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Samantha125:
The problem is that some men tend to get insecured whenever a lady earns more than them or whenever the lady is the breadwinner while they're financially down.

They'll then start taking their insecurities and frustrations out on the woman, expecting her to take them with grace as if she's not a human and doesn't have feelings... They'll start being emotionally or even physically abusive, but play victims whenever a woman starts defending herself.

I personally don't ever wish to be with a broke man or a man who earns less than I do because God knows I value my peace... A broke man is a frustrated man, he'll always be looking for reasons to pick fights and last thing I want is to live a miserable life due to someone else's brokenness... That's why some women end up leaving, believe me when I say I wasn't their wish to pack up and leave, but these men kept maltreating and blaming them for their predicaments, pushing these ladies to finally make a bold decision to leave... Only few men are able to control their emotions when financially down.

tunnyl:
The experience above is a rare experience. For a man to pick fights all the time the man is a narcissist. Whether or not he is broke he would always pick fight because that is his nature.

However there are women that deliberately provoke the man all the time to frustrate him till he becomes an aggressive person.

Samantha125:
Nah! A man's personality in a relationship or marriage is determined by his bank balance... An affluent man's personality is very different from a broke man's personality... I guess most of you guys then have a tendency of becoming narcissists when you go broke.

And how do those women deliberately provoke the man? Can you give an example of such instances?

tunnyl:
You and i know affluence in Nigeria doesn’t require discipline in character.

An undisciplined affluent man with a loud mouthed wife has full tendency of becoming violent.

I still maintain that wealth has nothing to do with character or abuse.

Samantha125:
The problem is that some men tend to get insecured whenever a lady earns more than them or whenever the lady is the breadwinner while they're financially down.

They'll then start taking their insecurities and frustrations out on the woman, expecting her to take them with grace as if she's not a human and doesn't have feelings... They'll start being emotionally or even physically abusive, but play victims whenever a woman starts defending herself.

I personally don't ever wish to be with a broke man or a man who earns less than I do because God knows I value my peace... A broke man is a frustrated man, he'll always be looking for reasons to pick fights and last thing I want is to live a miserable life due to someone else's brokenness... That's why some women end up leaving, believe me when I say I wasn't their wish to pack up and leave, but these men kept maltreating and blaming them for their predicaments, pushing these ladies to finally make a bold decision to leave... Only few men are able to control their emotions when financially down.

tanigororo:
It's not about being insecure, it's the consequences of not being appreciated as a Man if he doesn't have money

Exceed15:
Men should be merciless and heartless like women. Don't date or marry a broke girl.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Even if you marry a woman that is not broke, it is not like she will use her funds to support you when you are down

Exceed15:
At least she can support herself without much disturbance

tanigororo:
It's not about being insecure, it's the consequences of not being appreciated as a Man if he doesn't have money

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
That is the problem some of you fail to see, she can be rich as anything, she wants you to take care of her, of you can't do it because you are broke, my brother your eyes go peel!

Samantha125:
Noo!!! That's where you're wrong, you'd find that a lot of women out there were willing to stay with their partners regardless of the financial circumstances they were facing at that time, but somehow these men kept pushing these women away with their insecurities and frustrations due to their poor finances... How will a woman then appreciate such an ungrateful man who wouldn't even be helping with household chores while the she was out working in order to help put bread on the table?

You can't make your own bed and blame someone else for it.

Samantha125:
Some women do try to be supportive towards their men, but what do these men do in return? they take their support and shove it back to their face... Their egos would not allow them to feel inferior.

Some would even go to the extent of borrowing their men their cars and giving them part of their salaries... Yet these ungrateful men would take the car, the money and pursue other women whom they deem inferior to them just so they could feel like they're in control of the situation... They'd look for someone whom they could use to massage their fragile egos... And when their women start talking, they'd get defensive, abusive, and start playing the victim card.

Now how can a woman show appreciation to such an ungrateful man? Most of you men are a piece of work when broke, hence most women don't want a broke man... I broke man is an insecured, depressed, and frustrated man... Only a few men are able to keep their emotions in check during that period.

I personally don't care if a man is rich or not... As long as he earns more than I do, then we're good.

tunnyl:
I have created a new post about your comment. However, though he might feel insecure though he might gaslight you, but he will respect you if you set boundaries and treat yourself maturedly.

tanigororo:
I am not disputing all of the above, should every man now pay for it, an eye for an eye will makes half of the world to go blind.

Some of us had it worse, our love was used against us, and we have been called fools for showing love, does that mean we should loose our humanity?

I have dated good girls and bad girls, the so tag bad girls has always been good to me while the good girls has showed me Shege promax.

Samantha125:
A career woman normally feels threatened by a financially disadvantaged man, the same way a financially disadvantaged man normally feels threatened by a career woman... That's just how we were built, we might try to change the narrative, but we can't change nature.

Even you guys would openly make a mockery of those of your fellow men who financially depend on their women.

tunnyl:
Which means you agree that a career woman’s expectation of her broke husband helping with chores, if not met will send her into a rabid frenzy.

tunnyl:
Very true and worse is when she has a very high taste.

Samantha125:
Yes, he must help out in the house while I go out to get the bacon.

tunnyl:
It makes logical sense but when it comes to you women you like to abuse assistance a lot and you overdo things.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
That is the problem some of you fail to see, she can be rich as anything, she wants you to take care of her, of you can't do it because you are broke, my brother your eyes go peel!

Exceed15:
U r entitled to ur opinion.