your life. You'll see someone better.

Good morning, are you the one on your profile picture,if you're the one you look beautiful and sweet.

flakkybakky:
Damn the repercussions, she is interested or not bold enough, wetin be this, in this time and age

My friend respect yourself, why crying over something that is gone. I'm happy that I'm not in a relationship.

U never build your life and you wan rush marry early next year so that you won't lose a lady?

Nawa o. It's like u like suffering

Mut4y:
I met a lady during service last year, she's everything a man could ever pray and wish for in a woman, two months into the relationship when she travelled home, she told me her mother said there's someone interested in marrying her and she told her mum she has a boyfriend and not interested and she didn't give the man any attention when he went to their house.
She informed me about it, the mother keeps disturbing her on the matter all the time and it became serious and she stood her ground she's not getting married to someone she doesn't know.

Last month after service, she told me the whole thing is getting serious and her whole family member is mounting pressure on her to marry the guy.

They told her she's bethroathed to the man and there's going to be a repercussion if she didn't marry the man and they're already planning the marriage.
She doesn't know anything about the man, they haven't dated and yet her family wants to force her into the marriage.

She told me of recent she didn't have any choice than to go ahead with the marriage even though she doesn't want to, we talk everyday, we go through emotional breakdown, cry together and all that. She has lots of what if, but still wants to go ahead with the marriage with the hope that the man would treat her right.

I love her so much, I'm used to having her in my life, we've been fond of each other and I have the intention of getting married to her latest January next year but her mother threatened not to attend her wedding if she didn't marry who she wants her to. Although I'm not rich at the moment but I'm trying my best and I told her to give me few months to raise some money.

Now, even though she still loves me, she wants to sacrifice our love and future for the sake of her family, I feel sad everyday, find it hard to sleep, I feel a lot of pain, I couldn't even tell my family or anyone about it, I came here to ease my burden and seek for opinion.

She's a wonderful lady, but she has succumbed to her family pressure, and I'm not this type of person that like to pressure someone to do what they don't want to do. I told her I'm willing to take care of her and protect her if she goes this path with me but I can't force her to choose me and leave her family, but this is 2025, it's so painful this kind of stuff is still happening and a lady could be forced into getting married to someone she doesn't love or know anything about all because an agreement has been made way back without her consent and she wasn't even living with her parent when they did all this.

I'm shattered, I'm loosing my mind, I need advise, i don't know what to do please.

I'm just starting my life and building my life and I believe I'll make it with the grace of God if I put in more effort in my business and God answer my prayer. The person they want her to marry is based abroad, and it even breaks my heart more that he has more advantage than me financially, and that makes me feel not put in more pressure not to look selfish, I'm in my late 20s the person they want her to marry is in his mid 30s or late 30s. Life isn't fair at all.

Kindly move on sir, don't think too much over lady matter. Surely, there is still better lady outside there who will give you the uppermost love than her

Please make enough money, marriage is not a joke as you think

Mut4y:
She told me of recent she didn't have any choice than to go ahead with the marriage even though she doesn't want to, we talk everyday, we go through emotional breakdown, cry together and all that. She has lots of what if, but still wants to go ahead with the marriage with the hope that the man would treat her right.

Love in Tokyo

Hahahahahahahaha

babe wey don dey process her passport and visa by now so she can japa from this dump.

you better face your life and let her go before she turns around to blame you for all her troubles in future.

Experienced same. Benjamin's, Na dollar 🤑 🤑 🤑 oOoOO.Guy move ahead, make money and plan for your life and unborn kids.

Starting a new relationship and building trust is a job on its own 📌👌🏿💯

I can tell you that you are the only one that is heart broken.. That "we cry everyday"that you used there is offkey. She is happy that she is getting married to someone abroad and all of that..

Oga face your life,and find MONEY. Ladies aren't loyal to love,they are loyal to Money, Power and what you have to offer.

She don finish service and she can't be waiting for you. She had to use her family as excuse to push you by the side,acting like she is in pain with u.

Oga it will be hard to get over it,but just try. Don't kill yourself,cux she isn't coming back. But trust me ,you can still get someone better than her..

And please don't rush into another relationship now.. just starting dating hustle and making money for now..

And cut communication with her,so that you can forget about her easily.

Don't say anything thing to her again. Ghost her and don't tell her why..

Mut4y:
I'm just starting my life and building my life and I believe I'll make it with the grace of God if I put in more effort in my business and God answer my prayer. The person they want her to marry is based abroad, and it even breaks my heart more that he has more advantage than me financially, and that makes me feel not put in more pressure not to look selfish, I'm in my late 20s the person they want her to marry is in his mid 30s or late 30s. Life isn't fair at all.

Leave her alone as she dey escape poverty. Go and build ya success and marry another woman. We ladies need no impediment. Struggling guys are slow progress people.

Thank you very much amazing people of NL, I'll put all the whole advise into use, work on myself and move forward.